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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I absolutely love spending Christmas Day alone.
This year, I’m going to have to go to my parents.
It will be fine but I’d prefer to spend it alone."
Why do you HAVE to go to theirs? |
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over a year ago
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
" i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot "
Whereabouts? Any ideas yet? I'd do that if I could afford it. I've got my sons either side of xmas day though, so not all bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't be alone as such But my children will be with their dad most of Christmas week in another city. I make sure I stay super busy and I know that they're happy where they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
Whereabouts? Any ideas yet? I'd do that if I could afford it. I've got my sons either side of xmas day though, so not all bad." thinking canaries |
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"I won't be alone as such But my children will be with their dad most of Christmas week in another city. I make sure I stay super busy and I know that they're happy where they are. "
I usually get to see mine on xmas day, but not this year. A whole week would break me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
Whereabouts? Any ideas yet? I'd do that if I could afford it. I've got my sons either side of xmas day though, so not all bad.thinking canaries "
Tropical side of Tenerife is nice. Surf too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yeah me. I am nightshift 24th, 25th and 26th so will mostly be sleeping Xmas away. Family live too far away to pop in for a quick visit so its just me and the dogs this year."
ooooh ouch. Hope you're getting decent money for that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
Whereabouts? Any ideas yet? I'd do that if I could afford it. I've got my sons either side of xmas day though, so not all bad.thinking canaries
Tropical side of Tenerife is nice. Surf too!" ive not done gran canaria so I'm drawn to that but will look for a late deal eith Gran Canaria or Lanzarote but ive been before at Christmas and weathers great |
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My lad will be with his dad this year 23-26, so we will have Christmas on 27 or 28 when he comes home.
Third time for me, it does get a bit easier but I will still ‘zone out’ come evening of 24 and re-emerge on 26 |
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot "
So am I but the cost is hideous at Christmas! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My lad will be with his dad this year 23-26, so we will have Christmas on 27 or 28 when he comes home.
Third time for me, it does get a bit easier but I will still ‘zone out’ come evening of 24 and re-emerge on 26 " hey come with me 3 nights will do me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My lad will be with his dad this year 23-26, so we will have Christmas on 27 or 28 when he comes home.
Third time for me, it does get a bit easier but I will still ‘zone out’ come evening of 24 and re-emerge on 26 "
I'm the same. 3yrs and I just try and pretend it's not happening |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
So am I but the cost is hideous at Christmas!" you can come too lets have a fab group 3 night holiday to the sun, i can obviously do longer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah me. I am nightshift 24th, 25th and 26th so will mostly be sleeping Xmas away. Family live too far away to pop in for a quick visit so its just me and the dogs this year."
I am sure you can find soneone to spend some time with. If you wanted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't be alone as such But my children will be with their dad most of Christmas week in another city. I make sure I stay super busy and I know that they're happy where they are.
I usually get to see mine on xmas day, but not this year. A whole week would break me."
I'm not remotely sentimental, it's just a day. Its good their Dad is having them so long for a change. We'll just have a special day when they get back. |
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"My lad will be with his dad this year 23-26, so we will have Christmas on 27 or 28 when he comes home.
Third time for me, it does get a bit easier but I will still ‘zone out’ come evening of 24 and re-emerge on 26
I'm the same. 3yrs and I just try and pretend it's not happening "
All you can do..... here phone off (family know not up call now) curry in the fridge, boxset on already for when I emerge from the Smirnoff emotion zone out, only time I drink at home |
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Us singletons tend to be abandoned at this time of year whilst everyone does the ‘family’ thing.
Don’t get me wrong, I will be spending some of it with my family but I find Christmas hard work and depressing. I just can’t get into at all - even if I do make the effort it tends to be for everyone else’s benefit. My mother would be mortified if she knew how I really felt. She’s already in ‘Deck the halls’ mode ....
I’m always pleased when it’s over but at least I can kick my heels for 3 weeks whilst on holiday. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
So am I but the cost is hideous at Christmas!" you can afford it i imagine? |
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
So am I but the cost is hideous at Christmas!you can afford it i imagine? "
I begrudge paying for two almost when I’m going alone - single supplements |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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I've got to the stage that being alone over Christmas doesn't really bother me.
I use to think that going abroad was the answer but I now wonder if being a solo traveller in a hotel with a whole load of couples/families is not worse than being home alone. At least at home I can pick and choose what festive activities I'm exposed to.
I guess that it is about finding a coping strategy that works for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
So am I but the cost is hideous at Christmas!you can afford it i imagine?
I begrudge paying for two almost when I’m going alone - single supplements " I'm coming you won't be alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I absolutely love spending Christmas Day alone.
This year, I’m going to have to go to my parents.
It will be fine but I’d prefer to spend it alone.
Why do you HAVE to go to theirs?"
Because they’ll be on their own, my brother and sister are spending it with in-laws this year, because they want me to, and because they’re in their 80’s and it could be their last Christmas.
I’ll drink all their liqueurs, eat all their food, get given loads of food and drink to take home and at least I won’t have to cook |
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
So am I but the cost is hideous at Christmas!you can afford it i imagine?
