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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For a guy on here?
I wasn’t single for a while last year, well up until new year’s day really but I managed to fuck that up. I called time on it to salvage the fact that we were friends for many years prior to hooking up.
I know where I went wrong and I managed to put off someone that was basically infatuated with me since they were a teen but without going into detail there and just concentrating on the main point I’m asking which is, is it really worth sticking around here to see if anyone pops up?
I know I can try conventional dating sites but I do want a guy with a decent amount of kink who’s open minded so here’s a good a place as any I suppose  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For a guy on here?
I wasn’t single for a while last year, well up until new year’s day really but I managed to fuck that up. I called time on it to salvage the fact that we were friends for many years prior to hooking up.
I know where I went wrong and I managed to put off someone that was basically infatuated with me since they were a teen but without going into detail there and just concentrating on the main point I’m asking which is, is it really worth sticking around here to see if anyone pops up?
I know I can try conventional dating sites but I do want a guy with a decent amount of kink who’s open minded so here’s a good a place as any I suppose "
No reason why you cant make something work with a guy from here. Best of luck op  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably not... you did not get me roaring. With a rocking bod, you just did not make me think that you were really after a great kink experience.
When I am out of shape, I talk like you just posted, when I am in shape, I feel like I can take the world.... your talk and photos do not match.
You sound like a want add....for a good time at expense.... and more power to you.
So... you are hot, advertising that you are up for a good time... it should get you some attention. As for a good time... not likely.
I have been on here for a couple years and only have one meeting arranged. I would send you an invite, but I am outside of your age range... on the upper side. That is too bad for you because outside of arms and that redculous 29" wasteline, I meet Arnold Swartznigger measurements and I am pretty easy on the eyes.
Still, good luck, but your profile pic is at odds with your story. |
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Ive hit it off with a few people.. But i enjoy my the here. If i make new friends cool if not... Thats cool too. I understand im not everybody's cuppa tea and im okay with that.
So yeah i think its worth it |
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"For a guy on here?
I wasn’t single for a while last year, well up until new year’s day really but I managed to fuck that up. I called time on it to salvage the fact that we were friends for many years prior to hooking up.
I know where I went wrong and I managed to put off someone that was basically infatuated with me since they were a teen but without going into detail there and just concentrating on the main point I’m asking which is, is it really worth sticking around here to see if anyone pops up?
I know I can try conventional dating sites but I do want a guy with a decent amount of kink who’s open minded so here’s a good a place as any I suppose "
I met Mr Icebreaker on a swinging site. My advice - if he asks you to masturbate on cam with a cucumber he's a keeper  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think it's more than possible to meet someone on here OP, I did. Don't push too hard for it, just take time and see where things go. I know that might be difficult but relaxing and enjoying things for what they are allow things to develop more naturally.
Sorry to read about what's happened, I had hoped it would go better for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Probably not... you did not get me roaring. With a rocking bod, you just did not make me think that you were really after a great kink experience.
When I am out of shape, I talk like you just posted, when I am in shape, I feel like I can take the world.... your talk and photos do not match.
You sound like a want add....for a good time at expense.... and more power to you.
So... you are hot, advertising that you are up for a good time... it should get you some attention. As for a good time... not likely.
I have been on here for a couple years and only have one meeting arranged. I would send you an invite, but I am outside of your age range... on the upper side. That is too bad for you because outside of arms and that redculous 29" wasteline, I meet Arnold Swartznigger measurements and I am pretty easy on the eyes.
Still, good luck, but your profile pic is at odds with your story."
I don’t fully understand, can you say it again please, in layman’s terms? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would like a swinging relationship, but in no hurry for it, I am on both here and dating sites but being honest on them what I want.
I like the company of a relationship and doing things together, but I do not like the full on commitment, living together, sharing bills etc.
When it happens it happens, till then just enjoy yourself x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right we all know I’ve kind of touched upon being stressed through 2016 to 2019. I never went into huge detail cos it was ongoing but it finished in April last year and it went the way I wanted but it took every ounce of strength that I had. When that finished I was at a point where all my friends and family said I needed to look after myself and heal, my gp even said I had PTSD and wanted to prescribe meds but I didn’t want to take anything. I was very fragile, felt like all my strength, confidence, self esteem was all gone so to add dating and relationship stresses I too of what I had just been through the last 3 years was too much for me to handle at once. I reacted at things a normal person would be able to let slide. I know exactly what I did wrong and it changed how he saw me. We could’ve gone on but it was getting to the point where I was making the effort and fuck that. Anyhow I can’t change how I was with him but I can give myself some time now. Know that everyone is safe and everything is dealt with so I can I finally chill. I know I have to be more chilled.
