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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am born and bred in england. I love white woman.
Yes I get alot of attention in real life but not on here.. I have had woman block me when they find out I am of asian decent.
I am not verified on this profile but I have been in the past on my old account. I have met non verified people on here also, so I dont think it's because if that some wont meet me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am born and bred in england. I love white woman.
Yes I get alot of attention in real life but not on here.. I have had woman block me when they find out I am of asian decent.
I am not verified on this profile but I have been in the past on my old account. I have met non verified people on here also, so I dont think it's because if that some wont meet me. "
You're going to a NYE orgy tomorrow according to your profile update. Why the hell do you care about this random lady?  |
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"I am born and bred in england. I love white woman.
Yes I get alot of attention in real life but not on here.. I have had woman block me when they find out I am of asian decent.
I am not verified on this profile but I have been in the past on my old account. I have met non verified people on here also, so I dont think it's because if that some wont meet me. "
Personally we couldn't give a toss what colour you are or what continent you come from. If we find someone attractive we find them attractive... if we don't we don't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you know? Do they say that’s the reason? "
Actually, having read the op again it seems they haven’t said that as you are wondering if the reason could be that you’re not verified. So are we playing some sort of card here op or are you not wishing to elaborate as you seem to have disappeared? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry I was busy, I am about to sleep.. or do I have to stay online allnight incase you think my silence means something it doesnt?
All my profiles I have had, I have enjoyed great conversations and as soon as I say my first name they block me. If it's not my name it's as soon as I tell them I am half asian.
They cant previously always know my name as I talk to ladies outside of my area. Locally they may know me personally but not if they live 40 miles away.
Wasnt looking for your sceptasism or validation. I know the facts and just wanted to see if others have experienced the same.
I have had 2 white males inboxing me telling me it doesnt exist and it's in my head.
They have never been in my shoes and clearly not experienced what I have on here.
Am I ok to sleep now or will be silence make you believe I made this all up to waste valuable minutes of my life??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry I was busy, I am about to sleep.. or do I have to stay online allnight incase you think my silence means something it doesnt?
All my profiles I have had, I have enjoyed great conversations and as soon as I say my first name they block me. If it's not my name it's as soon as I tell them I am half asian.
They cant previously always know my name as I talk to ladies outside of my area. Locally they may know me personally but not if they live 40 miles away.
Wasnt looking for your sceptasism or validation. I know the facts and just wanted to see if others have experienced the same.
I have had 2 white males inboxing me telling me it doesnt exist and it's in my head.
They have never been in my shoes and clearly not experienced what I have on here.
Am I ok to sleep now or will be silence make you believe I made this all up to waste valuable minutes of my life??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry I was busy, I am about to sleep.. or do I have to stay online allnight incase you think my silence means something it doesnt?
All my profiles I have had, I have enjoyed great conversations and as soon as I say my first name they block me. If it's not my name it's as soon as I tell them I am half asian.
They cant previously always know my name as I talk to ladies outside of my area. Locally they may know me personally but not if they live 40 miles away.
Wasnt looking for your sceptasism or validation. I know the facts and just wanted to see if others have experienced the same.
I have had 2 white males inboxing me telling me it doesnt exist and it's in my head.
They have never been in my shoes and clearly not experienced what I have on here.
Am I ok to sleep now or will be silence make you believe I made this all up to waste valuable minutes of my life??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry I was busy, I am about to sleep.. or do I have to stay online allnight incase you think my silence means something it doesnt?
All my profiles I have had, I have enjoyed great conversations and as soon as I say my first name they block me. If it's not my name it's as soon as I tell them I am half asian.
They cant previously always know my name as I talk to ladies outside of my area. Locally they may know me personally but not if they live 40 miles away.
Wasnt looking for your sceptasism or validation. I know the facts and just wanted to see if others have experienced the same.
I have had 2 white males inboxing me telling me it doesnt exist and it's in my head.
They have never been in my shoes and clearly not experienced what I have on here.
Am I ok to sleep now or will be silence make you believe I made this all up to waste valuable minutes of my life??
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Having a mainly female profile pic would put me off your profile to be honest.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry I was busy, I am about to sleep.. or do I have to stay online allnight incase you think my silence means something it doesnt?
