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Do you think about others feelings when flirting on the forums?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think about others feelings but when I flirt on here I don’t think I’m doing anything that would hurt another Forum user’s feelings. I don’t have any attachments on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do the odd comment,but a lot of people know my views on public flirting.I'm not a fan of it and I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up or without any care or thought for other people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I flirt a little bit, but no expectation.
It does make me cringe on certain threads where there are guys all out flirting in public, yet the same guys PM to flirt like they wouldn't dare flirt in public with me  |
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Hmmmm.... Do I flirt is the question? I'm never really sure when I am flirting or just being nice when replying on the forums  I think it's often how forum interaction is perceived by others and not by the participants themselves that decides whether it's flirtatious or not. I've had people get quite cross with me for 'flirting' with people I know and have met socially on the forums, when I've only actually been friendly... One lady got so annoyed that she cancelled a meet with a guy I know because of our forum interactions... It comes to a point where you wonder should you even say hello or will it be perceived as clocking your leg on someone's proverbial lamppost? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Meh firstly I can't flirt, secondly I don't overtly display interest on the forums (apart from occasionally on threads designed for it and even then it's subtle) however I interact on the forums and regardless of "fancying" or otherwise I always try and be sensitive to others feelings |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up...
Yes, I've seen this a fair bit. And then the feigned innocence. *shrugs*"
yeah that guy used to do it a lot
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do the odd comment,but a lot of people know my views on public flirting.I'm not a fan of it and I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up or without any care or thought for other people"
I think this is true. |
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Definitely don't flirt with everyone or do it in the hopes of getting laid. To me, on the forums it's mostly a bit of fun and I'd hope anyone who knows me well enough to potentially be bothered by it knows that. My more serious flirting is done privately though I'm less good at it when I fancy someone unless they're a gifted flirter and I can follow their lead . |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"...I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up...
Yes, I've seen this a fair bit. And then the feigned innocence. *shrugs*yeah that guy used to do it a lot
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There are a few both men and women who are quite skilled at the typing things with dual meanings so they can feign innocence thing - don't think they realise how transparent they are sometimes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think I flirt .. I just try to be polite and take an interest in what their profile has to say.. it's a fine line for us men .. whether the ladies think we just want to get into their panties or just genuine fun chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I flirt. Maybe a little. Sometimes. But there is no intention behind it. It's just for a little bit of fun.
I'm not sure what you mean by "how it affects other people?", I would never intentionally want to upset someone. Unless they are an asshole. That changes everything.
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"Hmmmm.... Do I flirt is the question? I'm never really sure when I am flirting or just being nice when replying on the forums I think it's often how forum interaction is perceived by others and not by the participants themselves that decides whether it's flirtatious or not. I've had people get quite cross with me for 'flirting' with people I know and have met socially on the forums, when I've only actually been friendly... One lady got so annoyed that she cancelled a meet with a guy I know because of our forum interactions... It comes to a point where you wonder should you even say hello or will it be perceived as clocking your leg on someone's proverbial lamppost? "
I really don't understand this. It's a swingers site. I'd never expect to never see someone I was meeting flirting with or meeting someone else unless that's what had been explicitly agreed. In fact the rare occasion I have had someone say they'd stopped looking to meet anyone else to concentrate on me it freaked me out a little and I felt guilty as I wasn't doing the same. |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
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Anything I post on the forums shouldn't be taken too seriously, for me it's just something to kill time. I definitely would never go out to to intentionally annoy anyone.
Also there's flirting and then there's flirting, the rubbish I post on here is just that usually and doesn't mean anything.
The kind of flirting with real intent behind it as far as interest in meeting someone goes is very rare for me as being in a couple means few people on here are interested in flirting with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mmmmm....good question.
The lovely thing about Fab, is that we're all in the same boat, isolated from the rest of mankind, pursuing a common goal.
So with us all being mature, sensible, non-jealous adults, yes I do consider the feelings of my friends on here.
But I also need to consider my own needs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anything I post on the forums shouldn't be taken too seriously, for me it's just something to kill time. I definitely would never go out to to intentionally annoy anyone.
Also there's flirting and then there's flirting, the rubbish I post on here is just that usually and doesn't mean anything.
