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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them? |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
Naughty step 
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There are people in all walks of life who behave childishly. Temper tantrums, inability to hold a discussion without resorting to insult, sulky behaviour and inability to deal with any emotion but happiness. I've worked with plenty of 'em and it's not pretty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
Some people can't handle rejection and sometimes lose their head over it. It happens to the best of us, women would understand better if they were the ones getting constantly rejected |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are people in all walks of life who behave childishly. Temper tantrums, inability to hold a discussion without resorting to insult, sulky behaviour and inability to deal with any emotion but happiness. I've worked with plenty of 'em and it's not pretty."
I get it some people get frustration but do people think if they get aggressive or abusive its gong to help them on here in any way more likley the opposite as people have friends and lets be honest talk both positively and negatively about other users so they gain noting as I see it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like children having a tantrum, just ignore it. They want any form of attention even if it’s negative, so if you bite you’ll play into them.
Just block and delete. |
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It’s the same in the online dating world. I was advised right at the start:
Only believe a fraction of what you see / read
Never take offence or indeed offend
Never take rejection personally
Develop a thick skin - quick
All good advice and relevant to Fab. Despite knowing this, sometimes you still get someone that will piss you off! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A reporting button would be good. Four reports from different people and you'd be off Fabs.
There ought to be a special button for total timewasters too."
I would agree with that if you could stop it being misused for false reports I do think something needs to be done about aggregation though. The time wasting well people change their mind when they get to know someone so it may affect people feeling they have the right of choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'll quite happily volunteer for dishing out some short sharp punishment with my whip. 
Won't work on me though when I'm childish I like it too much  "
maybe i should be naughty if you are willing to punish |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A reporting button would be good. Four reports from different people and you'd be off Fabs.
There ought to be a special button for total timewasters too.
There is a report button."
There is one for reporting for not turning up but I think a lot of people only class that as a small part of time wasting. Besides as most use kik/watsapp etc to do final arrangements it must be near impossible for admin to ascertain if its a real or bogus report. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"A reporting button would be good. Four reports from different people and you'd be off Fabs.
There ought to be a special button for total timewasters too.
There is a report button.
There is one for reporting for not turning up but I think a lot of people only class that as a small part of time wasting. Besides as most use kik/watsapp etc to do final arrangements it must be near impossible for admin to ascertain if its a real or bogus report. "
That's a risk of chatting outside of fab. Unfortunately |
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"A reporting button would be good. Four reports from different people and you'd be off Fabs.
There ought to be a special button for total timewasters too.
There is a report button.
There is one for reporting for not turning up but I think a lot of people only class that as a small part of time wasting. Besides as most use kik/watsapp etc to do final arrangements it must be near impossible for admin to ascertain if its a real or bogus report. "
My personal opinion is that if a misdemeanour happens on kik or WhatsApp that is the platform it should be reported to. Otherwise it's like complaining to Sainsbury's that your Tesco delivery hasn't turned up.
The report button is useful for abuse etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
Immature? Really???? Thank god this post never came up in conker season.. It'd have sent me over the edge!!!  |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
Some people can't handle rejection and sometimes lose their head over it. It happens to the best of us, women would understand better if they were the ones getting constantly rejected "
If a man cannot handle rejection on fab and behaves badly he should not be on here or his profile deleted for him by admin.Women don't need to understand anything of the sort. They are the ones abused by unsolicited cock shot photos in messages and inane messages. |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
Some people can't handle rejection and sometimes lose their head over it. It happens to the best of us, women would understand better if they were the ones getting constantly rejected "
Had a lifetime of it. On here you can say good riddance and block them. In meat space you have to keep living with these people, some of whom make your unrequited interest into sport.
I know taking rejection graciously very well. |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
Some people can't handle rejection and sometimes lose their head over it. It happens to the best of us, women would understand better if they were the ones getting constantly rejected
Had a lifetime of it. On here you can say good riddance and block them. In meat space you have to keep living with these people, some of whom make your unrequited interest into sport.
I know taking rejection graciously very well. "
Incredibly some men still try to make their bad behaviour a women's responsibility  |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
Some people can't handle rejection and sometimes lose their head over it. It happens to the best of us, women would understand better if they were the ones getting constantly rejected
Had a lifetime of it. On here you can say good riddance and block them. In meat space you have to keep living with these people, some of whom make your unrequited interest into sport.
I know taking rejection graciously very well.
