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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do people have problems these days saying it as it is. Tell her to stop texting you the way she is! If she doesn't block the number and her profile if it annoys you, job done. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Spoken to her, but i got the 'I love you' messages in return.
We both made it clear at the beginning about not wanting relationships etc.....I understand things grow and emotions get involved, but FM this is non stop |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thought about that.....but I have aired my concerns with her and the messages being non stop and far too much.
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Dont reply to every text, or dont reply right away. I think for her to be sending so many text it must be because you are replying to them all right away, I could well be wrong but if not slow down your replies. |
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"Spoken to her, but i got the 'I love you' messages in return.
We both made it clear at the beginning about not wanting relationships etc.....I understand things grow and emotions get involved, but FM this is non stop"
Look she's said the word. This is far bigger in her mind than it is in yours, whatever you tell her.
Its gonna end in a block... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Spoken to her, but i got the 'I love you' messages in return.
We both made it clear at the beginning about not wanting relationships etc.....I understand things grow and emotions get involved, but FM this is non stop"
If you're not happy then walk away. You've already spoken about it and it's made no difference, she's told you she has feelings which you don't reciprocate, if you keep going she will just get more hurt and that's not fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s already been said, but just be honest. Be completely transparent with how you feel. Give her boundaries. If she can’t keep to them, then say to her that it’s not working out and move on.
Don’t string her along and don’t pussyfoot around it. It’s not fair on her, she’s obviously got her wires crossed somewhere |
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I had something similar with a chap I was going to meet, his constant texting for reassurance and wanting immediate replies even when I was at work wore me down and I cancelled the meet and blocked his number and profile after I told him I wasn’t one for all that 
It may mean that you have to do the same if the lady doesn’t calm down a bit  |
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"It’s already been said, but just be honest. Be completely transparent with how you feel. Give her boundaries. If she can’t keep to them, then say to her that it’s not working out and move on.
Don’t string her along and don’t pussyfoot around it. It’s not fair on her, she’s obviously got her wires crossed somewhere "
Seems like he's done all that. Maybe she's just lost herself and needs a chance to get her bearings hmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon
But I love you and want to marry you "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s already been said, but just be honest. Be completely transparent with how you feel. Give her boundaries. If she can’t keep to them, then say to her that it’s not working out and move on.
Don’t string her along and don’t pussyfoot around it. It’s not fair on her, she’s obviously got her wires crossed somewhere
Seems like he's done all that. Maybe she's just lost herself and needs a chance to get her bearings hmmm"
Nooo. He’s said all this to her, but still meeting with her when she’s behaving like this. That’s saying one thing and doing another. That is not clear boundaries. |
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"It’s already been said, but just be honest. Be completely transparent with how you feel. Give her boundaries. If she can’t keep to them, then say to her that it’s not working out and move on.
Don’t string her along and don’t pussyfoot around it. It’s not fair on her, she’s obviously got her wires crossed somewhere
Seems like he's done all that. Maybe she's just lost herself and needs a chance to get her bearings hmmm
Nooo. He’s said all this to her, but still meeting with her when she’s behaving like this. That’s saying one thing and doing another. That is not clear boundaries. "
Fair point, didn't notice that they'd met since this hounding started.
Hound me please lovely   |
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon"
It is not normal to imagine someone is besotted with you.
She was probably crackers when you were chatting away happily hoping for sex but nobby nob nob was blocking the blood flow to your grey matter.
Bollock reduction does tend to open the eyes.
Block her number. Don't pass a second thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Spoken to her, but i got the 'I love you' messages in return.
We both made it clear at the beginning about not wanting relationships etc.....I understand things grow and emotions get involved, but FM this is non stop"
I love you after one meet?? Block her number and on here and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a pain in the bum texting beast loads she could just be one of those people that likes to text. However you saying that she's told you she loves you after 1 meet does make it sound like she's a bit unhinged.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a pain in the bum texting beast loads she could just be one of those people that likes to text. However you saying that she's told you she loves you after 1 meet does make it sound like she's a bit unhinged.... "
I was just about to say this. Saying that after one meet! I’d leg it if I were you. |
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"I'm a pain in the bum texting beast loads she could just be one of those people that likes to text. However you saying that she's told you she loves you after 1 meet does make it sound like she's a bit unhinged....
