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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Men of fab! Calling men of fab!!!!
Have you had successful meets here?
If the answer is YES! Could you please leave some advice on how you did it?
Might help other new blokes have a bit more positive attitude. (If i read one more ‘fab is a waste of time’ status update i’ll say swear words) |
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"Men of fab! Calling men of fab!!!!
Have you had successful meets here?
If the answer is YES! Could you please leave some advice on how you did it?
Might help other new blokes have a bit more positive attitude. (If i read one more ‘fab is a waste of time’ status update i’ll say swear words)"
I can definitely say YES to that. A lot of it has been down to patience, putting up interesting pictures, attending socials and being introduced to clubs, eventually culminating in me meeting my current partner.
It does help not taking things too seriously as I did go through a few rejections, which is par of the course but once you are on the scene and you start to get to know people, it becomes easier, more enjoyable and gives you more options.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use the forums and just be myself and I've made some good friends along the way.
Also winning 2019's Most Notable UNLOS and Return Winner, 2019's Favourite Male Forumite Winner and 2019's Biggest Flirt Runner Up helped a lot.
Not sure if you heard about that or not
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Define success..
I almost wrote a thread like this last night, but backed out for some reason.
My top tip would be to have a damn good look at yourself, confront your demons, before Fab throws them at you.
Women aren't another species, they're just men with lady bits. Like us men, they come in a huge variety of flavours.
My one tip would be to avoid talking about anything sexual, till they bring it up. Show an interest in the individual, ask them probing questions about themselves, not their sexuality, or what they're here for.
My second tip would be to show yourself a bit of respect. Listen to your gut instincts, don't compromise your values and constantly reassess how you feel about things as you learn and grow.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be polite
Keep your cock in your pants on pics
Soeak to women like one you just met on the street or in a bar
If they say no accept it and move on
It really isn't hard
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Personally I wouldn't bother sending messages, Attend forum socials and club socials, Visit a swingers clubs and meet people there, Then after you have put your face on the scene maybe try with the messages, That's I got to meet people, I still don't message people as I'm happy with the social side of it and the people I've meet over the last 4 years |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes 1 long term 3 year fwb, and a recent 6 month fwb. I wasnt looking for a meet, chatty, non pushy, i suppose im just myself. Didnt chase, didnt send messages (ive never messaged first) i suppose we just clicked and became friends that went further. I come here for the forums really.. sometimes i worry im not flirty/hungry enough for the type of site it is as dont do one night stands, but either its worked for me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Patience, be natural and normal, get along to socials and clubs and show respect, don't wave your bits about and don't speak to the lady of a couple like shes single. Take no for an answer without throwing your toys out of your pram and before you know it you'll have 30 or so veris 
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"Define success..
I almost wrote a thread like this last night, but backed out for some reason.
My top tip would be to have a damn good look at yourself, confront your demons, before Fab throws them at you.
Women aren't another species, they're just men with lady bits. Like us men, they come in a huge variety of flavours.
My one tip would be to avoid talking about anything sexual, till they bring it up. Show an interest in the individual, ask them probing questions about themselves, not their sexuality, or what they're here for.
My second tip would be to show yourself a bit of respect. Listen to your gut instincts, don't compromise your values and constantly reassess how you feel about things as you learn and grow.
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This. Plus don’t poo your pants. This little titbit was in the advice section in a magazine I read at Hove train station. Every bit helps. |
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"Personally I wouldn't bother sending messages, Attend forum socials and club socials, Visit a swingers clubs and meet people there, Then after you have put your face on the scene maybe try with the messages, That's I got to meet people, I still don't message people as I'm happy with the social side of it and the people I've meet over the last 4 years "
Pretty much this for me as well, I've not sent a preemptive faf message for about 10 years, but have still met a few sexy ladies off here  |
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Define successful??
I have made some good friends on here and some absolutely fantastic ones and some that are still developing but could end up in the fantastic category.
I've been to socials and gone from being totally overawed and out of my depth wondering what I was doing, to helping meet and greet and giving newbies introductions to what goes on.
I've had wonderful meets, just social and more and I have learnt lots about people I would never have spoken to without fab.
How??
There's no mystery. I'm no male model straight from the catwalks of Paris or Milan with smouldering good looks and abs chiselled from granite. But I try and have interesting pictures. My profile is filled out and gives a flavour of "me". I join in on the forums. I talk to people, male or female, as humans, not walking slabs of meat. I ask questions. I flirt, sometimes outrageously. I am interested in whomever I am talking to. Basically a lot of what you would do if trying to make a good impression on someone you've met at a bar or party - look your best, be interested and interesting.
Above all, believe in yourself. I didn't when I first came on here, I had almost zero self confidence in these things, but thanks to some amazing people and their support I have grown and blossomed. I don't mean be overly cocky and arrogant, just believe that people can find you attractive, no matter what you think about yourself physically.
Or you could be F&B and just wait for them to flock to you!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t take any advice from me, I’m unsuccessful on here.
Take advice from Witchdoctor, I do. I do as well except I misread his advice and have been sending fat messages. "
 Wait.. thatd not allowed? But I'm in the Fat Avengers thread! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t take any advice from me, I’m unsuccessful on here.
Take advice from Witchdoctor, I do. I do as well except I misread his advice and have been sending fat messages. "
It's bad for the environment to send thin messages. |
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"Don’t take any advice from me, I’m unsuccessful on here.
