"How much do you trust?
Are you a trusting soul or does it have to be earnt?
Can we only truly trust in ourselves?"
Not sure if it has to be earnt, but the more you know someone, the more you know if you can either trust them or you can't! Even so, there's some people I've known for 2 years and i trust them more than others I've known for 20 years! |
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"Trust has to be earned I used to be willing to trust anyone when I was much younger life and people has taught me not to anymore "
 This is exactly me, whereas my husband is more trusting in people. He trusts them until proven otherwise. I think a lot depends on how you have been treated by others in life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on context iv a naturally suspicious mind seen too many good people taken for a ride or ripped off but id not say i dont or wont trust but i do like to test people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i trust some people ...but trusted the wrong people in the past, theres some pretty good actors out there . Now trust has to be earned
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a trusting person and despite being hurt by people I've trusted in the past, I wont change.
Not everyone is given the benefit of the doubt. I'm suspicious of some and they have to earn it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr here - I'll never fully trust anyone ever again as people have learned me lessons over the years, I do not expect anything from anyone either.
Believe me, i've never been let down since I adopted this attitude years ago, it works for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How much do you trust?
Are you a trusting soul or does it have to be earnt?
Can we only truly trust in ourselves?"
i trust a person I've built a friendship with, trust has to be earnt don’t you think    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do trust to certain levels lets say percentages in reality i trust only 5 people in the world above 90% to different degrees but only 1 knows every detail of my life hopes dreams and needs everything and that will never change |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"How much do you trust?
Are you a trusting soul or does it have to be earnt?
Can we only truly trust in ourselves?"
I believe that first and foremost we should trust ourselves. If we can't trust in our own person hpw can we extend that trust to other people.
I'm a trusting soul at heart that often needs to temper that tendency with real world pragmatism. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm usually quite untrusting until I can see whether someone can be trusted or not. It's not necessarily earned its shown by them over time.
If I find someone can't be trusted that's it though. I'm done with them.
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Trust is an emotion that needs time to develop, on average it takes 16 hours of interaction with the person to gage what level of trust you can bestow on that person and also your past experiences
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t. I have trust issues. It’s probably a major reason in why i’m single. I turn into Miss Marple when in a relationship."
i can't trust a woman until i see her naked sorry its a tried and tested theory |
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I don't trust easily, but once someone has shown me that I can trust them they get 100%. Conversely, if anyone abuses my trust, it's gone and they will never get it back.
I'm an all or nothing kind of person  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I start from a position of trust as I’m strong enough to overcome the disappointment of being let down. I don’t do cynicism, but I’m much better at not being gullible than I was when I was younger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't trust easily, but once someone has shown me that I can trust them they get 100%. Conversely, if anyone abuses my trust, it's gone and they will never get it back.
I'm an all or nothing kind of person "
This. Once it’s gone it’s gone. Never ever will it return no matter what. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't trust easily, but once someone has shown me that I can trust them they get 100%. Conversely, if anyone abuses my trust, it's gone and they will never get it back.
I'm an all or nothing kind of person
This. Once it’s gone it’s gone. Never ever will it return no matter what. "
Although it will never be 100%. 99% maybe. Trusting anyone 100% makes me vulnerable and I don’t like that. |
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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago
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I don't trust. Can't trust. Makes me sad cos sometimes I think someone should have my trust, but then I remember people have their own agendas and it's human nature to protect it at the expense of others. Maybe it's only the people I know.  |
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"I trust me 100%. Nobody else "
This. I'm pretty open and authentic once I get past initial getting to know someone or getting confortable, and sometimes I need to pull that back.
But the only person I can ever completely depend on is me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Trust has to be earned I used to be willing to trust anyone when I was much younger life and people has taught me not to anymore
This is exactly me, whereas my husband is more trusting in people. He trusts them until proven otherwise. I think a lot depends on how you have been treated by others in life."
Agree with this.
With me though, I kind of get a sense, some people I will trust pretty quickly, others will never gain it.
Thing with me tho and a lot of people, once my trust has been broken I'm not sure it can ever be rebuilt. Even if I may want to trust that person again, something inside me won't allow it. I'll just start to distance myself and float off into the ether
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I trust people are what they say they are initially and let them within a certain distance straight away. However, very few get past the inner walls and become truly close. Experience has taught me that people will show their colours in time. There’s no second chances here. Once I’m done I can close the chapter and move on without looking back. |
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On little inconsequential things.. Pretty easily. On bigger things... Not so much 
I also find the older I get, the more my levels of trust seem to get eroded or are less easily given. The past few years I've really had my trust in some friends badly shaken and in some cases completely lost, and while you try not to paint everyone with the same brush or feel distrust around others, you can't help but let it affect other relationships.
The best comparison I can make is, if you've ever been hit or punched, it doesn't matter who did the hitting or punching... Any raised hand will make you flinch after that, even one raised in greeting. |
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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago
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"On little inconsequential things.. Pretty easily. On bigger things... Not so much
I also find the older I get, the more my levels of trust seem to get eroded or are less easily given. The past few years I've really had my trust in some friends badly shaken and in some cases completely lost, and while you try not to paint everyone with the same brush or feel distrust around others, you can't help but let it affect other relationships.
