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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Prob dump them cause that would be uncalled for I'm open & can be open but if they choose dishonesty them they ain't for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would depend on the relationship. As in by "seeing" is it like dating or in a relationship with.

In the ages of dating apps and also this website, it's hard to define certain relationships now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

End it. I don’t share

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If they said they wanted you in their life forever and had fallen for you.

Not that you'd believe it... but just for arguments sake.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I’d go to Defcon 1. And deploy words of wrath.

Then i’d block and move my sweet ass along on to someone more deserving of my sweet ass

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If they said they wanted you in their life forever and had fallen for you.

Not that you'd believe it... but just for arguments sake. "

Same answer from me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you? "

Walk away, if this person doesn’t have the respect and attitude to be honest you , especially on here with so many open minded ppl.... then there behaviour will not change

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Well if this is about you, your profile clearly states that you value honesty and being open.

so........ well maybe you have your answer?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing...it's a swinging forum not a church social... I reckon at least 50% of blokes on here have got wife/partner/long term girlfriend

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

"If they said they wanted you in their life forever and had fallen for you.

Not that you'd believe it... but just for arguments sake. "

Had they fallen for me before or after giving another lady their dick?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to jail probly

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

"Nothing...it's a swinging forum not a church social... I reckon at least 50% of blokes on here have got wife/partner/long term girlfriend "

And women let's not be sexist....

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

"Nothing...it's a swinging forum not a church social... I reckon at least 50% of blokes on here have got wife/partner/long term girlfriend

And women let's not be sexist....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Clearly I'd walk away and block and I wouldn't ever trust them. The other person though who doesn't know and believes they are the only one with that person and has no idea they have been cheated on.... I would feel sorry for.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

If you’ve had that open and honest conversation and both clearly stated it’s just the two of you no others, then it’s a sorry but walk away

If not had that conversation to clarify everything then you two need to have a chat and see what you each want

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman over a year ago

Richmond

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you? "

Define "with."

With can be together as a couple (who may or may not be monogamous) or just randomly meeting with each other.

So difficult to tell, in many cases.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If they said they wanted you in their life forever and had fallen for you.

Not that you'd believe it... but just for arguments sake. "

What do word matter its all about the actions

Like I said for me you can tell me that you you have someone & wanna fuck with me & we can discuss but I'd I can't even get that curtesey them screw em

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you? "

As in ,ye were were an item in the real world ? ..well l'd end it ..and as l did I'd tell him l was also on fab and was Fucking the whole site ...cause you wanted to discover what real sex was like ..just to mentally torture him too..... but if all 3 of ye were on fab..well it's kinda open season isn't it ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

Define "with."

With can be together as a couple (who may or may not be monogamous) or just randomly meeting with each other.

So difficult to tell, in many cases."

Let's say they have a couples profile, spend Christmas etc together. And only play as a couple according to the profile.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple over a year ago

Hailsham

What do you think you should do OP?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If they said they wanted you in their life forever and had fallen for you.

Not that you'd believe it... but just for arguments sake. "

Fuck him then tell him to do one. Playing games if you ask me

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By *ilthy and ProudCouple over a year ago

Stratford upon Avon

"End it. I don’t share "

This

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

First sniff of lies and I’m gone. It’s just as much about respect for the other person as to me. There’s just no excuse.

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I know it’s NSA but ..... end it, walk away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

End it.... seems to happen quite often on here

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

I think the question is asked with maybe some emotion involved, horrible situation to be in and yeh it's a swinging site but sometimes feelings do get stamped on....we,re all human, this guys a nob plain and simple.....not worth the time to either women....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Clearly I'd have ended it. I hate lies.

How much does this happen on here?

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By *ady23Woman over a year ago

Coventry

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you? "

Move on.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

"If they said they wanted you in their life forever and had fallen for you.

Not that you'd believe it... but just for arguments sake. "

I'd ask them what they mean by love, and what they envision by a future with you.

I'dalso ask about their other relationship after that, it's not really your business but it does tell you about their character and whether you're compatible.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Ugh it all sounds very complicated, I'd move on to someone else who was less so.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Clearly I'd walk away and block and I wouldn't ever trust them. The other person though who doesn't know and believes they are the only one with that person and has no idea they have been cheated on.... I would feel sorry for. "

Tell them.