Take advice from Witchdoctor, I do. I do as well except I misread his advice and have been sending fat messages.
Wait.. thatd not allowed? But I'm in the Fat Avengers thread!"
course it’s allowed. I said I was hyper super extra mega successful didn’t I? |
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"Don’t take any advice from me, I’m unsuccessful on here.
Take advice from Witchdoctor, I do. I do as well except I misread his advice and have been sending fat messages.
It's bad for the environment to send thin messages."
no methane here matey!  |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
Some great advice here. Graciousness, self respect as well as respect for women, be yourself, be patient, be natural, believe in your unique attractiveness. Gorgeous!
I fancy you all more now |
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"Some great advice here. Graciousness, self respect as well as respect for women, be yourself, be patient, be natural, believe in your unique attractiveness. Gorgeous!
I fancy you all more now "
GIZZASHAG! |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
"Some great advice here. Graciousness, self respect as well as respect for women, be yourself, be patient, be natural, believe in your unique attractiveness. Gorgeous!
I fancy you all more now you cannot have my penis there are other penises u can tho "
Oh thank you for the clarity because all day I've been wondering |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You just have to be in the right place at the right time. A lot comes down to luck no suck luck just skill availability and versatility "
Stick to you’re preference and never compromise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t take any advice from me, I’m unsuccessful on here.
Take advice from Witchdoctor, I do. I do as well except I misread his advice and have been sending fat messages.
It's bad for the environment to send thin messages."
Fucking environment..
*Ghengis mumbles off and kicks a bin over* |
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices. "
Whaaaaat? Like an actual human? Rather than a collection of titillating body parts? There's an idea
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t take any advice from me, I’m unsuccessful on here.
Take advice from Witchdoctor, I do. I do as well except I misread his advice and have been sending fat messages.
It's bad for the environment to send thin messages.
Fucking environment..
*Ghengis mumbles off and kicks a bin over*"
Is there anything in the bin that could be recycled? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy fab and have had a few meets as a single and enjoyed some clubs as a couple, my advice is too be yourself, don’t get overwhelmed, mixture of naughty and nice and be polite |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Confuscious say "man who rushes to wet cock will only shower alone"
Its all about being patient... And yes I have had a couple of meets which have materialised by just being genuinely nice and not pressing for an instant shag |
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices.
Whaaaaat? Like an actual human? Rather than a collection of titillating body parts? There's an idea
Mrs TMN x"
The sum is more than the hole |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t take any advice from me, I’m unsuccessful on here.
Take advice from Witchdoctor, I do. I do as well except I misread his advice and have been sending fat messages.
It's bad for the environment to send thin messages.
Fucking environment..
*Ghengis mumbles off and kicks a bin over*
Is there anything in the bin that could be recycled?"
No.. I checked to make sure it was empty before kicking it.. nobody loves a litter bug. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men of fab! Calling men of fab!!!!
Have you had successful meets here?
If the answer is YES! Could you please leave some advice on how you did it?
Might help other new blokes have a bit more positive attitude. (If i read one more ‘fab is a waste of time’ status update i’ll say swear words)"
i kidna#ped them at the gates of allesium  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Upload a pic of my arse and thighs, women are funny creatures
Oh but what thighs and what an arse..."
 told you lads they're easy to please (you don't know how much I've had to graft for this comment) |
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My top tip would be to have a damn good look at yourself, confront your demons, before Fab throws them at you.
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This applies to everyone, I think, not just men. I've seen it with couples we've met - if you're not sure what you're about, it's a recipe for disaster.
Mrs TMN x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices. "
Mr. Perfick' (by far the 'coolest' m_mber of the Mr. Men clan. |
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices.
Whaaaaat? Like an actual human? Rather than a collection of titillating body parts? There's an idea
Mrs TMN x
The sum is more than the hole "
What a quote! 
You're damn right I am  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I do it by just being myself. I’m patient and respectful and understand that not everyone wants to ’fuck’ me. People have preferences and sometimes you won’t match theirs..
I’d say taking the time to fill out your profile describing yourself, likes and interests etc helps too. |
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices.
Whaaaaat? Like an actual human? Rather than a collection of titillating body parts? There's an idea
Mrs TMN x
The sum is more than the hole
What a quote!
You're damn right I am "
I was quite proud of that one |
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"Define success..
I almost wrote a thread like this last night, but backed out for some reason.
My top tip would be to have a damn good look at yourself, confront your demons, before Fab throws them at you.
Women aren't another species, they're just men with lady bits. Like us men, they come in a huge variety of flavours.
My one tip would be to avoid talking about anything sexual, till they bring it up. Show an interest in the individual, ask them probing questions about themselves, not their sexuality, or what they're here for.
My second tip would be to show yourself a bit of respect. Listen to your gut instincts, don't compromise your values and constantly reassess how you feel about things as you learn and grow.
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GK - that’s an absolutely brilliant analogy! Love it!
I would add to that (and I nearly posted a thread about this earlier) your comment regarding avoiding anything sexual unless invited to do so... I’m more than happy, if there is a sparky connection/chemistry to migrate to Kik and on ocassion, WhatsApp BUT ... I often find that privilege invariably is taken as a given, to enter into a conversation akin to the recipient assuming it will be a sexual conversation from which they derive sexual gratification!! Jeez that’s the biggest turn off ever at which point I often back off!!
