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Should parents use their phones when walking with their kids?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I see it all the time when you go out especially when they walk with the buggie so they cant see what they are up to, they are probably using facebook or something like that, what is your view of it is it being responsible?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never, I don't understand the whole phone thing tbh unless it's an emergency why just why? And what is so important? More important than your kids? Life?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

The kids probably taught them how to use their phone anyway

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"I see it all the time when you go out especially when they walk with the buggie so they cant see what they are up to, they are probably using facebook or something like that, what is your view of it is it being responsible?"

That's really quite judgemental. You have no idea what they're looking at.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman over a year ago

Hiding from twats

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With or without kids I drive in the west end jaywalking nightmare then the bastards get the hump when you blast the Horn !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Never, I don't understand the whole phone thing tbh unless it's an emergency why just why? And what is so important? More important than your kids? Life? "
Yes and I wonder the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One of my bugbears is that.

Nothing to do with me but seeing some useless wonder pushing a pushchair whilst checking their Facebook grinds my gears

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

abaolutly not. They should be talking to their kids not staring at a mobile phone. I dont get it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's absolutely fine to sometimes chat on your phone or look at something when out with your kids.

Having said that I have on many occasions seem parents totally ignore their child as they are too busy with their phone.

On one occasion I remember a child in a buggy on the bus trying to talk to his mum, who was doing something on her phone (she didn't look up from it once in 20 minutes) totally ignored him them after a couple of minutes shouting at him to shut the fuck up!

There has to be a balance.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

There will always be parents who don't give their kids the attention they need. Phones are just the latest method of distraction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No never,

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I used to use the land-line when I was at home on my own with the kids. If they tried to talk to me I'd tell them to wait until I'd finished.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow. Huge generalisation. As a single dad of two, when the youngest is in the buggy and eldest on the buggy board, this is a rare bit of time I get to use to talk to someone.

I’ll either be texting the person I’m meeting to let them know I’m undoubtedly running late or calling them to do the same. Time it very limited with kids, if you’re a parent, you know this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time. "

It’s always those without kids who like to pass judgement

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use my phone for Pokemon go

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the sadest think I see and I see it a lot, is when you have a family out for dinner together and all of them are on thire phones and hardly talking at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it's absolutely fine to sometimes chat on your phone or look at something when out with your kids.

Having said that I have on many occasions seem parents totally ignore their child as they are too busy with their phone.

There has to be a balance. "
That is right it is always about balance

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By *moothdickMan over a year ago

stoke

Bet 58% of them live in poverty

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

I think their attention should be on their child. We go into Starbucks on a Friday and there is a mum who is there with a little tot. Mum is on her phone the whole time, it breaks my heart to see the little girl sitting there sad and silent...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow. Huge generalisation. As a single dad of two, when the youngest is in the buggy and eldest on the buggy board, this is a rare bit of time I get to use to talk to someone.

I’ll either be texting the person I’m meeting to let them know I’m undoubtedly running late or calling them to do the same. Time it very limited with kids, if you’re a parent, you know this. "

Well said, some ppl live in this very ideal world dont they. I don't have kids but most of my friends do and so does my reg guy, they never get any time so when the kids are occupied they have to take there moment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

We're raising a generation who believe they're of secondary importance to Facebook or chatting to someone else.

If it's to let someone know you're running late or similar then yes, of course. Get it done then put your phone away.

The one I really hate is when you see other parents at the swings with their kids and they're completely ignoring them for phone time.

Phubbing your kids isn't right... and we all know it really

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"No.

We're raising a generation who believe they're of secondary importance to Facebook or chatting to someone else.

If it's to let someone know you're running late or similar then yes, of course. Get it done then put your phone away.

The one I really hate is when you see other parents at the swings with their kids and they're completely ignoring them for phone time.

Phubbing your kids isn't right... and we all know it really "

well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow. Huge generalisation. As a single dad of two, when the youngest is in the buggy and eldest on the buggy board, this is a rare bit of time I get to use to talk to someone.

I've brought up two kids as a single parent and 90% of the time my phone was turned off as didn't need to talk to others as always prefered seeing them in person, also the kids didn't invariably make me run late. Bringing up the kids was a rewarding and fulfilling thing for me and "my time" a marvelous bonus not a necessity. I get that it had it's frustrations and hardships but that just seemed a natural downside to having the kids permanently ... 27 years done and dusted now is me time

but luckily still don't have to do it on the phone

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

Wow. Huge generalisation. As a single dad of two, when the youngest is in the buggy and eldest on the buggy board, this is a rare bit of time I get to use to talk to someone.

