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Ok let's be real ladies. Is there any point in guys messaging

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not talking about messaging from the forums or chat rooms, but a totally random guy.

How many messages do you get from guys you've never spoken to?

And how many do you reply to? (Not including all the ones you turn down)

10 to 1? 1000 to 1?

I only ask because of all the people I've met, I've met from the forums. I've never met anyone from just messaging

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

I’ve met and messaged non forum people, how many messages percentage do I respond to, I couldn’t tell you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve met and messaged non forum people, how many messages percentage do I respond to, I couldn’t tell you "

You can tell me. I'm a doctor

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By *ick808Man over a year ago

Manchester

Most women wont reply..

Probably delete without reading..lol which is shit

But keep the faith ..

Be polite..I've only been on here a.month and had a few meets..

Like some.guy said earlier pay attention to.the ones that do.reply ..

It is disheartening I suppose..but fuxk em eh

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

I answer about 90% of my messages per day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I’m 50/50 - nothing ventured nothing gained

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By *appy69coupleCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

we get a few messages from single guys and we do answer all of them that appear to have even glanced over our profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I answer about 90% of my messages per day"

How many do you get a day compared to how many you reply to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"we get a few messages from single guys and we do answer all of them that appear to have even glanced over our profile.

How many do you get a day? How many do you read? How many do you want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm, I reply to very few, but when I do it's mainly when I'm due on and they've come across all entitled and expectant with a lack of respect.

I'm all "oh no he didn't" and whoosh, wrath of PMS P hits them between the eyes.

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

All of my meets have been from messages. Never met anyone from forums & I rarely message anyone first. It’s the content of the messages that catch my attention. I don’t reply to standard hi, wuu2, fancy some fun, free now?, wanna meet etc etc. I also don’t reply to generic copy & paste bullshit. If a message is made personal to me it’s more likely to get my attention x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the message and whether they've read my profile.

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I answer about 90% of my messages per day

How many do you get a day compared to how many you reply to?"

Everyday is different so i can not answer but i get alot of messages.

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By *ussylouWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I answer all except those with a cock profile photo.

If they've took the time to read they'd see it's a pet hate

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By *P_80Man over a year ago

Waterford

You can be the most polite of men and send the perfect message but you have to grab their attention. Somehow stand out.

Simple.....

...well,.......not so simple but you get what I'm saying yeah?

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By *appy69coupleCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"we get a few messages from single guys and we do answer all of them that appear to have even glanced over our profile.

How many do you get a day? How many do you read? How many do you want to meet?"

it's impossible to answer that truthfully as every message, every day and every body is different

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

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By *ildb3rryWoman over a year ago

Ratoath

"Not talking about messaging from the forums or chat rooms, but a totally random guy.

How many messages do you get from guys you've never spoken to?

And how many do you reply to? (Not including all the ones you turn down)

10 to 1? 1000 to 1?

I only ask because of all the people I've met, I've met from the forums. I've never met anyone from just messaging "

Like yeah if they put any effort in - I like to think my profile looks good enough and I spent time and effort getting it like that, I like swinging, the lifestyle etc and then you get these shit messages like "nice boobs" or "any nye plans" and you click the profile and it's got nothing on it, why would you bother??!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't bother but then I don't take this very seriously

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?"

1) lately about 30 a week

2) none

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

"I’ve met and messaged non forum people, how many messages percentage do I respond to, I couldn’t tell you

You can tell me. I'm a doctor "

Ok at the minute I have 77 unread messages which are a mixture of forum and non forum users. How many of the non forum users I will respond to will depend on whether I know them already and if I don’t, their profile / message. I have deleted and not responded to about the same number today

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Hmmm, I reply to very few, but when I do it's mainly when I'm due on and they've come across all entitled and expectant with a lack of respect.

I'm all "oh no he didn't" and whoosh, wrath of PMS P hits them between the eyes.

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By *ick808Man over a year ago

Manchester

Maybe you should change your profile name ..

Seems a touch self important

Your telling us all your a DR

Which is great. But does come across as self important..

A bricklayer can fuck as good as any doctor ..just saying

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By *appy69coupleCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?"

I'd say on average 5 messages a day.

we reply on average to about 1 out of five of those

every one we reply to positively we intend to meet.