I value my integrity |
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"Define success..
I almost wrote a thread like this last night, but backed out for some reason.
My top tip would be to have a damn good look at yourself, confront your demons, before Fab throws them at you.
Women aren't another species, they're just men with lady bits. Like us men, they come in a huge variety of flavours.
My one tip would be to avoid talking about anything sexual, till they bring it up. Show an interest in the individual, ask them probing questions about themselves, not their sexuality, or what they're here for.
My second tip would be to show yourself a bit of respect. Listen to your gut instincts, don't compromise your values and constantly reassess how you feel about things as you learn and grow.
GK - that’s an absolutely brilliant analogy! Love it!
I would add to that (and I nearly posted a thread about this earlier) your comment regarding avoiding anything sexual unless invited to do so... I’m more than happy, if there is a sparky connection/chemistry to migrate to Kik and on ocassion, WhatsApp BUT ... I often find that privilege invariably is taken as a given, to enter into a conversation akin to the recipient assuming it will be a sexual conversation from which they derive sexual gratification!! Jeez that’s the biggest turn off ever at which point I often back off!!
I value my integrity "
Now that is a good bit of advice. Thank you for that
And as for me I would say there are definitely highs and lows in here and you just need to go with the flow and see where it gets you. And definitely try not to be too overwhelming or cheeky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am grateful to have met some really interesting people.
I attribute the success I have had to:
Put some thought into your profile;
No dick pictures;
Going to a social and some club events;
Participate in the forums;
Respect no or disinterest means no;
Be patient.
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm! |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!"
*getting....not being....bloody autocorrect! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Define success..
I almost wrote a thread like this last night, but backed out for some reason.
My top tip would be to have a damn good look at yourself, confront your demons, before Fab throws them at you.
Women aren't another species, they're just men with lady bits. Like us men, they come in a huge variety of flavours.
My one tip would be to avoid talking about anything sexual, till they bring it up. Show an interest in the individual, ask them probing questions about themselves, not their sexuality, or what they're here for.
My second tip would be to show yourself a bit of respect. Listen to your gut instincts, don't compromise your values and constantly reassess how you feel about things as you learn and grow.
GK - that’s an absolutely brilliant analogy! Love it!
I would add to that (and I nearly posted a thread about this earlier) your comment regarding avoiding anything sexual unless invited to do so... I’m more than happy, if there is a sparky connection/chemistry to migrate to Kik and on ocassion, WhatsApp BUT ... I often find that privilege invariably is taken as a given, to enter into a conversation akin to the recipient assuming it will be a sexual conversation from which they derive sexual gratification!! Jeez that’s the biggest turn off ever at which point I often back off!!
I value my integrity "
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"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!
*getting....not being....bloody autocorrect!"
There r some bellends on here  better luck tonight |
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"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!
*getting....not being....bloody autocorrect!"
That exactly the example of a liberty taken. Tells me there is no respect for you at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!"
Maybe it was a easier way of saying no thanks |
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"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!
Maybe it was a easier way of saying no thanks "
You say no thanks by sending pictures of you getting a blowjob? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!
Maybe it was a easier way of saying no thanks
You say no thanks by sending pictures of you getting a blowjob?"
Did I say I do? Read it don’t twist it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices. "
I may steal half your profile. Just not the pics. It would a) be a total mis-selling of myself, and b), don’t want to annoy they guy you stole them off |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"Men of fab! Calling men of fab!!!!
Have you had successful meets here?
If the answer is YES! Could you please leave some advice on how you did it?
Might help other new blokes have a bit more positive attitude. (If i read one more ‘fab is a waste of time’ status update i’ll say swear words)"
Oh aren't you a dear
I'm not being sarcastic, honest. This is quite possibly the first "let me help others" post I have seen on here. |
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"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!
Maybe it was a easier way of saying no thanks
You say no thanks by sending pictures of you getting a blowjob?
Did I say I do? Read it don’t twist it "
It's a generic you, not you specifically. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices.
I may steal half your profile. Just not the pics. It would a) be a total mis-selling of myself, and b), don’t want to annoy they guy you stole them off "
No, he really got grumpy last time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met lovely people, lovers and adventurers through fab.
I've made friends and even lost one through fab.
The continuous defining trait of men complaining is this
You're missing the point.
People are on here to interact in new and exciting ways with eachother, as people.
Change your behaviours to reflect care, respect, interest and courtesy.
Give, rather than demand
Have fun and enjoy yourselves xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!
Maybe it was a easier way of saying no thanks
You say no thanks by sending pictures of you getting a blowjob?
Did I say I do? Read it don’t twist it
It's a generic you, not you specifically."
I don’t get messages so no I don’t. I can’t speak for the more desirable guys on fab |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!
*getting....not being....bloody autocorrect!
There r some bellends on here better luck tonight "
This is very true. I have found all of them.
The thing that pissed me off the most was that I could see her face (not his to send) he claimed I'd be able to recognise him when we met for coffee! 
My response: unless you turn up with your dick out and a woman hanging off it...probably not!
Tosser! |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
I've had some success on fab. Had actual meets with real ladies.
