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Still call me girl 
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
"
some people just have pet names for people and some are annoying lol mateeeee mate maaaaate    |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
"
Have you asked the guys ... only they can give you a definitive reason. Everyone else is guessing
My guess it's because you're so young looking. I may be wrong though.  |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
"
women do it to to be fair.......... babe or mate |
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"Who knows? Women are addressed in many unpleasant ways here, I suppose it's just another. Useful filtering tool though."
It is.
The guy of a couple from another site sent us a lengthy fantasy scenario in which he referred to me and his partner throughout as "the girls" and him and Mr N as "the men" or by their names. That spoke volumes to me but I overlooked it. Turns out my instincts were correct, us women were fantasy objects to him just a unit labelled in his mind as "the girls" while he and Mr N were individuals. |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
women do it to to be fair.......... babe or mate "
Not this woman. I call a man by his name unless its Mr N |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
"
You are definately a woman to me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
women do it to to be fair.......... babe or mate
Not this woman. I call a man by his name unless its Mr N "
do you call Mr N Mr N |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
women do it to to be fair.......... babe or mate
Not this woman. I call a man by his name unless its Mr N do you call Mr N Mr N "
Of course! We've only known each other about 40 years you can't rush these things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
women do it to to be fair.......... babe or mate
Not this woman. I call a man by his name unless its Mr N do you call Mr N Mr N
Of course! We've only known each other about 40 years you can't rush these things "
ahhh thats ok then try and memorise his name  |
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I don’t think I’ve used it to describe a woman or said it in any context except when a woman talks about “Going out with the girls”. My mum still talks about her old school friends as ‘the girls’ -and she is 86. She has done all my lifetime and more. So do many others say it too.
However I know I’ve never ever said ‘good girl’ in a sexual context. It just doesn’t sit right for me. |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
women do it to to be fair.......... babe or mate
Not this woman. I call a man by his name unless its Mr N do you call Mr N Mr N
Of course! We've only known each other about 40 years you can't rush these things ahhh thats ok then try and memorise his name "
I'll do my best but it's so much easier to just shout "oi!" |
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over a year ago
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I like it but it appeals to my submissive side. Love being called a good girl or when Beast calls me his baby girl - not in a DD/lg way it's just his name for me. |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
women do it to to be fair.......... babe or mate
Not this woman. I call a man by his name unless its Mr N do you call Mr N Mr N
Of course! We've only known each other about 40 years you can't rush these things ahhh thats ok then try and memorise his name
I'll do my best but it's so much easier to just shout "oi!" "
lol and he appreciates you all the more for it |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
women do it to to be fair.......... babe or mate
Not this woman. I call a man by his name unless its Mr N do you call Mr N Mr N
Of course! We've only known each other about 40 years you can't rush these things ahhh thats ok then try and memorise his name
I'll do my best but it's so much easier to just shout "oi!" lol and he appreciates you all the more for it "
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over a year ago
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"Most women in Liverpool are either girl or queen, so maybe it's just scousers contacting you."
That maybe explain why I have heard ‘the girls’ used so often |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
"
I have been called babe on here by other men, much worse |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
"
power..........
simple as  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
"
Calm down girl |
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"I don't actually mind it - so much better than babe, baby, hun etc. 
I refer to men as boys, in real life as well as on here "
I find men* tend to get offended if you call them boys. And don't get why I'm such a bitch about being called a girl. They're men, and I should take a compliment!
