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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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I find it a turn on watching my partner pleasure another woman. I get to go home with him and have him all the time, it’s just rude not to share. No jealousy as it’s just sex. It’s me he loves. |
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Swinging for us is about mutual pleasure. Seeing each other is a turn on. Sex with others is just a physical act, without an emotional attachment. What we have between ourselves is true love, something incredibly deep and intense. We trust each other 100% and have such a strong bond. We have no need to feel jealous at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was completely against the thought of having a partner who sleeps with others before I joined this site.
Now the thought of it turns me on. So I guess this makes me a wanna be cuckold lol.
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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I was completely against the thought of having a partner who sleeps with others before I joined this site.
Now the thought of it turns me on. So I guess this makes me a wanna be cuckold lol.
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Or stag and hot wife? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive"
swinging is about wife swap with consent read history on it if you get time might learn something like I did
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was completely against the thought of having a partner who sleeps with others before I joined this site.
Now the thought of it turns me on. So I guess this makes me a wanna be cuckold lol.
Or stag and hot wife? "
I'm not sure what the difference is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was completely against the thought of having a partner who sleeps with others before I joined this site.
Now the thought of it turns me on. So I guess this makes me a wanna be cuckold lol.
Or stag and hot wife?
I'm not sure what the difference is"
Cuckold is more about humiliation and withholding sex
Stag and vixen is when the guy actively encourages his partner to sleep with other people, no humiliation involved.
I'm sure there's other definitions but that loosely sums it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive"
how can single guys shag one after the other
how do single women same thing
and how do you watch your veris as you get laid by one after the other same thing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
What first attracted you to Fabswingers?"
Shag |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was completely against the thought of having a partner who sleeps with others before I joined this site.
Now the thought of it turns me on. So I guess this makes me a wanna be cuckold lol.
Or stag and hot wife?
I'm not sure what the difference is
Cuckold is more about humiliation and withholding sex
Stag and vixen is when the guy actively encourages his partner to sleep with other people, no humiliation involved.
I'm sure there's other definitions but that loosely sums it up."
I like the idea of a bit of both. I'm a staghold  |
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
What first attracted you to Fabswingers?
Shag "
he’s reasonably cool but it was the opportunities for sex with varying persons that attracted me.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
how can single guys shag one after the other
how do single women same thing
and how do you watch your veris as you get laid by one after the other same thing"
Riiiiiight |
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
What first attracted you to Fabswingers?
Shag he’s reasonably cool but it was the opportunities for sex with varying persons that attracted me. "
That made me chuckle
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all seriousness, I don’t think I could watch my partner fuck someone else either.
It’s not for everyone! No judgement to the people who do enjoy it, I envy the security they have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no Mrs Gorgeous
Not really any reason to be jealous then.
I just said I knew I would "
Never really know until you try, so they say!
Ehat about if your partner eas watching you with soneone else, would that turn you on? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In all seriousness, I don’t think I could watch my partner fuck someone else either.
It’s not for everyone! No judgement to the people who do enjoy it, I envy the security they have."
Exactly if you do it then good for you nothing wrong with it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was completely against the thought of having a partner who sleeps with others before I joined this site.
Now the thought of it turns me on. So I guess this makes me a wanna be cuckold lol.
Or stag and hot wife?
I'm not sure what the difference is
Cuckold is more about humiliation and withholding sex
Stag and vixen is when the guy actively encourages his partner to sleep with other people, no humiliation involved.
I'm sure there's other definitions but that loosely sums it up.
I like the idea of a bit of both. I'm a staghold "
Probably more cuckold then.
From what I understand the stag gets satisfaction and pride knowing other men want his partner and encourages her to enjoy herself, but doesn't want or enjoy the humiliation part that a cuck would.
Cucks enjoy the humiliation of their partners fucking who they want while denying the cuck any intimacy and having their faces rubbed in it so to speak. Quite possibly literally aswell.
But as I said, there are many interpretations and every one who plays that way will have their own rules and way of playing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
maybe its just not your thing. Its not compulsory"
No I'm not knocking it I'm simply asking a fucking question |
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
What first attracted you to Fabswingers?