I’ll either be texting the person I’m meeting to let them know I’m undoubtedly running late or calling them to do the same. Time it very limited with kids, if you’re a parent, you know this.

but luckily still don't have to do it on the phone "

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time.

It’s always those without kids who like to pass judgement

Absolutely agree

How do you know shes not calling her sister to ask about a poorly parent? Or texting the dad as somethings come up?

I use my phone when I'm with my child, does it make me a bad parent? No. Maybe I'm texting her step mum to arrange picking her up from school? Maybe I'm on the phone to the hospital as I spend far too much time there?

This is why I teach my daughter to not make judgements about people and their circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow

. Judgy muchly

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time.

It’s always those without kids who like to pass judgement

Absolutely agree

How do you know shes not calling her sister to ask about a poorly parent? Or texting the dad as somethings come up?

This is why I teach my daughter to not make judgements about people and their circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why on earth did you assume they are Facebook? They're probably on fab!!!

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time.

It’s always those without kids who like to pass judgement

Absolutely agree

How do you know shes not calling her sister to ask about a poorly parent? Or texting the dad as somethings come up?

This is why I teach my daughter to not make judgements about people and their circumstances.

Bingo!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Wow. Huge generalisation. As a single dad of two, when the youngest is in the buggy and eldest on the buggy board, this is a rare bit of time I get to use to talk to someone.

I’ll either be texting the person I’m meeting to let them know I’m undoubtedly running late or calling them to do the same. Time it very limited with kids, if you’re a parent, you know this.

but luckily still don't have to do it on the phone

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I purposely don’t unless it’s an emergency. I have to watch my 7 year old like a hawk as he has no sense of danger, no spatial awareness and will talk to anyone.

It’s not something I see many parents do anyway if i’m honest, but regardless of that, it’s none of my business.

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

"I think the sadest think I see and I see it a lot, is when you have a family out for dinner together and all of them are on thire phones and hardly talking at all. "

We have a rule that no one is allowed their phone/technololgy at all, at mealtimes.

As for using their phone whilst pushing their pushchair, how do you know they hadn't been at the park for 3 hours and spent all that time playing with their child? Maybe their child had been playing up for hours and the parent needed some 'me time'.

Parents are allowed to do some stuff for themselves during the day too you know.

Why be so judgemental?

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I think the sadest think I see and I see it a lot, is when you have a family out for dinner together and all of them are on thire phones and hardly talking at all.

We have a rule that no one is allowed their phone/technololgy at all, at mealtimes.

Parents are allowed to do some stuff for themselves during the day too you know.

Why be so judgemental?"

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

People get judgemental, and people get defensive.

To those that are judgemental, it happens so get over it. It happens for many different reasons. And it's not limited to just people with kids.

To those defensive about it, have you honestly never been knocked in to with a pram, or kids running around wild while their parent is not paying attention on the phone and thought "get off your phone you stupid cunt, and watch what is going on around you?"

I know I have. I'm not afraid to admit it despite knowing that sometimes they will have had a solid reasonable reason to be focused on their phone.

What I do is stop walking, move in near a wall or corner and make the text/phonecall if I'm likely to be distracted.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"People get judgemental, and people get defensive.

To those that are judgemental, it happens so get over it. It happens for many different reasons. And it's not limited to just people with kids.

I know I have. I'm not afraid to admit it despite knowing that sometimes they will have had a solid reasonable reason to be focused on their phone.

What I do is stop walking, move in near a wall or corner and make the text/phonecall if I'm likely to be distracted. "
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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People get judgemental, and people get defensive.

To those that are judgemental, it happens so get over it. It happens for many different reasons. And it's not limited to just people with kids.

I know I have. I'm not afraid to admit it despite knowing that sometimes they will have had a solid reasonable reason to be focused on their phone.