I'd say about half of our replies are to say thanks but no thanks

does that help?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have never met from forums. Haven't chatted to anyone really from forums. Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?"

I probably get 10-30 forum related messages a day ... I mostly reply to all of those... But out of politeness, not with a view to meeting

I currently have over 500 unread messages in my mailbox which are all non-forum related. It's really rare that i would reply to these... And yet the guy I'm currently meeting got in contact this way... So always hope??

Any the wiser ?

Midnight

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

I'd say on average 5 messages a day.

we reply on average to about 1 out of five of those

every one we reply to positively we intend to meet.

I'd say about half of our replies are to say thanks but no thanks

does that help?"

No because I'm not meeting couples for sex

But them legs though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

I probably get 10-30 forum related messages a day ... I mostly reply to all of those... But out of politeness, not with a view to meeting

Any the wiser ?

Midnight

So the odds are around 500 to 1 with you. Not good odds

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?"

1) On my single profile, can be 50-100 daily. On couple profile, can be 5-10 daily. This is, of course, when guys aren't blocked from messaging. Only the odd few message after seeing me in the forums as I do recognise names etc. but more fab pics instead.

2) Mostly guys are blocked so when they're not blocked, it means I'm / we're happy to see if a guy peaks interest. Can't give a number but it's maybe only 5% of overall messages received.

Hope that was helpful, lol. Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont know how many a day I get exactly as I delete as I go, but if I was to take a stab, it would be over 50 a day. Now probably 5 of them have read my whole profile, out of them 5, 1 actually matches what I am looking for (if I am lucky)

I reply to all that read the profile even if a polite no, and will engage in chat with about 3 or 4 a week.

I am not looking to fuck a new guy every day so this suits me.

Out the ones I engage in chat with, I probably meet 1 a week at a push as they normally ruin it for themselfs by being demanding or pushy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I dont know how many a day I get exactly as I delete as I go, but if I was to take a stab, it would be over 50 a day. Now probably 5 of them have read my whole profile, out of them 5, 1 actually matches what I am looking for (if I am lucky)

I reply to all that read the profile even if a polite no, and will engage in chat with about 3 or 4 a week.

I am not looking to fuck a new guy every day so this suits me.

Out the ones I engage in chat with, I probably meet 1 a week at a push as they normally ruin it for themselfs by being demanding or pushy."

So roughly 50 a day, times 7 350, you might meet 1

350 to 1 is about right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I answer about 90% of my messages per day"
Please be careful, looking the way you do,you'll end up with RSI.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reply to all that read the profile even if a polite no, and will engage in chat with about 3 or 4 a week.

I am not looking to fuck a new guy every day so this suits me.

Out the ones I engage in chat with, I probably meet 1 a week at a push as they normally ruin it for themselfs by being demanding or pushy.

So roughly 50 a day, times 7 350, you might meet 1

350 to 1 is about right?"

The math works out yes, but that is probably way off the ratio of single men to single women on here...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I reply to all that read the profile even if a polite no, and will engage in chat with about 3 or 4 a week.

I am not looking to fuck a new guy every day so this suits me.

Out the ones I engage in chat with, I probably meet 1 a week at a push as they normally ruin it for themselfs by being demanding or pushy.

So roughly 50 a day, times 7 350, you might meet 1

350 to 1 is about right?

The math works out yes, but that is probably way off the ratio of single men to single women on here..."

I get that. But its single women I'm looking for. Single men can all be blocked for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a lot of HOPE for single guys on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's a lot of HOPE for single guys on here

There is fuck all hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On my old profile i met a few women.

Yes aot of message are deleted often without bei g read. However whe. They are read, if you are geunine and not a bit up yourself or cunty, usually you will get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

1.about 20 to 30 a day.

Average. 3 to 5 blocked

10 to 20 deleted

5 or so might get a reply

2. Not meeting at present

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rarely have my filters down but if on a rare occasion where I forget why I had them activated and decide to lower the defenses I can get up to 300 messages in a day from single men. Most of what I'd call spam too. I vehemently dislike the process of reading them, feeling obliged to respond when I don't want to.

In that 300 there may be 1 that stands out as a potential gem which I want to respond to.