Shag he’s reasonably cool but it was the opportunities for sex with varying persons that attracted me.
That made me chuckle
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you should see my socks.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is no Mrs Gorgeous
Not really any reason to be jealous then.
I just said I knew I would
Never really know until you try, so they say!
Ehat about if your partner eas watching you with soneone else, would that turn you on?"
Ain't got a partner mate and no it wouldn't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers. 
Another negative person, on fab swinger's? I'm shook "
Not at all. But I wouldn't go on a forum for fishing and question what they get out of it. Yet it seems acceptable on here. |
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
maybe its just not your thing. Its not compulsory
No I'm not knocking it I'm simply asking a fucking question"
and I'm answering it. Don't swear at me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
Another negative person, on fab swinger's? I'm shook "
As has been said on many threads before. People are free to use this site as they see fit provided it doesnt break site rules! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with a little healthy discussion...
There’s plenty of non swingers on fab swingers and I reckon the site must be better for it.
It takes all sorts to make an orgy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers. "
How is that not getting swinging? Just because some don’t want to watch partners having sex with others? Why doesn’t Clem want you fucking other white men? He’s admitted to me in the past he hates the thought of you having sex with other white guys. You have your way of doing things on here so don’t look down on people who do things differently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
Another negative person, on fab swinger's? I'm shook
As has been said on many threads before. People are free to use this site as they see fit provided it doesnt break site rules! "
I'm all for that.
I don't really get why they have to question the lifestyle of the very people the site was aimed at though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with a little healthy discussion...
There’s plenty of non swingers on fab swingers and I reckon the site must be better for it.
It takes all sorts to make an orgy!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
How is that not getting swinging? Just because some don’t want to watch partners having sex with others? Why doesn’t Clem want you fucking other white men? He’s admitted to me in the past he hates the thought of you having sex with other white guys. You have your way of doing things on here so don’t look down on people who do things differently."
Oh get off your high horse. You know nothing of my relationship if that's your take on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not in a couple, but watching a regular meet of mine fuck someone else would turn me on.
I'd LOVE a front row view of watching him fuck someone else the way he fucks me. |
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It's like porn with my favourite person as the main star. It means nothing to him. It's just a bit of fun.
Watching a girl get too close, calling him pet names and wanting to cuddle up.... Now that makes me jealous!
He's mine. They can use him but he's mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
How is that not getting swinging? Just because some don’t want to watch partners having sex with others? Why doesn’t Clem want you fucking other white men? He’s admitted to me in the past he hates the thought of you having sex with other white guys. You have your way of doing things on here so don’t look down on people who do things differently.
Oh get off your high horse. You know nothing of my relationship if that's your take on it. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
How is that not getting swinging? Just because some don’t want to watch partners having sex with others? Why doesn’t Clem want you fucking other white men? He’s admitted to me in the past he hates the thought of you having sex with other white guys. You have your way of doing things on here so don’t look down on people who do things differently.
Oh get off your high horse. You know nothing of my relationship if that's your take on it. "
No high horse here. Just pointing out we all use this site in different ways and there is no wrong or right way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
Another negative person, on fab swinger's? I'm shook
Not at all. But I wouldn't go on a forum for fishing and question what they get out of it. Yet it seems acceptable on here. "
Fishing for what and where did I question what people got our of it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
How is that not getting swinging? Just because some don’t want to watch partners having sex with others? Why doesn’t Clem want you fucking other white men? He’s admitted to me in the past he hates the thought of you having sex with other white guys. You have your way of doing things on here so don’t look down on people who do things differently.
Oh get off your high horse. You know nothing of my relationship if that's your take on it.