What I do is stop walking, move in near a wall or corner and make the text/phonecall if I'm likely to be distracted. "

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

I couldn't care less, so long as they arent running around and getting in the way then the parents can have at it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They’re probably whatapping their kids as it’s the only way people communicate these days.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

Give your child some of your attention. They won’t be little for long and you will miss out on so much. Enjoy being with them, there isn’t anything that important happening on your phone that warrants ignoring your children.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

I would think it is a safety issue if your child is walking, also.

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By *tooveMan over a year ago

belfast

Definitely not. It's something I hate seeing. No attention at all paid to the kids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Give your child some of your attention. They won’t be little for long and you will miss out on so much. Enjoy being with them, there isn’t anything that important happening on your phone that warrants ignoring your children. "
That is right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I lived in spain you see English family come on holiday and at bar and restaurants kids and parents.on there mobile no conversation at all my Spanish and Italian friends would never allow or do such a thing

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"When I lived in spain you see English family come on holiday and at bar and restaurants kids and parents.on there mobile no conversation at all my Spanish and Italian friends would never allow or do such a thing "
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they seem much more family orientated

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

What if they’re following google maps for directions? I’ve done that a few times. Plus... it’s sort of the opposite way around now - my 13 year old glued to her phone 24/7 and me fighting to get any conversation out of her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I agree

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"What if they’re following google maps for directions? I’ve done that a few times. Plus... it’s sort of the opposite way around now - my 13 year old glued to her phone 24/7 and me fighting to get any conversation out of her.

They are probably not, if your daughter is doing that, you could ask her to put it down for a while so that you can chat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t allow phones at the dinner table

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

I don’t allow phones at the dinner table "
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Quite right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought this was a swingers site not mumsnet

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

They are probably not, if your daughter is doing that, you could ask her to put it down for a while so that you can chat

Haha. Well... Chatting to mum about her day is way less cool than her Snapchat group (or whatever it is)... so I’m informed.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

I don’t allow phones at the dinner table "

Oh no, I draw the line at that too.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

They are probably not, if your daughter is doing that, you could ask her to put it down for a while so that you can chat

Haha. Well... Chatting to mum about her day is way less cool than her Snapchat group (or whatever it is)... so I’m informed.

Not much you can do then. I think the question is more about younger children, who need your attention and security whilst out walking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m on mine quite a bit sometimes when I’m doing stuff with my kids. Means I can work and spend time with them at the same time. Better than piling them to a child minders whilst I sit in the office. How do you all know what people are doing on their phones

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I’m on mine quite a bit sometimes when I’m doing stuff with my kids. Means I can work and spend time with them at the same time. Better than piling them to a child minders whilst I sit in the office. How do you all know what people are doing on their phones

Yes that makes sense, it's when out walking with children, that we have to be aware

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

hence my comment re following google maps whilst walking. I genuinely have done this many a time with my child when somewhere new... people are so quick to judge.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

Bloody hell, I'd love to be as perfect as some of you parents out there!

When my daughter was little I very rarely, if ever, went on my phone while with her, however, I try not to judge those that do, you don't know their situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say it's none of your business to be honest

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

hence my comment re following google maps whilst walking. I genuinely have done this many a time with my child when somewhere new... people are so quick to judge. "

No judgement here, but not all mums are doing that

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"Bloody hell, I'd love to be as perfect as some of you parents out there!

When my daughter was little I very rarely, if ever, went on my phone while with her, however, I try not to judge those that do, you don't know their situation."

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time.

It’s always those without kids who like to pass judgement

Very true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time.

It’s always those without kids who like to pass judgement

Very true"

Some people should Spend less time judging others and more time concentrating on their own lives.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's really quite judgemental. You have no idea what they're looking at. "

this OP

Mine is used for work purposes and I have my computer on my phone.

How do you know what they are looking at OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't believe for one moment that every parent that is on the phone whilst out with their children has a legitimate reason though ... unfortunately the call of social media is very great for lots and lots of people. Only have to go to restaurants or pubs to realise that your table is the only one actually talking more than sometimes nowadays!

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I’m not judging anyone but I am saying they are missing out. I work with families so I see it all the time. They’re not in a strange place getting directions, they not working, they’re on FB and WhatsApp and make no secret of it. No that doesn’t apply to everyone but it does apply to a lot of people, not just when they’re walking around either. I think it’s a sad sign of the times.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time.