I was just about to say this. Saying that after one meet! I’d leg it if I were you. "
Ussain Bolt would have nothing on me, in this situation!
The constant messages, declaration of love after a week, 1 meet... Scary shit!
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"I'm a pain in the bum texting beast loads she could just be one of those people that likes to text. However you saying that she's told you she loves you after 1 meet does make it sound like she's a bit unhinged.... "
Yeah, I'm a big messager, but there's that and then there's the l word. When I message lots I know it's to be skimmed through when convenient, I don't expect a reply to everything, and I make sure my emotional boundaries are made clear. If I found myself wanting to say the l word* about someone on here, honestly I'd cut myself off.
* I have some people I've said "I love you (not like that)" to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To open some light.
Met on here, as you do.
Couple of weeks passed, couple of messages we meet.
Evening of coffee & fun as you do.
Following day, I get a text thanking me etc, i respond in kind, because it was good fun and opened my eyes to a few things
A few days passed, get a couple of messages asking for another meet, she cancels the day of the second meet.
Following day....bang, I love you, cant get you out of my head etc etc.
I respond in kind. Cos having a FB is always good.
Messages dont stop
I have made it clear since of not wanting a relationship, commitment etc
Messages dont stop
I stop responding.....messages keep coming.
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"I'm a pain in the bum texting beast loads she could just be one of those people that likes to text. However you saying that she's told you she loves you after 1 meet does make it sound like she's a bit unhinged.... "
or it really is "love at first sight"...!!!
PS. I would be happy to have someone text me....!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people have problems these days saying it as it is. Tell her to stop texting you the way she is! If she doesn't block the number and her profile if it annoys you, job done. "
But op says she is perfect so the texting isn't because if she was perfect no need to comment on how much she is texting because she is perfect to the OP? |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Just tell her.
“I like you but you need to cool it with the messaging it’s getting on my nips”.
If she gets funny about it then you need to ask yourself if you want someone that needy. And check what signals you are putting out there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To open some light.
Met on here, as you do.
Couple of weeks passed, couple of messages we meet.
Evening of coffee & fun as you do.
Following day, I get a text thanking me etc, i respond in kind, because it was good fun and opened my eyes to a few things
A few days passed, get a couple of messages asking for another meet, she cancels the day of the second meet.
Following day....bang, I love you, cant get you out of my head etc etc.
I respond in kind. Cos having a FB is always good.
Messages dont stop
I have made it clear since of not wanting a relationship, commitment etc
Messages dont stop
I stop responding.....messages keep coming.
OP you said she was perfect
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have messaged her a couple of times explaining all the above (no dick pics  )
It seemed to stop for a day or so...then picked up straight away.
I dont know if it's her way of telling me to stay away, but damn.....if that was the case just say it.
Now, I'm sure there is people that would love the attention and dont get me wrong, it is nice that someone likes me that much, but the messages are constant, day and night
And yes, I have told her all this |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I have messaged her a couple of times explaining all the above (no dick pics )
It seemed to stop for a day or so...then picked up straight away.
I dont know if it's her way of telling me to stay away, but damn.....if that was the case just say it.
Now, I'm sure there is people that would love the attention and dont get me wrong, it is nice that someone likes me that much, but the messages are constant, day and night
And yes, I have told her all this"
Then don’t respond to them. If you stop feeding a duck they stop floating over demanding bread.
In this case she’s the duck and your attention is the bread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have messaged her a couple of times explaining all the above (no dick pics )
It seemed to stop for a day or so...then picked up straight away.
I dont know if it's her way of telling me to stay away, but damn.....if that was the case just say it.
Now, I'm sure there is people that would love the attention and dont get me wrong, it is nice that someone likes me that much, but the messages are constant, day and night
And yes, I have told her all this
Then don’t respond to them. If you stop feeding a duck they stop floating over demanding bread.