So, back to filters activated and me sending the first message is just all round best for my sanity : )

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By *UNANDNICEMan over a year ago

Basildon

Well yes there is because you never know when you will find a lovely lady like I have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And the one I responded to, I am meeting. So 1 in 300 at the last count ;p

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

I guess I get about 30 messages a day . Majority are people I have met before that are keeping in touch. I would say around 10 are new men. I reply to any that have read my profile and sent a decent message...not a one line or cut and paste. So possibly half on a good day will get a reply.

I am not looking for new meets at the moment, but am happy to chat or reply to queries. Most of my messages are not related to the forums. I have only met a couple of people from the forums. My meets have been from club's recently, but I have met loads from basic messaging, some for socials, some to help get verified and some for play .

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

The people I've met from fab have pretty much all been from messaging, either them instigating it or me. I think it's worth it as long as you read profiles and don't act like a knob.

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

I had 48 messages yesterday, 6 of those were from forum posts or people i've already chatted to.

I replied to 7 of those messages - only one of those was someone I didn't know and wasn't from the forums. His message was polite and personal to me, which caused me to look at his profile...I liked what I saw, so I replied. If I hadn't found him attractive or didn't like his profile I wouldn't have replied.

The rest of the messages were just the usual drivel and one liners that didn't even inspire me to look at the profiles, never mind respond.

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Maybe you should change your profile name ..

Seems a touch self important

Your telling us all your a DR

Which is great. But does come across as self important..

A bricklayer can fuck as good as any doctor ..just saying

I think you will he was being humorous

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Well yes there is because you never know when you will find a lovely lady like I have "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

99% of meets I’ve had have been from messaging me.

I’ve only met about 3 from the forums.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've met some from the forums but most of mine came from just messaging. I use to try and answer every message but I can't anymore so now anyone who manages to get pasty filters gets deleted. I've over 60 messages there at the moment that I haven't answered as I'm too busy in work and am answering the people I want to meet or have met already. I'll try and get around to looking at the other messages at some point. And my filters are pretty tight so I don't get as many messages as others do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's a lot of HOPE for single guys on here

There is fuck all hope

Loool the odds are still higher than the odds you had of winning the sperm race... perhaps

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By *atex and KinkCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh

This fourm thread gives you the gists.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/963891

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Tbh most of the people I message are people I know from club scene. Though sometimes I

May message people from forum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tbh most of the people I message are people I know from club scene. Though sometimes I

May message people from forum "

Or the stp

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"Tbh most of the people I message are people I know from club scene. Though sometimes I

May message people from forum

Or the stp

This is true lol - but I did say most lol

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple over a year ago

Chippenham

We get maybe 20/30 messages a day. I reply to the majority usually with a no thanks, guys don't read our profile and have no intention of going to a club. It's usually guys that are just chancing their luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have never recieved a message from a lady without me instigating the conversation... the joys of being a guy...

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

Between 10 to 20 per day. I very rarely get messaged by forum guys.

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

I try to reply to all, even if just to say no thanks. Maybe two of those will peak my interest enough to “chat” with a view to meeting.

I don’t send out messages. I don’t meet men from the forum (with one exception, he was local). Most of my daily messages are from regular men i chat to and local men unless i upload a vid or new photo when men from further afield pop up.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

All my meets bar one are from messages.

You got to be in it to win it...if you don't message then how do you meet. I think I will be more pro active come new year.

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By *efinitely worth it...Woman over a year ago

East Riding of Yorkshire

I've only ever met from messages, I always reply to those who've clearly read the profile info even if I'm not looking to meet them x

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?"

Loaadssssss. I only meet those that make me genuinely laugh. They’ve all got a cock.

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Tbh I am actually shy in asking people to meet from forum

Clubs no issue lol

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple over a year ago

Stockport

We had a lovely social with a single guy last night that just messaged us and doesn’t use the forums.

We have a play date with another on Wednesday that I’m sure wasn’t from the forums and we had a lovely 3sum earlier on in the month that definitely wasn’t from the forums although that was my response to a wink.

So yes messages do work. (Although we only open filters to guys once or twice a year!)

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By *urtyGentMan over a year ago

eastleigh

I’ve had a meet from messaging and at that point neither of us were on the forums. Had much more success since posting on the forums though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Beast wasn't from the forum's. I did prefer to meet from the forum's though generally as I had a better idea about the guys personality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thanks for this its frustrating I read profiles & only message women (most don't speak in the forums) with like interests or those who are looking certain for certain qualities I have & its still quiet. I just started using the forms so we'll see but most in the forum don't live where I live

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

We reply to 100% of polite messages, 0% of "HRU" type messages.