No high horse here. Just pointing out we all use this site in different ways and there is no wrong or right way "
Yes and you'll see I'm all for that. What I object to is people not getting what the whole site is meant to be about and having a little respect for that,
regardless of what they actually use it for. Understand? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s a perfectly acceptable question to be fair, especially on this site. I’ve never understood how someone can get off on watching someone they love fucking other people. I know that personally, it isn't and never will be for me but through people explaining it all on these threads I do get why they do it and accept everyone’s different. |
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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it’s a perfectly acceptable question to be fair, especially on this site. I’ve never understood how someone can get off on watching someone they love fucking other people. I know that personally, it isn't and never will be for me but through people explaining it all on these threads I do get why they do it and accept everyone’s different. "
I have to agree - I read it as someone just trying to understand more about the lifestyle rather than insulting those who partake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
How is that not getting swinging? Just because some don’t want to watch partners having sex with others? Why doesn’t Clem want you fucking other white men? He’s admitted to me in the past he hates the thought of you having sex with other white guys. You have your way of doing things on here so don’t look down on people who do things differently.
Oh get off your high horse. You know nothing of my relationship if that's your take on it.
No high horse here. Just pointing out we all use this site in different ways and there is no wrong or right way
Yes and you'll see I'm all for that. What I object to is people not getting what the whole site is meant to be about and having a little respect for that,
regardless of what they actually use it for. Understand?"
Yes I do understand. My point was even couples have certain stipulations regarding swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is an emotion caused by fear, insecurity and inadequacy - thankfully neither of us suffer from any of those. "
I think jealousy is the wrong word to use in this situation. I imagine there’s more couples in the world who’d rather not see their loved one with with someone else than couples that would. I don’t think that makes them all insecure and inadequate. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is an emotion caused by fear, insecurity and inadequacy - thankfully neither of us suffer from any of those.
I think jealousy is the wrong word to use in this situation. I imagine there’s more couples in the world who’d rather not see their loved one with with someone else than couples that would. I don’t think that makes them all insecure and inadequate. "
I was referring to the OP regarding jealousy, not saying that those that don't want to share their loved ones are necessarily jealous. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Another non swinger not getting swinging. On fabswingers.
How is that not getting swinging? Just because some don’t want to watch partners having sex with others? Why doesn’t Clem want you fucking other white men? He’s admitted to me in the past he hates the thought of you having sex with other white guys. You have your way of doing things on here so don’t look down on people who do things differently.
Oh get off your high horse. You know nothing of my relationship if that's your take on it.
No high horse here. Just pointing out we all use this site in different ways and there is no wrong or right way
Yes and you'll see I'm all for that. What I object to is people not getting what the whole site is meant to be about and having a little respect for that,
regardless of what they actually use it for. Understand?"
Where have I been disrespectful to people? It's a question  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it’s a perfectly acceptable question to be fair, especially on this site. I’ve never understood how someone can get off on watching someone they love fucking other people. I know that personally, it isn't and never will be for me but through people explaining it all on these threads I do get why they do it and accept everyone’s different. "
Yes exactly I haven't once been disrespectful about people who do it it's a question, don't know why they are getting defensive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is an emotion caused by fear, insecurity and inadequacy - thankfully neither of us suffer from any of those.
I think jealousy is the wrong word to use in this situation. I imagine there’s more couples in the world who’d rather not see their loved one with with someone else than couples that would. I don’t think that makes them all insecure and inadequate.
I was referring to the OP regarding jealousy, not saying that those that don't want to share their loved ones are necessarily jealous."
Yes I agree. I think jealousy was perhaps the wrong word to use. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive"
It's really easy when that is what you're into and you both get off on it. You're no more sensitive than I am. Just different. |
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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it’s a perfectly acceptable question to be fair, especially on this site. I’ve never understood how someone can get off on watching someone they love fucking other people. I know that personally, it isn't and never will be for me but through people explaining it all on these threads I do get why they do it and accept everyone’s different.
Yes exactly I haven't once been disrespectful about people who do it it's a question, don't know why they are getting defensive"
I don’t see where you’ve been even remotely disrespectful... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is an emotion caused by fear, insecurity and inadequacy - thankfully neither of us suffer from any of those. "
No I suppose alot if people would though |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is an emotion caused by fear, insecurity and inadequacy - thankfully neither of us suffer from any of those.