Incredibly some men still try to make their bad behaviour a women's responsibility "
Yup. It's up to you to handle yourself as best you can. Whether you're rejecting, rejected, or dealing with a communication issue. |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
Some people can't handle rejection and sometimes lose their head over it. It happens to the best of us, women would understand better if they were the ones getting constantly rejected
Had a lifetime of it. On here you can say good riddance and block them. In meat space you have to keep living with these people, some of whom make your unrequited interest into sport.
I know taking rejection graciously very well.
Incredibly some men still try to make their bad behaviour a women's responsibility
Yup. It's up to you to handle yourself as best you can. Whether you're rejecting, rejected, or dealing with a communication issue. "
When it comes to understanding I think a lot of women understand certain behaviours only too well. |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
I never have a problem with not for us thanks as it’s nice to get a reply. Rather than some that just seem to be picture hunters that don’t delete and don’t reply.
Not that I get the hump all I do is block and move on. |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
Some people can't handle rejection and sometimes lose their head over it. It happens to the best of us, women would understand better if they were the ones getting constantly rejected
Had a lifetime of it. On here you can say good riddance and block them. In meat space you have to keep living with these people, some of whom make your unrequited interest into sport.
I know taking rejection graciously very well.
Incredibly some men still try to make their bad behaviour a women's responsibility
Yup. It's up to you to handle yourself as best you can. Whether you're rejecting, rejected, or dealing with a communication issue.
When it comes to understanding I think a lot of women understand certain behaviours only too well. "
Absolutely.
Been dealing with it for a long time. Just because it's new to these conventionally attractive guys and I'm not holding their hand, doesn't mean I don't understand what they're going through. It means that they need to suck it up the way they expected me to. |
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A profile rating system would be good whereby you get to anonymously rate any profile out of 5. Can be changed at any time but only one rate per profile.
Would make people more eager to please others and more hesitant6to act as if they're beyond accountability.
People would naturally stay away from profiles with 1 or 2 stars and prefer engaging with 4 or 5 star profiles.
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"A profile rating system would be good whereby you get to anonymously rate any profile out of 5. Can be changed at any time but only one rate per profile.
Would make people more eager to please others and more hesitant6to act as if they're beyond accountability.
People would naturally stay away from profiles with 1 or 2 stars and prefer engaging with 4 or 5 star profiles.
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How would that work? What's to stop me giving you one star and the guys who think it will get them sex giving every woman in a fifty mile radius five? |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"A profile rating system would be good whereby you get to anonymously rate any profile out of 5. Can be changed at any time but only one rate per profile.
Would make people more eager to please others and more hesitant6to act as if they're beyond accountability.
People would naturally stay away from profiles with 1 or 2 stars and prefer engaging with 4 or 5 star profiles.
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Ahh but then you wouldn’t get to read the ‘real’ them. At the moment it’s easy to avoid those that behave badly.
Disgruntled people wouldn’t play fair either. |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
"A profile rating system would be good whereby you get to anonymously rate any profile out of 5. Can be changed at any time but only one rate per profile.
Would make people more eager to please others and more hesitant6to act as if they're beyond accountability.
People would naturally stay away from profiles with 1 or 2 stars and prefer engaging with 4 or 5 star profiles.
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I think I would prefer to make my own judgement about people and someone's profile is only a starting point and often does not reflect who they really are. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
You will find many arrested development teens masquerading as adults here i'm afraid  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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It’s about so much more than just rejection though. Anonymity of online interactions make it easy for people to behave badly. Maturity has nothing to do with age and that is plain to see at times on here unfortunately. |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
They should be banned from the site. IP address recorded so next time they create a new profile banned again. This way only the genuine nice people would remain as members.....there’s too many childish folk on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
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"A profile rating system would be good whereby you get to anonymously rate any profile out of 5. Can be changed at any time but only one rate per profile.
Would make people more eager to please others and more hesitant6to act as if they're beyond accountability.
People would naturally stay away from profiles with 1 or 2 stars and prefer engaging with 4 or 5 star profiles.
Ahh but then you wouldn’t get to read the ‘real’ them. At the moment it’s easy to avoid those that behave badly.
Disgruntled people wouldn’t play fair either. "
Would be similar to real life, not the real them, just being nice not to make a twat of themselves. Having 0 accountability or repercussions for anti social behavior might allow you to see the real them but also makes it unpleasant for everyone. |
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We've had abusive messages
Usually from those that haven't read our profile properly
Or those that have pestered
Or feel like they have been waiting for a reply despite saying we both work and have a young family. |
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By *abs..Woman
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"A profile rating system would be good whereby you get to anonymously rate any profile out of 5. Can be changed at any time but only one rate per profile.