It's not easy, the odds are against single guys. However my top tips are:
1. Don't be a twunt.
2. Be interested, and interesting.
3. Rem_mber, the meet is about both people, not just you.
4. Be nice
5. Don't bad mouth people.
6. Have some manners and respect.
7. Offer to go for drinks, not dry bum her in message 1.
8. Be who you say you are, you will get found out..
9. Rem_mber, people talk. If you are sending the same messages to half the forums you will get found out. Nothing say "You're special" like sending identical messages to 6 of her friends.
10. Relax, this is supposed to be fun. |
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"I've had some success on fab. Had actual meets with real ladies.
It's not easy, the odds are against single guys. However my top tips are:
1. Don't be a twunt.
2. Be interested, and interesting.
3. Rem_mber, the meet is about both people, not just you.
4. Be nice
5. Don't bad mouth people.
6. Have some manners and respect.
7. Offer to go for drinks, not dry bum her in message 1.
8. Be who you say you are, you will get found out..
9. Rem_mber, people talk. If you are sending the same messages to half the forums you will get found out. Nothing say "You're special" like sending identical messages to 6 of her friends.
10. Relax, this is supposed to be fun."
Plenty of users on fab that don’t use the forums you know |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices. "
And it really is that simple.x
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
"I've had some success on fab. Had actual meets with real ladies.
It's not easy, the odds are against single guys. However my top tips are:
1. Don't be a twunt.
2. Be interested, and interesting.
3. Rem_mber, the meet is about both people, not just you.
4. Be nice
5. Don't bad mouth people.
6. Have some manners and respect.
7. Offer to go for drinks, not dry bum her in message 1.
8. Be who you say you are, you will get found out..
9. Rem_mber, people talk. If you are sending the same messages to half the forums you will get found out. Nothing say "You're special" like sending identical messages to 6 of her friends.
10. Relax, this is supposed to be fun."
**Edit
11. Talk to people as if they were stood next to you meeting them face to face. If your best line of "get a load of my dick" wouldn't work in a bar why do you think it would work on here. Behind every avatar is a person, not just some random cum depository. |
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"I should direct the person I was messaging last night to this thread.
Him: send me photos, I'll send once back.
Me: I don't want photos of a stranger, thanks.
Him: sends photo of him being a BJ
Me: why have you sent that?
Him: you didn't say what you wanted.
Me: erm!
*getting....not being....bloody autocorrect!
There r some bellends on here better luck tonight
This is very true. I have found all of them.
The thing that pissed me off the most was that I could see her face (not his to send) he claimed I'd be able to recognise him when we met for coffee!
My response: unless you turn up with your dick out and a woman hanging off it...probably not!
Tosser!"
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over a year ago
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It helps if
You are proper single
Under 35
Chisled good looks
Spend at least 3 hrs a day in gym
Sporting a 8" plus penis
Can accommodate
Have pictures that wouldn't look out of place in GQ or mens health
Your bio has been written by a combination of Jimmy carr, plato and a man who really gets what women want...
Oh and your own a dog/ animal sanctuary
Or you could just be a pilot |
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"It helps if
You are proper single
Under 35
Chisled good looks
Spend at least 3 hrs a day in gym
Sporting a 8" plus penis
Can accommodate
Have pictures that wouldn't look out of place in GQ or mens health
Your bio has been written by a combination of Jimmy carr, plato and a man who really gets what women want...
Oh and your own a dog/ animal sanctuary
Or you could just be a pilot"
I’m not ticking any of those boxes. I’m screwed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It helps if
You are proper single
Under 35
Chisled good looks
Spend at least 3 hrs a day in gym
Sporting a 8" plus penis
Can accommodate
Have pictures that wouldn't look out of place in GQ or mens health
Your bio has been written by a combination of Jimmy carr, plato and a man who really gets what women want...
Oh and your own a dog/ animal sanctuary
Or you could just be a pilot
I’m not ticking any of those boxes. I’m screwed "
But you live by the sea |
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"It helps if
You are proper single
Under 35
Chisled good looks
Spend at least 3 hrs a day in gym
Sporting a 8" plus penis
Can accommodate
Have pictures that wouldn't look out of place in GQ or mens health
Your bio has been written by a combination of Jimmy carr, plato and a man who really gets what women want...
Oh and your own a dog/ animal sanctuary
Or you could just be a pilot
I’m not ticking any of those boxes. I’m screwed
But you live by the sea"
I like my women to get wet but that’s going a bit too far... |
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices. "
I can't speak to the experience of being a man on Fab, but as a woman, a man like this is in with a gigantic advantage over the vast majority of the others. People who make an effort and engage with me as a human being are pretty uncommon tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The bizarre thing is, my alleged success started with people contacting me on previous profiles.
I was extremely suspicious, thinking they may be fake.
I've joined and left several times. Sometimes it's been painful and others, it just fell into place. Such is fab hey? |
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices. "
Need more like this please |
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"I just sent a message saying “how’s you” with no picture attached. Worked like a charm "
Should of tried a infamous pic of your dick measured up against a can of Carling, lynx spray or Sky Remote always works a charm |
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"It helps if
You are proper single
Under 35
Chisled good looks
Spend at least 3 hrs a day in gym
Sporting a 8" plus penis
Can accommodate
Have pictures that wouldn't look out of place in GQ or mens health
Your bio has been written by a combination of Jimmy carr, plato and a man who really gets what women want...
