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Our friends found out by mistake. After logging in to their t.v. to watch a mountainbike race I went to the loo. While on there I checked messages to hear my wife shout out I was still connected. Nothing was said....... (still great friends though) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite a secret lifestyle then "
For me, yes totally. People would literally die on the spot of shock I’m sure! I do have a very good friend I met on here ages ago who isn’t even on fab anymore. She knows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We each have a vanilla friend that knows, neither were shocked but both were intruiged. At least her friend was vanilla, she's now on here and embracing the lifestyle herself! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A couple of friends know. They weren’t surprised at all. "
Scratch that. None of them know. A couple know about our open marriage, none actually know of fab and that I’m on it.
Except my bus driver buddy, he actually joined for a while to creep my pictures  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I told a mate of mine a while back that I met a MF couple ( I didnt share any other shenanigans )
She wasnt surprised.
I've always been Bi and she has known me forever.
I didnt share much detail.
Her advice was not to get used and to find my own partner in crime.
I cried.
Only because I'm eternally undateable and have made my peace ( sort of ) with being single probably for the rest of my life. |
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"A couple of friends know. They weren’t surprised at all.
Scratch that. None of them know. A couple know about our open marriage, none actually know of fab and that I’m on it.
Except my bus driver buddy, he actually joined for a while to creep my pictures "
you could have got a free ride out of that  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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My close friends know, 2 were very supportive once I'd explained things. The other one called me a glorified whore but apologised a couple of weeks later after she'd told another woman (Who I don't know) who said she was on a similar site! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, not secret. Private. Private life, clue is in the name. If I was in a completely conventional monogamous relationship I still wouldn't go into detail about my sex life, I figure no one needs to hear about it. I'm all for people being open and sharing if it works for them, it's just not me. But I'm not even close to being ashamed about any of it and I never have any problem with people being open and relaxed about it. I think it's pretty cool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A couple of friends know. They weren’t surprised at all.
Scratch that. None of them know. A couple know about our open marriage, none actually know of fab and that I’m on it.
Except my bus driver buddy, he actually joined for a while to creep my pictures you could have got a free ride out of that "
If only he wasn’t such a good, nice guy |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me. "
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope but not because I'm embarrassed or worry what they think.
Because it's none of there business and they don't discuss their sex lives with me so I don't with them. |
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"Our friends found out by mistake. After logging in to their t.v. to watch a mountainbike race I went to the loo. While on there I checked messages to hear my wife shout out I was still connected. Nothing was said....... (still great friends though)"
Ha ha love this story!!  . Glad it didn’t spoil the friendship though |
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One of my closest friends is my safety person and knows. The other could probably guess if she wished to but it's not something I'm explicit about.
Family don't know, because my sex life isn't something I choose to discuss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many of my female friends know I'm bi, but totally avoid conversation about it. And nearly fell off their chairs when I told them.
I'm not ashamed of it, but it's really nobody's business. If they found out, then so be it...
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I have various circles of friends and a couple in each circle know and have been very supportive knowing what kind of marriage I had and my friends genuinely want me to be happy so as long as I am careful they encourage me. 1 of them met her hubby through fab!!
Even a couple of my work colleagues know as we are quite friendly too and again fully supportive. I’m not embarrassed by fab just understanding of society’s view of fab which is why I don’t openly go about talking about it.
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We haven’t told anyone. I don’t think any of our friends would be surprised but I reckon they’d search for our profile on here just to rip the piss out of us.
As someone else said, we don’t want to know what our friends gets up to sexually and they don’t need to know what we get up to. Our main reason for keeping it a secret though is to protect our children.
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I got a bit tipsy over Christmas and told what l thought was a trusted friend,she immediately went around and told others in the group.l initially felt regret but now l think this is something l’m doing with my husband if they have a problem with that ,it is just that their problem.although l am relieved l have actually moved away from the area and was just visiting.lesson learnt.
I also have a best friend who knows and is considering with her partner trying the lifestyle. |
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Every single vanilla friend me and my girlfriend told seemed to be very interested and excited.
So I either have very kinky vanilla friends or they lied to make it less awkward..
I don't make a secret out of it. If it comes up in a conversation I just talk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm pretty open about my lifestyle, and my friends know I'm on fab and go to clubs. I never share the intimate details though, for their sake mostly Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I told a good friend we were which then ended in the 3 of us having a ffm then a few months later we took her to a club she met someone there and they are now a couple however they don't swing xx |
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"Have you told your none fab friends about your lifestyle and how did they react? "
AnEmotionalTampon here
All my mates and co workers know.