It’s always those without kids who like to pass judgement

Very true

Some people should Spend less time judging others and more time concentrating on their own lives. "

Agreed. There really are far worse things parents could do than check their phones whilst out with children. Goodness me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Similar subject, but I work in a hotel and I often see families come down to eat, all plugged into various devices and it annoys me at time. Though I appreciate it when families come down to the bar on an evening in particular, and instead of phones and tablets they have stuff like puzzles and games that everyone can enjoy as a family.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hence my comment re following google maps whilst walking. I genuinely have done this many a time with my child when somewhere new... people are so quick to judge. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or they are working and trying to bring up their kids at the same time it’s hard!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m not judging anyone but I am saying they are missing out. I work with families so I see it all the time. They’re not in a strange place getting directions, they not working, they’re on FB and WhatsApp and make no secret of it. No that doesn’t apply to everyone but it does apply to a lot of people, not just when they’re walking around either. I think it’s a sad sign of the times. "

This ^^^ unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Similar subject, but I work in a hotel and I often see families come down to eat, all plugged into various devices and it annoys me at time. Though I appreciate it when families come down to the bar on an evening in particular, and instead of phones and tablets they have stuff like puzzles and games that everyone can enjoy as a family."

I’m an autism mum haha iPads are the only reason we can actually eat out x

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

That's really quite judgemental. You have no idea what they're looking at.

this OP

Mine is used for work purposes and I have my computer on my phone.

How do you know what they are looking at OP"

Agreed but would you let your children run around, in the street, whilst you're working on your phone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you have kids shag?

If not then it's very hard for you to pass judgement in any form on how a parent manages their children and time.

It’s always those without kids who like to pass judgement

Very true

Some people should Spend less time judging others and more time concentrating on their own lives. "

True. I have my rules for my kids which I’m sure other people do. I’m only really bothered about my own to be honest!

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

I’m an autism mum haha iPads are the only reason we can actually eat out x "

another reason for using devices when around children that others haven’t considered...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m an autism mum haha iPads are the only reason we can actually eat out x "

Oh yeah, I get that

We have a family who stay regulaly and their son's autistic, he always has his headphones in his tablet which works for them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m an autism mum haha iPads are the only reason we can actually eat out x "

Yes. And this for me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just last week we saw a mum mucking around on her phone whilst trying to walk with her small child and a dog she was too busy with the dog and ended up pulling her child over on the road poor child grazed his hand and was crying I really wanted to say something to her

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don't believe for one moment that every parent that is on the phone whilst out with their children has a legitimate reason though ... unfortunately the call of social media is very great for lots and lots of people. Only have to go to restaurants or pubs to realise that your table is the only one actually talking more than sometimes nowadays!

No of course not. And nobody is saying that, but unless you are looking over their shoulder (then stop being fucking nosey and rude) or they are blatantly making it obvious what they are looking at you have no idea what they are truely doing on their phone or how important it might be.

Which is exactly what it comes down to, some will not be doing anything other than social media while some will have a serious reason to be on their phone.

There is no high ground opinion to this whole thing because there are "right and wrong' reasons for doing why they are doing so.

Those that are glued to their phone need to look at themselves but won't because they don't give a shit in the first place.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

I’m an autism mum haha iPads are the only reason we can actually eat out x

another reason for using devices when around children that others haven’t considered..."

And that's a very good reason

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Pushing a buggy whilst snapchatting and smoking is actually quite a skill.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meh, it doesn't bother me really. As long as they aren't putting the phone before their child or getting in my way then it's fine.

It's easy to judge but that could be the first five or ten minutes to have some 'me' time that parent has had all day.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"Meh, it doesn't bother me really. As long as they aren't putting the phone before their child or getting in my way then it's fine.

It's easy to judge but that could be the first five or ten minutes to have some 'me' time that parent has had all day.

Well said.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

Pushing a buggy whilst snapchatting and smoking is actually quite a skill.

Haha!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am using it on the lol while typing this messages hope you get the picture !

Oops just got a Poseidon kiss

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I am using it on the lol while typing this messages hope you get the picture !

Oops just got a Poseidon kiss"
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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

I certainly dont miss out on my child just because I may use my phone while out.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"I certainly dont miss out on my child just because I may use my phone while out."

No neither do I.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

What makes you think you get to choose what reason is legitimate or not?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I certainly dont miss out on my child just because I may use my phone while out."