Oh and your own a dog/ animal sanctuary
Or you could just be a pilot"
Nope, nope, nope to the gym and age and big dick stuff! Not all women want that or value it more highly than someone who isn't a douchebag
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"It helps if
You are proper single
Under 35
Chisled good looks
Spend at least 3 hrs a day in gym
Sporting a 8" plus penis
Can accommodate
Have pictures that wouldn't look out of place in GQ or mens health
Your bio has been written by a combination of Jimmy carr, plato and a man who really gets what women want...
Oh and your own a dog/ animal sanctuary
Or you could just be a pilot
Nope, nope, nope to the gym and age and big dick stuff! Not all women want that or value it more highly than someone who isn't a douchebag
Mrs TMN x"
Agreed.
I chatted to a bloke once that said he was a pilot.
When I asked what he piloted he said....I'm the pilot of my life this put him immediately into the asshat category! |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
"By ignoring all advice on the forums as most of it is crap and doesn't apply to the rest of fab.
Do you think so? I think the recurring theme of "don't be a dick" applies everywhere
Mrs TMN x"
I think not being a dick should be something everyone does every day regardless, giving it as advice to guys as something to do to get meets on fab is setting the bar pretty low imo. |
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"By ignoring all advice on the forums as most of it is crap and doesn't apply to the rest of fab.
Do you think so? I think the recurring theme of "don't be a dick" applies everywhere
Mrs TMN x
I think not being a dick should be something everyone does every day regardless, giving it as advice to guys as something to do to get meets on fab is setting the bar pretty low imo. "
Unfortunately even that low of a bar filters out the majority. |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
"By ignoring all advice on the forums as most of it is crap and doesn't apply to the rest of fab.
Do you think so? I think the recurring theme of "don't be a dick" applies everywhere
Mrs TMN x
I think not being a dick should be something everyone does every day regardless, giving it as advice to guys as something to do to get meets on fab is setting the bar pretty low imo.
Unfortunately even that low of a bar filters out the majority."
Too many Dick's on fab, who would've thought |
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over a year ago
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"Define success..
I almost wrote a thread like this last night, but backed out for some reason.
My top tip would be to have a damn good look at yourself, confront your demons, before Fab throws them at you.
Women aren't another species, they're just men with lady bits. Like us men, they come in a huge variety of flavours.
My one tip would be to avoid talking about anything sexual, till they bring it up. Show an interest in the individual, ask them probing questions about themselves, not their sexuality, or what they're here for.
My second tip would be to show yourself a bit of respect. Listen to your gut instincts, don't compromise your values and constantly reassess how you feel about things as you learn and grow.
GK - that’s an absolutely brilliant analogy! Love it!
I would add to that (and I nearly posted a thread about this earlier) your comment regarding avoiding anything sexual unless invited to do so... I’m more than happy, if there is a sparky connection/chemistry to migrate to Kik and on ocassion, WhatsApp BUT ... I often find that privilege invariably is taken as a given, to enter into a conversation akin to the recipient assuming it will be a sexual conversation from which they derive sexual gratification!! Jeez that’s the biggest turn off ever at which point I often back off!!
I value my integrity "
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"Men of fab! Calling men of fab!!!!
Have you had successful meets here?
If the answer is YES! Could you please leave some advice on how you did it?
Might help other new blokes have a bit more positive attitude. (If i read one more ‘fab is a waste of time’ status update i’ll say swear words)"
I did it my way.. it wouldn't work for others, so no point sayinv what I did. they need to do it their way. |
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"By ignoring all advice on the forums as most of it is crap and doesn't apply to the rest of fab.
Do you think so? I think the recurring theme of "don't be a dick" applies everywhere
Mrs TMN x
I think not being a dick should be something everyone does every day regardless, giving it as advice to guys as something to do to get meets on fab is setting the bar pretty low imo. "
Fair point, I was being rather reductive of some of the good advice (imo) offered further up the thread...
Be yourself, know yourself, chat to people like they're humans not body parts... That kinda stuff.
I don't think that's crap and not applicable to the rest of fab.
Mrs TMN x |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
"By ignoring all advice on the forums as most of it is crap and doesn't apply to the rest of fab.
Do you think so? I think the recurring theme of "don't be a dick" applies everywhere
Mrs TMN x
I think not being a dick should be something everyone does every day regardless, giving it as advice to guys as something to do to get meets on fab is setting the bar pretty low imo.
Fair point, I was being rather reductive of some of the good advice (imo) offered further up the thread...
Be yourself, know yourself, chat to people like they're humans not body parts... That kinda stuff.
I don't think that's crap and not applicable to the rest of fab.
Mrs TMN x "
I totally agree with that and I know I'm repeating myself now but that should be the absolute minimum anyone should expect.
I haven't read all this thread tbh so don't know what advice has been given but typically on these type of threads you get a lot of opinions from women and couples as to what they would like. Unfortunately that isn't necessarily the same as what actually works for single guys on the wider fab.
Consequently a lot of the advice can be pretty crap as far as helping guys get meets. Not all of it clearly but a lot can be. (That's all in my experience, other experiences may vary) |
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Just be polite, and friendly. Try to have a bit of wit, and if the lady likes what she sees/reads , then on you go.