*not all men |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
power..........
simple as "
Yup
And because they're condescending, sexist wankers |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
power..........
simple as
Yup
And because they're condescending, sexist wankers"
. You say it like it is girl!  |
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Some may be though less, some condescending, some downright insulting. On the other hand if a woman is going out with her friends it's often referred to by themselves as a 'girly night' or being 'out with the girls'. I once used the term 'ladies' on here in a very respectful way and immediately got jumped on by one particular woman who also PM'd me with a vile tongue-lashing stating how offensive the word ladies was. I try to be very respectful to women, both on here and in the real world, but I have to admit to having been taken aback by that one. |
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"Some may be though less, some condescending, some downright insulting. On the other hand if a woman is going out with her friends it's often referred to by themselves as a 'girly night' or being 'out with the girls'. I once used the term 'ladies' on here in a very respectful way and immediately got jumped on by one particular woman who also PM'd me with a vile tongue-lashing stating how offensive the word ladies was. I try to be very respectful to women, both on here and in the real world, but I have to admit to having been taken aback by that one. "
Should have read "....thoughtless.....". Doh!  |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
power..........
simple as "
Yes! |
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over a year ago
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I hate any names, particularly on an opening message. Trouble, cheeky, babe, hun etc..it’s an instant turn off.
Someone I know well calling me names they know I like, that’s a different story altogether |
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I call myself a girl, other ladies I call 'girl'. It's just how we talk. Perhaps it's something to do with the area you live in and being the local 'lingo' perhaps.
Never ever do we mean it to be offensive in any shape or form. It's just how we talk.
I am totally happy others calling me 'girl', especially 'good girl' said in 'that way'! Makes me go weak. |
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"I hate any names, particularly on an opening message. Trouble, cheeky, babe, hun etc..it’s an instant turn off.
Someone I know well calling me names they know I like, that’s a different story altogether "
Yup. Any name other than my username or nom de Fab, don't unless I know you. |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
power..........
simple as "
really so girls night is a power thing hmmm |
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"Some may be though less, some condescending, some downright insulting. On the other hand if a woman is going out with her friends it's often referred to by themselves as a 'girly night' or being 'out with the girls'. I once used the term 'ladies' on here in a very respectful way and immediately got jumped on by one particular woman who also PM'd me with a vile tongue-lashing stating how offensive the word ladies was. I try to be very respectful to women, both on here and in the real world, but I have to admit to having been taken aback by that one. "
How the hell can the word 'ladies' be offensive???!!! Good god, there must be some people who are offended by fresh air. Jeez. |
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Maybe a social experiment is in order. For one week men may be referred to as "boys". Threads about "do men like" will be "do boys like" and if a woman wants to say she likes a certain thing males wear she may phrase it as "I like it when boys wear tight tee shirts".
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"Maybe a social experiment is in order. For one week men may be referred to as "boys". Threads about "do men like" will be "do boys like" and if a woman wants to say she likes a certain thing males wear she may phrase it as "I like it when boys wear tight tee shirts".
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To be fair I personally wouldn't be remotely offended by that.  |
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"I call myself a girl, other ladies I call 'girl'. It's just how we talk. Perhaps it's something to do with the area you live in and being the local 'lingo' perhaps.
Never ever do we mean it to be offensive in any shape or form. It's just how we talk.
I am totally happy others calling me 'girl', especially 'good girl' said in 'that way'! Makes me go weak."
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"Maybe a social experiment is in order. For one week men may be referred to as "boys". Threads about "do men like" will be "do boys like" and if a woman wants to say she likes a certain thing males wear she may phrase it as "I like it when boys wear tight tee shirts".
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You're brave.
I'll see you in February when the carnage has died down  |
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"I hate any names, particularly on an opening message. Trouble, cheeky, babe, hun etc..it’s an instant turn off.
Someone I know well calling me names they know I like, that’s a different story altogether "
Agreed - as an opening gambit it would come across as potentially condescending. |
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"Maybe a social experiment is in order. For one week men may be referred to as "boys". Threads about "do men like" will be "do boys like" and if a woman wants to say she likes a certain thing males wear she may phrase it as "I like it when boys wear tight tee shirts".
You're brave.
I'll see you in February when the carnage has died down "
 . I wouldn't dream of patronising men in that way but it's sometimes useful to reverse situations even if only in your imagination |
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"Maybe a social experiment is in order. For one week men may be referred to as "boys". Threads about "do men like" will be "do boys like" and if a woman wants to say she likes a certain thing males wear she may phrase it as "I like it when boys wear tight tee shirts".