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By *arksxMan
over a year ago
Leicester / London |
"For a guy on here?
I wasn’t single for a while last year, well up until new year’s day really but I managed to fuck that up. I called time on it to salvage the fact that we were friends for many years prior to hooking up.
I know where I went wrong and I managed to put off someone that was basically infatuated with me since they were a teen but without going into detail there and just concentrating on the main point I’m asking which is, is it really worth sticking around here to see if anyone pops up?
I know I can try conventional dating sites but I do want a guy with a decent amount of kink who’s open minded so here’s a good a place as any I suppose "
Out of curiosity I had a look at your profile.
It doesn't mentions anything of the things you have said you are looking for
You can not expect anyone to "read your mind" put what you want front and center.
That will already help x10 more kn Your search |
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You're probably best using your energy wherever you perceive the right guys for you will be, which can include here, as there's such diversity amongst them. Your specialist interests will help to narrow your search, if they are in your essential traits.
The issue in fab for lots of people is that some claim to be single, when they aren't - so you'd need to be a good judge. That can happen wherever you meet from of course.
If from here, it's perhaps better to think of many wanting non-monogamous relationships, so it will depend on your expectations. That said, any relationship can have its terms altered at any point, where all agree something different is wanted.
You could filter for people here who are looking for regular meetings, rather than very casual 1 offs, so that you could all get to know each others tastes moee fully, as time progresses, without too much commitment, until you're comfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For a guy on here?
I wasn’t single for a while last year, well up until new year’s day really but I managed to fuck that up. I called time on it to salvage the fact that we were friends for many years prior to hooking up.
I know where I went wrong and I managed to put off someone that was basically infatuated with me since they were a teen but without going into detail there and just concentrating on the main point I’m asking which is, is it really worth sticking around here to see if anyone pops up?
I know I can try conventional dating sites but I do want a guy with a decent amount of kink who’s open minded so here’s a good a place as any I suppose
Out of curiosity I had a look at your profile.
It doesn't mentions anything of the things you have said you are looking for
You can not expect anyone to "read your mind" put what you want front and center.
That will already help x10 more kn Your search "
But, youre a mind reader  |
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"Right we all know I’ve kind of touched upon being stressed through 2016 to 2019. I never went into huge detail cos it was ongoing but it finished in April last year and it went the way I wanted but it took every ounce of strength that I had. When that finished I was at a point where all my friends and family said I needed to look after myself and heal, my gp even said I had PTSD and wanted to prescribe meds but I didn’t want to take anything. I was very fragile, felt like all my strength, confidence, self esteem was all gone so to add dating and relationship stresses I too of what I had just been through the last 3 years was too much for me to handle at once. I reacted at things a normal person would be able to let slide. I know exactly what I did wrong and it changed how he saw me. We could’ve gone on but it was getting to the point where I was making the effort and fuck that. Anyhow I can’t change how I was with him but I can give myself some time now. Know that everyone is safe and everything is dealt with so I can I finally chill. I know I have to be more chilled.
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Before looking for anything, look after you first. Always, in everything.
I hope you find everything you need OP.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone so far. Yeah I will update my profile but I wanted to explain to the forum people first before they saw my new profile and thought hmm I thought you said you had a boyfriend.
I kind of know the tricks to finding genuine single people on here but the problem is *most* guys wouldn’t consider dating a woman from this site, on here what’s good for the gander isn’t good for the goose (that makes sense in my head!)
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By *arksxMan
over a year ago
Leicester / London |
"For a guy on here?
I wasn’t single for a while last year, well up until new year’s day really but I managed to fuck that up. I called time on it to salvage the fact that we were friends for many years prior to hooking up.
I know where I went wrong and I managed to put off someone that was basically infatuated with me since they were a teen but without going into detail there and just concentrating on the main point I’m asking which is, is it really worth sticking around here to see if anyone pops up?
I know I can try conventional dating sites but I do want a guy with a decent amount of kink who’s open minded so here’s a good a place as any I suppose
Out of curiosity I had a look at your profile.
It doesn't mentions anything of the things you have said you are looking for
You can not expect anyone to "read your mind" put what you want front and center.
That will already help x10 more kn Your search
But, youre a mind reader "
I need to change that name
The irony is definitely lost on most people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For a guy on here?
I wasn’t single for a while last year, well up until new year’s day really but I managed to fuck that up. I called time on it to salvage the fact that we were friends for many years prior to hooking up.
