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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good evening all. Does anyone have any great first message tips? I’ve tried loads of different things, proper intro, Risque intro, formal intro. People who I think I might click with.
Ladies, have you had anyone’s so good you just had to reply...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no one size fits all answer.
One person my think your message is great, another may think it's shit.
Be polite, no penis in the first message, definitely a face. Read the profile, address both if it's couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read their profile, try and get a gauge of what they’re like (do they use humour, do they have specific requests or interest). Ask them interesting questions (not how are you, or what are you in to).
And if you try that and they don’t reply, well then it wasn’t meant to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All of the above (apart sorry the obvious sarcasm)
Spark someone's mind.
Open a discussion, be interesting.
Rem_mber the first thing most people will do is read your profile."
women can read......... well i never  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always look at a profile before I even open their message. If nothing appeals then it's unlikely they can sway me in a message. "
I do exactly the same. Then I read the message if they seem ok  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Each of the first messages that have gone on to be my best meets started with literary references and discussion. I’m a sucker for a bibliophile. "
Thanks for the tip, looks like I’ll be rifling through my bookcase! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've never been swayed by a first message alone. "
I can understand that, but to get a response it has to be something good and/or interesting right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read the profile, then read it again.
Be polite, and certainly no one liner message, and attach a face pic.
Don’t send a dick pic !!!
If to a couple address them both.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Read their profile, try and get a gauge of what they’re like (do they use humour, do they have specific requests or interest). Ask them interesting questions (not how are you, or what are you in to).
And if you try that and they don’t reply, well then it wasn’t meant to be."
I always read a profile before I send a message and try and make it relate, but doesn’t seem to get anywhere most of the time. I’m not the kind of person to copy paste and message. Must just be me! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All of the above (apart sorry the obvious sarcasm)
Spark someone's mind.
Open a discussion, be interesting.
Rem_mber the first thing most people will do is read your profile."
Thank you. Looks like I need to do some work on my profile then, it’s pretty bare |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always look at a profile before I even open their message. If nothing appeals then it's unlikely they can sway me in a message. "
Yep, sounds like I need to work on my profile!
Thank you |
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"Each of the first messages that have gone on to be my best meets started with literary references and discussion. I’m a sucker for a bibliophile. "
This and the odd humerous one goes down well too, no knock knock jokes lok just a light hearted message that shows some personality goes a long way, V |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Read the profile, then read it again.
Be polite, and certainly no one liner message, and attach a face pic.
Don’t send a dick pic !!!
If to a couple address them both.
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I always send a face picture, never a dick pic. What sort of things grabs both of your attentions then? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Each of the first messages that have gone on to be my best meets started with literary references and discussion. I’m a sucker for a bibliophile.
This and the odd humerous one goes down well too, no knock knock jokes lok just a light hearted message that shows some personality goes a long way, V "
Thank you. Long gone are my one liners anyway, not that kind of site I think! Will try a more light hearted approach next |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
As others have said before you even consider what a good first message is (and reality is there is no correct answer that will work every time) you should consider whether your profile is up to scratch because if it's not then you could send the most perfectly worded message and still get nowhere.
Also rem_mber there are other ways to get to know people beyond just sending messages cold to them - the forums/chat rooms are one way, group socials and clubs another |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As others have said before you even consider what a good first message is (and reality is there is no correct answer that will work every time) you should consider whether your profile is up to scratch because if it's not then you could send the most perfectly worded message and still get nowhere.
Also rem_mber there are other ways to get to know people beyond just sending messages cold to them - the forums/chat rooms are one way, group socials and clubs another "
Thank you, that’s a really good tip  |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
Preston |
"All of the above (apart sorry the obvious sarcasm)
Spark someone's mind.
Open a discussion, be interesting.
Rem_mber the first thing most people will do is read your profile.
Thank you. Looks like I need to do some work on my profile then, it’s pretty bare"
I like to learn something from a profile and to be intrigued and have my interest piqued. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course the back is prime massage space, but focus on the neck and head which are highly sensitive areas and feel absolutely great!!! Behind the ears too... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Of course the back is prime massage space, but focus on the neck and head which are highly sensitive areas and feel absolutely great!!! Behind the ears too..."
What?? |
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