No I suppose alot if people would though "
I guess a lot of people do and then they would avoid putting themselves in situations where it might be a problem or they do try it but never again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was in a relationship, the subject was never broached, I couldn’t have thought of anything worse personally (because I was 100% commutes to that person in every way) if it was done behind my back for obvious reasons. That said, depending on how she approached the subject (if she had) and the reasons behind it being for purely for sex, not “loving” another (basically if the commitment and trust was still there for both of us) I’m not sure if i could have seen it differently, quite possibly I could have tbh. But we will never know.
However that’s not for me to judge or have any opinion on how others choose to have their lives or relationships, but that’s just my take on things if anyone cares lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you trust someone you don't get jealous "
What do you mean? You mean if you trust someone you should let them go with other people and accept it? What does your comment refer to? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was in a relationship, the subject was never broached, I couldn’t have thought of anything worse personally (because I was 100% commutes to that person in every way) if it was done behind my back for obvious reasons. That said, depending on how she approached the subject (if she had) and the reasons behind it being for purely for sex, not “loving” another (basically if the commitment and trust was still there for both of us) I’m not sure if i could have seen it differently, quite possibly I could have tbh. But we will never know.
However that’s not for me to judge or have any opinion on how others choose to have their lives or relationships, but that’s just my take on things if anyone cares lol x "
This Op
Think this is right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it all comes down to how we are wired. For some of us it is more difficult to separate sex from love. If you easily compartmentalise sex as a physical act to gain pleasure and get turned on by your partner getting pleasure in whatever way you’ve agreed, then feeling jealousy wouldn’t be really an emotion you would experience. I know there are some that actually get a kick out of a gut-wrenching feeling of jealousy and feelings of humiliation and unworthiness too.
Those whose ideal is sexual intimacy within a monogamous relationship may be more likely to find the idea of their partner fucking someone else something they couldn’t stomach.
I think it comes down to our belief systems and how our experiences and conditioning have shaped our view of sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s a perfectly acceptable question to be fair, especially on this site. I’ve never understood how someone can get off on watching someone they love fucking other people. I know that personally, it isn't and never will be for me but through people explaining it all on these threads I do get why they do it and accept everyone’s different. "
Loads of married couples here allow their spouses to fuck others are you saying swinging is wrong? |
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I think a certain emotional outlook and maturity, coupled with expectations about what relationships are all about, mark some people out as healthily predisposed to building strong relationships that aren't possessively binding you together via forces that spawn jealousy.
There are countless posts asking about the same, typically from single men, presumably those who are possessively jealous. Ultimately they may be signifying that they don't cut the mustard in this lifestyle and struggle to understand others unlike them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s a perfectly acceptable question to be fair, especially on this site. I’ve never understood how someone can get off on watching someone they love fucking other people. I know that personally, it isn't and never will be for me but through people explaining it all on these threads I do get why they do it and accept everyone’s different.
Loads of married couples here allow their spouses to fuck others are you saying swinging is wrong? "
No. I’m saying it’s not for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it all comes down to how we are wired. For some of us it is more difficult to separate sex from love. If you easily compartmentalise sex as a physical act to gain pleasure and get turned on by your partner getting pleasure in whatever way you’ve agreed, then feeling jealousy wouldn’t be really an emotion you would experience. I know there are some that actually get a kick out of a gut-wrenching feeling of jealousy and feelings of humiliation and unworthiness too.
Those whose ideal is sexual intimacy within a monogamous relationship may be more likely to find the idea of their partner fucking someone else something they couldn’t stomach.
I think it comes down to our belief systems and how our experiences and conditioning have shaped our view of sex."
Swinging is ancient old and about wife swapping
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Having been part of a swinging couple for many years, I found it extremely erotic to watch him with someone else. That said, I don't think I could do the having seperate one-to-one meets without each other present, but that would depend on the person I was in a relationship with. I'm happy to share physically if i'm there to watch, but I won't share emotionally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s a perfectly acceptable question to be fair, especially on this site. I’ve never understood how someone can get off on watching someone they love fucking other people. I know that personally, it isn't and never will be for me but through people explaining it all on these threads I do get why they do it and accept everyone’s different.
