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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'
I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.
Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x |
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I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive
Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas
Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words
Often without throwing poop |
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over a year ago
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"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive
Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas
Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words
Often without throwing poop "
I post what I think but do attempt to wrap it up in flowery blah blah if it’s negative.  |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive
Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas
Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words
Often without throwing poop "
It's the posts about certain kinks that I mean. The ones who will go on and say really negative comments about something they don't like or understand. Is this fair or should they just avoid them? I understand everyone can have an opinion about something x |
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"I just post whatever I'm thinking, I lack filters 
But do you deliberately try and cause a reaction when you do it? X"
No, but it might come across that way to others. I have a bit of a dry, sarcastic sense of humour that doesn't come across so well in text. |
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"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive
Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas
Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words
Often without throwing poop
It's the posts about certain kinks that I mean. The ones who will go on and say really negative comments about something they don't like or understand. Is this fair or should they just avoid them? I understand everyone can have an opinion about something x"
But opinion should be a level of informed opinion
I do sometimes think that it may be best if certain posts weren't sent .. especially if things have been completely misinterpreted ... but then ... in a textual format it is difficult to get the intonation across ... something said wittily or sarcastically can be read as something serious |
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It can be very easy for comments to be misconstrued on here, always more challenging with writing rather than talking. For that reason I think quite carefully about what I post, if I'm debating with someone or it's a contentious issue.
Generally I'm a positive poster I think
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"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive
Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas
Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words
Often without throwing poop
It's the posts about certain kinks that I mean. The ones who will go on and say really negative comments about something they don't like or understand. Is this fair or should they just avoid them? I understand everyone can have an opinion about something x"
I personally wish they would just avoid them but sadly we can't always get what we want. Its frustrating when you start a thread looking for people with a shared interest and it just gets filled up with people who feel the need to tell you it's not for them. It's pretty boring to be honest and partly why I've mostly stopped starting threads unless they're silly ones or about totally non-fab related things like food  . |
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"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive
Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas
Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words
Often without throwing poop
It's the posts about certain kinks that I mean. The ones who will go on and say really negative comments about something they don't like or understand. Is this fair or should they just avoid them? I understand everyone can have an opinion about something x
But opinion should be a level of informed opinion
I do sometimes think that it may be best if certain posts weren't sent .. especially if things have been completely misinterpreted ... but then ... in a textual format it is difficult to get the intonation across ... something said wittily or sarcastically can be read as something serious"
People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so. |
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"I'm sometimes positively negative ... others positively positive
Mostly post for comedic effect ... no axes or agendas
Sometimes, if my guard is down, I may even post thoughtful sagely words
Often without throwing poop
It's the posts about certain kinks that I mean. The ones who will go on and say really negative comments about something they don't like or understand. Is this fair or should they just avoid them? I understand everyone can have an opinion about something x
But opinion should be a level of informed opinion
I do sometimes think that it may be best if certain posts weren't sent .. especially if things have been completely misinterpreted ... but then ... in a textual format it is difficult to get the intonation across ... something said wittily or sarcastically can be read as something serious
People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so."
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so."
This is my thinking. If it doesn't interest you, if you have nothing constructive to add or if you don't have a question relating to it/wanting to understand.... then move on or start your own x |
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"People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so.
This is my thinking. If it doesn't interest you, if you have nothing constructive to add or if you don't have a question relating to it/wanting to understand.... then move on or start your own x"
If only! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now! |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'
I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.
Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x"
I am a positive person and will always look on the bright side. Some people are wind up merchants and I rarely take notice of them |
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"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now! "
I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care . I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me. |
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"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now!
I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care . I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me."
Hell to the naysayers .. be the person you are |
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"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now!
I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care . I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.
Hell to the naysayers .. be the person you are"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now!
I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care . I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me."
Amen sister |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People already know not everyone has the same interests and kinks. They dont need 100 comments telling them so.
This is my thinking. If it doesn't interest you, if you have nothing constructive to add or if you don't have a question relating to it/wanting to understand.... then move on or start your own x"
Needs more people like you on here RR X |
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I’ve never really thought about this, but I’m a glass half full so I’m guessing most of what I post is positive. I do enjoy a good debate but rarely find one on the forums here, most of what I post never generates a response. Still fun reading though. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Balanced. Too much positivity is just as bad as too much negativity.
I love a discussion however more often than not it ends up as more just people stating what they believe/know and not willing to discuss, or willing to even listen to another side. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now!
I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care . I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me."
It's not about people liking me, it's more about not having the energy to defend my actions or preferences from the close minded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like to think I'm positive on the forums. I'm a very positive person in real life, glass is half full kind of person. It definitely helps with my depression to try my best look on the bright side although some days the negative side does win.
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"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now!
I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care . I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.
It's not about people liking me, it's more about not having the energy to defend my actions or preferences from the close minded. "
That's totally fair! I was just explaining my own reasoning |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now!
I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care . I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.
It's not about people liking me, it's more about not having the energy to defend my actions or preferences from the close minded.