In this case she’s the duck and your attention is the bread."
Is that Shakespeare? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"La Luna.....completely agree with what your saying.....but I am a nice guy 
It sounds as though you love the attention."
No no no no no, I'm just nice, we all have friends and I am a nice person |
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"La Luna.....completely agree with what your saying.....but I am a nice guy
It sounds as though you love the attention."
In OP's defense, its not the same for a woman, overloaded with attention. When you get that rare woman who's in to you, its not something you let go so quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"La Luna.....completely agree with what your saying.....but I am a nice guy
It sounds as though you love the attention.
In OP's defense, its not the same for a woman, overloaded with attention. When you get that rare woman who's in to you, its not something you let go so quickly."
Hey, If someone is happy to be my FB I'm all for it, who wouldnt be
But the constant messaging to just say that is to much.
I noticed the no veri too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"La Luna.....completely agree with what your saying.....but I am a nice guy
It sounds as though you love the attention.
No no no no no, I'm just nice, we all have friends and I am a nice person"
What does being a nice person have to do with it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"La Luna.....completely agree with what your saying.....but I am a nice guy
It sounds as though you love the attention.
No no no no no, I'm just nice, we all have friends and I am a nice person
What does being a nice person have to do with it?"
Surely any woman would prefer a nice person.
Or have I got that completely wrong  |
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"Just tell her.
“I like you but you need to cool it with the messaging it’s getting on my nips”.
If she gets funny about it then you need to ask yourself if you want someone that needy. And check what signals you are putting out there."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've managed to get a meet after a few weeks on fab
You've told everyone about it
The woman obviously things your good
You've let everyone know that
You're inbox should be filling up as your reading this.
Block her and move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You've managed to get a meet after a few weeks on fab
You've told everyone about it
The woman obviously things your good
You've let everyone know that
You're inbox should be filling up as your reading this.
Block her and move on"
Lol, that was not my intention.......
I just wanted to know if this was a normal thing for this site, I understand that people become obsessed with others and things get out of hand. |
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If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Following day....bang, I love you, cant get you out of my head etc etc.
I respond in kind. Cos having a FB is always good."
Sooo... you told her you feel the same because you wanted an FB and now you wonder why she won't leave you alone...?
Speaking as a woman, if I fell for someone and they said they felt the same way then I would want to talk to them a lot and I'd pretty upset and confused if they weren't responding.
Just saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You've managed to get a meet after a few weeks on fab
You've told everyone about it
The woman obviously things your good
You've let everyone know that
You're inbox should be filling up as your reading this.
Block her and move on
Lol, that was not my intention.......
I just wanted to know if this was a normal thing for this site, I understand that people become obsessed with others and things get out of hand."
She may have been on a dry spell and doesn't want to let a good thing go..
There's nothing worse than someone clingy.....
BLOCK her immediately or send her a link to this thread..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Following day....bang, I love you, cant get you out of my head etc etc.
I respond in kind. Cos having a FB is always good.
Sooo... you told her you feel the same because you wanted an FB and now you wonder why she won't leave you alone...?
Speaking as a woman, if I fell for someone and they said they felt the same way then I would want to talk to them a lot and I'd pretty upset and confused if they weren't responding.
Just saying."
I didnt tell her I felt the same.....I responded cos I am actually a nice person and as I said, a fb is always nice.
At no point did I say I felt the same way, discussions were had well before our meet about what I was after, she was after.
If she is doing it cos she dont want to see me again, just say, I'm sure that other fabbers here have had a meet and gone there separate ways with no repurcussions.
I'm know I'm not that good, I'm nothing special...so I suppose its more 'why me' |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x"
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people have problems these days saying it as it is. Tell her to stop texting you the way she is! If she doesn't block the number and her profile if it annoys you, job done. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now."
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Following day....bang, I love you, cant get you out of my head etc etc.
I respond in kind. Cos having a FB is always good.
Sooo... you told her you feel the same because you wanted an FB and now you wonder why she won't leave you alone...?