Either do I, this thread really makes me roll my eyes...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What makes you think you get to choose what reason is legitimate or not?"

I haven't choosen anything lol

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I don't believe anybody should be looking at their phones whilst out walking! The twats don't care whose path they get in the way of or even cars they walk in front of!, I would just love to trip them up when I have had to step out of their path

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By *ifty69Man over a year ago

north tyneside

They are in my opinion, very insecure that they have to look at their phone while walking with kids or their dogs. Its a sad world when people are glued to the phone..... stupid fuckas

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

I have no doubt that you are all very good and responsible mums, but I'm sure none of you condone the irresponsible mums, who are doing whatever on their phones with a lively toddler running loose, near a busy road.

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both of my boys are now tucked up in bed asleep, is it ok if I get my phone out now?

Don’t want anyone thinking I’m a bad parent and all...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They are in my opinion, very insecure that they have to look at their phone while walking with kids or their dogs. Its a sad world when people are glued to the phone..... stupid fuckas

Oh mate... WHAT?! Click bait...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They are in my opinion, very insecure that they have to look at their phone while walking with kids or their dogs. Its a sad world when people are glued to the phone..... stupid fuckas

Insecure?? That doesn’t even make sense!

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Both of my boys are now tucked up in bed asleep, is it ok if I get my phone out now?

Don’t want anyone thinking I’m a bad parent and all... "

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Both of my boys are now tucked up in bed asleep, is it ok if I get my phone out now?

Don’t want anyone thinking I’m a bad parent and all... "

You can

the difference being, they are the safety of their home

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think it is okay to clionk them on the head with it if they are misbehaving. If not, then the focus should really be on them.

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple over a year ago

Sandbach

I have studied child psychology and education and there is a worrying trend between parental interaction and the increased daily use of mobile phones and child development such as speech and toilet training. I understand that every situation is different and every child develops differently, these are just statistical trends that are appearing over time.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

What makes you think you get to choose what reason is legitimate or not?

I haven't choosen anything lol "

You're saying you everyone has a legitimate reason, how do you know and who decides what's legitimate?

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Think it is okay to clionk them on the head with it if they are misbehaving. If not, then the focus should really be on them."
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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I have studied child psychology and education and there is a worrying trend between parental interaction and the increased daily use of mobile phones and child development such as speech and toilet training. I understand that every situation is different and every child develops differently, these are just statistical trends that are appearing over time. "

That doesn't surprise me.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Both of my boys are now tucked up in bed asleep, is it ok if I get my phone out now?

Don’t want anyone thinking I’m a bad parent and all...

You can

the difference being, they are the safety of their home

Right ok, so if I only hand my youngest and he was asleep in the pram, then I’m not allowed to get my phone out then?

Believe you me, I keep my children as safe as possible at all times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can’t get my child to use the potty. Must be my phone use.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Couldn’t give a fuck what anyone else is doing or how they live there life to many people with an opinion these days .. just live and let live

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

I have similar. Shes learning to use a fork, must be my phone.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Both of my boys are now tucked up in bed asleep, is it ok if I get my phone out now?

Don’t want anyone thinking I’m a bad parent and all...

You can

the difference being, they are the safety of their home

Right ok, so if I only hand my youngest and he was asleep in the pram, then I’m not allowed to get my phone out then?

Believe you me, I keep my children as safe as possible at all times. "

I didn't say that and obviously your child is perfectly safe. I was talking about the toddlers running around near a busy road, whilst the parent is on the phone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I work full time so every chance i get to spend time with my child is precious - phone goes on silent and its parent and child time. Could be baking reading a favourite book or just something simple like going out for a walk.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Couldn’t give a fuck what anyone else is doing or how they live there life to many people with an opinion these days .. just live and let live "

But you can’t! You must pass judgment. Especially when children are involved and everyone else knows best!

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I work full time so every chance i get to spend time with my child is precious - phone goes on silent and its parent and child time. Could be baking reading a favourite book or just something simple like going out for a walk."

That's lovely to hear

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Couldn’t give a fuck what anyone else is doing or how they live there life to many people with an opinion these days .. just live and let live

But you can’t! You must pass judgment. Especially when children are involved and everyone else knows best! "

I haven't seen anyone judge you personally.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

Anyone with kids posting on this thread now is technically a bad parent by some people's logic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no not having it

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Anyone with kids posting on this thread now is technically a bad parent by some people's logic. "

Seems to be that way sadly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone with kids posting on this thread now is technically a bad parent by some people's logic. "

Exactly.... leave people alone

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Anyone with kids posting on this thread now is technically a bad parent by some people's logic. "

I think you should look at my post I have said there are obviously some good mums on here.

