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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For me a mental spark is absolutely more of a turn on, stimulation of the mind makes the body go crazy.
There still has to be a physical spark too but if someone sparks you’re mind then that’s 99% of the fun |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mental connection for me. I can be very physically attracted to someone but if they don’t appeal to be mentally, the physical means nothing "
Absolutely agree, if there’s no mental spark then it doesn’t matter how incredible the physical side is I’d say ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mental. But some physical has to be present. "
I agree that there has to be an element of physical attraction also, but the mind is a beautiful thing that if someone can unlock it then it just sends the body wild with desire |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
If out and about then a physical spark. But on here a mental spark can do it for me. I like a bit of intrigue and getting inside a persons head, finding out what makes them tick and then going forward bringing them to their knees and causing sexual chaos and mental destruction (almost) 
I like head games.
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"Mental. But some physical has to be present.
I agree that there has to be an element of physical attraction also, but the mind is a beautiful thing that if someone can unlock it then it just sends the body wild with desire "
It can do, yes. |
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"It doesn’t matter which is first, as long as they’re both there  "
Agreed! If the physical spark comes first and the mental spark isn’t forthcoming I lose interest. But, I can become physically attracted to someone if the mental attraction is strong enough.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If out and about then a physical spark. But on here a mental spark can do it for me. I like a bit of intrigue and getting inside a persons head, finding out what makes them tick and then going forward bringing them to their knees and causing sexual chaos and mental destruction (almost)
I like head games.
Delving into someone’s mind and working out how they tick and using that to you’re own advantage is definitely interesting and fun to do as long as it’s reciprocated, explore each other minds and let the intensity blow each other’s bodies and send that self control way out of the window ??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup most are mental on here 
You're already mental.  "
il take bets on whos maddest after iv just driven 70 miles in work hours to deliver a friend a 6 pinter of milk |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Has to be mental for me, I can lose interest pretty quickly if there's no mental spark "
Absolutely, stimulating the mind can unlock so much from a person and doing that will just add so much more intensity to everything ?? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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On here? Probably a mental spark - through reading their posts or messages. In person it's more a physical spark first. Both are as important as the other for me; there might be a few seconds seperating them but they still need to be there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yup most are mental on here
You're already mental. il take bets on whos maddest after iv just driven 70 miles in work hours to deliver a friend a 6 pinter of milk
I hope she worth it. "
It’s a 6 Pinter lol |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"It doesn’t matter which is first, as long as they’re both there
Agreed! If the physical spark comes first and the mental spark isn’t forthcoming I lose interest. But, I can become physically attracted to someone if the mental attraction is strong enough.
Lou x "
This.
It's why if you look back at my relationship history I don't have a "type". If that mental connection is there and strong enough then pretty much anyone is physically attractive to me. |
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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago
London |
"My 240 volt mind awaits your message ladies.  "
Well to answer correctly: "which is first?"
Physical attraction always comes first. We are not sidekicks to know someone on a intellectual level before meeting. Meaning you need to be attracted physically to someone, to decide to move on and have some sort of conversation, where you can become mentally attracted to them. Nevertheless we need the full package to have a good time. Most of the time.  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"My 240 volt mind awaits your message ladies.
Well to answer correctly: "which is first?"
Physical attraction always comes first. We are not sidekicks to know someone on a intellectual level before meeting. Meaning you need to be attracted physically to someone, to decide to move on and have some sort of conversation, where you can become mentally attracted to them. Nevertheless we need the full package to have a good time. Most of the time. "
I that case, I'll get me coat. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Physical comes first for me, but I will quickly get bored and move on if the mental attraction doesn't follow "
In the majority of cases this, and always this. Considering most of the time that we see before we hear/read (and get to know people) physical always comes first. However if the personality is weak or bad, or vile then it does not matter how attractive somebody is, it will diminish once I decide we don't mesh well on a mental level.
If mental/personality was as much of a priority as people like to say then there would be a lot more "nice" people being given chances in general. Which is fine, we are attracted to what we are attracted to and we shouldn't force ourselves to try to be attracted to something else. Just don't try and make it seem like personality is a priority.
I've always said, the two work together, they can enhance and detract from the other. A great personality can make somebody "average" appear more attractive, while a bad personality can make the most photogenic person appear ugly. Regardless though, physical attraction will always have the advantage because it provides more opportunity generally to have your personality shine initially. |
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