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Women with Low Self Image

By *rAdventurer OP Man over a year ago

Richmond

I have yet to have any actual fun on here but have met up with 2 Women with what i would call a low self image! Just before meeting them they texted me the following! One was "Look for the Chubby Girl looking like a Scruff" who was subsequently too d*unk! The other was "I'm Fat with a Green Jacket and Messy Hair"! What is going on here, anyone?! I really would like to meet up with a Genuine and Confident Woman here - I am certainly not one for needing a drink beforehand!

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By *iss_serenityWoman over a year ago

nottingham

people are just people. everyone see's themselves in a different way. i've got a friend that swings on here for the rush and sexual gratification while i have another friend who does it to make herself feel wanted and sexually attractive. sometimes people need that little boost but when it comes down to the actual meeting, can think, oh god their not gonna like me, their not gonna find me sexy, etc.

and no, i don't drink before a meet, i find it hurts more when ya fall off the bed d*unk lol

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

by posting on here what they've said do you know think that it will not help their self esteem ?

if you really worried about how they felt you should talk to them about any issues they have instead of sharing them will all and sundry.

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By *partan_dMan over a year ago

????

Stop meeting tramps then is the best advice bro hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Confident Kinky and Very Horny Bisexual woman here...it must be true...says so in my opening line on my profile hehe

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

"Confident Kinky and Very Horny Bisexual woman here...it must be true...says so in my opening line on my profile hehe

gobby, filthy, horny, dirty bloke here.

fancy a dance ?

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By *rAdventurer OP Man over a year ago

Richmond

"by posting on here what they've said do you know think that it will not help their self esteem ?

if you really worried about how they felt you should talk to them about any issues they have instead of sharing them will all and sundry. "

I havn't actually named them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Confident Kinky and Very Horny Bisexual woman here...it must be true...says so in my opening line on my profile hehe

gobby, filthy, horny, dirty bloke here.

fancy a dance ?

{Takes him by the hand and shows him how to tango}

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stop meeting tramps then is the best advice bro hahahaha"

NOOOOOO....he should meet more tramps...for we are totally awesome!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"by posting on here what they've said do you know think that it will not help their self esteem ?

if you really worried about how they felt you should talk to them about any issues they have instead of sharing them will all and sundry. "

chill man...lets have a nice thread that doesnt turn ugly eh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have yet to have any actual fun on here but have met up with 2 Women with what i would call a low self image! Just before meeting them they texted me the following! One was "Look for the Chubby Girl looking like a Scruff" who was subsequently too d*unk! The other was "I'm Fat with a Green Jacket and Messy Hair"! What is going on here, anyone?! I really would like to meet up with a Genuine and Confident Woman here - I am certainly not one for needing a drink beforehand!"

see my text would be along the lines of "im the one with the sexy blond hair, massive norps, and a sex drive higher than a ultra horny 20 year old lad!!" then id flash my stockings just so you knew it was me across the bar lol! And I would be completely sober!!

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By *rAdventurer OP Man over a year ago

Richmond

How far from London are you?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they just thought they were being honest ?

It can be quite nervewracking before a meet ?

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

I havn't actually named them?"

well as you quoted their mails then if they read the forums you don't need to name them as it's not about what we think of them but what they think of themselves, or have i got it wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always state im the big blonde in the corner, and mines a g and t

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

"by posting on here what they've said do you know think that it will not help their self esteem ?

if you really worried about how they felt you should talk to them about any issues they have instead of sharing them will all and sundry.

chill man...lets have a nice thread that doesnt turn ugly eh

i never got ugly unless it's my "cumming face"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How far from London are you?!"

Computer says 187 miles, 3 hours, and 28 mins

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"by posting on here what they've said do you know think that it will not help their self esteem ?

if you really worried about how they felt you should talk to them about any issues they have instead of sharing them will all and sundry.

chill man...lets have a nice thread that doesnt turn ugly eh

i never got ugly unless it's my "cumming face"

Oh dont ya just love a cum face!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always state im the big blonde in the corner, and mines a g and t

Gorgeous boobs my dear!!

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By *rAdventurer OP Man over a year ago

Richmond

"I always state im the big blonde in the corner, and mines a g and t

Now that's a text i would sure like to appear!

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By *rAdventurer OP Man over a year ago

Richmond

I havn't actually named them?

well as you quoted their mails then if they read the forums you don't need to name them as it's not about what we think of them but what they think of themselves, or have i got it wrong ?"