All my profiles I have had, I have enjoyed great conversations and as soon as I say my first name they block me. If it's not my name it's as soon as I tell them I am half asian.
They cant previously always know my name as I talk to ladies outside of my area. Locally they may know me personally but not if they live 40 miles away.
Wasnt looking for your sceptasism or validation. I know the facts and just wanted to see if others have experienced the same.
I have had 2 white males inboxing me telling me it doesnt exist and it's in my head.
They have never been in my shoes and clearly not experienced what I have on here.
Am I ok to sleep now or will be silence make you believe I made this all up to waste valuable minutes of my life??
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Alright alright!
Just that I’m very specific in what I’m looking for and what I like and don’t like to see on profiles, as I’m sure other women are. I looked at yours and if I was looking I would have blocked you immediately and I can’t even tell the colour of your skin or your nationality from your pics. Was just a thought there that being Asian may not be the main reason. Sorry love. Just trying to help.
You can pop off to sleep now  . Sweet dreams. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
What a strange 24 hours we have had a thread about 50 year old plus white guys wanted for a gang bang.A guys of possibly Asian decadent using the P word describing another Asian country and now this thread.By the way the other two threads have been taken off.Will this thread make it or will it be taken off as well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry if I took your message wrong. Been inboxed abuse again from a stranger. I will remove the pics of ladies. Thank you for your advice. Sorry again |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
Sometimes its "just a preference", sometimes its racism, sometimes it's both.
Its sex though, and you can't make people have sex with people they don't want to (within the boundaries of the law anyway).
So you just have to say "fuck 'em" and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I took your message wrong. Been inboxed abuse again from a stranger. I will remove the pics of ladies. Thank you for your advice. Sorry again"
Was just about to say, you’ve removed them now. I honestly think it will make a difference. It would be an instant block for me, always has been and having read other threads about the same thing I’m not in the minority. Most women don’t want to see other women on a single mans profile. Hope it does make a difference.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I took your message wrong. Been inboxed abuse again from a stranger. I will remove the pics of ladies. Thank you for your advice. Sorry again
Was just about to say, you’ve removed them now. I honestly think it will make a difference. It would be an instant block for me, always has been and having read other threads about the same thing I’m not in the minority. Most women don’t want to see other women on a single mans profile. Hope it does make a difference. "
Oops. Deleted that last bit in error.
As for the abuse, make sure you report the sad bastards. Nobody should have to put with abuse or bullying of any kind no matter what. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am born and bred in england. I love white woman.
Yes I get alot of attention in real life but not on here.. I have had woman block me when they find out I am of asian decent.
I am not verified on this profile but I have been in the past on my old account. I have met non verified people on here also, so I dont think it's because if that some wont meet me. "
Every1 has a preference....yes it would be nice to be told sometimes "your not my type" but maybe you are being blocked for other reasons such as not being verified, it may be because youre asian, but never assume its just because of the latter unless you are told that. Im pretty sure u have blocked or not messaged people back who do not match your preferences...we all do dont we?? |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"What a strange 24 hours we have had a thread about 50 year old plus white guys wanted for a gang bang.A guys of possibly Asian decadent using the P word describing another Asian country and now this thread.By the way the other two threads have been taken off.Will this thread make it or will it be taken off as well "
Why would this one be taken off? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes its "just a preference", sometimes its racism, sometimes it's both.
Its sex though, and you can't make people have sex with people they don't want to (within the boundaries of the law anyway).
So you just have to say "fuck 'em" and move on."
Nail on the head
On to the next....we all know what this site is about |
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By *adetMan
over a year ago
South of Ipswich |
"What a strange 24 hours we have had a thread about 50 year old plus white guys wanted for a gang bang.A guys of possibly Asian decadent using the P word describing another Asian country and now this thread.By the way the other two threads have been taken off.Will this thread make it or will it be taken off as well "
Really? They removed both of those threads? |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"What a strange 24 hours we have had a thread about 50 year old plus white guys wanted for a gang bang.A guys of possibly Asian decadent using the P word describing another Asian country and now this thread.By the way the other two threads have been taken off.Will this thread make it or will it be taken off as well
Why would this one be taken off? "
. So far this one is going ok no one is making nasty comments which is good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What a strange 24 hours we have had a thread about 50 year old plus white guys wanted for a gang bang.A guys of possibly Asian decadent using the P word describing another Asian country and now this thread.By the way the other two threads have been taken off.Will this thread make it or will it be taken off as well
Really? They removed both of those threads?"