The best comparison I can make is, if you've ever been hit or punched, it doesn't matter who did the hitting or punching... Any raised hand will make you flinch after that, even one raised in greeting. "
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I don't trust instantly but I feel I can get a gauge on people fairly quickly though it isn't so easy if someone is quite a closed book. I've been burnt in the past though but it's just a miserable way to live being suspicious of everyone due to the actions of a minority. I won't give endless chances though and a breach of trust is hard to come back from. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I trust my own instincts and gut feelings. I am not totally blunt. I mean I do trust people but not instantly. I help anyone in need but remember the gut feeling and instincts. Don’t ignore them. |
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Think it's very sad when people have lost their faith in others through being hurt ... not trusting only holds ourselves back, doesn't affect others
Trust comes in varying degrees, so I trust everyone at level one and through knowing them it's increased so threfore earned or, a better way would be to say it's improved upon
I never trust unless I have met someone in person though as percieved trust isn't a positive thing in my eyes, a lot relies on communication and good communication is over 80% body language |
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"Think it's very sad when people have lost their faith in others through being hurt ... not trusting only holds ourselves back, doesn't affect others
Trust comes in varying degrees, so I trust everyone at level one and through knowing them it's increased so threfore earned or, a better way would be to say it's improved upon
I never trust unless I have met someone in person though as percieved trust isn't a positive thing in my eyes, a lot relies on communication and good communication is over 80% body language "
I concur with this in many ways although I find I can develop significant amounts of trust with some people without meeting them. However what they have in common is an open, authentic, empathetic and compassionate way of communicating with significant ability to articulate feelings and thoughts. They paint the pictures of their body language in the way they write their messages. I would be seriously shocked to find they were untrustworthy. |
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"Think it's very sad when people have lost their faith in others through being hurt ... not trusting only holds ourselves back, doesn't affect others
Trust comes in varying degrees, so I trust everyone at level one and through knowing them it's increased so threfore earned or, a better way would be to say it's improved upon
I never trust unless I have met someone in person though as percieved trust isn't a positive thing in my eyes, a lot relies on communication and good communication is over 80% body language "
Why would you submit to being kicked in the face over and over again? I've been kicked in the face too many times and am not taking it anymore. |
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"Think it's very sad when people have lost their faith in others through being hurt ... not trusting only holds ourselves back, doesn't affect others
Trust comes in varying degrees, so I trust everyone at level one and through knowing them it's increased so threfore earned or, a better way would be to say it's improved upon
I never trust unless I have met someone in person though as percieved trust isn't a positive thing in my eyes, a lot relies on communication and good communication is over 80% body language
Why would you submit to being kicked in the face over and over again? I've been kicked in the face too many times and am not taking it anymore. "
I have met people who have broken all trust but choose not to judge all people by the actions of a few bad eggs. I still prefer to see/believe in the good and over time have been shown that if I don't trust all people it doesn't stop the bad eggs from being bad eggs but it does stop meeting and trusting lovely great people and having the most amazing off-the-cuff experiences
Not giving everyone the benefit of doubt only hurts me in the long run ... all relationships take time but have to start somewhere and found it to be the same with trust, has to start somewhere and takes time! |
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"On little inconsequential things.. Pretty easily. On bigger things... Not so much
I also find the older I get, the more my levels of trust seem to get eroded or are less easily given. The past few years I've really had my trust in some friends badly shaken and in some cases completely lost, and while you try not to paint everyone with the same brush or feel distrust around others, you can't help but let it affect other relationships.
The best comparison I can make is, if you've ever been hit or punched, it doesn't matter who did the hitting or punching... Any raised hand will make you flinch after that, even one raised in greeting. "
So so so so so much this!!
You know they ain't the same person that did it (or sometimes they are) but you know and have learned the possible and very real outcomes from those behaviours, even though we are certain it won't be the outcome in every individual case, we still flinch until we've learned it's safe not to around individual people
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Once the trust has gone, it's gone for me.
You can try to patch things up, and do the old "forgive and forget thing if you want",and I've given second chances in the past, but it's never the same again.
Learnt that the hard way.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be incredibly trusting but was burnt too many times.
Now I struggle to trust which did cause some issues when we first got together. I really struggled when we became exclusive and I almost didn't want to, not because I wanted anyone else but because I struggled to believe that Beast would be satisfied with just me and I would be ok if I knew about it, it's being cheated on I can't handle. He's slowly helping me learn to trust again
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do trust people quite easily yes. I talk lots to work people out, and give back what I get. I have varying levels of trust, some of you get it all, some a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once I trusted, was open, gave my deepest secrets to another, told her too much I guess.
She went away.
Now I trust far less than before.
Now my trust has to be earned.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I check the state of their knee.
If there are some burnt on it, it means they are easy to fuck (unless they are a tiler. A guy who put tiles for a living)
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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On here not at all. I've learnt actions speak louder than words. The true person is the one that comes out after meeting anything before is empty. So you need to earn it over time. Once gone that's it. |
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