Loads of married couples here allow their spouses to fuck others are you saying swinging is wrong?
No. I’m saying it’s not for me "
Okay and have a merry Christmas |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s a perfectly acceptable question to be fair, especially on this site. I’ve never understood how someone can get off on watching someone they love fucking other people. I know that personally, it isn't and never will be for me but through people explaining it all on these threads I do get why they do it and accept everyone’s different.
Loads of married couples here allow their spouses to fuck others are you saying swinging is wrong?
No. I’m saying it’s not for me
Okay and have a merry Christmas "
Thank you you too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it all comes down to how we are wired. For some of us it is more difficult to separate sex from love. If you easily compartmentalise sex as a physical act to gain pleasure and get turned on by your partner getting pleasure in whatever way you’ve agreed, then feeling jealousy wouldn’t be really an emotion you would experience. I know there are some that actually get a kick out of a gut-wrenching feeling of jealousy and feelings of humiliation and unworthiness too.
Those whose ideal is sexual intimacy within a monogamous relationship may be more likely to find the idea of their partner fucking someone else something they couldn’t stomach.
I think it comes down to our belief systems and how our experiences and conditioning have shaped our view of sex.
Swinging is ancient old and about wife swapping
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How does that relate to what I have said? |
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"I think it all comes down to how we are wired. For some of us it is more difficult to separate sex from love. If you easily compartmentalise sex as a physical act to gain pleasure and get turned on by your partner getting pleasure in whatever way you’ve agreed, then feeling jealousy wouldn’t be really an emotion you would experience. I know there are some that actually get a kick out of a gut-wrenching feeling of jealousy and feelings of humiliation and unworthiness too.
Those whose ideal is sexual intimacy within a monogamous relationship may be more likely to find the idea of their partner fucking someone else something they couldn’t stomach.
I think it comes down to our belief systems and how our experiences and conditioning have shaped our view of sex.
Swinging is ancient old and about wife swapping
How does that relate to what I have said?"
I am just saying that's how swinging was first thought of and created it has everything to do with what everyone is saying and it's my belief what swinging should be |
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over a year ago
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"In all seriousness, I don’t think I could watch my partner fuck someone else either.
It’s not for everyone! No judgement to the people who do enjoy it, I envy the security they have."
Same
However, my mind is open so who knows |
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"If you trust someone you don't get jealous
What do you mean? You mean if you trust someone you should let them go with other people and accept it? What does your comment refer to?"
I don't think its about trust, I think it's about taste. I think you don't do it cos you're just not into it. But we are. I can't describe the pride I feel when I get to watch him with another woman. Seeing how gentle and skilled he is and how they respond to him. It's what he loves about watching me with someone too. We're proud of each other and we like to show each other off. It's made us closer. But that's just us, I'd never suggest anyone should do it or suggest there's anything wrong with a relationship where you don't. |
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"I think it all comes down to how we are wired. For some of us it is more difficult to separate sex from love. If you easily compartmentalise sex as a physical act to gain pleasure and get turned on by your partner getting pleasure in whatever way you’ve agreed, then feeling jealousy wouldn’t be really an emotion you would experience. I know there are some that actually get a kick out of a gut-wrenching feeling of jealousy and feelings of humiliation and unworthiness too.
Those whose ideal is sexual intimacy within a monogamous relationship may be more likely to find the idea of their partner fucking someone else something they couldn’t stomach.
I think it comes down to our belief systems and how our experiences and conditioning have shaped our view of sex.
Swinging is ancient old and about wife swapping
How does that relate to what I have said?
I am just saying that's how swinging was first thought of and created it has everything to do with what everyone is saying and it's my belief what swinging should be "
Fair enough but it doesn’t change what I have said. Non-monogamy, ethical or not, is belief based, just as monogamy is.