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By *ucilleWoman over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

Maybe they're on fab?

But seriously, there seems to be a lot said about being judgemental and/or defensive on this topic. My take is to try and not underestimate the power of confirmation bias.

I'm not a parent, but they can't to win with some people. They're either helicopter parents raising a generation of entitled narcissists or feckless chavs addicted to their phones.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a society we are slowly but surely eroding our freedom of choice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What makes you think you get to choose what reason is legitimate or not?

I haven't choosen anything lol

You're saying you everyone has a legitimate reason, how do you know and who decides what's legitimate? "

It was in reference to posts previous to my original comment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a society we are slowly but surely eroding our freedom of choice

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

And this is what they notice in schools unfortunately. Delayed development because of a lack of interaction, particularly with regard to speech. It’s not all parents and it’s not all the time but staff are aware of the ones that have been raised in that environment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a society we are slowly but surely eroding our freedom of choice "

Agree

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

I imagine to have such a profound effect on development the phone usage would need to be significantly impeding parental-child interaction. This is probably an extreme example. Most phone usage by parents will likely fall somewhere at the less extreme end...

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"As a society we are slowly but surely eroding our freedom of choice

Agree

Also agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How did we ever manage to live without a phone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a society we are slowly but surely eroding our freedom of choice "

That is the smartest thing I have heard from a cock..err, I meant cock pic. Err, I meant someone with a cock pic!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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What did you remove?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How did we ever manage to live without a phone"

I remember having to wait in line to use a public phone haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a society we are slowly but surely eroding our freedom of choice

That is the smartest thing I have heard from a cock..err, I meant cock pic. Err, I meant someone with a cock pic!

Haha it’s not just the that does the thinking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Probably using facebook or something like that?

Assumptions!

When you ASSUME you make an ASS of U and ME!

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By *ucilleWoman over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

"As a society we are slowly but surely eroding our freedom of choice "

Yep, in my experience people seem to be willing to die on the hill to protect their freedoms, but will in the same breath be quick to restrict other people's freedoms if it means avoiding a slight inconvenience or annoyance.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

That's really quite judgemental. You have no idea what they're looking at. "

Does it matter what they are viewing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How did we ever manage to live without a phone

I remember having to wait in line to use a public phone haha "

In general we managed to get from a to b without needing to contaçt someone on the way.

I couldnt push a pram and use a phone anyway, the things are tricky to steer one handed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How did we ever manage to live without a phone

I remember having to wait in line to use a public phone haha

In general we managed to get from a to b without needing to contaçt someone on the way.

I couldnt push a pram and use a phone anyway, the things are tricky to steer one handed."

Can you not multitask then.... I can use a phone drink a beer and smoke a fag

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Or Darwin was totally wrong and we are not evolving.

Really need to re examine my anthropology reading.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As a society we are slowly but surely eroding our freedom of choice

Agree

Also agree

I am not a photographer, but I can picture me and you together!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"How did we ever manage to live without a phone

I remember having to wait in line to use a public phone haha

In general we managed to get from a to b without needing to contaçt someone on the way.

I couldnt push a pram and use a phone anyway, the things are tricky to steer one handed."

I was just about to say the same thing to both points, I still turn my phone to silent when out so I can do what I want without interruption and I can't steer the pram with one hand anyway, them wheels now go every direction !!

On another note, I received a lovely graze on my heel today while out, someone walked right into me , they were not looking where they were going as they were on their phone ....buggers !!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

PS I think of me time when my kids were young as something after the kids were in bed rather than walking down the street, surely that can't be relaxing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"PS I think of me time when my kids were young as something after the kids were in bed rather than walking down the street, surely that can't be relaxing?"