Occasionally we'll reply to a man who thinks that all he has to do to get a shag is to show us his cock, have a pulse, be within 100 miles of us and write a boring message about what he wants, and we'll tell him he would need to do a lot better than that.

We're not looking for a single man so it's all pretty pointless on their part.

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By *inranWoman over a year ago

Dudley

I reply to about 50% which corresponds to face pictures and some kind of effort in a message.

Most haven't read my profile it turns out so the want to meet number falls away quickly.

I've never met from the forum though.

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By *oupleforxtrafunCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"I reply to about 50% which corresponds to face pictures and some kind of effort in a message.

Most haven't read my profile it turns out so the want to meet number falls away quickly.

I've never met from the forum though. "

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By *hortarseWoman over a year ago

Norfolk

Feeling sad now I don't get any messages. Can you tell me what I'm doing wrong. Little help would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have fully cut back on messaging due to lack of replies, if someone is interested in me, they can contact, whether for chat on here, coffee and meet, or just friendship

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By *inranWoman over a year ago

Dudley

Your profile is hidden so no one can find you?

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By *_91Man over a year ago

huds

"Feeling sad now I don't get any messages. Can you tell me what I'm doing wrong. Little help would be appreciated

Your profile photo looks great

profile is hidden though so can’t do much more than that!

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By *uriousMe2018Couple over a year ago

Aldershot

We get messaged by single guys who have obviously not read our profile and some even dont realise we are a couple. We used to reply just to be polite but that seemed to be a green light for them to pester and to try to initiate dirty texting. We dont bother replying anymore xx

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By *urtyGentMan over a year ago

eastleigh

"Feeling sad now I don't get any messages. Can you tell me what I'm doing wrong. Little help would be appreciated

Your profile is hidden

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reply to nearly all my messages, usually with a no Thankyou, but I have had one meet off the back of him messaging me.

I also have a few meets planned from them messaging me too, two from forum games, one random message

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Your profile is hidden so no one can find you? "

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By *uriousMe2018Couple over a year ago

Aldershot

"I reply to nearly all my messages, usually with a no Thankyou, but I have had one meet off the back of him messaging me.

I also have a few meets planned from them messaging me too, two from forum games, one random message "

Lovelly profile pics xx

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

I don't send many messages, of those I send I'd guess I get 25% replies, of the replies, probably 50% are thanks but no thanks.. this month I'd have to guess because I delete them , I've sent less than 10 messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I reply to nearly all my messages, usually with a no Thankyou, but I have had one meet off the back of him messaging me.

I also have a few meets planned from them messaging me too, two from forum games, one random message

Lovelly profile pics xx"

Thank you

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By *uriousMe2018Couple over a year ago

Aldershot

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman over a year ago

Hiding from twats

The amount of messages I get varies massively. At the moment, maybe 10-20 a day, when I have my face as my profile photo it can be 10 times that. I maybe reply to 1 or 2 a day, because most are just twats or I'm in a foul mood and don't want to talk to anyone.

I haven't met anyone from the forums yet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to answer every message years ago but I got so much abuse when I said 'no, thanks' so I stopped doing it and just delete.

Men made me do it. I wasn't always rude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never had an unsolicited message responded to except to see my profile blocked in my first 4 years on Fab. I used the chat rooms but they were like the Wild West really. I did get my first meet with a woman on the site through them. It took nearly 4 years to happen. I did have a bj meet with a bloke after he messaged me and my curiosity got the better of me. When I finally discovered the forum I found a new way to present myself on the site. I now rarely send an unsolicited message and have had the odd reply but none have led anywhere. The only people I have met have been on the back of them messaging me because of my forum presence. Even on the forum I’m more likely not to send the first message, albeit I have done it more often. When I send the first message it generally goes no further than the first interaction.

Make of that what you will...

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

I probably get 10-30 forum related messages a day ... I mostly reply to all of those... But out of politeness, not with a view to meeting

Any the wiser ?