Everyone comes with different beliefs, needs and expectations to this site. For some couples the woman or man can feel perfectly fucking other people but can’t stomach the idea of their partner doing it. If that’s what they agree as their way of enjoying their sex lives who am I to say it’s right or wrong?
The meaning of Swinging has evolved as it has become more inclusive of different ways to enjoy our sex lives. Ethical non-monogamy is still a fundamental value within swinging but it is evolving. |
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"If you trust someone you don't get jealous
What do you mean? You mean if you trust someone you should let them go with other people and accept it? What does your comment refer to?
I don't think its about trust, I think it's about taste. I think you don't do it cos you're just not into it. But we are. I can't describe the pride I feel when I get to watch him with another woman. Seeing how gentle and skilled he is and how they respond to him. It's what he loves about watching me with someone too. We're proud of each other and we like to show each other off. It's made us closer. But that's just us, I'd never suggest anyone should do it or suggest there's anything wrong with a relationship where you don't. "
I agree. There’s plenty stuff on here I can’t get my head around, doesn’t mean i think it’s wrong or people are wrong for doing it. I think perhaps the op felt the same and just needed it explaining a bit more. I understand it a lot more since I read a similar thread a while ago. |
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"I think it all comes down to how we are wired. For some of us it is more difficult to separate sex from love. If you easily compartmentalise sex as a physical act to gain pleasure and get turned on by your partner getting pleasure in whatever way you’ve agreed, then feeling jealousy wouldn’t be really an emotion you would experience. I know there are some that actually get a kick out of a gut-wrenching feeling of jealousy and feelings of humiliation and unworthiness too.
Those whose ideal is sexual intimacy within a monogamous relationship may be more likely to find the idea of their partner fucking someone else something they couldn’t stomach.
I think it comes down to our belief systems and how our experiences and conditioning have shaped our view of sex.
Swinging is ancient old and about wife swapping
How does that relate to what I have said?
I am just saying that's how swinging was first thought of and created it has everything to do with what everyone is saying and it's my belief what swinging should be
Fair enough but it doesn’t change what I have said. Non-monogamy, ethical or not, is belief based, just as monogamy is.
Everyone comes with different beliefs, needs and expectations to this site. For some couples the woman or man can feel perfectly fucking other people but can’t stomach the idea of their partner doing it. If that’s what they agree as their way of enjoying their sex lives who am I to say it’s right or wrong?
The meaning of Swinging has evolved as it has become more inclusive of different ways to enjoy our sex lives. Ethical non-monogamy is still a fundamental value within swinging but it is evolving."
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"If you trust someone you don't get jealous
What do you mean? You mean if you trust someone you should let them go with other people and accept it? What does your comment refer to?
I don't think its about trust, I think it's about taste. I think you don't do it cos you're just not into it. But we are. I can't describe the pride I feel when I get to watch him with another woman. Seeing how gentle and skilled he is and how they respond to him. It's what he loves about watching me with someone too. We're proud of each other and we like to show each other off. It's made us closer. But that's just us, I'd never suggest anyone should do it or suggest there's anything wrong with a relationship where you don't. "
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"If you trust someone you don't get jealous
What do you mean? You mean if you trust someone you should let them go with other people and accept it? What does your comment refer to?"
No, not if you are monogamous. But you don't feel jealous is you feel secure in your relationship and trust your partner. I also believe, people that can't trust, can't be trusted as we all judge by our own standards |
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive"
I am a poly and believe in sharing him as he must share me, I get pleasure from hearing him enjoy himself. Swinging is personally different to everyone, we tailor it to suit ourselves. Stay true to your feelings on your own situation and don't get muddied by others opinions on what you must do in your relationship, do what makes you happy. |
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"I find it a turn on watching my partner pleasure another woman. I get to go home with him and have him all the time, it’s just rude not to share. No jealousy as it’s just sex. It’s me he loves. "
This. It’s a turn on hearing partner making a woman moan and cum. |
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over a year ago
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"Just think I'm too insecure prob think shell find him better  who's she? Have you got a partner? Would you Shag someone else's wife?"