Don't be pushy and consider how what you've written, comes across in conversation |
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"Just be polite, and friendly. Try to have a bit of wit, and if the lady likes what she sees/reads , then on you go.
Don't be pushy and consider how what you've written, comes across in conversation"
Nom nom leathers pic.... |
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It is remarkably simple. Have something interesting to talk about that isn't sex. Nobody is going to want to shag you if they don't like you. So be somebody they might want to hang around with. Don't make it all about you and what you want. Don't talk about sex very much. Listen to the other person. Have normal conversations.
The more you do that, the more genuine connections you will form and the more likely you are to find somebody who wants to move from a friendship to something different. |
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Yes. Very successful. But that’s only because I’ve found and chatted with women I’m attracted to, who’s humour and intelligence are on the same page as mine and who like to have a little fun. I guess they like what I can offer too. Long may it continue |
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"By ignoring all advice on the forums as most of it is crap and doesn't apply to the rest of fab.
Do you think so? I think the recurring theme of "don't be a dick" applies everywhere
Mrs TMN x
I think not being a dick should be something everyone does every day regardless, giving it as advice to guys as something to do to get meets on fab is setting the bar pretty low imo.
Fair point, I was being rather reductive of some of the good advice (imo) offered further up the thread...
Be yourself, know yourself, chat to people like they're humans not body parts... That kinda stuff.
I don't think that's crap and not applicable to the rest of fab.
Mrs TMN x
I totally agree with that and I know I'm repeating myself now but that should be the absolute minimum anyone should expect.
I haven't read all this thread tbh so don't know what advice has been given but typically on these type of threads you get a lot of opinions from women and couples as to what they would like. Unfortunately that isn't necessarily the same as what actually works for single guys on the wider fab.
Consequently a lot of the advice can be pretty crap as far as helping guys get meets. Not all of it clearly but a lot can be. (That's all in my experience, other experiences may vary)"
I'm maybe misreading you here, but are you saying that being yourself, knowing yourself and chatting to people like they're human brings is crap advice and doesn't work? If so, do you have any advice?
In my experience, there are a lot of guys who try to talk big and impress you which is pretty transparent. Those with the confidence to be themselves shine through.
Interested to hear your experience though?
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"By ignoring all advice on the forums as most of it is crap and doesn't apply to the rest of fab.
Do you think so? I think the recurring theme of "don't be a dick" applies everywhere
Mrs TMN x
I think not being a dick should be something everyone does every day regardless, giving it as advice to guys as something to do to get meets on fab is setting the bar pretty low imo.
Fair point, I was being rather reductive of some of the good advice (imo) offered further up the thread...
Be yourself, know yourself, chat to people like they're humans not body parts... That kinda stuff.
I don't think that's crap and not applicable to the rest of fab.
Mrs TMN x
I totally agree with that and I know I'm repeating myself now but that should be the absolute minimum anyone should expect.
I haven't read all this thread tbh so don't know what advice has been given but typically on these type of threads you get a lot of opinions from women and couples as to what they would like. Unfortunately that isn't necessarily the same as what actually works for single guys on the wider fab.
Consequently a lot of the advice can be pretty crap as far as helping guys get meets. Not all of it clearly but a lot can be. (That's all in my experience, other experiences may vary)
I'm maybe misreading you here, but are you saying that being yourself, knowing yourself and chatting to people like they're human brings is crap advice and doesn't work? If so, do you have any advice?
In my experience, there are a lot of guys who try to talk big and impress you which is pretty transparent. Those with the confidence to be themselves shine through.
Interested to hear your experience though?
Mrs TMN x"
Haha yeah, and they promise you stuff you don't even want! I don't want 2 hours of oral followed by 2 hours of penetration and if they add that they're a fast repeater... you think I'd want a round two after a 4 hour round 1!?!?! |
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over a year ago
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices.
I can't speak to the experience of being a man on Fab, but as a woman, a man like this is in with a gigantic advantage over the vast majority of the others. People who make an effort and engage with me as a human being are pretty uncommon tbh. "
But all that said, it doesn’t necessarily make them successful, depending on the criteria for success.
I’m successful if nice conversations are the aim, but by other criteria I wouldn’t be considered successful. |
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices.
I can't speak to the experience of being a man on Fab, but as a woman, a man like this is in with a gigantic advantage over the vast majority of the others. People who make an effort and engage with me as a human being are pretty uncommon tbh.
But all that said, it doesn’t necessarily make them successful, depending on the criteria for success.
I’m successful if nice conversations are the aim, but by other criteria I wouldn’t be considered successful."
I hear that. It's necessary but not sufficient, unfortunately. |
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over a year ago
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices.
I can't speak to the experience of being a man on Fab, but as a woman, a man like this is in with a gigantic advantage over the vast majority of the others. People who make an effort and engage with me as a human being are pretty uncommon tbh.
But all that said, it doesn’t necessarily make them successful, depending on the criteria for success.
I’m successful if nice conversations are the aim, but by other criteria I wouldn’t be considered successful.
I hear that. It's necessary but not sufficient, unfortunately. "
And therein lies the dilemma in giving advice. There are some men who cause women’s pulses to rise, set their sexual neural pathways alight and can fulfill their desires. There are a lot who are less capable of doing that for whole variety of reasons.