Speaking as a woman, if I fell for someone and they said they felt the same way then I would want to talk to them a lot and I'd pretty upset and confused if they weren't responding.
Just saying.
I didnt tell her I felt the same.....I responded cos I am actually a nice person and as I said, a fb is always nice.
At no point did I say I felt the same way, discussions were had well before our meet about what I was after, she was after.
If she is doing it cos she dont want to see me again, just say, I'm sure that other fabbers here have had a meet and gone there separate ways with no repurcussions.
I'm know I'm not that good, I'm nothing special...so I suppose its more 'why me'"
Responsed in kind literally means that you react to something that someone has done to you by doing the same thing to them though.
Either enjoy the attention she's giving you and put up with the parts you don't like, or put her out of her misery and block her if she's doing your head in. |
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages."
And yet still no Veri.. how baffling.. |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages."
So you have to actually tell her. Use your words or block but do it for her sake. This makes me sad for her. |
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I always say to my friends, they respond as, when and if they can/want to.
I take the same privilege.
It doesn't sound healthy op.
Tell her straight that it's far too much and it's causing you distress |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages.
And yet still no Veri.. how baffling.."
I could be wrong but i doubt this happened  |
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages.
So you have to actually tell her. Use your words or block but do it for her sake. This makes me sad for her."
Her being lead on by him is the least of her problems by the sounds of it.
She'll just find another guy to harass, she needs help.
But agree he should block ASAP |
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages.
So you have to actually tell her. Use your words or block but do it for her sake. This makes me sad for her.
Her being lead on by him is the least of her problems by the sounds of it.
She'll just find another guy to harass, she needs help.
But agree he should block ASAP"
huge generalisation there! |
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages.
And yet still no Veri.. how baffling..
I could be wrong but i doubt this happened "
Call me cynical.. but I do think I detect someone telling a fib to fab. |
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages.
So you have to actually tell her. Use your words or block but do it for her sake. This makes me sad for her.
Her being lead on by him is the least of her problems by the sounds of it.
She'll just find another guy to harass, she needs help.
But agree he should block ASAP
huge generalisation there!"
How so??  |
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over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages.
And yet still no Veri.. how baffling..
I could be wrong but i doubt this happened
Call me cynical.. but I do think I detect someone telling a fib to fab."
Yes, I detect this too |
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over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages."
Then be nice and block her because right now what is happening is making worse for both of you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon"
Is she in this thread OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it is true I hope she’s not reading this. If she is you probably don’t have the problem anymore! "
I think she is reading this and in the forum thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"La Luna.....completely agree with what your saying.....but I am a nice guy
It sounds as though you love the attention.
No no no no no, I'm just nice, we all have friends and I am a nice person"
It’s not being nice stringing her along. Blocking her is being kind to both of you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages.
And yet still no Veri.. how baffling..
I could be wrong but i doubt this happened
Call me cynical.. but I do think I detect someone telling a fib to fab."
Mmmmmmm no.....no fabbing going on.
She hasnt been on fab (last log on 8 days ago)
Funny that there has been a lot of guys and girls on here inboxing me with names of others....
I am a nice guy, I will not name and shame, although one of you was right.
And no, I am not lieing.
What's the point in creating a story, just for a reaction, come on, I have a life, I'm not going to waste some time with BS for a reaction |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon
Is she in this thread OP "
No, she hasnt been online for 8 days. And yes, I have blocked her |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon
It is not normal to imagine someone is besotted with you.
She was probably crackers when you were chatting away happily hoping for sex but nobby nob nob was blocking the blood flow to your grey matter.
Bollock reduction does tend to open the eyes.
Block her number. Don't pass a second thought. "
Granny you should be an agony aunt! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it is true I hope she’s not reading this. If she is you probably don’t have the problem anymore!
I think she is reading this and in the forum thread
God I hope not!"
I got feeling she is but really OP I would not want this meet situation plastered all over the forum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If she's said she loves you and you don't feel the same, then I'd walk away. You can't be fuck buddies with someone who feels like that about you. To my mind, being a "nice person" in this situation means cutting off contact. You're clearly looking for different things.