Midnight

So the odds are around 500 to 1 with you. Not good odds"

& why we stopped messaging, & walked away to elsewhere. We needed more than feeling like we were the “Lucky ones”. For us it starts something on the wrong footing even before it’s begun.

Midnight you do have lovely legs though

S&H

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"I never had an unsolicited message responded to except to see my profile blocked in my first 4 years on Fab. I used the chat rooms but they were like the Wild West really. I did get my first meet with a woman on the site through them. It took nearly 4 years to happen. I did have a bj meet with a bloke after he messaged me and my curiosity got the better of me. When I finally discovered the forum I found a new way to present myself on the site. I now rarely send an unsolicited message and have had the odd reply but none have led anywhere. The only people I have met have been on the back of them messaging me because of my forum presence. Even on the forum I’m more likely not to send the first message, albeit I have done it more often. When I send the first message it generally goes no further than the first interaction.

Make of that what you will..."

Change the I to we & this would be us too.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

I very rarely send a message if at all. I think it works best from a single males perspective if you are approached first, a wink works for me and I put that in my profile. Saves a lot of messing about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've met lots of gents from the forum, but an equal amount from messages (or who've fabbed my photos). Sure, I delete the lazy "how's you" messages, but I'll always reply to someone who's made an effort to read my profile and try to engage. It's always worth a try, OP

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By *eviantdeeliteCouple over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I used to answer every message years ago but I got so much abuse when I said 'no, thanks' so I stopped doing it and just delete.

Men made me do it. I wasn't always rude.

Wow...you did not have to become rude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

1) lately about 30 a week

2) none

It's ironic, but we both received more messages individually on our singles profiles. Although possibly a third of mine were from blokes wanting to "suck my cock with nothing in return".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to answer every message years ago but I got so much abuse when I said 'no, thanks' so I stopped doing it and just delete.

Men made me do it. I wasn't always rude.

Wow...you did not have to become rude

By being rude I mean not replying and just deleting the message. As many men think it's rude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm so glad guys message, particularly those local to me as it saves me time looking for someone. In fact, in all the years I've been here, I've never sent a message to meet. I get about 60-90 messages daily and if I put a new pic up that can be up to 500+

I do reply to some people if they have read my profile but, tbh, nearly all are binned. I don't meet guys from The Forums apart from Social anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

1) lately about 30 a week

2) none

It's ironic, but we both received more messages individually on our singles profiles. Although possibly a third of mine were from blokes wanting to "suck my cock with nothing in return".

A bit like our current inbox

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By *apiomanMan over a year ago

Shipley

I used to regularly send (I hope) well crafted personal messages to single women where it looked hopeful. The number of replies were so low I now rarely do, although will send a shorter one occasionally. More success from responding to forum posts but still not loads of responses. I just accept that I am not that even being able to write in full sentences and being polite doesn’t make me that special!

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman over a year ago

kinky land

Of those that have randomly messaged me. It's not good

2-3%

Of those I've messaged; much much better. Like 80%

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We respond to the majority of our messages, only one meet has resulted from a forumite messaging us, all other meets were the product of "out of the blue" messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Respond to 99% of my messages and all my meets are from non forum messages (though I did used to go in the SW chatroom and have socially met all the "locals" in there too!)

A very very small fab population actually use the forums so how do you think people not using clubs (again a small proportion a fab) actually meet?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

None of my meets have been as a result of a forum post.

I have tight filters but still get about 5 messages a day from men I don’t know. I usually answer all that are more than a sentence long (unless there’s a dick pic attached, then I don’t bother).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive met just two from their initial first message to me that weren't from the forum. Thats in over 2 yrs worth of messages.

Im only a consequential meeter rather than an active one though. Ive spoken to lots of lovely people that has just never quite tipped over into meeting just because of my reluctance really.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?"

About 50 a day if I'm online. Can be more at weekends.

When I get round to clearing out my inbox I might respond to maybe about 5. All my meets with guys in the past year have been people I have messaged first though.

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By *r MoriartyMan over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Most I met weren't from the forums as not many local women using them and I was also more fussy than a single guy on fab should be.

Quite a few I did meet then started using the forums afterwards as I told them about them.

I got most meets from getting in men's hot pics and recieving messages off the back of that rather than messaging women first.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Not talking about messaging from the forums or chat rooms, but a totally random guy.