All saying, top lad or nice.
Even a couple of my bosses have asked me to take them with me but not on the black nights as they dont wanna be shown up.
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I’m single, never married and I don’t have any kids at the age of 44....I think they have their suspicions....and I’m sure most of them are secretly jealous....
perhaps not of the swinging bit but mostly of the not having kids part  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
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Maybe because I was brought up religious |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
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However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
So why do you do it ?
Hornynes"
But you consider those that do as wrong?
Doesn't that make you rather 'morally ambiguous' and raise questions about you when you're 'horny'? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
So why do you do it ?
Hornynes
But you consider those that do as wrong?
Doesn't that make you rather 'morally ambiguous' and raise questions about you when you're 'horny'? "
Yeah, Ive spotted a tiny bit of hypocrisy too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
So why do you do it ?
Hornynes
But you consider those that do as wrong?
Doesn't that make you rather 'morally ambiguous' and raise questions about you when you're 'horny'? "
Okay |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious"
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I told a mate of mine a while back that I met a MF couple ( I didnt share any other shenanigans )
She wasnt surprised.
I've always been Bi and she has known me forever.
I didnt share much detail.
Her advice was not to get used and to find my own partner in crime.
I cried.
Only because I'm eternally undateable and have made my peace ( sort of ) with being single probably for the rest of my life."
You can date a couple you now
Anyway a few of our friends know, All the family know H’s past obviously so they know we have a GF. About being on here not so much, a couple know but still know we are looking for a +1 even on here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong. "
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With or without the risk of being judged. I just like keeping it private anyway. It’s fun to have a “naughty” side that my friends would be surprised about. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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A while back I took a young lady out for a meal the subject got round to sex and she mentioned what she liked and she had never been with a woman but was curious.I stupidly mentioned I was on a site she seemed interested and mentioned she would like to have fun with another woman but she can’t seem to make up her mind if she wants to attend a social or Rios with me.I think she is just messing me about which is why I don’t message her any more |
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong. "
It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!!  you don’t know it if you never had it!!
I understand a bit what he means, when I say catholic guilt to me that means I am self conscious about my body as I don’t feel sexy however do know others find me sexy and this is something fab is helping me overcome so I can do things I want to do without being self conscious  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!! you don’t know it if you never had it!!
I understand a bit what he means, when I say catholic guilt to me that means I am self conscious about my body as I don’t feel sexy however do know others find me sexy and this is something fab is helping me overcome so I can do things I want to do without being self conscious "
Catholic guilt it is  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong? "
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few know, my closest work friend, who I talk to about sex and that anyway, knows too. None were surprised!
The person I sleep with away from fab knows too, I thought it was only fair to tell him when we started sleeping together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging may only be seen as wrong because society has deemed it that way.
We're all socially conditioned from the moment we're born by the so called society norms. What's wrong is people not being allowed to be the person they are regardless of sexual orientation, religious and political beliefs. Once it was wrong to be gay now same sex couples are the norm which is progress. People have misconceptions about swinging we did too until we discovered it for ourselves. We've learnt what swinging isn't above all. We assumed to find everyone at it when we first visited a club. That was a misconception. Swingers are just the same as everyone else just ordinary everyday people. Society needs educating about our lifestyle then it'll be even more popular. Some would be ibtrigued and if they aren't it's society and it's misconceptions. rant over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!! you don’t know it if you never had it!!
I understand a bit what he means, when I say catholic guilt to me that means I am self conscious about my body as I don’t feel sexy however do know others find me sexy and this is something fab is helping me overcome so I can do things I want to do without being self conscious
Catholic guilt it is "
You're a single man looking to meet women. I cant see what catholic guilt has to do with it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you? "
Looking for an argument again lol |
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!! you don’t know it if you never had it!!
I understand a bit what he means, when I say catholic guilt to me that means I am self conscious about my body as I don’t feel sexy however do know others find me sexy and this is something fab is helping me overcome so I can do things I want to do without being self conscious
Catholic guilt it is
You're a single man looking to meet women. I cant see what catholic guilt has to do with it. "
It’s just a thing that some people have, I grew up with parents who didn’t believe in contraception or sex before marriage and although I didn’t believe that there is a niggle at the back of your head. My ex husband was the only guy I had sex with till I was 45 and even he would talk about other women being sluts or whores even though he had been with plenty women before me and subsequently through our marriage so that contributed to my self consciousness (and he wasn’t even catholic just a bully!)