Definitely this ^^^ saw it as a bonus not a necessity!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I work in a busy area with a lot of traffic there's a junior school near my work and I see it all the time young kids running on and off the road with parents oblivious on there phones, I'm a dad and understand time is precious but so are your children I miss walking my lad to school it a perfect time to talk, even when out with him I will only use my phone when it's needed. The same when out with family and friends it's time you will never get back and the chances are what ever is on your phone will still be there later on. Enjoy the time you have with you family and friends. Well that's my two pence worth anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the sadest think I see and I see it a lot, is when you have a family out for dinner together and all of them are on thire phones and hardly talking at all.

We have a rule that no one is allowed their phone/technololgy at all, at mealtimes.

Parents are allowed to do some stuff for themselves during the day too you know.

Why be so judgemental?"

I'm not being judgemental!

I'm saying it's very sad that technically is taking over our lives.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the sadest think I see and I see it a lot, is when you have a family out for dinner together and all of them are on thire phones and hardly talking at all.

We have a rule that no one is allowed their phone/technololgy at all, at mealtimes.

Parents are allowed to do some stuff for themselves during the day too you know.

Why be so judgemental?

I'm not being judgemental!

I'm saying it's very sad that technically is taking over our lives. "

You make a lot of sense darling

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple over a year ago

Sandbach

Exactly x

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By *uesdaysfundayCouple over a year ago

Sandbach

I think personally the worrying thing for me reading the study at the time was that when it was understood that the child was having development issues then why not limit your screen time and spend more time to help your child.

My daughter had speech development problems so we spent hours on phonics cards. She is now the best speller in her year taking her GCSE's and only occasionally drops her r`s

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a mum and I use my phone when out with my kid. I also spend a lot of time focused on him. People can judge me based on a minute snapshot if they wish.

I suffered badly from postnatal depression. My phone was my lifeline. I was often talking to someone to avoid having a panic attack, or reading about coping mechanisms. Other times I was talking to friends to stop me losing what little sanity I had left.

It's so easy to judge people and make snap judgements. Reminds me of that saying 'you don't know what demons people are fighting. Be kind always'

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"Bet 58% of them live in poverty

Poverty judgemental you font have to have kids to live in poverty

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

Dont*

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I think the sadest think I see and I see it a lot, is when you have a family out for dinner together and all of them are on thire phones and hardly talking at all.

We have a rule that no one is allowed their phone/technololgy at all, at mealtimes.

Parents are allowed to do some stuff for themselves during the day too you know.

Why be so judgemental?

I'm not being judgemental!

I'm saying it's very sad that technically is taking over our lives. "

Its very judgemental what difference does it make to anyone what ppl do when there with there kids

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I'm on school runs and days out, no I dont use it except to take pics and vids.

If we're over the park and shes on the secure playground where I can see her at all times, then yes I have my phone out.

No Facebook or social media though, most likely pokemon go as theres at least 3 pokestops next to the playground.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"I'm a mum and I use my phone when out with my kid. I also spend a lot of time focused on him. People can judge me based on a minute snapshot if they wish.

It's so easy to judge people and make snap judgements. Reminds me of that saying 'you don't know what demons people are fighting. Be kind always'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly my point just leave people alone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they’re googling something for their kids, mine are always asking me to look stuff up........ no doubt half the people that think it’s not acceptable are the ones that use their phones whilst driving, idle in traffic or on a red light

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One of my bugbears is that.

Nothing to do with me but seeing some useless wonder pushing a pushchair whilst checking their Facebook grinds my gears"

I have to agree.

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By *milingeyesWoman over a year ago

mickeymousetown

Very judgemental, yous know nothing about ppls personal life. Yous wouldn't like them prying into what life you may or may not have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the sadest think I see and I see it a lot, is when you have a family out for dinner together and all of them are on thire phones and hardly talking at all.

We have a rule that no one is allowed their phone/technololgy at all, at mealtimes.

Parents are allowed to do some stuff for themselves during the day too you know.

Why be so judgemental?

I'm not being judgemental!

I'm saying it's very sad that technically is taking over our lives.

Its very judgemental what difference does it make to anyone what ppl do when there with there kids "

Oh I'm sure you never make judgements.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"One of my bugbears is that.

Nothing to do with me but seeing some useless wonder pushing a pushchair whilst checking their Facebook grinds my gears"

A useless wonder?