The advice given on here is useful but it is still likely more men will struggle than be successful. |
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I have had some successful meets on here. I was just myself
Plus going to clubs and meeting people that way has really helped to got introduced to some lovely people. I just never have any expectations when im having a meet just go with the flow |
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"I was myself...
It sounds clichéd but I took some good pictures, wrote a half decent profile and got chatting without expectation.
I didn't wave my cock around and I treated the people I was chatting to like actual humans with other qualities, apart from a warm hole. I accepted 'no' with good grace and respected their choices.
I can't speak to the experience of being a man on Fab, but as a woman, a man like this is in with a gigantic advantage over the vast majority of the others. People who make an effort and engage with me as a human being are pretty uncommon tbh.
But all that said, it doesn’t necessarily make them successful, depending on the criteria for success.
I’m successful if nice conversations are the aim, but by other criteria I wouldn’t be considered successful.
I hear that. It's necessary but not sufficient, unfortunately.
And therein lies the dilemma in giving advice. There are some men who cause women’s pulses to rise, set their sexual neural pathways alight and can fulfill their desires. There are a lot who are less capable of doing that for whole variety of reasons.
The advice given on here is useful but it is still likely more men will struggle than be successful."
Sure. It's like most things, though. Here's what increases your likelihood of success, not here's a guaranteed path. |
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I've found a good profile bio, some decent pics and generally being sound and witty gets you the attention on this, not for lack of trying either I've been here a long time and only recently I've switched it all up and I've gotten better results because of it |
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I've had one meet and quite a few socials with meets planned in the new year. I was just me, respectful and pleasant(but not big headed). I'm sure it's been said already, just be yourself. Treat people the way you like to be treated and if you get a meet happy days. If not, there are a lot of guys on here. Women are spoiled for choice, dont take it personally |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
"By ignoring all advice on the forums as most of it is crap and doesn't apply to the rest of fab.
Do you think so? I think the recurring theme of "don't be a dick" applies everywhere
Mrs TMN x
I think not being a dick should be something everyone does every day regardless, giving it as advice to guys as something to do to get meets on fab is setting the bar pretty low imo.
Fair point, I was being rather reductive of some of the good advice (imo) offered further up the thread...
Be yourself, know yourself, chat to people like they're humans not body parts... That kinda stuff.
I don't think that's crap and not applicable to the rest of fab.
Mrs TMN x
I totally agree with that and I know I'm repeating myself now but that should be the absolute minimum anyone should expect.
I haven't read all this thread tbh so don't know what advice has been given but typically on these type of threads you get a lot of opinions from women and couples as to what they would like. Unfortunately that isn't necessarily the same as what actually works for single guys on the wider fab.
Consequently a lot of the advice can be pretty crap as far as helping guys get meets. Not all of it clearly but a lot can be. (That's all in my experience, other experiences may vary)
I'm maybe misreading you here, but are you saying that being yourself, knowing yourself and chatting to people like they're human brings is crap advice and doesn't work? If so, do you have any advice?
In my experience, there are a lot of guys who try to talk big and impress you which is pretty transparent. Those with the confidence to be themselves shine through.
Interested to hear your experience though?
Mrs TMN x"
Yes I think you are misreading, I actually said I totally agree with all of that. But I maintain it should be the minimum anyone would expect and not something done to just get meets.
However I went on to say that a lot of advice from women and couples on the forums can be pretty crap as it may be what they like but it isn't necessarily what gets guys meets.
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Be yourself, always be polite & respectful, have patience, read profiles...
Make your profile the best you can put effort into your photos and what you write the best way I have always thought of a profile is like a shop window. Think from the persons pov looking and reading your profile are they going to think Ooo he looks good or sounds interesting |
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I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men. |
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"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men. "
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"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men. "
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"Patience, be natural and normal, get along to socials and clubs and show respect, don't wave your bits about and don't speak to the lady of a couple like shes single. Take no for an answer without throwing your toys out of your pram and before you know it you'll have 30 or so veris
Common sense mainly "
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men. "
That's kind of my point. Telling people to be decent human beings shouldn't really be considered as advice to get meets as people should behave with that respect and decency to each other anyway.
There is more practical advice that can be given with regards using the different parts of the site and tricks to getting yourself noticed that are more helpful to single guys imo.
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men. "
Brilliantly stated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go to clubs, don't be too creepy, present yourself well, start making friends get good veris, send polite messages with a face pic, suggest a social meet first, introduce some flirty banter, or if that fails just send a dick pic and ask if she wants a fuck |
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"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men.
I don’t think you can fake it really"
I think you can, but then it's down to the vetting process. The way I vet, it always comes out. I'm a time waster and I take too long to make my mind up... but I've had some near misses, so I'm not sorry. |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men. "
I understand what you're saying and, of course you are right to an extent. But through my own experience and I'm sure many others on this thread, even respectful messages that demonstrate the profile has been read and even show in the message how you comply with the requirements and invite conversation etc, are binned.
So it does appear to be a "dark art" to many men.
I have been fortunate on Fab but equally I also go through the pain, so I can empathise with men who are mystified what they're doing wrong.
The answer is always the same - it's the sheer ratio of men to women that's creating a market saturation for the ladies. So the men are probably doing nothing wrong (unless they're sending an erection with the line "look at what you could have won"). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men.
That's kind of my point. Telling people to be decent human beings shouldn't really be considered as advice to get meets as people should behave with that respect and decency to each other anyway.