Mrs TMN x
fuck buddies dont love each other. If you feel different then for her sake end it now.
I have not responded in the last 5 days after I seriously had enough.... but still recieve daily/hourly messages.
And yet still no Veri.. how baffling..
I could be wrong but i doubt this happened
Call me cynical.. but I do think I detect someone telling a fib to fab.
Mmmmmmm no.....no fabbing going on.
She hasnt been on fab (last log on 8 days ago)
Funny that there has been a lot of guys and girls on here inboxing me with names of others....
I am a nice guy, I will not name and shame, although one of you was right.
And no, I am not lieing.
What's the point in creating a story, just for a reaction, come on, I have a life, I'm not going to waste some time with BS for a reaction"
People inboxing you . Block them aswell obviously love the drama and the kind that gossip. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon
Is she in this thread OP
No, she hasnt been online for 8 days. And yes, I have blocked her"
On the forums you can't block by the way OP |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it is true I hope she’s not reading this. If she is you probably don’t have the problem anymore!
I think she is reading this and in the forum thread
God I hope not!
I got feeling she is but really OP I would not want this meet situation plastered all over the forum "
Hence the reason I am not and will not name and Shame.
My intention was purely to find out if this has happened to anyone else and if it was a common thing.......tinder was bad enough, I thought this site would be a bit more grown up and realistic........which going from the PM I have been receiving this seems to be a rare occurrence as most people here are adults |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon"
Anyone that says they love you that quick is more than likely to be playing you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it is true I hope she’s not reading this. If she is you probably don’t have the problem anymore!
I think she is reading this and in the forum thread
God I hope not!
I got feeling she is but really OP I would not want this meet situation plastered all over the forum
Hence the reason I am not and will not name and Shame.
My intention was purely to find out if this has happened to anyone else and if it was a common thing.......tinder was bad enough, I thought this site would be a bit more grown up and realistic........which going from the PM I have been receiving this seems to be a rare occurrence as most people here are adults"
Time to forget OP move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ladies, gents.
So, I'm 33, she is 52, absolutely perfect in everyway, met on here
Had my first fab meeting last week, dont get me wrong....absolutely fantastic considering how long it's been for me...and how new I am to this.
My only issue is the constant barrage of text messages in getting off this woman.
Quite happy to send texts for meetings etc etc....but I think she may be besotted with me, is this normal?
How would you deal with this?
Thanks for your help
Jon
Anyone that says they love you that quick is more than likely to be playing you
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Yep, I totally get that and would let it go but the constant messaging is getting tedious.
Dont get me wrong, I will text messages from my female friends with the old 'see you tomorrow, love you xx'
Which, as friends are friends and some girls are girly girls, I do get it.
I also get messages between fabbers about nights they spent together, how great it was, organise another meeting etc......which I will happily accept, but it gets to a point that it goes beyond them sort of messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"La Luna.....completely agree with what your saying.....but I am a nice guy
Only a nice person that is really into her in the way she wants, clearly you are not. Do her a favour and let her find that person. My thoughts are that initially, regardless of what you say your messaging was constant enough to get meets, now you have cooled off it doesn't suit you anymore. It's a fab guy thing, not unusual. Regardless she didn't verify you... Odd.. and to be moaning on here is not what a "nice" guy does!
It sounds as though you love the attention.
No no no no no, I'm just nice, we all have friends and I am a nice person
What does being a nice person have to do with it?
Surely any woman would prefer a nice person.
Or have I got that completely wrong "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"La Luna.....completely agree with what your saying.....but I am a nice guy
Only a nice person that is really into her in the way she wants, clearly you are not. Do her a favour and let her find that person. My thoughts are that initially, regardless of what you say your messaging was constant enough to get meets, now you have cooled off it doesn't suit you anymore. It's a fab guy thing, not unusual. Regardless she didn't verify you... Odd.. and to be moaning on here is not what a "nice" guy does!
It sounds as though you love the attention.