Aha indeed - could be pure chance they read it and recognize it - that would be a kind of fate and may spice things up a bit! Positives in Negatives

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

"I always state im the big blonde in the corner, and mines a g and t

surely that should be the "chopsy bint with the cracking norks"

and mine's a very large triple vodka and thank you very much

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always state im the big blonde in the corner, and mines a g and t

surely that should be the "chopsy bint with the cracking norks"

and mine's a very large triple vodka and thank you very much

haha and a secret shot of rohypnol just for calling her a bint!!! :p hehe

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

Aha indeed - could be pure chance they read it and recognize it - that would be a kind of fate and may spice things up a bit! Positives in Negatives

and maybe it's the final mail in the coffin for them ?

it's nice to see that you're willing to take that gamble on their behalf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ANYWAY...the moral of this thread is...some of us have very high self esteem, and not every thread on here has to be a bitchy horrid one...AMEN

xxx

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

surely that should be the "chopsy bint with the cracking norks"

and mine's a very large triple vodka and thank you very much

haha and a secret shot of rohypnol just for calling her a bint!!! :p hehe"

lol bint is latin for "she with the perfect cleavage" i was just saving words

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

surely that should be the "chopsy bint with the cracking norks"

and mine's a very large triple vodka and thank you very much

haha and a secret shot of rohypnol just for calling her a bint!!! :p hehe

lol bint is latin for "she with the perfect cleavage" i was just saving words

where i come from, bint is always preceded by dozy...would go down well on your dim thread lol!!

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

surely that should be the "chopsy bint with the cracking norks"

and mine's a very large triple vodka and thank you very much

haha and a secret shot of rohypnol just for calling her a bint!!! :p hehe

lol bint is latin for "she with the perfect cleavage" i was just saving words

where i come from, bint is always preceded by dozy...would go down well on your dim thread lol!!"

not a chance you sexy "bint"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

surely that should be the "chopsy bint with the cracking norks"

and mine's a very large triple vodka and thank you very much

haha and a secret shot of rohypnol just for calling her a bint!!! :p hehe

lol bint is latin for "she with the perfect cleavage" i was just saving words

where i come from, bint is always preceded by dozy...would go down well on your dim thread lol!!

not a chance you sexy "bint"

{faints from over-excitement...or has she drank from the wrong glass with the rohypnol in!}

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

surely that should be the "chopsy bint with the cracking norks"

and mine's a very large triple vodka and thank you very much

haha and a secret shot of rohypnol just for calling her a bint!!! :p hehe

lol bint is latin for "she with the perfect cleavage" i was just saving words

where i come from, bint is always preceded by dozy...would go down well on your dim thread lol!!

not a chance you sexy "bint"

{faints from over-excitement...or has she drank from the wrong glass with the rohypnol in!}"

nope, i've still got that here waiting for my next "hot date" as it has been for the past 2 years.

i'd best check the use by date as i only want a shag and not to poison anyone

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I always state im the big blonde in the corner, and mines a g and t

Gorgeous boobs my dear!!

Goddamn you beat me to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

nope, i've still got that here waiting for my next "hot date" as it has been for the past 2 years.

i'd best check the use by date as i only want a shag and not to poison anyone

{quick...get in there before she wakes up}

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

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By *irty_bhamMan over a year ago

birmingham

nope, i've still got that here waiting for my next "hot date" as it has been for the past 2 years.

i'd best check the use by date as i only want a shag and not to poison anyone

{quick...get in there before she wakes up}"

as long as she doesn't snore i don't mind if she's awake or asleep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you say the right things to these women then they could become confident minxes. Paying compliments to women goes a long way. A lot of women with low self esteem will have a filthy sexy side to them that just needs help getting out. But like the other guy said make sure they're not just tramps ha ha

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Low self esteem manifests in many ways. What you say you'd do doesn't scream self confidence to me either.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The phrases the women used don't tell you anything. It's difficult to read texts and make decisions about personality. You need the whole package. Voice intonation, facial expression, body language and general behaviours.

It sounds like you chose two women who weren't what you were looking for. So over to you .... my advice is choose more carefully. Speak on the phone and actually listen for signs that problems might happen.

Stop listening with your cock cos that filters out any words and actions and changes them all to ooooooooooo a shag.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

this place attracts a ton of women and prob men too that dont think the best of themselves

some are just here cuz its easier than out there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, why didn't you make sure they were full of confidence before you arranged to meet them?