There is more practical advice that can be given with regards using the different parts of the site and tricks to getting yourself noticed that are more helpful to single guys imo.
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I agree. If I get messages from men I think are nice I often point them to the forums if they’re not having much luck. I think the forums are a great way to get your personality across and for people to see what kind of person you are. Most of the people I’ve met, socially and otherwise, have been from getting to know people through here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men.
I understand what you're saying and, of course you are right to an extent. But through my own experience and I'm sure many others on this thread, even respectful messages that demonstrate the profile has been read and even show in the message how you comply with the requirements and invite conversation etc, are binned.
So it does appear to be a "dark art" to many men.
I have been fortunate on Fab but equally I also go through the pain, so I can empathise with men who are mystified what they're doing wrong.
The answer is always the same - it's the sheer ratio of men to women that's creating a market saturation for the ladies. So the men are probably doing nothing wrong (unless they're sending an erection with the line "look at what you could have won")."
Unfortunately it is. Often my messages used to get to 400/500 and I’d read the first few awful messages and then just bulk delete. It’s a shame as there were probably some lovely people amongst that lot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can be respectful etc on fab but at the end of the day unless you match the person’s preferences that counts for nothing.
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I agree. If they don’t desire you there’s bugger all being yourself. being respectful and being truly in the interested in the other person will do to change that. It might simply help you too maintain your dignity and accept it with grace. |
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"You can be respectful etc on fab but at the end of the day unless you match the person’s preferences that counts for nothing.
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I agree. If they don’t desire you there’s bugger all being yourself. being respectful and being truly in the interested in the other person will do to change that. It might simply help you too maintain your dignity and accept it with grace."
True but I have so many male friends on here which will never go any further than friendship and that’s also not a bad thing. It really does depend if you’re here for sex and only sex. |
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"You can be respectful etc on fab but at the end of the day unless you match the person’s preferences that counts for nothing.
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I agree. If they don’t desire you there’s bugger all being yourself. being respectful and being truly in the interested in the other person will do to change that. It might simply help you too maintain your dignity and accept it with grace."
Same as on the forums. If you’re not someone’s type they won’t interact with you and then the sheep follow such is life |
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"I’m not keen on these threads because the people who are successful on fab are so because they are respectful and genuinely nice people, they are the ones who don’t need to be told how to be successful. These threads are just showing the not so successful how to act and how to pretend to be something they’re not.
The respectful genuine men don’t need advice on how to succeed. I like those men. "
This. The truth is there is no one fit, fits all. Everybody a guy contacts will react differently to that message, my belief is that that first message is the most important. There are guys on here with no photos, crap profile, but are still successful. No one can teach anybody what to say in a message.
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"You can be respectful etc on fab but at the end of the day unless you match the person’s preferences that counts for nothing.
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I agree. If they don’t desire you there’s bugger all being yourself. being respectful and being truly in the interested in the other person will do to change that. It might simply help you too maintain your dignity and accept it with grace.
Same as on the forums. If you’re not someone’s type they won’t interact with you and then the sheep follow such is life "
It's not always about type there are many other factors. Like location and are we both looking for the same things from fab.
There are lots which are my type on here but the other components dont fit. Bit like a puzzle |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"Be polite
Keep your cock in your pants on pics
Soeak to women like one you just met on the street or in a bar
If they say no accept it and move on
It really isn't hard
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This pretty much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can be respectful etc on fab but at the end of the day unless you match the person’s preferences that counts for nothing.
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I agree. If they don’t desire you there’s bugger all being yourself. being respectful and being truly in the interested in the other person will do to change that. It might simply help you too maintain your dignity and accept it with grace.
Same as on the forums. If you’re not someone’s type they won’t interact with you and then the sheep follow such is life
It's not always about type there are many other factors. Like location and are we both looking for the same things from fab.
There are lots which are my type on here but the other components dont fit. Bit like a puzzle "
I think seeing it as a puzzle helped me. I was never any good at solving puzzles. That’s my excuse anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Define success..
I almost wrote a thread like this last night, but backed out for some reason.
My top tip would be to have a damn good look at yourself, confront your demons, before Fab throws them at you.
Women aren't another species, they're just men with lady bits. Like us men, they come in a huge variety of flavours.
My one tip would be to avoid talking about anything sexual, till they bring it up. Show an interest in the individual, ask them probing questions about themselves, not their sexuality, or what they're here for.
My second tip would be to show yourself a bit of respect. Listen to your gut instincts, don't compromise your values and constantly reassess how you feel about things as you learn and grow.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great idea for a thread. Any advice or help is always welcome.
I have many photos which are mainly private and have messaged a quite a few people but I get the feeling my profile could do with some work? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The harder you try to get a meet, the harder it is to get a meet.
I wait patiently. If someone likes the look of me, they'll let me know.
Then build a rapport.
Then let nature take its course.
Expect nothing and anything more than nothing is a win! |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
Don’t try to have sex.
OK, that’s a bit simplistic, but I genuinely think there’s a lot of truth in it. Think of Fab as a wonderful, if somewhat bonkers, community and be a worthwhile part of it.
The rest is up to the gods of filth.
I’m a bald, hairy 50 yo Welsh plonker and I’ve managed a few meets and made nice connections (I wish the buggers would stop deleting their profiles and taking my veris with them though). It can be done .
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