The kind of flirting with real intent behind it as far as interest in meeting someone goes is very rare for me as being in a couple means few people on here are interested in flirting with me."
True. Nobody flirts with me anymore  |
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"Im just glad i dont flirt anymore at all so this is kind of irrelevant to me but when i used to i never thought once of how it may affect others"
You mean you're not flirting with me???
*folds arms, stamps foot and tosses curls before huffily flouncing out of room and slamming door* |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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I don't flirt much, I don't think, I'm more likely to throw out the occasional flirty remark to someone I've not seen on the forum before. I tend to avoid the people I chat with in PM as the thought of potentially lamppost pissing makes me cringe so much I want to crawl inside my own vagina. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im just glad i dont flirt anymore at all so this is kind of irrelevant to me but when i used to i never thought once of how it may affect others
You mean you're not flirting with me???
*folds arms, stamps foot and tosses curls before huffily flouncing out of room and slamming door* "
nope |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Or do you flirt with everyone in the hopes of getting laid?
Yes im bored
Does it matter when most ‘relationships’ are bs anyway?"
not to me in amy way happy outlook you have there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I'm flirting on the forum I'm not really flirting if you get me. It doesn't mean anything other than it's a bit of craic between me and the other person. I never do it thinking something might come of it and certainly wouldn't flirt in any way that would cause someone to be hurt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I flirted on the OOFT thread lol! But in general I just chat and talk, I'm a natural flirt but there's no malice behind it. I wouldn't intentionally set out to hurt someone or wind them up. That's just cruel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The real ones shine through
Are you talking all relationships? Or just on fab
Loads on fab. Break up, make up, break up etc. Mad"
Some are yes. Mine wouldn’t shine through as I don’t tend to plaster it all over fab. I’m very private but I don’t think they’re all bullshit to be fair. |
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"Hmmmm.... Do I flirt is the question? I'm never really sure when I am flirting or just being nice when replying on the forums I think it's often how forum interaction is perceived by others and not by the participants themselves that decides whether it's flirtatious or not. I've had people get quite cross with me for 'flirting' with people I know and have met socially on the forums, when I've only actually been friendly... One lady got so annoyed that she cancelled a meet with a guy I know because of our forum interactions... It comes to a point where you wonder should you even say hello or will it be perceived as clocking your leg on someone's proverbial lamppost?
I really don't understand this. It's a swingers site. I'd never expect to never see someone I was meeting flirting with or meeting someone else unless that's what had been explicitly agreed. In fact the rare occasion I have had someone say they'd stopped looking to meet anyone else to concentrate on me it freaked me out a little and I felt guilty as I wasn't doing the same."
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We don't really flirt, apart from the odd comment in appropriate threads and the 'flirty eyelashes' emoji.
We don't have any emotional connections with anyone using the forums so I couldn't imagine anyone would have their feelings hurt by us. We would feel concerned if someone did say to us that they had their feelings 'bashed' because of something we had said to someone else, we don't like to think we cause any unhapiness to anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up...
Yes, I've seen this a fair bit. And then the feigned innocence. *shrugs*yeah that guy used to do it a lot
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A certain guy who showed interest in me always did this for attention and it was never the flirting with others that got to me, it was his justifications and avoidance of my questions abd the mindgames and stuff he used to say in PM....
Everyone on the forum thought he was great... I knew otherwise |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up...
Yes, I've seen this a fair bit. And then the feigned innocence. *shrugs*yeah that guy used to do it a lot
A certain guy who showed interest in me always did this for attention and it was never the flirting with others that got to me, it was his justifications and avoidance of my questions abd the mindgames and stuff he used to say in PM....
Everyone on the forum thought he was great... I knew otherwise "
Sounds like we knew the same guy |
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"...I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up...
Yes, I've seen this a fair bit. And then the feigned innocence. *shrugs*yeah that guy used to do it a lot
A certain guy who showed interest in me always did this for attention and it was never the flirting with others that got to me, it was his justifications and avoidance of my questions abd the mindgames and stuff he used to say in PM....
Everyone on the forum thought he was great... I knew otherwise "
I never take any of the public stuff seriously and never assume. Things only happen when they happen privately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up...