I genuinely believe mickey didn’t mean it is wrong or that people are wrong in what they are doing it’s just this niggle that will always be there. |
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over a year ago
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I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
It’s the dreaded catholic guilt!! you don’t know it if you never had it!!
I understand a bit what he means, when I say catholic guilt to me that means I am self conscious about my body as I don’t feel sexy however do know others find me sexy and this is something fab is helping me overcome so I can do things I want to do without being self conscious
Catholic guilt it is
You're a single man looking to meet women. I cant see what catholic guilt has to do with it.
It’s just a thing that some people have, I grew up with parents who didn’t believe in contraception or sex before marriage and although I didn’t believe that there is a niggle at the back of your head. My ex husband was the only guy I had sex with till I was 45 and even he would talk about other women being sluts or whores even though he had been with plenty women before me and subsequently through our marriage so that contributed to my self consciousness (and he wasn’t even catholic just a bully!)
I genuinely believe mickey didn’t mean it is wrong or that people are wrong in what they are doing it’s just this niggle that will always be there. "
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol"
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong. "
I was wondering the same thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes most work colleges no and some close friends but some of there partners don't like it but that's there problem I think some think I'll corrupt there partners hehe |
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By *inman73Couple
over a year ago
Manchester |
I have two people that I trust and told, one who can only be described as a cock magnet if she falls over 9 times out of 10 it's onto a cock.
Other my best mate, coz she wouldn't tell a sole.
Other than that no, never tell anyone, but have been some scary moments in a club that people who know us came in like my daughters BF and his mates. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.
I was wondering the same thing"
I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.
I was wondering the same thing
I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.
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So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.
I was wondering the same thing
I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.
So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?"
Isn't that what I just said?
And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.
I was wondering the same thing
I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.
So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?
Isn't that what I just said?
And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.
You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it. "
With the greatest respect, sweetie, if you were a 'religious man' you wouldnt be here
But lets not get onto the subject of religion eh?
That would just be silly |
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.
I was wondering the same thing
I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.
So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?
Isn't that what I just said?
And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.
You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it.
With the greatest respect, sweetie, if you were a 'religious man' you wouldnt be here
But lets not get onto the subject of religion eh?
That would just be silly"
I was brought up religious in a religious family and even though I don't go to church anymore, there are still things in my mind which I can't shake off.
If you think it's silly then okay that's opinion. |
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.
I was wondering the same thing
I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.
So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?
Isn't that what I just said?
And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.
You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it.
With the greatest respect, sweetie, if you were a 'religious man' you wouldnt be here
But lets not get onto the subject of religion eh?
That would just be silly
I was brought up religious in a religious family and even though I don't go to church anymore, there are still things in my mind which I can't shake off.
If you think it's silly then okay that's opinion. "
Mickey, sweetheart
Read wot i rote!!
At no point did i suggest anyone's religion was silly! |
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"I imagine it would be very surprising for some people to hear it.
It took me back when I first used this site. Now the more I interact with poeple online the more it seems the norm.
However there is still something about it which seems wrong to me.
How do you mean 'seems wrong to me'?
Maybe because I was brought up religious
I get that, many people were. I do think that societal influence (a large part religious) is hard to shake off. I will say though that I find it uncomfortable to see it called wrong.
Okay what word should I use instead of wrong?
That's your usage, I'm not going to correct your lexicon. However, in this current context, on this site, you might want or need to reframe your thinking. Especially regarding your horny/non horny state.
Are you monogamous or non monogamous? Is it based on your want and 'need' of sex and your attitude towards people on here?
If you think the people on here are 'wrong' then why are you and what does that tell you about you?
Looking for an argument again lol
Not at all.
I'm just asking you questions.
You think that I've been nasty or harsh to you in the past, I'm not asking you anything that any self aware person hasn't asked themselves.
I'm just wondering about why you're here when you think swinging is wrong.
I was wondering the same thing
I'm after answering the question and I never said there was anything wrong with people.
So, you think that swinging "seems wrong" but you dont feel that there is anything wrong with the people that do it?
Isn't that what I just said?
And even if I do think something seems wrong, it doesn't mean that I can't use this site.
You are looking at it in a different way from a religious man. There is no way of explaining it unless you've been through it.
With the greatest respect, sweetie, if you were a 'religious man' you wouldnt be here
But lets not get onto the subject of religion eh?
That would just be silly
I was brought up religious in a religious family and even though I don't go to church anymore, there are still things in my mind which I can't shake off.
If you think it's silly then okay that's opinion.
Mickey, sweetheart
Read wot i rote!!
At no point did i suggest anyone's religion was silly!"
Read what I wrote too |
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