I know where I went wrong and I managed to put off someone that was basically infatuated with me since they were a teen but without going into detail there and just concentrating on the main point I’m asking which is, is it really worth sticking around here to see if anyone pops up?
I know I can try conventional dating sites but I do want a guy with a decent amount of kink who’s open minded so here’s a good a place as any I suppose
Out of curiosity I had a look at your profile.
It doesn't mentions anything of the things you have said you are looking for
You can not expect anyone to "read your mind" put what you want front and center.
That will already help x10 more kn Your search
But, youre a mind reader
I need to change that name
The irony is definitely lost on most people "
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"Probably not... you did not get me roaring. With a rocking bod, you just did not make me think that you were really after a great kink experience.
When I am out of shape, I talk like you just posted, when I am in shape, I feel like I can take the world.... your talk and photos do not match.
You sound like a want add....for a good time at expense.... and more power to you.
So... you are hot, advertising that you are up for a good time... it should get you some attention. As for a good time... not likely.
I have been on here for a couple years and only have one meeting arranged. I would send you an invite, but I am outside of your age range... on the upper side. That is too bad for you because outside of arms and that redculous 29" wasteline, I meet Arnold Swartznigger measurements and I am pretty easy on the eyes.
Still, good luck, but your profile pic is at odds with your story.
I don’t fully understand, can you say it again please, in layman’s terms?"
Me either  |
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By *arksxMan
over a year ago
Leicester / London |
"Thanks everyone so far. Yeah I will update my profile but I wanted to explain to the forum people first before they saw my new profile and thought hmm I thought you said you had a boyfriend.
I kind of know the tricks to finding genuine single people on here but the problem is *most* guys wouldn’t consider dating a woman from this site, on here what’s good for the gander isn’t good for the goose (that makes sense in my head!)
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I dont thinktheir are "tricks" to meeting geniune single people.
You can be single and not want a relationship... just sex.
How about starting you new profile saying youwant to date with whatever sexual kink you want attached.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks everyone so far. Yeah I will update my profile but I wanted to explain to the forum people first before they saw my new profile and thought hmm I thought you said you had a boyfriend.
I kind of know the tricks to finding genuine single people on here but the problem is *most* guys wouldn’t consider dating a woman from this site, on here what’s good for the gander isn’t good for the goose (that makes sense in my head!)
I dont thinktheir are "tricks" to meeting geniune single people.
You can be single and not want a relationship... just sex.
How about starting you new profile saying youwant to date with whatever sexual kink you want attached.
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Yeah some hints and tips from guys to filter out who just wants sex and who is open to more would be good.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if you’re completely honest with what you’re looking for from the offset, I’m sure there’s going to be someone on the same wavelength as you. It’s just going to be tedious having to pick through all the not so genuine guys that are going to give you lip service.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Updated my profile and been messaged by a guy that ticks all my boxes from years ago without me even having to ask for them on my profile!!
Years ago I’d state must be extremely good looking, must be over 6 foot, must have big dick, must have dark hair.
Now I’m not arsed about height or willy they come through anyway |
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By *imong96Man
over a year ago
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To be fair I use tinder for finding someone to actually be with and here for abit if both. It’s hard on here to get a meet for a lad let alone a relationship. Having said that though there’s not many people on tinder who let’s say share the same mindset. My advice try both! And while you at it have some fun if that’s your thing! Good look in finding mr right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never considered myself perfect for anyone, let alone everyone, but I also don't believe that we have a specific type...the chemistry generated usual let's you know if this person is right or wrong for. The eye's are very good at lying to the brain what is right... Especially when it comes to "pleasing eye candy"
I wish you luck finding your "dream" and no it doesn't matter where you find it, as long as you do |
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By *arksxMan
over a year ago
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"Updated my profile and been messaged by a guy that ticks all my boxes from years ago without me even having to ask for them on my profile!!
Years ago I’d state must be extremely good looking, must be over 6 foot, must have big dick, must have dark hair.
Now I’m not arsed about height or willy they come through anyway "
Your new profile reads really clear now.
If anyone contacts with crap like
Hey up
What you doing
Wanna shag
That just s them straight out.
I think 99% of the issues people have on here are because a lack of communication on both sides |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s actually really hard to switch your brain off when you’ve had to use it for years, what I mean by that is when I was going through what I did I was up against a group of people that were deceitful and lying about things. I had to find holes in what they were saying all the time so now I feel like my brain is preprogrammed to look for holes in someone’s story whatever they’re telling me. It’s hard to switch off. |
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