No no no no no, I'm just nice, we all have friends and I am a nice person
What does being a nice person have to do with it?
Surely any woman would prefer a nice person.
Or have I got that completely wrong "
I would of thought so too.
I'm not a fab and go guy, I'm not after how many notches I can get on my bed post.
I dont jump into bed with anyone that offers.
As i said before....it was a good meeting and i agreed to meet again and if these messages hadnt happened, would have carried on meeting.
It may be a fab guy thing to get what he wants and move on, that isnt all the guys on here. We are not all the same, just because someone has been wronged in life doesnt mean all guys will do that same thing.
Was I into her, yes.
Am i still into her, yes.....but if these messages hadnt been a constant thing...I wouldnt be here asking questions of normality without being blamed for it in the first place.
Have I blocked her number, yes
Have i blocked her on here, yes
Have i been verified.....no, but she hasnt been online for 8 days.
Have i been getting PM from other fabbers 'guessing' who it is. Yes
2 have actually got it correct and others have now been telling me to stay away from other fabbers (fab names).
So it doesnt look like it was a one off occurrence.
It's nice to know, I come here for advice then get my head bitten off and practically blamed by some of the female race as its 'always the blokes fault'
I never promised the world, the riches within or anything else.
Like every fab meet that I assume takes place, all parties are aware of what's happening and what expectations are of each other...
Or am I wrong |
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"Hence the main post for 'besotted' "
Be nice to know her take as its her being nice to you and you have rejected her advances
Move on
Text messages get misunderstood anyways |
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"Spoken to her, but i got the 'I love you' messages in return.
We both made it clear at the beginning about not wanting relationships etc.....I understand things grow and emotions get involved, but FM this is non stop
Look she's said the word. This is far bigger in her mind than it is in yours, whatever you tell her.
Its gonna end in a block... "
....or a grizzly end for the family rabbit! Tell her one last time you are unhappy with the number of txt messages, you are happy for casual meets but this is not love and it is makung you uncomfortable so if not casual then it ends. If nothing changes block. There are alot of unstable people on here, whilst you can be kind you are not responsible for them. Get involved with the wrong one and it can take you years to get them out of your life - believe me! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s me
I though it was our secret for the fabber forum attention
I’m out at the moment looking at wedding dresses  "
Damn, miss innocent, you caught me having another affair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s me
I though it was our secret for the fabber forum attention
I’m out at the moment looking at wedding dresses
Damn, miss innocent, you caught me having another affair "
You’d never cheat on me. |
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"It’s me
I though it was our secret for the fabber forum attention
I’m out at the moment looking at wedding dresses
Damn, miss innocent, you caught me having another affair
You’d never cheat on me."
Damn straight....I know a good thing when I go it xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s me
I though it was our secret for the fabber forum attention
I’m out at the moment looking at wedding dresses
Damn, miss innocent, you caught me having another affair
You’d never cheat on me.
Damn straight....I know a good thing when I go it xx "
Exactly, so unblock me and stop being silly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You must of been good op
Hahah. I was going to say, how good were you?? "
I'm not that......dont get me wrong, i last longer then the typical 2 minutes.......it had been a while |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP. I feel your pain. People fall in love with me all the time. Well they tell me to f@ck off, which I know really means I love you  "
I dont know why they would tell you to F**k off. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And stop writing in the forum.
Oops forum police are here
She's bound to see it, and turn it all on you."
Good luck to her, blocked and blocked.
Probably post something about me  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"And stop writing in the forum.
Oops forum police are here
She's bound to see it, and turn it all on you.
Good luck to her, blocked and blocked.
Probably post something about me "
You blocked the lady in question for liking you a bit too much? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And stop writing in the forum.
Oops forum police are here
She's bound to see it, and turn it all on you.
Good luck to her, blocked and blocked.
Probably post something about me
You blocked the lady in question for liking you a bit too much?"
I use the word 'besotted' someone said stalker, some have PMd me and said far worse....
But, if the shoe was on the other foot....would be interesting to see how opinions would change |
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