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

In the situation you describe I'd be glad to know the truth and cut my losses whilst hopefully maintaining my dignity.

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By *opinovMan over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Ask if I could watch.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you? "

tell them to go away politely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it is sad when that happens no matter where it is

fabswingers is not exclusive at all

unless you was in a relationship

cheats are the lowest of the low

regardless of whatever they tell you

ooo marriage is sexless yeah right

I not got time for cheats

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

Define "with."

With can be together as a couple (who may or may not be monogamous) or just randomly meeting with each other.

So difficult to tell, in many cases.

Let's say they have a couples profile, spend Christmas etc together. And only play as a couple according to the profile. "

id verify him!!

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

Walk away from him. As for the other lady, that is their relationship and their business. I wouldn't meddle if I were you. He will get caught soon enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"In the situation you describe I'd be glad to know the truth and cut my losses whilst hopefully maintaining my dignity."

This!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

Define "with."

With can be together as a couple (who may or may not be monogamous) or just randomly meeting with each other.

So difficult to tell, in many cases.

Let's say they have a couples profile, spend Christmas etc together. And only play as a couple according to the profile.

id verify him!!"

But you can't if you're blocked and they could chose not to display the veri anyway. I get the appeall of that but it's not a dead cert that it would work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Walk away from him. As for the other lady, that is their relationship and their business. I wouldn't meddle if I were you. He will get caught soon enough."

I would hope so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Tell them."

How?! If the cheater controls the couples profile you have no way of doing so.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"If you’ve had that open and honest conversation and both clearly stated it’s just the two of you no others, then it’s a sorry but walk away

If not had that conversation to clarify everything then you two need to have a chat and see what you each want "

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

Define "with."

With can be together as a couple (who may or may not be monogamous) or just randomly meeting with each other.

So difficult to tell, in many cases.

Let's say they have a couples profile, spend Christmas etc together. And only play as a couple according to the profile.

id verify him!!

But you can't if you're blocked and they could chose not to display the veri anyway. I get the appeall of that but it's not a dead cert that it would work. "

has he always had you blocked or has he now panicked & blocked you?

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By *ourayloversCouple over a year ago

chesterfield

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you? "

Drop them like a tonne of bricks

Ray

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whatever the relationship we are all worth more than being lied to and cheated on....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No block on the personal profile but no longer seems to exist. Not initially blocked on couples one but blocked now.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you? "

If their profile said single is that not reportable to admin? One thing being on here & playing away, quite another being a two faced liar about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Whatever the relationship we are all worth more than being lied to and cheated on...."

I totally agree. I'm always open and honest, I can't help it. Not that others will like it at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

If their profile said single is that not reportable to admin? One thing being on here & playing away, quite another being a two faced liar about it.

Single profile and a couples profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No block on the personal profile but no longer seems to exist. Not initially blocked on couples one but blocked now. "

Silly question probably but is it possible she knows?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No block on the personal profile but no longer seems to exist. Not initially blocked on couples one but blocked now. "

I would sit back and enjoy the fact he is now sh*tting himself that he's been discovered

I'm sorry that you've been put in this situation, you deserve better x

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

Define "with."

With can be together as a couple (who may or may not be monogamous) or just randomly meeting with each other.

So difficult to tell, in many cases.

Let's say they have a couples profile, spend Christmas etc together. And only play as a couple according to the profile. "

Is the couples profile verified? Could be just him really controlling it & here without her knowledge. Wouldn’t be the only one on here would he..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

Define "with."

With can be together as a couple (who may or may not be monogamous) or just randomly meeting with each other.

So difficult to tell, in many cases.

Let's say they have a couples profile, spend Christmas etc together. And only play as a couple according to the profile.

Is the couples profile verified? Could be just him really controlling it & here without her knowledge. Wouldn’t be the only one on here would he..

Yes verified. But I think he has complete control

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No block on the personal profile but no longer seems to exist. Not initially blocked on couples one but blocked now.

I would sit back and enjoy the fact he is now sh*tting himself that he's been discovered

I'm sorry that you've been put in this situation, you deserve better x

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No block on the personal profile but no longer seems to exist. Not initially blocked on couples one but blocked now.

