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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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Spare a thought for the stress and pressure you put on non-drinkers with your jolly insistence that one drink won't harm them.
Accept that no when given. It's not stopping you from having your drink.
Christmas responsibly.
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same with food.
Some people genuinely can't drink due to medication etc
Some people genuinely can't eat mince pies due to dietary requirements.
However the startling lack of tolerance shown on here towards certain slightly off the norm predilections doesn't lead me to believe that the Christmas insistence will stop.
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also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up  .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"same with food.
Some people genuinely can't drink due to medication etc
Some people genuinely can't eat mince pies due to dietary requirements.
However the startling lack of tolerance shown on here towards certain slightly off the norm predilections doesn't lead me to believe that the Christmas insistence will stop.
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No. 
I was teetotal for 25 years and had to resort to telling one extremely insistent person that I was in recovery to get them to back off. I wasn't but they were relentless.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe "
Sorry! 'Tis the season stuff seems to give people licence to jolly everyone on to personal misery.
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"same with food.
Some people genuinely can't drink due to medication etc
Some people genuinely can't eat mince pies due to dietary requirements.
However the startling lack of tolerance shown on here towards certain slightly off the norm predilections doesn't lead me to believe that the Christmas insistence will stop.
No.
I was teetotal for 25 years and had to resort to telling one extremely insistent person that I was in recovery to get them to back off. I wasn't but they were relentless.
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Well we see it here every day I'm afraid to say. The people who find it impossible to understand that not everyone enjoys themselves the same way |
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"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe
Sorry! 'Tis the season stuff seems to give people licence to jolly everyone on to personal misery.
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I always think of that woman in Father Ted
"oh g'wan" |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Well said! 
I’ll get that tonight at a party but I don’t want to beholden to £20 for a taxi there and back or a hangover tomorrow "
And it's fuck all anyone else's business anyway.
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"Spare a thought for the stress and pressure you put on non-drinkers with your jolly insistence that one drink won't harm them.
Accept that no when given. It's not stopping you from having your drink.
Christmas responsibly.
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Great post! 
I was called all sorts at our works do because I refused to drink...
It is a shame that going out and getting bladdered is a predominant feature of going out
No, I have lived with the effects of what alchohol does and watched people close to me battle their demons and lose, I believe alchohol is far more dangerous than any class A drug out there because it is legal so readily available
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"Well said!
I’ll get that tonight at a party but I don’t want to beholden to £20 for a taxi there and back or a hangover tomorrow
And it's fuck all anyone else's business anyway.
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Exactly! ( note: I have deliberately not volunteered to pick up either! ) |
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All who are pestered, carry some baking soda in small zip lock bag, and a tambourine and copy of war cry, then depending on the character of the offender say "come on one line or one sermon wont hurt, its Christmas" 
To each their own, have fun, but remember willing consent goes beyond sex!
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Spare a thought for the stress and pressure you put on non-drinkers with your jolly insistence that one drink won't harm them.
Accept that no when given. It's not stopping you from having your drink.
Christmas responsibly.
Great post!
I was called all sorts at our works do because I refused to drink...
It is a shame that going out and getting bladdered is a predominant feature of going out
No, I have lived with the effects of what alchohol does and watched people close to me battle their demons and lose, I believe alchohol is far more dangerous than any class A drug out there because it is legal so readily available
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I agree but we have a culture of fun = alcohol. And I don't judge people for their alcohol consumption, except when they get in a car or become violent.
Anyone glancing at my shelves would assume I drink a lot!
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"All who are pestered, carry some baking soda in small zip lock bag, and a tambourine and copy of war cry, then depending on the character of the offender say "come on one line or one sermon wont hurt, its Christmas"
To each their own, have fun, but remember willing consent goes beyond sex!
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The Tea video is just as relevant here too.
A friend was insistently offered "edibles" at a thing recently. The person offering did not understand the refusal at all.
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Thank you! I choose to very rarely drink and I work with some people who socialise that way. Thankfully almost all understand that if I go out on a work do I'll have one drink and then drink soft drinks the rest of the evening. |
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I'm fortunate that those who know me, won't try to make me do anything I don't want to do.