Yes the certainly removed the first one from the gangbang chap (i green arrowed him. Interesting character!) didn’t see the second inflammatory thread.
Mention of ethnicity or race coupled with exclusion or inclusion usually always ends up causing trouble. |
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By *adetMan
over a year ago
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"What a strange 24 hours we have had a thread about 50 year old plus white guys wanted for a gang bang.A guys of possibly Asian decadent using the P word describing another Asian country and now this thread.By the way the other two threads have been taken off.Will this thread make it or will it be taken off as well
Really? They removed both of those threads?
Yes the certainly removed the first one from the gangbang chap (i green arrowed him. Interesting character!) didn’t see the second inflammatory thread.
Mention of ethnicity or race coupled with exclusion or inclusion usually always ends up causing trouble. "
Yes I only glanced at them both to be fair
Seems to be an inconsistency in what the moderators remove though
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By *ylan11Man
over a year ago
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"I am born and bred in england. I love white woman.
Yes I get alot of attention in real life but not on here.. I have had woman block me when they find out I am of asian decent.
I am not verified on this profile but I have been in the past on my old account. I have met non verified people on here also, so I dont think it's because if that some wont meet me. "
I’m from a mixed background and have to say the site has done me well , we all have preferences in life and that’s all it is .
Maybe update your profile it’s like a C.V  |
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"Did they tell you it was because you are asian? Or could they just not find you attractive? "
How come this sort of 'moans', you won't see from far east asians or south-east asians. They are asians too. |
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"Did they tell you it was because you are asian? Or could they just not find you attractive?
How come this sort of 'moans', you won't see from far east asians or south-east asians. They are asians too. "
We are asians too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What annoys me a bit with this kind of thing is people are attracted to certain people. We’re all different! I’ve never found myself attracted to an Asian person, I just haven’t! I seem to be physically attracted to Mediterranean men, white men and mixed race men. Why on earth should that make me some kind of racist? I’ll never understand this ever and I will never ever accept that I’m some sort of racist because of it. If I was attracted to an Asian man or woman I wouldn’t say oh I can’t because you’re Asian, it makes no difference to me. I’m fed up of all this I really am. There’s too many threads about it. Just contact who you want to contact and reply to who you want to reply to and everyone will get on nicely |
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OP most likely you are connecting with people on here who wouldn't go near you in real life. So you're successful in person because you're connecting with people who are interested in your type/ethnicity. Your initial interactions on here are bypassing that filter and you're being rejected when that filter kicks in. |
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"What annoys me a bit with this kind of thing is people are attracted to certain people. We’re all different! I’ve never found myself attracted to an Asian person, I just haven’t! I seem to be physically attracted to Mediterranean men, white men and mixed race men. Why on earth should that make me some kind of racist? I’ll never understand this ever and I will never ever accept that I’m some sort of racist because of it. If I was attracted to an Asian man or woman I wouldn’t say oh I can’t because you’re Asian, it makes no difference to me. I’m fed up of all this I really am. There’s too many threads about it. Just contact who you want to contact and reply to who you want to reply to and everyone will get on nicely "
I would totally do Sayid from "Lost" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What annoys me a bit with this kind of thing is people are attracted to certain people. We’re all different! I’ve never found myself attracted to an Asian person, I just haven’t! I seem to be physically attracted to Mediterranean men, white men and mixed race men. Why on earth should that make me some kind of racist? I’ll never understand this ever and I will never ever accept that I’m some sort of racist because of it. If I was attracted to an Asian man or woman I wouldn’t say oh I can’t because you’re Asian, it makes no difference to me. I’m fed up of all this I really am. There’s too many threads about it. Just contact who you want to contact and reply to who you want to reply to and everyone will get on nicely
I would totally do Sayid from "Lost" "
Oh I just googled! I take that all back. Find him! Can we share? |
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"What annoys me a bit with this kind of thing is people are attracted to certain people. We’re all different! I’ve never found myself attracted to an Asian person, I just haven’t! I seem to be physically attracted to Mediterranean men, white men and mixed race men. Why on earth should that make me some kind of racist? I’ll never understand this ever and I will never ever accept that I’m some sort of racist because of it. If I was attracted to an Asian man or woman I wouldn’t say oh I can’t because you’re Asian, it makes no difference to me. I’m fed up of all this I really am. There’s too many threads about it. Just contact who you want to contact and reply to who you want to reply to and everyone will get on nicely
I would totally do Sayid from "Lost"
Oh I just googled! I take that all back. Find him! Can we share? "
Yeah, fuck it! Why not?! pretty sure he was also the "buddha of suburbia". |
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There's a stigma in being a single man here. It really makes it increasingly hard work for you to get established and to meet people. There will be some who won't meet you because of your skin colour but it's ideal if they break off contact early on, so that you can focus your attention on the right people.