How many messages do you get from guys you've never spoken to?

And how many do you reply to? (Not including all the ones you turn down)

10 to 1? 1000 to 1?

I only ask because of all the people I've met, I've met from the forums. I've never met anyone from just messaging "

One of our first meets was from a guy who cold messaged us. Was great

We've never met anyone from the forums. We usually do the chasing, but we have definitely met guys who've messaged us out of the blue on more than one occasion. I couldn't tell you the figures though, most messages are the "how r u sexy" kind so it's a straight delete.

Mrs TMN x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Not talking about messaging from the forums or chat rooms, but a totally random guy.

How many messages do you get from guys you've never spoken to?

And how many do you reply to? (Not including all the ones you turn down)

10 to 1? 1000 to 1?

I only ask because of all the people I've met, I've met from the forums. I've never met anyone from just messaging

One of our first meets was from a guy who cold messaged us. Was great

Mrs TMN x"

So the answer to your question is - if you send a decent message which you can strike up a conversation with - yes, it can be worth messaging. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

Flagrante

We get messages, mainly from people who are not on the forums and we always reply.

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By *affeine DuskMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

Assuming this gets to 175, you should message this to 175 women and poll those results in a pt.II thread. Proper science, innit

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe you should change your profile name ..

Seems a touch self important

Your telling us all your a DR

Which is great. But does come across as self important..

A bricklayer can fuck as good as any doctor ..just saying

I've only just clicked on to what your going on about.

"You can tell me, I'm a doctor" is a line from a film called Airplane

I'm not actually a doctor

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Female half here, I’ve met two guys off here on my single profile.

The rest of the messages I got were just rubbish and get deleted straight away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Every random message I've sent I've had a reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Every random message I've sent I've had a reply "

That's because you're amazing

I'm just a mere man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Every random message I've sent I've had a reply

That's because you're amazing

I'm just a mere man

I just don't send messages mate let them come to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Every random message I've sent I've had a reply

That's because you're amazing

I'm just a mere man

Op if it’s helpful (I’m not sure), however when I’m online on my single profile I can get around 20-30 messages within an hour or so of being on line.

Most get deleted as they are simply “hi wanna meet for a fuck” from guys with dick pic Avis and contain a plethora of dick pics. Some have also told me I shouldn’t be on fab unless I’m willing to meet straight away.

I’ve had men offering to pay me, buy me cars and other such gifts, I’ve had men telling me, yes actually telling me they are going to get me pregnant.

I’ve had other Men explain to me in great detail what they WILL do to me, before even asking my name.

That’s around 25/30 of the messages.

They get deleted. I’m more than happy with a message along the lines of “ hi, saw your profile here’s a couple of “normal” pictures let me know what you think. You’ll get a reply wether yes, no or maybe. How long will that reply take, I can’t answer that because it depends what else is going on in my life, I might not go on line for a month, sometimes every day.

It’s hard to define an answer for you, due to some of the reasons listed.

Think of fab for women (wether on a couples or singles profile) as a seal swimming round in a sea of starving sharks and once in a blue moon a dolphin shows up.

I’ve wrote in my profile “please no dick pics” but they cometh in their plenty, that really is my biggest turn off to be fair.

On our couples profile we have single guys blocked for that reason too.

Our male half doesn’t send dick pics when he messages and has quite a few replies back.

Above all though it’s a swingers site aimed at swingers meeting other swingers.

Good luck, keep it sunny side up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I cant remember the last time I messaged someone on the search results, it could of been 2 or 3 weeks ago lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't reply to many people.

I find it hard to find the motivation to do so, I just can't be bothered trying to find the attraction.

I think it's why I quite like the forums, you get to see a bit of personality and can tell if someone is likely to match your humour etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe you should change your profile name ..

Seems a touch self important

Your telling us all your a DR

Which is great. But does come across as self important..

A bricklayer can fuck as good as any doctor ..just saying

I've only just clicked on to what your going on about.

"You can tell me, I'm a doctor" is a line from a film called Airplane

I'm not actually a doctor

Whuuuttt.. You are not a doctor??!! But I bought that nurses uniform

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok. There is 2 simple questions I'm looking for answers to

How many messages do you get from different guys not forum related?

And how many will you reply with a slight intention of meeting?