If I am driving I don't drink and I'm not a big drinker anyway.
Having previously been married to an alcoholic, I am very aware of what it can fo to you.
I also get annoyed with those who try to force people to dance or join in with any activity they clearly don't want to do. |
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I'm a stubborn bitch, so if I say no and someone tries to pressure me it just makes that no 100 times more vehement.
Thankfully I tend not to socialise with people who don't take no for an answer, but I feel for those who do get that pressure. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm a stubborn bitch, so if I say no and someone tries to pressure me it just makes that no 100 times more vehement.
Thankfully I tend not to socialise with people who don't take no for an answer, but I feel for those who do get that pressure."
Sometimes the pressure comes in the passive aggressive labelling.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Just brought 48 cans and loads of rum and but enjoy yours responsibly x
48 cans of lemonade
Non alcoholic rum for you "
I bought a bottle of Rummish (and one of Ginnish) for a cocktail night so that a friend would be able to join in with the same type of cocktail the rest of us were having. |
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"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe "
Oh dear god yes. I was about ready to glass one of my colleagues last night. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe
Oh dear god yes. I was about ready to glass one of my colleagues last night."
That would certainly have got the message across.  |
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"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe
Oh dear god yes. I was about ready to glass one of my colleagues last night.
That would certainly have got the message across. "
You'd think, but I'm not sure it would. When you tell some people that you don't dance - ever - they seem to take it as a challenge. |
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"Spare a thought for the stress and pressure you put on non-drinkers with your jolly insistence that one drink won't harm them.
Accept that no when given. It's not stopping you from having your drink.
Christmas responsibly.
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Its not just me then, that's good to know. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe
Oh dear god yes. I was about ready to glass one of my colleagues last night.
That would certainly have got the message across.
You'd think, but I'm not sure it would. When you tell some people that you don't dance - ever - they seem to take it as a challenge."
I've had a similar experience explaining I don't do anal. *Nodding emoji*
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"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe
Oh dear god yes. I was about ready to glass one of my colleagues last night.
That would certainly have got the message across.
You'd think, but I'm not sure it would. When you tell some people that you don't dance - ever - they seem to take it as a challenge.
I've had a similar experience explaining I don't do anal. *Nodding emoji*
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"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe
Oh dear god yes. I was about ready to glass one of my colleagues last night."
It's very annoying isn't it. |
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It'll also be great when non drinkers will accept that it's perfectly possible to enjoy a drink now and then without having a drink problem, and without getting completely trollied. It works both ways. I can sometimes feel the disgust when I dare to suggest I like a wine or two... and sometimes even a whole bottle!! |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It'll also be great when non drinkers will accept that it's perfectly possible to enjoy a drink now and then without having a drink problem, and without getting completely trollied. It works both ways. I can sometimes feel the disgust when I dare to suggest I like a wine or two... and sometimes even a whole bottle!!"
I agree.
I haven't experienced as much cajoling and passive aggression from non-drinkers as I have from drinkers, though.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It'll also be great when non drinkers will accept that it's perfectly possible to enjoy a drink now and then without having a drink problem, and without getting completely trollied. It works both ways. I can sometimes feel the disgust when I dare to suggest I like a wine or two... and sometimes even a whole bottle!!
I agree.
I haven't experienced as much cajoling and passive aggression from non-drinkers as I have from drinkers, though.
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I have to say I'm completely indifferent as to whether someone else drinks or not. It really doesn't impact my time so why should I care? I find it all rather odd behaviour. |
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"also while we're on the subject and now you've wound me right up .
If you want to dance, great, enjoy it, shake yer booty, cut a rug, throw some shapes but if someone says they don't want to leave them alone. Don't try and drag them up to the dance floor or tell them they're a kill joy.
aaand breathe "
Oh, so much this, with bells on!!!
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I was at a work Christmas do years ago when my boss actually physically dragged me onto the dance floor. I didn't like her much to start with, I liked her even less after that.
I enjoy dancing, drinking and loose men but on my terms and when I want to. |
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