Don't let this one thing prevent you from still investing alk of the energy that you will need to do, as a single man though. It could become an easy excuse not to do that, especially when it can be painful to know that your colour is a mismatch for someones preference. |
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When you make such a statement pointing stigma women have against you i should remember your words " i love white woman's "
Would all other woman's found your words as a signal of stigma against them because they are not white ?
To someone who have alot of attention out of the site but feels himself rejected in the site i would sugest ,be the same person you are outside of the site , inside of the site .
As you said you have meet people not verified i would guess themselves also they have meet someone not verified and for who veri is not an issue when comes to meet .
My final conclusion is, why so much drama i do think you are doing quite well .
About people blocking, well is their own business , people just need to move forwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is what I find physically attractive. It is nothing about you as a person, but fabs is for sex, therefor attraction takes priority. I see alot of women wanting BBC only, and you stated yourself you want white women. People like what they like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My preference is rugby build men
My preference is white male..
That's what I like..its not racist or genderist or ageist.
I don't like sharing my body with bi / females/tv/CD or any other gender./under 30s /over 70s.. But it's a preference as i have a rainbow of genders ages colours shapes and sizes as friends in non fab life. If it's my body I have my choice.
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"Mine is what I find physically attractive. It is nothing about you as a person, but fabs is for sex, therefor attraction takes priority. I see alot of women wanting BBC only, and you stated yourself you want white women. People like what they like."
THIS^^^ I see this all the time on profiles...women that just want BBC just as much as women that do or don't want black or Asian guys...for me there is an even higher percentage of women that are not interested in a guy in lingerie! Sexual preference/attractiveness is not a measure of someone's overall attitude to someone...sexually we all like different things for different reasons x |
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Being half white half Asian I can empathize with this and have also encountered the same when telling people I'm half Asian. The messages just stop, sometimes to be blocked, too much of a coincidence if you've been chatting along nicely before.
It is annoying when people discount an entire race of people and say they are unattractive, everyone wants to be judged as an individual, it just feels unfair to be judged as a whole race to be 'unworthy'.
Note that this also happens to white males too, judging from the times I've heard women, who only sleep with black guys, have said they receive abuse to their inboxes over the fact they only see black guys.
There does seem to be a stigma attached to South Asian guys, in how they are perceived to treat women on here, mostly horror stories from how someone was treated in a club once from an Asian person, that has now tarred an entire race from what I've heard before.
I'm half Asian but raised by the white side of my family so I'm culturally not Asian yet also get tarred with this. Which again feels unfair.
However, I won't be able to change anyone's mind on this and it's really not worth trying.
Some people won't meet you, some people will. Focus on those that will because there are some smashing people on here who don't view race as the be all and end all when it comes to attraction.
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Nothing racial at all. When it comes to sex, it’s attraction everything else. Some woman have a preference towards their homogenous race, some don’t. Nothing more than that. Don’t look too much into it on this site. Most people on this site are lovely folk. But everyone is entitled to their sexual preference of attraction. Also, recognise that you are yet to be verified and that will dissuade many users. Additionally, this site is 500:1 man-to-woman ratio. If they ignore you, they’re trampling over piles of messages. Don’t take it too seriously. Enjoy the orgy your profile says you’re attending. Go wild  |
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