You're brave.
I'll see you in February when the carnage has died down
. I wouldn't dream of patronising men in that way but it's sometimes useful to reverse situations even if only in your imagination "
I wouldn't either. I'm an uppity easily offended bitch who wouldn't dream of forcing men to walk on my blister forming pinching bad for my legs and hips shoes, because it sucks. |
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"Maybe a social experiment is in order. For one week men may be referred to as "boys". Threads about "do men like" will be "do boys like" and if a woman wants to say she likes a certain thing males wear she may phrase it as "I like it when boys wear tight tee shirts".
You're brave.
I'll see you in February when the carnage has died down
. I wouldn't dream of patronising men in that way but it's sometimes useful to reverse situations even if only in your imagination
I wouldn't either. I'm an uppity easily offended bitch who wouldn't dream of forcing men to walk on my blister forming pinching bad for my legs and hips shoes, because it sucks. "
I try not to retaliate in kind if I can. Prefer to show how it should be done |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
power..........
simple as
Yup
And because they're condescending, sexist wankers
. You say it like it is girl! "
I had sooo many idiots msging me over Christmas..
"Have you been a good girl this year?"
And thats not condescending?
Yup. I say it like it is. And Im only saying what everyone else is thinking |
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"Maybe a social experiment is in order. For one week men may be referred to as "boys". Threads about "do men like" will be "do boys like" and if a woman wants to say she likes a certain thing males wear she may phrase it as "I like it when boys wear tight tee shirts".
You're brave.
I'll see you in February when the carnage has died down
. I wouldn't dream of patronising men in that way but it's sometimes useful to reverse situations even if only in your imagination
I wouldn't either. I'm an uppity easily offended bitch who wouldn't dream of forcing men to walk on my blister forming pinching bad for my legs and hips shoes, because it sucks.
I try not to retaliate in kind if I can. Prefer to show how it should be done "
I agree. I wish it worked  |
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"I don't actually mind it - so much better than babe, baby, hun etc.
I refer to men as boys, in real life as well as on here
I find men* tend to get offended if you call them boys. And don't get why I'm such a bitch about being called a girl. They're men, and I should take a compliment!
*not all men "
I've never had anyone mention that they're offended by me calling them 'boy'...I only ever use it in general terms anyway, like on flirty threads in here I might post "hello boys ", or at work I'll say "do you boys want a cuppa while i'm making one?" |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
power..........
simple as
Yup
And because they're condescending, sexist wankers
. You say it like it is girl!
I had sooo many idiots msging me over Christmas..
"Have you been a good girl this year?"
And thats not condescending?
Yup. I say it like it is. And Im only saying what everyone else is thinking"
It was only a joke! Sorry. I’ll get my coat. |
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"Some may be though less, some condescending, some downright insulting. On the other hand if a woman is going out with her friends it's often referred to by themselves as a 'girly night' or being 'out with the girls'. I once used the term 'ladies' on here in a very respectful way and immediately got jumped on by one particular woman who also PM'd me with a vile tongue-lashing stating how offensive the word ladies was. I try to be very respectful to women, both on here and in the real world, but I have to admit to having been taken aback by that one.
How the hell can the word 'ladies' be offensive???!!! Good god, there must be some people who are offended by fresh air. Jeez."
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"I don't actually mind it - so much better than babe, baby, hun etc.
I refer to men as boys, in real life as well as on here
I find men* tend to get offended if you call them boys. And don't get why I'm such a bitch about being called a girl. They're men, and I should take a compliment!
*not all men
I've never had anyone mention that they're offended by me calling them 'boy'...I only ever use it in general terms anyway, like on flirty threads in here I might post "hello boys ", or at work I'll say "do you boys want a cuppa while i'm making one?" "
That's where I'm coming from!! |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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I love being called girl - I’m perfectly secure in my womanhood and I know I’m a force to be reckoned with on my better days. I’ll always like being called girl, though.