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I work in a busy area with a lot of traffic there's a junior school near my work and I see it all the time young kids running on and off the road with parents oblivious on there phones, I'm a dad and understand time is precious but so are your children I miss walking my lad to school it a perfect time to talk, even when out with him I will only use my phone when it's needed. The same when out with family and friends it's time you will never get back and the chances are what ever is on your phone will still be there later on. Enjoy the time you have with you family and friends. Well that's my two pence worth anyway

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"One of my bugbears is that.

Nothing to do with me but seeing some useless wonder pushing a pushchair whilst checking their Facebook grinds my gears

A useless wonder?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One of my bugbears is that.

Nothing to do with me but seeing some useless wonder pushing a pushchair whilst checking their Facebook grinds my gears

A useless wonder?

Keeley!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One of my bugbears is that.

Nothing to do with me but seeing some useless wonder pushing a pushchair whilst checking their Facebook grinds my gears

A useless wonder?

Do I know you? You look like my future girlfriend!

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I'm a mum and I use my phone when out with my kid. I also spend a lot of time focused on him. People can judge me based on a minute snapshot if they wish.

It's so easy to judge people and make snap judgements. Reminds me of that saying 'you don't know what demons people are fighting. Be kind always'

People aren't judging mum's like you

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"I'm a mum and I use my phone when out with my kid. I also spend a lot of time focused on him. People can judge me based on a minute snapshot if they wish.

It's so easy to judge people and make snap judgements. Reminds me of that saying 'you don't know what demons people are fighting. Be kind always'

People aren't judging mum's like you

No, they’re judging people they know nothing about who they’ve just seen in the street, who could easily be mums like her. Fighting demons and trying to stay sane...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a mum and I use my phone when out with my kid. I also spend a lot of time focused on him. People can judge me based on a minute snapshot if they wish.

It's so easy to judge people and make snap judgements. Reminds me of that saying 'you don't know what demons people are fighting. Be kind always'

People aren't judging mum's like you

No, they’re judging people they know nothing about who they’ve just seen in the street, who could easily be mums like her. Fighting demons and trying to stay sane... "

Isn't that what a lot of people do about all sorts of things.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"I'm a mum and I use my phone when out with my kid. I also spend a lot of time focused on him. People can judge me based on a minute snapshot if they wish.

It's so easy to judge people and make snap judgements. Reminds me of that saying 'you don't know what demons people are fighting. Be kind always'

People aren't judging mum's like you

No, they’re judging people they know nothing about who they’ve just seen in the street, who could easily be mums like her. Fighting demons and trying to stay sane...

Isn't that what a lot of people do about all sorts of things. "

Yes, it seems so.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Very judgemental, yous know nothing about ppls personal life. Yous wouldn't like them prying into what life you may or may not have.

And when children's lives are at risk, no one should pry?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a mum and I use my phone when out with my kid. I also spend a lot of time focused on him. People can judge me based on a minute snapshot if they wish.

It's so easy to judge people and make snap judgements. Reminds me of that saying 'you don't know what demons people are fighting. Be kind always'

People aren't judging mum's like you

No, they’re judging people they know nothing about who they’ve just seen in the street, who could easily be mums like her. Fighting demons and trying to stay sane...

Isn't that what a lot of people do about all sorts of things.

Yes, it seems so.

The point is people make judgements all the time, we all do and I just don't think this is any different.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I'm a mum and I use my phone when out with my kid. I also spend a lot of time focused on him. People can judge me based on a minute snapshot if they wish.

It's so easy to judge people and make snap judgements. Reminds me of that saying 'you don't know what demons people are fighting. Be kind always'

People aren't judging mum's like you

No, they’re judging people they know nothing about who they’ve just seen in the street, who could easily be mums like her. Fighting demons and trying to stay sane... "

Well that's not me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of the people on this thread saying people are to judgy would be the first to judge a parant who was on their phone when their child gets run over.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Some of the people on this thread saying people are to judgy would be the first to judge a parant who was on their phone when their child gets run over. "
,

Exactly

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"Some of the people on this thread saying people are to judgy would be the first to judge a parant who was on their phone when their child gets run over. ,

Exactly"

As with the impaired speech development example above, this is a very extreme example that is clearly problematic parenting. There are shades of grey in between the extreme of ‘you must never touch your phone when your child is present’ and being so consumed with your phone to the extent your child ends up under a car. On this thread it feels as though anyone who touches their phones in their child’s presence is being judged. They aren’t all neglectful awful parents, is my point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have done a new thread we can continue on

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