Should have put she'd, no and yes if her husband was consenting, not if he was there watching though. |
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"I thought that most, if not every couple, that was on here joined to get pleasure out of the whole sexual experience. I could be wrong though, but why would you bring jealousy to the party?"
I'm not bringing anything to any party, I wouldn't have sex with a woman with their husband there and if I had a partner I wouldn't watch her shagging a bloke either. |
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"If you trust someone you don't get jealous
What do you mean? You mean if you trust someone you should let them go with other people and accept it? What does your comment refer to?
No, not if you are monogamous. But you don't feel jealous is you feel secure in your relationship and trust your partner. I also believe, people that can't trust, can't be trusted as we all judge by our own standards "
I wouldn't say it's trust because they are not exactly bring deceiving getting blasted Infront of you . |
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"Just think I'm too insecure prob think shell find him better who's she? Have you got a partner? Would you Shag someone else's wife?
Should have put she'd, no and yes if her husband was consenting, not if he was there watching though."
a lot of men love to see their other halves being pleasures. Its obviously definitely not for you but then again we cant all like the same thing can we. Xx |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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When you’re confident in your relationship with each, you know that no matter what, you’re their world and what they’re doing is just having fun and experiences.
Being able to see the person you love have that is incredibly satisfying and also rather horny.
There’s also an element of smugness about how much pleasure the other person is getting and knowing you can have that whenever you want
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"Just think I'm too insecure prob think shell find him better who's she? Have you got a partner? Would you Shag someone else's wife?
Should have put she'd, no and yes if her husband was consenting, not if he was there watching though. a lot of men love to see their other halves being pleasures. Its obviously definitely not for you but then again we cant all like the same thing can we. Xx"
Exactly some people enjoy a golden shower , world would be boring of everyone liked the same thing. |
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Hubby with another woman id hate and wouldnt be on here ,but as he is bi its not an issue he does appreciate a woman but the only one he fucks is me ,inbetween sharing a guy with me ,its perfect for me ,he is happy ,im happy and never jealous we just love watching each other being pleasured ..  |
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over a year ago
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"I couldn’t do it. I don’t share.
This
Nowt to do with jealousy. "
It’s nothing to do with jealousy, fear or insecurity. Those words imply an irrational or imagined element, e.g. not letting your partner go on a night out for fear they will speak to other women. Most people in the general population in loving relationships (within and outside of Fab) would probably feel very uncomfortable and upset with seeing their partner have sex with another person. This isn’t an irrational or imagined scenario - it’s very real; and therefore would create a discomfort that’s quite normal. And that’s not to say enjoying the opposite is in anyway abnormal. It’s just to make the point that probably the vast majority of people would struggle with this scenario if asked. |
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"I couldn’t do it. I don’t share.
This
Nowt to do with jealousy.
It’s nothing to do with jealousy, fear or insecurity. Those words imply an irrational or imagined element, e.g. not letting your partner go on a night out for fear they will speak to other women. Most people in the general population in loving relationships (within and outside of Fab) would probably feel very uncomfortable and upset with seeing their partner have sex with another person. This isn’t an irrational or imagined scenario - it’s very real; and therefore would create a discomfort that’s quite normal. And that’s not to say enjoying the opposite is in anyway abnormal. It’s just to make the point that probably the vast majority of people would struggle with this scenario if asked. "
Yeah what she said
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Brat has already answered, but from my perspective..
I've always been quite a jealous person, just naturally. On the other hand, I've always been an overly flirty person too which has often in previous lives got me in trouble. However, when you're swinging with a partner it's different. At least for me/us.
There is no jealousy from me because we do everything together, for us. It's a shared experience. Jealousy doesn't come into it, everything we do with another person/people isn't just for me or for her, it's for us.
We both know the best sex we ever have is just us. Everything else is just added extras and fun.
There is no jealousy when you both want the same things and are making them happen together.
We'd both still be heartbroken if one of us cheated or did something with someone else that we weren't supposed to.