Might come from my taste for D/s - the whole DD/lg scene does nothing for me but ‘good girl’ spans most flavours of female submission. It conjures up feelings of security, nurturing and protection. With the right guy it unlocks something inside me. |
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"I don't actually mind it - so much better than babe, baby, hun etc.
I refer to men as boys, in real life as well as on here
I find men* tend to get offended if you call them boys. And don't get why I'm such a bitch about being called a girl. They're men, and I should take a compliment!
*not all men
I've never had anyone mention that they're offended by me calling them 'boy'...I only ever use it in general terms anyway, like on flirty threads in here I might post "hello boys ", or at work I'll say "do you boys want a cuppa while i'm making one?" "
How interesting! Maybe it is the general/specific thing, or running in different circles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
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Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook |
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"I think it's rude if you don't know the lady . We are given names for a reason , once a connection is made call each other whatever you like "
Agreed. I don't like hearing a man refer to "the wife" or "'er indoors" because I'd hate it for myself but if the woman in question is happy with it it's no problem to me.
I think the main problem is, as always, assuming that all women and men are the same. |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook "
Do you? |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook "
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
Do you? "
No very easy going and don't have facebook...what about you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
"
I like it from my husband in our link dynamic, but not from strangers. I'm definitely an adult, and random men calling me girl just feels patronising. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work "
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to"
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls. "
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you... |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you..."
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work. "
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home... |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work.
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home... "
Yeah
No one likes a woman who speaks up for herself |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work.
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home... "
You're quite right. I should be a good girl because I'm responsible for everyone enjoying themselves. I like the idea of moaning in the car on the way home though, it means Mr N is doing what he does best |
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Its all in the context in which it is meant.
One oerson I know greets everyone male with 'alright boy', no one cares.
In my early 20's I was promoted above a guy in his 50s who resented it and started calling me boy as an insult publicly. I didn't bite, I just proved why I was promoted above him, then he stopped. I also gave him all the shit jobs |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work.
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home...
You're quite right. I should be a good girl because I'm responsible for everyone enjoying themselves. I like the idea of moaning in the car on the way home though, it means Mr N is doing what he does best "
Sorry not telling you what to do.. but you either tell the person to stop addressing you in away you are not happy with with...or you don't....and end up moaning afterwards....and poor Mr N gets it in the ear |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
Do you?
No very easy going and don't have facebook...what about you "
Nope.
I don't tend to ask other people about it randomly on a thread about another topic either.
Mrs TMN |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work.
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home...
Yeah
No one likes a woman who speaks up for herself"
Didn't say that...people ( not just women) should stick up for themselves... |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work.
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home...
You're quite right. I should be a good girl because I'm responsible for everyone enjoying themselves. I like the idea of moaning in the car on the way home though, it means Mr N is doing what he does best
Sorry not telling you what to do.. but you either tell the person to stop addressing you in away you are not happy with with...or you don't....and end up moaning afterwards....and poor Mr N gets it in the ear"
I meant I would be moaning with pleasure in the car on the way home. He would be doing what he does best...
I get it. Some men call women girls. Some women don't care and some do. In the grand scheme of things it isn't "that" important but ya know what if a man calls me a girl he seriously needs specsavers |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
Do you?
No very easy going and don't have facebook...what about you
Nope.
I don't tend to ask other people about it randomly on a thread about another topic either.
Mrs TMN "
? But you did... |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work.
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home...
Yeah
No one likes a woman who speaks up for herself
Didn't say that...people ( not just women) should stick up for themselves... "
And we often do
And then we are told by men that we are " hard work" and its implied that we are argumentative
Do you see? |
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work.
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home...
You're quite right. I should be a good girl because I'm responsible for everyone enjoying themselves. I like the idea of moaning in the car on the way home though, it means Mr N is doing what he does best
Sorry not telling you what to do.. but you either tell the person to stop addressing you in away you are not happy with with...or you don't....and end up moaning afterwards....and poor Mr N gets it in the ear
I meant I would be moaning with pleasure in the car on the way home. He would be doing what he does best...
