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over a year ago
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Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers   |
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over a year ago
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"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers "
Not that Im meeting obvs |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers
Not that Im meeting obvs"
Aww that's a shame  was excited for a moment  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers
Not that Im meeting obvs
Aww that's a shame was excited for a moment "
Will you make me run |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And there was me thinking this thread was going to be about Bradley Walsh's TV show
Same here. But now I'm disappointed and have no advice to offer Me too ..I was gonna confess my dying love for the Vixen "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"And there was me thinking this thread was going to be about Bradley Walsh's TV show
Same here. But now I'm disappointed and have no advice to offer "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I don't see it as a chase or a case of being too keen or too difficult - more of finding likeminded people who are on my wavelength and everything falling into place naturally and over time as connections and chemistry are built rather than it being "forced" in some way.
As for Bradley Walsh look up Fanny Schmeller on YouTube and dare not to laugh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't see it as a chase or a case of being too keen or too difficult - more of finding likeminded people who are on my wavelength and everything falling into place naturally and over time as connections and chemistry are built rather than it being "forced" in some way.
As for Bradley Walsh look up Fanny Schmeller on YouTube and dare not to laugh "
Now see thats the approach I go for, but sometimes somewhere along the way it just doesnt seem enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers "
Typically I’ll message (not often to be fair as I can’t be overly arsed!). If a dialogue opens up that’s great. Will chat away quite the thing. If that stops or no reply then I’ll take that as not interested anymore, block and move on. I like the chase as much as the next person but certainly not grovelling for any response/ attention. Shit to be getting on with ‘n’ all that.
I think if you’re interested you’d know pretty quickly after the first few messages. Make that clear and step up a gear. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It depends I suppose.
If someone makes the chase fun it's all good but if it becomes a chore, I'm out."
What makes it a chore for you. As some of the things I would have thought of as being tiresome are sometimes the secret sort of hooks for a person.
Guess it all down to the individual at the end of the day as everything.  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I don't see it as a chase or a case of being too keen or too difficult - more of finding likeminded people who are on my wavelength and everything falling into place naturally and over time as connections and chemistry are built rather than it being "forced" in some way.
As for Bradley Walsh look up Fanny Schmeller on YouTube and dare not to laugh
Now see thats the approach I go for, but sometimes somewhere along the way it just doesnt seem enough. "
I kind of see it as if I have to chase, and almost persuade, is it the right thing to do....
.....but if you insist I'll get my running shoes on |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers
Not that Im meeting obvs
Aww that's a shame was excited for a moment
Will you make me run "
I like a good chase |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends I suppose.
If someone makes the chase fun it's all good but if it becomes a chore, I'm out.
What makes it a chore for you. As some of the things I would have thought of as being tiresome are sometimes the secret sort of hooks for a person.
Guess it all down to the individual at the end of the day as everything. "
Her saying she really wants to meet but doesn't have time but then receives like 10 veris in the meantime. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find when the chase is over and you've got the person you want all the appeal is gone.
I have no idea of the psychology behind it though "
It is a weird one I agree |
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"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers "
I dont chase x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers
Typically I’ll message (not often to be fair as I can’t be overly arsed!). If a dialogue opens up that’s great. Will chat away quite the thing. If that stops or no reply then I’ll take that as not interested anymore, block and move on. I like the chase as much as the next person but certainly not grovelling for any response/ attention. Shit to be getting on with ‘n’ all that.
I think if you’re interested you’d know pretty quickly after the first few messages. Make that clear and step up a gear. "
A sensible approach |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I don't like game playing and I dislike being made to feel like I'm chasing a person. For me, the connection has to be mutual and I need to know that the person wants to be with me. If they're playing coy or hard to get, it gets very old, very fast for me.
The belief that men should be the aggressors or do the chasing is very outdated. I like women who know what they want and aren't afraid to say. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't like game playing and I dislike being made to feel like I'm chasing a person. For me, the connection has to be mutual and I need to know that the person wants to be with me. If they're playing coy or hard to get, it gets very old, very fast for me.