Would make people more eager to please others and more hesitant6to act as if they're beyond accountability.
People would naturally stay away from profiles with 1 or 2 stars and prefer engaging with 4 or 5 star profiles.
Ahh but then you wouldn’t get to read the ‘real’ them. At the moment it’s easy to avoid those that behave badly.
Disgruntled people wouldn’t play fair either.
Would be similar to real life, not the real them, just being nice not to make a twat of themselves. Having 0 accountability or repercussions for anti social behavior might allow you to see the real them but also makes it unpleasant for everyone. "
I don’t have unpleasant messages luckily. I’ve seen one or two unpleasant things on the forums though - I think they are unpleasant things but the next person along may feel what they say is fine. Who would judge? |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
Block and delete |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
They should be banned from the site. IP address recorded so next time they create a new profile banned again. This way only the genuine nice people would remain as members.....there’s too many childish folk on here. "
One problem, VPN's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd like to throw in my 2 cents as one of the childish folk around here. I'll be serious if a thread or post calls for it otherwise I'm here to have fun and my posts with reflect my nature. I'm not looking to offend anyone or act the maggot, I just like to have a laugh and a joke. If this place became super serious all the time it would lose much of its appeal in my opinion, I like the mixture of silly and serious folk. If anyone does your head in then block them, otherwise dont let it bother you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s all life unfortunately. Some just don’t take rejection well or even just being told the simple word ‘No’ in everyday working life, could result in their toys being thrown out of the pram "
yes i agree lots of women are prone to this |
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By *apiensWoman
over a year ago
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
I rather think most of them already do suffer the ultimate punishment, which is to spend an eternity perving miserably on fab, without EVER getting laid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
Some people can't handle rejection and sometimes lose their head over it. It happens to the best of us, women would understand better if they were the ones getting constantly rejected
If a man cannot handle rejection on fab and behaves badly he should not be on here or his profile deleted for him by admin.Women don't need to understand anything of the sort. They are the ones abused by unsolicited cock shot photos in messages and inane messages."
Exactly this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?
I rather think most of them already do suffer the ultimate punishment, which is to spend an eternity perving miserably on fab, without EVER getting laid. "
While periodically deleting their account in a huff then coming back and doing the exact same thing as before and expecting a different result. Which is how Einstein defined insanity |
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"Rejection isn't easy, but you get used to after a while. "
Why isn’t it easy? I disagree because we get rejected in all walks of life, jobs, dates, credit card, loan.
That’s just life. When I get rejected on here I simply thank them and move on, no point dwelling.
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
send them down, take them to a place where they shall be hung by the neck, then their genitals removed and head out on a spike at the city walls, bit harsh?
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Quite happy to leave them to stew in their own juices. If they behave badly and deselect themselves it makes the good people shine by default. While it's really not nice to hear about it (and embarrassing if it's men) it also edges the cream slightly further to the top. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally speaking I’ve never taken offence to a polite rejection, it’s all subjective after all, just because I may find someone attractive it doesn’t mean that they have to find me attractive too, after all, we all have our own personal opinions on what or who we find attractive. I’d go so far as to say that I’d rather be told, thanks but no thanks, as opposed to my message being read and ignored, after all, I took the time to message, surely it’s polite to do the same? I know ladies get many more messages than us, I just like good manners. |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
Don’t stoop - ignore. Some people are only on here for the attention.
Genuine people know how to take rejection, always remember that. |
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"Personally speaking I’ve never taken offence to a polite rejection, it’s all subjective after all, just because I may find someone attractive it doesn’t mean that they have to find me attractive too, after all, we all have our own personal opinions on what or who we find attractive. I’d go so far as to say that I’d rather be told, thanks but no thanks, as opposed to my message being read and ignored, after all, I took the time to message, surely it’s polite to do the same? I know ladies get many more messages than us, I just like good manners."
Unfortunately different norms exist here because good manners are exploited. If you don't get an answer, move on. |
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"The age limit is 18 that is clear, but so many people act in an immature way especially when rejected. Are some people really incapable of acting like adults and if not what should be done with them?"
Limited emotional development
Inability to accept negative responses
Unable to process honesty
Or a quick synopsis = there twats 
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Interesting thread.
My take on this is that it’s merely a symptom of the increased use of computers and social media. Rejection is never an easy thing to deal with but in person sometimes it’s easier to handle, particularly if the person delivering message handles it sensitively. This whole Fab thing is totally impersonal and thus it’s easier for the rejected person to spout abuse from behind a keyboard as he/she can hide.
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