I get it. Some men call women girls. Some women don't care and some do. In the grand scheme of things it isn't "that" important but ya know what if a man calls me a girl he seriously needs specsavers "
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
I actually never hardly do anything on Facebook apart from keeping an eye on my huge family.
I'm not hard work unless people (usually men) make me hard work
Sorry obviously got you wrong....sounded like you could be hard work...especially about a turn of phrase... most likely from someone you will never meet or even speak to
But women do meet and speak to men who call them girls.
Yes ... I'm guessing a lot won't care about being called girl....and if you are face to face you can just say "don't call me girl" or what ever bothers you...
But then they accuse us of being hard work.
Well you could just keep quiet and let everyone have a nice evening....and then moan like fu@k about it in the car on the way home...
Yeah
No one likes a woman who speaks up for herself
Didn't say that...people ( not just women) should stick up for themselves...
And we often do
And then we are told by men that we are " hard work" and its implied that we are argumentative
Do you see?"
I do... and I wouldn't want to label anyone... or stop someone sticking up for themselves...it's just better to choose your battles...what does it really matter what someone on an Internet site, who your not going to meet or speak to says....save it for the face to face |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I’d call you bird if that’s ok bird??
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I’d call you bird if that’s ok bird??
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I’d call you bird if that’s ok bird??
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
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over a year ago
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
No worries bird
I’d call you bird if that’s ok bird??
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
Do you?
No very easy going and don't have facebook...what about you
Nope.
I don't tend to ask other people about it randomly on a thread about another topic either.
Mrs TMN
? But you did..."
Touché
I was trying to point out it seemed like an odd thing to throw into the conversation out of the blue. Undermining the OP's point by inferring she was argumentative online. |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
Do you?
No very easy going and don't have facebook...what about you
Nope.
I don't tend to ask other people about it randomly on a thread about another topic either.
Mrs TMN
? But you did...
Touché
I was trying to point out it seemed like an odd thing to throw into the conversation out of the blue. Undermining the OP's point by inferring she was argumentative online. "
Without referring to anyone on the thread or making it personal. I think it's common for some men to call women argumentative, lacking in humour or sulky etc when they're called out on certain behaviours they perceive to be harmless but some women don't. |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
Are you hard work? Do you often end up in arguments on Facebook
Do you?
No very easy going and don't have facebook...what about you
Nope.
I don't tend to ask other people about it randomly on a thread about another topic either.
Mrs TMN
? But you did...
Touché
I was trying to point out it seemed like an odd thing to throw into the conversation out of the blue. Undermining the OP's point by inferring she was argumentative online.
Without referring to anyone on the thread or making it personal. I think it's common for some men to call women argumentative, lacking in humour or sulky etc when they're called out on certain behaviours they perceive to be harmless but some women don't. "
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Out of all of them the only one I’d use if I didn’t know someone is girl but then I wouldn’t do it on a single person only if it was a couple/group always have always will, I’m sure you’ve referred to a couple/group of men as boys.
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"Out of all of them the only one I’d use if I didn’t know someone is girl but then I wouldn’t do it on a single person only if it was a couple/group always have always will, I’m sure you’ve referred to a couple/group of men as boys.
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No. I genuinely don't think of grown ups in those terms.
I do understand that for many people it is just a term but can you honestly say that you'd be happy for instance if a woman boss said something to you like "be a good boy and make us all a cup of tea" in a meeting? |
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"It really doesn't bother me. If it was constant it might become annoying, but it doesn't happen to me that often."
Nope, there's an appropriate context and an inappropriate one - and that's the inappropriate and demeaning one, whereas ".....going out with the boys/girls" is. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Out of all of them the only one I’d use if I didn’t know someone is girl but then I wouldn’t do it on a single person only if it was a couple/group always have always will, I’m sure you’ve referred to a couple/group of men as boys.