Yes, I've seen this a fair bit. And then the feigned innocence. *shrugs*yeah that guy used to do it a lot
A certain guy who showed interest in me always did this for attention and it was never the flirting with others that got to me, it was his justifications and avoidance of my questions abd the mindgames and stuff he used to say in PM....
Everyone on the forum thought he was great... I knew otherwise "
Showed he’s true colours then  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think I flirt in the forums. I have a bit of craic on here. The people I meet or will meet etc we normally chat in private. With maybe the odd comment thrown in forums but most is kept in private. I'm a crap flirt anyhow. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I give men who gush/flirt over women publicly a very wide berth.
It sets alarm bells ringing. And I’m rarely wrong.
To clarify, I’m on about the men who seem to target a lady and set her up as flavour of the month before seemingly dropping them and moving on to someone else. Leaving a trail of stricken women in their wake. Yeah, I got your number sunshine.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I flirt with everyone in the hope of getting my end away. I know it prob hurts half of fans feelings but it's the way of too shaggers "
I can see it’s working  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I live in Cornwall so any flirting I do on here is like waving at the man in the moon.
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Good job I keep my beady eyes on Cornishmen and are no stranger to the A38  |
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"I live in Cornwall so any flirting I do on here is like waving at the man in the moon.
Good job I keep my beady eyes on Cornishmen and are no stranger to the A38 "
Ah and the silvered moon whispers back "hello"....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I flirt with everyone in the hope of getting my end away. I know it prob hurts half of fans feelings but it's the way of too shaggers
Cry myself to sleep at night  "
Sorry stunner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I flirt with everyone in the hope of getting my end away. I know it prob hurts half of fans feelings but it's the way of too shaggers
I can see it’s working "
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A little harmless flirting is good sometimes, it can boost the confidence of those who are shy or wary of posting in threads.
I partake sometimes but I tend to retain my subtle flirting for personal messages.
Of course there is flirting and there is lamppost pissing ..... the later tends to be  inducing, particularly when you can see it’s false! |
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"...I think sometimes it's done with the intention to either wind someone up...
Yes, I've seen this a fair bit. And then the feigned innocence. *shrugs*yeah that guy used to do it a lot
A certain guy who showed interest in me always did this for attention and it was never the flirting with others that got to me, it was his justifications and avoidance of my questions abd the mindgames and stuff he used to say in PM....
Everyone on the forum thought he was great... I knew otherwise
Sounds like we knew the same guy "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you flirt with everyone in the hopes of getting laid?
Yes im bored
The forums aren't for flirting. Some control freak kill joy has already chastised me for it."
Shit, it's the only reason I hang around. What now?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you flirt with everyone in the hopes of getting laid?
Yes im bored
The forums aren't for flirting. Some control freak kill joy has already chastised me for it."
Oh giz a kiss Clem |
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"Or do you flirt with everyone in the hopes of getting laid?
Yes im bored
The forums aren't for flirting. Some control freak kill joy has already chastised me for it.
Oh giz a kiss Clem "
Will you spot for me? |
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It's a swinging site, and i'm fully aware that those I meet also meet other people - why would I be upset that they're flirting with others?
I'd be pretty miffed if anyone got upset because I was flirting with others, and I certainly wouldn't be meeting them again. |
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"I give men who gush/flirt over women publicly a very wide berth.
It sets alarm bells ringing. And I’m rarely wrong.
To clarify, I’m on about the men who seem to target a lady and set her up as flavour of the month before seemingly dropping them and moving on to someone else. Leaving a trail of stricken women in their wake. Yeah, I got your number sunshine.
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Oh yes ..... those |
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"It's a swinging site, and i'm fully aware that those I meet also meet other people - why would I be upset that they're flirting with others?
I'd be pretty miffed if anyone got upset because I was flirting with others, and I certainly wouldn't be meeting them again. "
The crazy world of Fab where people get jealous of flirting....on a swinging site...
It does amuse me
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I'm shit at flirting so tend not to do it, but I'd never take forum flirting seriously, it's pretty meaningless.
I'd certainly never want to be in a state where I got jealous that someone I liked was flirting with someone else on here - that's too much drama for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or do you flirt with everyone in the hopes of getting laid?
Yes im bored
The forums aren't for flirting. Some control freak kill joy has already chastised me for it.
Oh giz a kiss Clem
Will you spurt for me? "
Ooh that moved on quickly  |
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