The belief that men should be the aggressors or do the chasing is very outdated. I like women who know what they want and aren't afraid to say. "
I totally get that yes. How about if it is the woman that is totally there and present with all their thoughts an actions but it is the man who considers them suddenly too much there for them and they havnt had to work for them. What does the woman do?. Apart from realise they are obviously not the one for them really and move on.
All this is for a friend of course not me |
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"It depends I suppose.
If someone makes the chase fun it's all good but if it becomes a chore, I'm out.
What makes it a chore for you. As some of the things I would have thought of as being tiresome are sometimes the secret sort of hooks for a person.
Guess it all down to the individual at the end of the day as everything. Her saying she really wants to meet but doesn't have time but then receives like 10 veris in the meantime."
But she may have already had those meets in the pipeline before starting to talk to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Gave up chasing. Gave up games.
If someone wants to spend time with me and me with them what's the point in playing all those games anyway.
Life it's for sharing enjoying and living, the games if you play them usually end up with one winner and one loser. That's the nature of games.
Why play anothers game, just live your life and if we are ever lucky enough to find those that want to share a part of it then the games really are completely pointless.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've never liked chasing, it feels too much like pestering. There is either a spark or there isn't. Of course there are those that like to be chased with no intention of being caught.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Life it's really just too precious to waste on the gamers the players and those whose only interest is their own pleasure irrespective of their impact on others lives....
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By (user no longer on site)
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I will answer more seriously now. I’ve never really enjoyed chasing. The game playing isn’t something I’ve wanted to engage in. The couple of occasions I did get caught up, it was emotionally exhausting and never led to anything. I prefer authentic communication. If it takes too much effort I will lose interest very quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't like game playing and I dislike being made to feel like I'm chasing a person. For me, the connection has to be mutual and I need to know that the person wants to be with me. If they're playing coy or hard to get, it gets very old, very fast for me.
The belief that men should be the aggressors or do the chasing is very outdated. I like women who know what they want and aren't afraid to say.
I totally get that yes. How about if it is the woman that is totally there and present with all their thoughts an actions but it is the man who considers them suddenly too much there for them and they havnt had to work for them. What does the woman do?. Apart from realise they are obviously not the one for them really and move on.
All this is for a friend of course not me "
Said no Man ever!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't like game playing and I dislike being made to feel like I'm chasing a person. For me, the connection has to be mutual and I need to know that the person wants to be with me. If they're playing coy or hard to get, it gets very old, very fast for me.
The belief that men should be the aggressors or do the chasing is very outdated. I like women who know what they want and aren't afraid to say.
I totally get that yes. How about if it is the woman that is totally there and present with all their thoughts an actions but it is the man who considers them suddenly too much there for them and they havnt had to work for them. What does the woman do?. Apart from realise they are obviously not the one for them really and move on.
All this is for a friend of course not me "
I'm bemused by the concept of having to work for them...that's not mutual not a relationship not even worth wasting your life over. If you have to work for them...what's the point.
A lesson I learned through long painful experience of trying to "work" for a girl I loved, always being there for her, and wanting friendship and more, strange to say on here, but even mutual love.
It never got close to ever working because it was just one way traffic. One of us had to change. I still love her, but she.... |
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I love the chase, but there’s a massive difference between being playfully hard to get and just being aloof!
Finally meeting is incredibly rewarding - especially if they carry on with the “catch me if you can” routine.
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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago
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"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers "
For me personally, I don’t like to chase I feel usually it means they are just not that into you. And I for one don’t want to be annoying or considered a pest.