When it's within our realm, our limits and our control.. jealousy doesn't feature. There's no problems. |
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"Just think I'm too insecure prob think shell find him better who's she? Have you got a partner? Would you Shag someone else's wife?
Should have put she'd, no and yes if her husband was consenting, not if he was there watching though. a lot of men love to see their other halves being pleasures. Its obviously definitely not for you but then again we cant all like the same thing can we. Xx
Exactly some people enjoy a golden shower , world would be boring of everyone liked the same thing."
absolutely true. I personally prefer a hot shower lol. Xx |
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"Just think I'm too insecure prob think shell find him better who's she? Have you got a partner? Would you Shag someone else's wife?
Should have put she'd, no and yes if her husband was consenting, not if he was there watching though. a lot of men love to see their other halves being pleasures. Its obviously definitely not for you but then again we cant all like the same thing can we. Xx
Exactly some people enjoy a golden shower , world would be boring of everyone liked the same thing. absolutely true. I personally prefer a hot shower lol. Xx"
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Well, seeing as its usually a bi lady he's playing with, then i'm mostly not watching, I'm playing with her too lol!
We dont get jealous seeing each other with others, its like live porn, which you can direct, or take part in, and its a massive turn on knowing he is having fun! |
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"I couldn’t do it. I don’t share.
This
Nowt to do with jealousy.
It’s nothing to do with jealousy, fear or insecurity. Those words imply an irrational or imagined element, e.g. not letting your partner go on a night out for fear they will speak to other women. Most people in the general population in loving relationships (within and outside of Fab) would probably feel very uncomfortable and upset with seeing their partner have sex with another person. This isn’t an irrational or imagined scenario - it’s very real; and therefore would create a discomfort that’s quite normal. And that’s not to say enjoying the opposite is in anyway abnormal. It’s just to make the point that probably the vast majority of people would struggle with this scenario if asked. "
Totally. Like I said, everyone’s different and will do what they want to do. I can have an FFM if I’m involved too but couldn’t just sit and watch him just fuck her. As long as both are comfortable and it’s legal then I’ve always said go for it! |
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"I couldn’t do it. I don’t share.
This
Nowt to do with jealousy.
It’s nothing to do with jealousy, fear or insecurity. Those words imply an irrational or imagined element, e.g. not letting your partner go on a night out for fear they will speak to other women. Most people in the general population in loving relationships (within and outside of Fab) would probably feel very uncomfortable and upset with seeing their partner have sex with another person. This isn’t an irrational or imagined scenario - it’s very real; and therefore would create a discomfort that’s quite normal. And that’s not to say enjoying the opposite is in anyway abnormal. It’s just to make the point that probably the vast majority of people would struggle with this scenario if asked.
Totally. Like I said, everyone’s different and will do what they want to do. I can have an FFM if I’m involved too but couldn’t just sit and watch him just fuck her. As long as both are comfortable and it’s legal then I’ve always said go for it! "
I do enjoy our FFMs |
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"I couldn’t do it. I don’t share.
This
Nowt to do with jealousy.
It’s nothing to do with jealousy, fear or insecurity. Those words imply an irrational or imagined element, e.g. not letting your partner go on a night out for fear they will speak to other women. Most people in the general population in loving relationships (within and outside of Fab) would probably feel very uncomfortable and upset with seeing their partner have sex with another person. This isn’t an irrational or imagined scenario - it’s very real; and therefore would create a discomfort that’s quite normal. And that’s not to say enjoying the opposite is in anyway abnormal. It’s just to make the point that probably the vast majority of people would struggle with this scenario if asked.
Totally. Like I said, everyone’s different and will do what they want to do. I can have an FFM if I’m involved too but couldn’t just sit and watch him just fuck her. As long as both are comfortable and it’s legal then I’ve always said go for it!
I do enjoy our FFMs "
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
Would you fuck another man's partner, while he watched? "
No |
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"This is aimed at couples, how can you watch your partner shag someone else and not get jealous? Maybe I'm too sensitive
Would you fuck another man's partner, while he watched? "
if thats what he or they wanted then yes why not  |
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