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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in |
"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"
Yes always  bloody typical !!! |
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"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?
Sometimes. Can be frustrating"
I know...I don't mind a bit of travel but 100+ miles is maybe a bit too much! Especially if there's some mutual attraction and chemistry...it's just a big tease! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t bother chatting to anyone far away.
Seems pointless as we’re never going to meet."
Same here. I only chat to people from afar if it's forum related. |
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"I don’t bother chatting to anyone far away.
Seems pointless as we’re never going to meet.
Same here. I only chat to people from afar if it's forum related. "
I guess setting yourself a distance boundary would help prevent the frustration! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love chatting and honestly distance doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'd happily chat for ages, get to know someone and meet with them hundreds of miles away, or not at all.
Similarly I also meet people locally. It's all good.
I'm on the south coast and am chatting regularly with lovely fabbers in North Wales, mid Wales and Scotland.
Whatever works, I say x
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Always absolutely bloody always..
I'd happily chat to you spider, though I know I would end up disappointed so i'll just stick to admiring your pics lol!x"
Great thanks  have you looked at my verfications hah. I'm feeling like a disappointment
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"
All the time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The journey isnt always measured in miles, yet when it's where we are meant to be .....
Then the miles dont matter, just the destination "
That's beautiful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"
Yup it’s called Sod’s law or fuck my life ! |
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"Always absolutely bloody always..
I'd happily chat to you spider, though I know I would end up disappointed so i'll just stick to admiring your pics lol!x
Great thanks have you looked at my verfications hah. I'm feeling like a disappointment
Hmm i'm pretty sure the distance would mean the disappointment would be all mine ha
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"Sometimes. But some of my best meets have been with people from hundreds of miles away - they travel, I'll travel, or we meet in the middle. It's all part of the adventure in my eyes "
Your someone i wouldnt mind travelling for lily xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like to chat to people from all over esp those in places we'd like to visit..day London or a nice rural destination etc.local is good tho too... it's only a small country really
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t bother chatting to anyone far away.
Seems pointless as we’re never going to meet."
You never know you might fancy a road trip or both attend a club together that’s nearby. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes beast lives 2 and a half hours North from me but we make the effort to see each other most weeks. December has been the hardest as we are only getting to see each other every other week due to me having plans and other commitments. This had been the longest we gave been apart since we met and it's so hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"
Oh most definitely but I love the travelling as it adds to the build up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems to be pretty common; I’d chat to anyone from anywhere, even if anything more was unrealistic. A good conversation or bit of fun banter is distance-agnostic.
It would be nice to talk to people I could potentially meet that are within a reasonable distance, but I’m told the secret is getting out to the clubs; it can be a hard slog just trying it via chat rooms and the forums. |
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I do chat to some local people but much of the time we seem to be looking for different things and I get the feeling I'm being approached because I'm a convenient hole.
Some of my most interesting conversations are with people at some distance away. A few of them I'm very keen to meet, one of them we've made definite plans to meet soon.
Engaging conversation that makes me smile trumps geographical proximity when it comes to making me wet. |
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Yes, there are a few people who we want to meet and who want to meet us who are too far away to meet easily. We'll get there though. We met up with a lovely person over the weekend and had a really nice day with her. That involved travelling for us all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sexual preferences seem to be regional, maybe it's to do with origins lol. But those with the same preferences and tick boxes always seem to be in a different region to us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"
exactly removes agenda
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"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I meanexactly removes agenda"
yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"
all the flipping time...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"
Packs my trunk and says goodbye to the circus  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That is rare but I dont see it as a serious obstacle. Collecting moments of wondrous conversations online and stimulating minds can result in something beautiful too.. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"
Fab geography curse it's called. Never stopped me. If i'm interested, I will travel |
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"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean
Packs my trunk and says goodbye to the circus "
Nellie the elephant is swimming around my head |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"
I feel the opposite to this. I prefer to meet people sooner not endless messaging etc. If local you can just meet for a casual drink/ coffee no expectations very easy to arrange. When someone travels a long way it's a whole different ball game. I dint feel comfortable at all. |
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"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean
I feel the opposite to this. I prefer to meet people sooner not endless messaging etc. If local you can just meet for a casual drink/ coffee no expectations very easy to arrange. When someone travels a long way it's a whole different ball game. I dint feel comfortable at all. "
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Its frustrating at times, but doesn’t bother me and doesn’t stop me talking to people.
The conversation builds up the anticipation, you get a sense quite early on or whether your both up for travelling. If you both want it, you’ll make it happen. |
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"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"
This is very true. The dynamic changes as soon as the idea of meeting is on the table! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"
This is just the way it always seems to go, yes.
I struggle to find anyone local who could hold the same level of interest, from both sides.
I guess there’s a factor of wanting what you can’t have?
Also, both of you know it’s never going to go anywhere if you live a large distance apart so more happy to chat. If you’re closer there’s always a case of ‘ it could so I might keep my guard up.’
But maybe I’m over analysing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think the conversation can be easier if they are far away. It takes the pressure off and you get to know each other without the elephant in the room. If you know what I mean"
I think this pretty much hits the nail on the head!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, both of you know it’s never going to go anywhere if you live a large distance apart so more happy to chat. If you’re closer there’s always a case of ‘ it could so I might keep my guard up.’
But maybe I’m over analysing "
Totally agree ... I do exactly this which is how i end up in so many sticky situations and driving so far  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite often a lot of the people I get chatting to, get on really well with and with similar interest always seem to be far away...anyone else find this?"
Yes...constantly |
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so just used to it! 