No. I genuinely don't think of grown ups in those terms.
I do understand that for many people it is just a term but can you honestly say that you'd be happy for instance if a woman boss said something to you like "be a good boy and make us all a cup of tea" in a meeting? "
Tone, and context in which it was said would play a much larger role than the word used for me. I'd not be offended either way, however if it was said in a way hinting as an insult or put down I'd not take kindly to it.
I try to not put too much power in to a word on its own, and instead focus on what surrounds the word. It's a fragile world when finding the correct words to use and while some things need careful wording, others it would be impossible to navigate regardless of the word used. Somebody would dislike a certain word, while others dislike the alternatives. |
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We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive..... |
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive....."
I agree to a certain extent. Everyone’s different and I get where people are coming from. It’s just not something I’d even think about let alone stress about! I guess some people overthink more than others. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive....."
Certainly depends on the situation and context. If its in an argument or debate or whatever, in a fairly professional setting and somebody says "don't be a silly boy/girl" then yes it is quite offensive. It is what is being channelled through those words that is the issue.
I do agree with you though, about simple things causing offence and the need to get worked up about things instead of just internally dealing with it and moving on.
Note I said simple things, some things should be brought to attention and fought against - Blatant sexism and bullying etc |
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in the grand scheme of things if its not meant in a derogatory way then it shouldn't upset, names dont generally bother me unless they are from someone i deem to be disrespectful |
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive....."
'Undermine' being an extremely pertinent word, here
Some of the men on this thread have spun the " its no big deal. You girlies make so much fuss" line
And in doing so, have answered the OP's question |
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"Out of all of them the only one I’d use if I didn’t know someone is girl but then I wouldn’t do it on a single person only if it was a couple/group always have always will, I’m sure you’ve referred to a couple/group of men as boys.
No. I genuinely don't think of grown ups in those terms.
I do understand that for many people it is just a term but can you honestly say that you'd be happy for instance if a woman boss said something to you like "be a good boy and make us all a cup of tea" in a meeting?
Tone, and context in which it was said would play a much larger role than the word used for me. I'd not be offended either way, however if it was said in a way hinting as an insult or put down I'd not take kindly to it.
I try to not put too much power in to a word on its own, and instead focus on what surrounds the word. It's a fragile world when finding the correct words to use and while some things need careful wording, others it would be impossible to navigate regardless of the word used. Somebody would dislike a certain word, while others dislike the alternatives."
Completely agree Kietonel.
From what I’m getting the OP was referring to on here not in a work place so the context and environment play a big part in how certain things are said. Now if it’s in a workplace you have probably have HR and policies in place for dealing with it, if it’s on here you have the ability to block someone and move without having to go on to a forum and complain |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"It really doesn't bother me. If it was constant it might become annoying, but it doesn't happen to me that often.
Nope, there's an appropriate context and an inappropriate one - and that's the inappropriate and demeaning one, whereas ".....going out with the boys/girls" is. "
If someone messages me telling me I'm a "sexy girl" I don't feel particularly demeaned, nor would I want to reply. I just don't sweat the small stuff I guess. |
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"in the grand scheme of things if its not meant in a derogatory way then it shouldn't upset, names dont generally bother me unless they are from someone i deem to be disrespectful "
Exactly this. I'm not a huge fan of being called 'hun' either but if someone does decide to call me it, its not a deal breaker when it comes to deciding to fuck them (or not). |
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"What about sexy lady? Is that okay?
Choose your audience wisely is the only rule really. As you can see some women don't mind being called "girl", I wouldn't mind being called "lady". "
Girl only if asked by the lady!!
Lady, well that or woman as it's only polite |
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"What about sexy lady? Is that okay?
Choose your audience wisely is the only rule really. As you can see some women don't mind being called "girl", I wouldn't mind being called "lady".
Girl only if asked by the lady!!
Lady, well that or woman as it's only polite"
Some don’t like Lady some don’t like female. It’s a bloody minefield! |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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I’m not offended, I just don’t like familiarity or terms of endearment from randoms.