The women were obviously fishing for a compliment, did you tell the women they looked good or did you agree with them?

Maybe next time you get a meet you should say that fat scruffy birds drinking special brew are a turn off.

At least you have had a couple of meets which is more than most on here, btw did you turn the offer of sex down?

The ladies were probably very nervous and didn't want to seem overly confident as that can be a turn off for some men, surely you asked for a photo in before the meets so you knew who you would be meeting.

A quick question, what did the meets think of you?

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By *roovytwoCouple over a year ago

burnley

Low self esteem manifests in many ways. What you say you'd do doesn't scream self confidence to me either. "

Agree...but think that many women lack confidence in themselves and their sexuality(meaning the way they think they appear to the public)...this is different from low self esteem and think that improving confidence allows your natural self esteem to show thorough without being seen to be a cocky know-it-all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I try a simlar thing with my bank manager. I tell him I'm skint, usless with money and like to abuse my overdraft. He never pays me any complements either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I try a simlar thing with my bank manager. I tell him I'm skint, usless with money and like to abuse my overdraft. He never pays me any complements either. "

My bank manager is the opposite. He's always praisng me. Just the other day he told me all my bills were 'Outstanding'

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By *waymanMan over a year ago

newcastle

Have you tried googling 'self-deprecation'?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

you dont say how the meet (social i assume?) went, within the boundaries of discretion etc?

did they actually turn out to be as they had described themselves as or was it nerves and a misjudgement on their part?

maybe self depracation?

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By *usty boobsWoman over a year ago

studley

how could it be low esteem to state the obvious, maybe they were fat birds with scruffy hair or whatever. i have to say though they should have made an effort but thats just me. you dont go out looking like crap but to each their own. you cant say you didnt see that coming though and if not its your fault-communication, text message or even cam that way you know what you are getting.

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By *rAdventurer OP Man over a year ago

Richmond

Right OP here! The point of my Post was to share my experiences here and see what people thought. I like the variety of comments so far - Opinions are good! Ok well the 'non d*unk' lady was fine and she indeed gave me nice compliments and I to her but for some reason she was down on herself - i did suggest a further meet but a no go. With the other lady i met, well that was a spur of the moment intiated by her i may add - we met in a local but somewhat noisy club late at night and she simply would not leave despite my best attempts! I merely wanted to hear what she was saying

I do realise that people are at different stages of life etc etc but why this negative side? Is it a British thing? Life is supposed to be FUN!

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By *usty boobsWoman over a year ago

studley

I do realise that people are at different stages of life etc etc but why this negative side? Is it a British thing? Life is supposed to be FUN!

HMMMM. THINK CAREFULLY ABOUT THIS

as it may go where you dont want it to, i do understand the point though

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Doesnt sound like low self esteem, sounds more like you picked the wrong women. If what you are saying is true and i dont doubt it, who in there right mind would go out on a meet if they thought they looked scruffy.

Lots of women have low self esteem, but nothing more unatrractive than someone going on about negatives.

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By *ubbliciousWoman over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Personally my sense of humour is very self-deprecating, and I will admit to anyone that it is a bit of a ploy to avoid getting hurt...if I say it before anyone else does it's all good!

BUT...I am super confident and extremely sexual once I am confident I am in the right company!

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By *ewels74Woman over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

"Right OP here! The point of my Post was to share my experiences here and see what people thought. I like the variety of comments so far - Opinions are good! Ok well the 'non d*unk' lady was fine and she indeed gave me nice compliments and I to her but for some reason she was down on herself - i did suggest a further meet but a no go. With the other lady i met, well that was a spur of the moment intiated by her i may add - we met in a local but somewhat noisy club late at night and she simply would not leave despite my best attempts! I merely wanted to hear what she was saying

I do realise that people are at different stages of life etc etc but why this negative side? Is it a British thing? Life is supposed to be FUN!"

From what im seeing is that you had your 2 meets, probably had a nice time, but the ladies didnt want it to go any further from the social meet to the bedroom, maybe they were not ready for that yet.

At least they met you, were not timewasters, were genuine and the texts that they had sent you before hand was probably one way to lighten to mood ie make fun of the situation before hand for you both to laugh at on the meet.

Just my thought

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Stop meeting tramps then is the best advice bro hahahaha"

*sniggers*

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

To the OP the fat chick with the green jacket and messy hair sounds hot! Put in a word.

Without women with low self esteem and extreme self loathing sexual predators like myself would have no prey!