I probably get 10-30 forum related messages a day ... I mostly reply to all of those... But out of politeness, not with a view to meeting

Any the wiser ?

Midnight

So the odds are around 500 to 1 with you. Not good odds

& why we stopped messaging, & walked away to elsewhere. We needed more than feeling like we were the “Lucky ones”. For us it starts something on the wrong footing even before it’s begun.

Midnight you do have lovely legs though

S&H"

Thank you

Another factor for me is that i met someone quite quickly... And haven't quite figured out succussul swinging.. I tend to be a one at a time type of girl lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Message in a bottle

Enough said !

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Not talking about messaging from the forums or chat rooms, but a totally random guy.

How many messages do you get from guys you've never spoken to?

And how many do you reply to? (Not including all the ones you turn down)

10 to 1? 1000 to 1?

I only ask because of all the people I've met, I've met from the forums. I've never met anyone from just messaging "

This week I’ve had literally 100s (I usually hardly get any messages) and I have replied to every single message! Try me OP and see....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All my meets have been from guys that message me first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe you should change your profile name ..

Seems a touch self important

Your telling us all your a DR

Which is great. But does come across as self important..

A bricklayer can fuck as good as any doctor ..just saying

I've only just clicked on to what your going on about.

"You can tell me, I'm a doctor" is a line from a film called Airplane

I'm not actually a doctor

Whuuuttt.. You are not a doctor??!! But I bought that nurses uniform

You can go ahead and keep hold of that. It will come in handy

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I don’t meet from the forums. I meet from the big wide world of Fab. Starting with a message of course

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

See whilst I enjoy the forums and chat, most are people I have met through club scene or socials and kept in contact with

A lot of people won’t meet me because I do club scene / hotels and I don’t accommodate.

So rather than feel rejected by email, I know check if couple or female is in London / south east or Manchester. If neither then chances are I won’t message. I will often hotlist to see if they will ever come and if they do brilliant

I find that I have more luck in person, and I have been told my photos don’t do me justice. So I keep to club scene

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Not talking about messaging from the forums or chat rooms, but a totally random guy.

How many messages do you get from guys you've never spoken to?

And how many do you reply to? (Not including all the ones you turn down)

10 to 1? 1000 to 1?

I only ask because of all the people I've met, I've met from the forums. I've never met anyone from just messaging "

Not for me, but then I'm not meeting men for sex.

That doesn't stop me getting an average of one a day sending me really random messages.

If I got a lot of crap, I would probably put my filters back up but I do get nice interesting messages too.

I actually reply to call my messages. I often don't get replies to my responses to the more dire initial messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I used to answer every message years ago but I got so much abuse when I said 'no, thanks' so I stopped doing it and just delete.

Men made me do it. I wasn't always rude.

Wow...you did not have to become rude

Its messed up but I think that's much of the issue I've seen a lot of unnecessarily rude people on here in terms of how they present themselves on their profiles & some how they present themselves in the forums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I reply to messages that have made me laugh or at least smile.... and yeah I've had meets from messages - how many do I respond to compared to how many I get .... I cant tell u - there are currently 213 unread ones in my mail box ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All men I’ve met have been through messages.

Most people in the forums are too far away! That said, I don’t reply to all messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP you have the best veris I've ever read on fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not talking about messaging from the forums or chat rooms, but a totally random guy.

How many messages do you get from guys you've never spoken to?

And how many do you reply to? (Not including all the ones you turn down)

10 to 1? 1000 to 1?

I only ask because of all the people I've met, I've met from the forums. I've never met anyone from just messaging "

And I’d totally help you shop if I could

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No woman on here can be aholes

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I meet from messages that guys have started, away from the forum. I probably reply to most, just about but over time don't meet them all, due to compatibility.

Those who write considered messages get better results and especially if they have a good profile.

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By *opinovMan over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

As part of the plankton, I find writing introductory messages only to see them deleted unread, or being blanked, a bit disheartening. Sure, I get that nobody is owed a reply and that it simply means 'no thanks', but it does leave me feeling a bit worthless nonetheless... so I just can't bring myself to do it any more.

Trouble is, I'm so crap at all this communication stuff that I tend to screw up even when things seem to be going okay - which makes me wonder if I'm part of the reason why all people like me are avoided... sorry guys.

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