That’s a part of my life strangers don’t belong in. It’s like they’re barging into that part of my life without knocking and waiting for an invite.
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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago
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"I’m not offended, I just don’t like familiarity or terms of endearment from randoms.
That’s a part of my life strangers don’t belong in. It’s like they’re barging into that part of my life without knocking and waiting for an invite.
Lex"
Knock knock |
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"Still call me girl
"Oh you naughty girl"
"How you doing girlie"
"Wanna fuck you girl"
"Ooo you're a dirty girl"
I'm sure you get the picture.
You certainly look all woman to me, very womanly
I'm a woman the last time I looked, took me a long time to become a woman.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"It really doesn't bother me. If it was constant it might become annoying, but it doesn't happen to me that often.
Nope, there's an appropriate context and an inappropriate one - and that's the inappropriate and demeaning one, whereas ".....going out with the boys/girls" is.
If someone messages me telling me I'm a "sexy girl" I don't feel particularly demeaned, nor would I want to reply. I just don't sweat the small stuff I guess. "
Surely this is the thing though.
A first message that appears too familiar using too many terms like that is risky. You have no idea what the other person would feel about it. Though if its too formal then it drains personality out of it.
If familiar terms are then used later on in follow up messages, I would then assume it is just a term they use in general with whoever they are chatting/flirting to. Very likely a region or local thing. If it was one I didn't particularly enjoy, I'd make it clear that I'm not offended but don't take to it. If it continues then I'd just end things. |
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive....."
If I find it so, yes.
I'm not offended by it, I reserve offence for really bad things but I don't like it. My feelings are valid and I reserve the right to express them. |
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive....."
It doesn't rate as a real problem for me. It's not one I spend any energy on. It's still inappropriate and condescending and I wish it would stop.
Just because there's (insert global catastrophe here) doesn't mean we can't consider the tiny ways we can treat each other better. And it's such a tiny tweak to not refer to grown, mature adults as children. Why wouldn't you? |
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive.....
'Undermine' being an extremely pertinent word, here
Some of the men on this thread have spun the " its no big deal. You girlies make so much fuss" line
And in doing so, have answered the OP's question"
Seem to be a fair few women with the same view aswell |
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive.....
If I find it so, yes.
I'm not offended by it, I reserve offence for really bad things but I don't like it. My feelings are valid and I reserve the right to express them. "
Just because someone is offended ....doesn't make them right |
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"I don't know why but if men refer to me, a 63 year old woman, as girl I feel they're trying to put me "in my place" somehow. I don't like it. "
I feel the same about "love" or "hun"...
Like fingers down a blackboard for me |
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"I don't know why but if men refer to me, a 63 year old woman, as girl I feel they're trying to put me "in my place" somehow. I don't like it.
I feel the same about "love" or "hun"...
Like fingers down a blackboard for me "
I'm just young enough that I feel it in a way that's sort of plausible. Like maybe I'm not a real adult?
No fuck I'm 34 and you don't do this to a male 34 year old, so fuck you. |
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive.....
If I find it so, yes.
I'm not offended by it, I reserve offence for really bad things but I don't like it. My feelings are valid and I reserve the right to express them. "
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive.....
If I find it so, yes.
I'm not offended by it, I reserve offence for really bad things but I don't like it. My feelings are valid and I reserve the right to express them.
Just because someone is offended ....doesn't make them right"
That's why I said I'm not offended. |
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"We seem to live in a society where offence is caused by anything and everything and ...IMHO....we could all do with a reality check.....
This is not ment to undermine the OP's point of view or feelings... but is being called girl....really that bad...or offensive.....
If I find it so, yes.
I'm not offended by it, I reserve offence for really bad things but I don't like it. My feelings are valid and I reserve the right to express them.
Just because someone is offended ....doesn't make them right
That's why I said I'm not offended. "
Sorry wasn't ment directly at you but more of a general observation.... |
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