Silly question probably but is it possible she knows? "

Its possible but I don't think so. The amount of lies involved I very much doubt she knows

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Hiya lovely.

I'm really sorry to read this. It's not a very nice feeling when this happens.

Unfortunately the longer you are here the more you will realise that very few guys are that open, honest with any integrity.

I've yet to meet anyone that actions speak louder than there empty words. Due to this I'm not the same person that I was.

If you want to chat send me a PM.

Sxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"First sniff of lies and I’m gone. It’s just as much about respect for the other person as to me. There’s just no excuse."

High 5 and salute.

Aye.

I'd be crushed... then so would someones skull

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"First sniff of lies and I’m gone. It’s just as much about respect for the other person as to me. There’s just no excuse.

High 5 and salute.

Aye.

I'd be crushed... then so would someones skull

Unfortunately I'm not big enough or strong enough for skull crushing.

Might need to work on that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hiya lovely.

I'm really sorry to read this. It's not a very nice feeling when this happens.

Unfortunately the longer you are here the more you will realise that very few guys are that open, honest with any integrity.

I've yet to meet anyone that actions speak louder than there empty words. Due to this I'm not the same person that I was.

If you want to chat send me a PM.

Sxx"

Thank you, really appreciate this.

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By *honeMan over a year ago

stevenage

"Found out the person you were seeing was with someone else on fab and was clearly cheating on them with you?

Define "with."

With can be together as a couple (who may or may not be monogamous) or just randomly meeting with each other.

So difficult to tell, in many cases.

Let's say they have a couples profile, spend Christmas etc together. And only play as a couple according to the profile. "

Dump him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"End it. I don’t share "

Its a bit awkward saying that as this is a swing site.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"End it. I don’t share

Its a bit awkward saying that as this is a swing site. "

But not everyone on here is a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"First sniff of lies and I’m gone. It’s just as much about respect for the other person as to me. There’s just no excuse.

High 5 and salute.

Aye.

I'd be crushed... then so would someones skull

Unfortunately I'm not big enough or strong enough for skull crushing.

Might need to work on that "

Genuinely tho, I'm sorry this shit has happened. It's out of order and unfair.

Unfair on you for telling you the bullshiz and unfair on you for putting you in that position.

I'm not sure people realise the impact (sometimes deep and long term) that lies can have on people, then wrestling with your conscience over what, if anything to do about it.

It's pretty fucking cruel.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

"First sniff of lies and I’m gone. It’s just as much about respect for the other person as to me. There’s just no excuse.

High 5 and salute.

Aye.

I'd be crushed... then so would someones skull

I like your style

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m nothing if not honest,and I expect the same when I’m with someone.so no matter how hard things could be,no one deserves to be cheated on by the one they love. So end it,they don’t deserve you. (And listen to la Luna too!)

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"End it. I don’t share

Its a bit awkward saying that as this is a swing site. "

Yes. But different people are looking for different things. Don't tell someone you're on the same page when actually you're not even reading the same book.

Be honest, be open. Have some depth...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"End it. I don’t share

Its a bit awkward saying that as this is a swing site.

But not everyone on here is a swinger. "

A site called fab swingers kinda gives the intention away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"First sniff of lies and I’m gone. It’s just as much about respect for the other person as to me. There’s just no excuse.

High 5 and salute.

Aye.

I'd be crushed... then so would someones skull

I like your style

I take no prisoners.

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

"First sniff of lies and I’m gone. It’s just as much about respect for the other person as to me. There’s just no excuse.

High 5 and salute.

Aye.

I'd be crushed... then so would someones skull

I like your style

I take no prisoners.

Me neither. *fist pump

No more time wasted on liars.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Massive dissapointment. I am happy enough to hear anyones truths however difficult, and work with them if its possible, so to have that disregarded would be a killer.

Sorry to hear this has happened to you. The temptations of here can just be too much I suppose and once lies are learnt its easy to keep living them, if they can see no reason to change.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Massive dissapointment. I am happy enough to hear anyones truths however difficult, and work with them if its possible, so to have that disregarded would be a killer.

Sorry to hear this has happened to you. The temptations of here can just be too much I suppose and once lies are learnt its easy to keep living them, if they can see no reason to change.

It is a complete killer I totally agree.

And thank you.

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