Everyone has their place, let us not pick, complain and change people, let's accept them as they are!

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Interesting posts on this thread. Most guys using their heads will be defending said self depreciating women..thus ensuring future jiggys.

It is after all a perfect conversation opener...do women who put themselves down for whatever reason get more messages than those that dont?

Signed

cynical _emmefatale

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"Interesting posts on this thread. Most guys using their heads will be defending said self depreciating women..thus ensuring future jiggys.

It is after all a perfect conversation opener...do women who put themselves down for whatever reason get more messages than those that dont?

Signed

cynical _emmefatale

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Interesting posts on this thread. Most guys using their heads will be defending said self depreciating women..thus ensuring future jiggys.

It is after all a perfect conversation opener...do women who put themselves down for whatever reason get more messages than those that dont?

Signed

cynical _emmefatale

"Giggles"...of course they do silly. Flies to shit, SOME of the men realising that these poor cows just need their egos massaging a bit and they're in, feeds the needy and the everyone's "happy", and the world continues to turn.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Interesting posts on this thread. Most guys using their heads will be defending said self depreciating women..thus ensuring future jiggys.

It is after all a perfect conversation opener...do women who put themselves down for whatever reason get more messages than those that dont?

Signed

cynical _emmefatale

I can't speak for the ladies concerned, but I do think that some people (men and women alike) use self depracation as a line of defence.

Meeting people with a view to that meet proving to be more than social can be a nerve wracking exercise for anyone and glimmers of self doubt do figure for a good number of people.

I have been meeting people off line for a good 10 years now and am no novice at this.

However, that doesn't stop me from being nervous prior to a initiating contact with someone I find attractive.

Will the person find me attractive enough from the pics to meet in the first place - and from that first meet, will they want to convert that into a sexual one.

I have self depracted on loads of occasions, but not because I expect leniency or for that to alter the persons perception of me.

I would hate to be anyones mercy fuck or last resort as meeting should be a joint rush for both parties with attraction from both sides.

I kinda like it too - I would sooner meet someone with the ability to realise that they aren't attractive to everyone and that worry that 'what if he/she doesn't like me ?' than I would meet someone with an inflated (and often misplaced) idea of themselves.

Self worth, awareness and image should come from within, but it isn't attractive when it borders on self glorification or disillusionment.

I am self aware, have bags of self worth and more than enough confidence, yet I still get nervous before a meet and I still self depracate.

So is it such a bad thing ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and to the OP - what are you doing meeting people that can't be arsed to put an effort into how they look for an initial meet ?

self depracating is one thing, but turning up to a meet feeling 'messy' or 'scruffy' ?

unless of course you met the one with the 'messy hair' on a particularly windy evening ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"and to the OP - what are you doing meeting people that can't be arsed to put an effort into how they look for an initial meet ?

self depracating is one thing, but turning up to a meet feeling 'messy' or 'scruffy' ?

unless of course you met the one with the 'messy hair' on a particularly windy evening ?

Bed hair afterwards is of course totally acceptable...

Wolf

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By *rAdventurer OP Man over a year ago

Richmond

"To the OP the fat chick with the green jacket and messy hair sounds hot! Put in a word.

Without women with low self esteem and extreme self loathing sexual predators like myself would have no prey!

Everyone has their place, let us not pick, complain and change people, let's accept them as they are!

she likes sexy voices - that will help you! Now where is that phone number..............

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"she likes sexy voices - that will help you! Now where is that phone number.............."

Ah feck! I talk like Mickey Mouse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"she likes sexy voices - that will help you! Now where is that phone number..............

Ah feck! I talk like Mickey Mouse

not to mention the ears .......

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By *rAdventurer OP Man over a year ago

Richmond

I do realise that people are at different stages of life etc etc but why this negative side? Is it a British thing? Life is supposed to be FUN!

From what im seeing is that you had your 2 meets, probably had a nice time, but the ladies didnt want it to go any further from the social meet to the bedroom, maybe they were not ready for that yet.

Just my thought"

I think you could well be right on all points! Especially with the lady with the green jacket - Interesting!

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"she likes sexy voices - that will help you! Now where is that phone number..............

Ah feck! I talk like Mickey Mouse

not to mention the ears .......

Well, you know what they say...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

why would anyone meet knowing they looked a sctuff or had messy hair?

I pwesonally wouldnt call that low self image id call that lazy, you can not like pysical things yourself like your belly or your nose but still have a wash, put something nice on and do your hair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So did ya shag um then or what

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