The chase ultimately is a turn off for me so I just leave it alone. On here though ALOT of guys don’t take no or no reply as an answer  |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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Ugh I hate the idea of chasing someone, and certainly wouldn't want to be chased. I'm quite up front when I like someone though so maybe they'd like a bit more chase, who knows! And if I get the impression somebody's just not that into it, or are playing hard to get, it makes me lose interest rather than want to pursue them. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I like the feeling of mutual desire - like we're both equally as invested in whatever it is we're doing. As a woman, I don't mind being the one who instigates sorting out dates, messaging first etc; I think I'm too old to play daft games and wait for the man to message first etc. If I want to interact with someone, I do so. If I start feeling like it's one sided, I start to lose interest quite quickly.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ugh I hate the idea of chasing someone, and certainly wouldn't want to be chased. I'm quite up front when I like someone though so maybe they'd like a bit more chase, who knows! And if I get the impression somebody's just not that into it, or are playing hard to get, it makes me lose interest rather than want to pursue them. "
Exactly this! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ugh I hate the idea of chasing someone, and certainly wouldn't want to be chased. I'm quite up front when I like someone though so maybe they'd like a bit more chase, who knows! And if I get the impression somebody's just not that into it, or are playing hard to get, it makes me lose interest rather than want to pursue them. "
I think I am a bit too obvious too. Im already sat there smiling in the net when they cast it |
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"I don't like game playing and I dislike being made to feel like I'm chasing a person. For me, the connection has to be mutual and I need to know that the person wants to be with me. If they're playing coy or hard to get, it gets very old, very fast for me.
The belief that men should be the aggressors or do the chasing is very outdated. I like women who know what they want and aren't afraid to say.
I totally get that yes. How about if it is the woman that is totally there and present with all their thoughts an actions but it is the man who considers them suddenly too much there for them and they havnt had to work for them. What does the woman do?. Apart from realise they are obviously not the one for them really and move on.
All this is for a friend of course not me
Said no Man ever!! "
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"I don't like game playing and I dislike being made to feel like I'm chasing a person. For me, the connection has to be mutual and I need to know that the person wants to be with me. If they're playing coy or hard to get, it gets very old, very fast for me.
The belief that men should be the aggressors or do the chasing is very outdated. I like women who know what they want and aren't afraid to say.
I totally get that yes. How about if it is the woman that is totally there and present with all their thoughts an actions but it is the man who considers them suddenly too much there for them and they havnt had to work for them. What does the woman do?. Apart from realise they are obviously not the one for them really and move on.
All this is for a friend of course not me
I'm bemused by the concept of having to work for them...that's not mutual not a relationship not even worth wasting your life over. If you have to work for them...what's the point.
A lesson I learned through long painful experience of trying to "work" for a girl I loved, always being there for her, and wanting friendship and more, strange to say on here, but even mutual love.
It never got close to ever working because it was just one way traffic. One of us had to change. I still love her, but she.... "
You had a lucky escape by the sound of it. Unrequited love is a bastatd and will drain your soul. |
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"It depends I suppose.
If someone makes the chase fun it's all good but if it becomes a chore, I'm out.
What makes it a chore for you. As some of the things I would have thought of as being tiresome are sometimes the secret sort of hooks for a person.
Guess it all down to the individual at the end of the day as everything. Her saying she really wants to meet but doesn't have time but then receives like 10 veris in the meantime.
But she may have already had those meets in the pipeline before starting to talk to you "
This was over a 18 month period. |
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"I've never liked chasing, it feels too much like pestering. There is either a spark or there isn't. Of course there are those that like to be chased with no intention of being caught.."
Can ever someone be there too much though and change that spark to more of an acceptance of someone who is always going to be there but not to ignite your fires. |
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It’s not a chase for me, find that strange
It’s a more a mutual desire that builds naturally, you both know from the conversation where it is going to lead. A sort of chase can take place with mutual teasing, all building up to when you do meet. |
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I think ive probably deviated from my own chain of thought. For those or any that do secretly or otherwise like the chase, what is it that you need from it. Or do we just not know.
Sorry even Im bored of the question now. Xx |
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"I think ive probably deviated from my own chain of thought. For those or any that do secretly or otherwise like the chase, what is it that you need from it. Or do we just not know.
Sorry even Im bored of the question now. Xx"
I think it's wanting something you can't quite have it always becomes more desirable then xx |
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"Pondering on a chat I am having. Which bit of this is the bit that appeals for those who like to do the chasing?
When does someone make themselves to easy to catch, or when do you know it is too much effort. Or how much do you want to be liked before it becomes too much to make you run.
Yes, yes I know its all game playing and we don't play games here.(pre empting that reply) But men like to chase it seems despite what they say. What speed do I set my jog too to hook you fussy buggers "
Men like to chase but equally women like to feel wanted and desired.... |
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