That's totally fair! I was just explaining my own reasoning "
Yes, I know you weren't having a pop at me  |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Balanced. Too much positivity is just as bad as too much negativity.
I love a discussion however more often than not it ends up as more just people stating what they believe/know and not willing to discuss, or willing to even listen to another side. "
I like a good discussion. I like to see things from other peoples' perspective. It's when posters deliberately try and kink shame or just post negativity and nothing constructive I just think "why?" X |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I’m a positive poster. I do think some like to throw in the a negative comment deliberately to get a rise but they will only get one if people fall for it
I’ve joined in one of two debates when it’s something I feel strongly about I’m not really sure there’s a point because some just want a row not a debate. Resorting to name calling seems to be a favourite thing.
It’s not a crime to be positive and happy |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I’m a positive poster. I do think some like to throw in the a negative comment deliberately to get a rise but they will only get one if people fall for it
I’ve joined in one of two debates when it’s something I feel strongly about I’m not really sure there’s a point because some just want a row not a debate. Resorting to name calling seems to be a favourite thing.
It’s not a crime to be positive and happy "
That's how I see it too. Some just want to argue for the sake of it. I like the threads when posters act mature and say their viewpoints. I like to understand different views on topics. An argument though, just for the sake of it, spoils some threads x |
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I’m neither positive nor negative intentionally. I just post whatever comes to mind. I don’t think much about what I post. It just unload my stream of consciousness. |
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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago
Stockport |
"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'
I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.
Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x"
I like throwing in the odd "thread grenade" or playing the devils advocate on certain threads.
But normally I see this place as fun and post as such.
If you do see a thread or post that is serious then it's normally due to the above.
Otherwise, I try not to take it serious and smile
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'
I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.
Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x
I like throwing in the odd "thread grenade" or playing the devils advocate on certain threads.
But normally I see this place as fun and post as such.
If you do see a thread or post that is serious then it's normally due to the above.
Otherwise, I try not to take it serious and smile
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Devils advocate is good. It shows you are seeing from different viewpoints x |
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"I try and be honest and genuine with my posts, if something makes me laugh, I'll respond accordingly, if someone is being a misogynistic twunt, I'll tell them that.
Sometimes though I do filter what I post on certain topics as it may be misconstrued or keep certain things private to keep the vindictive people from having more ammunition.
I think I've strayed away from the OP now!
I used to not talk about some of my kinks on the forums after some bad experiences in the past with nasty comments but now I don't really care . I just decided to be fully me. I'd rather put people off me than have to hide parts of myself to have some people like me.
It's not about people liking me, it's more about not having the energy to defend my actions or preferences from the close minded.
That's totally fair! I was just explaining my own reasoning
Yes, I know you weren't having a pop at me "
It would take some doing for me to do that to you |
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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago
Stockport |
"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'
I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.
Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x
I like throwing in the odd "thread grenade" or playing the devils advocate on certain threads.
But normally I see this place as fun and post as such.
If you do see a thread or post that is serious then it's normally due to the above.
Otherwise, I try not to take it serious and smile
Devils advocate is good. It shows you are seeing from different viewpoints x"
Or I am a twat.
Depends on your point of view
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'
I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.
Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x
I like throwing in the odd "thread grenade" or playing the devils advocate on certain threads.
But normally I see this place as fun and post as such.
If you do see a thread or post that is serious then it's normally due to the above.
Otherwise, I try not to take it serious and smile
Devils advocate is good. It shows you are seeing from different viewpoints x
Or I am a twat.
Depends on your point of view
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I'm putting a positive spin on it in keeping with the thread x |
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By *aven Red OP Woman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I'm neither. I think the forum benefits from a mix of people. It would be dull if all were positive or all were negative. "
Balance is good. Real life is a mix of both. I'm talking about posters who deliberately antagonise. Not putting or saying anything constructive, just wanting to cause an argument for the sake of it x |
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"Are you a positive poster or a negative one? Do you like to have a good 'debate?'
I tend to just post positive things but have noticed a few posters will post a negative comment in a thread about something of no interest to them.
Is this to deliberately be controversial? I was always taught to not say anything if I had nothing nice to say x"
It's their perception of how they see the world. I believe people see others the way they see themselves. I accept it and move on. Sometimes we agree to disagree. But that is not the end of the world! |
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"I'm neither. I think the forum benefits from a mix of people. It would be dull if all were positive or all were negative.
Balance is good. Real life is a mix of both. I'm talking about posters who deliberately antagonise. Not putting or saying anything constructive, just wanting to cause an argument for the sake of it x"
I think they have their place. As do those who want everyone to get along and only say nice stuff. Both extremes have their own issues though imo. |
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I'm a positive person so generally try to be positive.
I do occasionally feel the need to express disagreement, but I don't troll or feel the need to be negative about things just because I have a different perspective or opinion. |
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I’m quite a positive person, in general. I mean we all have off days, right?
If a thread gnarls me though I’ll tend to just get sarcastic / defensive.
I generally find if you’re being negative you might as well as be shouting at a wall.
I think people post / try to post controversial comments just to get noticed / stand out. |
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