I begrudge paying for two almost when I’m going alone - single supplements I'm coming you won't be alone "
I’m not paying for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
i will be alone this year but by choice really so I'm looking to go away somewhere hot
So am I but the cost is hideous at Christmas!you can afford it i imagine?
I begrudge paying for two almost when I’m going alone - single supplements I'm coming you won't be alone
I’m not paying for you " go on go on go on |
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It’s my first Christmas alone this year and I’m genuinely looking forward to it. Usually Christmas involves a lot of travel, arguments and overindulgence which drains me. So this year I’m hiding at home on my tod |
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"It’s my first Christmas alone this year and I’m genuinely looking forward to it. Usually Christmas involves a lot of travel, arguments and overindulgence which drains me. So this year I’m hiding at home on my tod "
Well.. I was going to ask if you fancied some company |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Iv spent many a Christmas by myself.
I always find Christmas very difficult but this year is going to be difficult. "
Why this year and how come you're smiling if it's so difficult? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im soooooo looking forwards to having Christmas Day off work this year!! I've worked it for the last 12 years
It will be lovely to spend a whole christmas day with my mum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll be alone by choice. I see my girlfriend in the morning, we'll do parkrun and I'll obviously see people there but after that I'll be alone and am quite happy spending it that way. Boxing day I'll be working from home for a double whammy of overtime and time in lieu which again I'm more than happy with with. Back to normal on the 27th, but new year I'll hopefully be done explaining to people how I spent Christmas and that it's okay with me! |
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"It’s my first Christmas alone this year and I’m genuinely looking forward to it. Usually Christmas involves a lot of travel, arguments and overindulgence which drains me. So this year I’m hiding at home on my tod
Well.. I was going to ask if you fancied some company "
OP, you're very welcome to join me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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7th year for me.. I have 2 sons with learning disabilities who I care full time for and get no conversation out of..they'd not notice it was christmas if I didnt tell them, so yep the festive season doesnt fill me with joy unfortunately! X |
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"7th year for me.. I have 2 sons with learning disabilities who I care full time for and get no conversation out of..they'd not notice it was christmas if I didnt tell them, so yep the festive season doesnt fill me with joy unfortunately! X"
My heart goes out to you and your boys x |
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"7th year for me.. I have 2 sons with learning disabilities who I care full time for and get no conversation out of..they'd not notice it was christmas if I didnt tell them, so yep the festive season doesnt fill me with joy unfortunately! X
My heart goes out to you and your boys x"
Thanks gorgeous.. I do my best because they're worth it... but sometimes I wonder why I bother..
Lol x |
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"Yeah me. I am nightshift 24th, 25th and 26th so will mostly be sleeping Xmas away. Family live too far away to pop in for a quick visit so its just me and the dogs this year.
ooooh ouch. Hope you're getting decent money for that?"
Money is irrelavant. I would rather be off at Xmas. |
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It will be my first Christmas alone. Family are far away and miserable at Christmas so I’ve decided to avoid them this year. Plenty of friends have invited me to their Christmas but I’d rather be alone. I’m looking forward to it. I have the food, alcohol, books and dvds planned already. |
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"Yeah me. I am nightshift 24th, 25th and 26th so will mostly be sleeping Xmas away. Family live too far away to pop in for a quick visit so its just me and the dogs this year.
I am sure you can find soneone to spend some time with. If you wanted."
Not willing to hook up with some stranger just cos its Xmas. |
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"7th year for me.. I have 2 sons with learning disabilities who I care full time for and get no conversation out of..they'd not notice it was christmas if I didnt tell them, so yep the festive season doesnt fill me with joy unfortunately! X"
Thats sad and must be real tough. Sending you a big hug as you are an angel.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not all of us are lucky enough to have friends or family to spend Christmas with.
Anyone else in that position this year?
First time alone? Or are you a seasoned solitary festive veteran now?
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First timer though not too bothered. Ive seen the ugly/cruel side of humanity so think the most of them are fucking hypocrites |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"7th year for me.. I have 2 sons with learning disabilities who I care full time for and get no conversation out of..they'd not notice it was christmas if I didnt tell them, so yep the festive season doesnt fill me with joy unfortunately! X
Thats sad and must be real tough. Sending you a big hug as you are an angel.x"
Thankyou! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On my own this year, normally I'd pick my kids up on Christmas day evening but this year, owing to transport I won't see them until after boxing day.
I'll just batten down for the days "
Awww thats not nice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"7th year for me.. I have 2 sons with learning disabilities who I care full time for and get no conversation out of..they'd not notice it was christmas if I didnt tell them, so yep the festive season doesnt fill me with joy unfortunately! X
My heart goes out to you and your boys x
Thanks gorgeous.. I do my best because they're worth it... but sometimes I wonder why I bother..
Lol x"
Because you're a devoted mother who loves her sons?
Oooh gorgeous eh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Iv spent many a Christmas by myself.
I always find Christmas very difficult but this year is going to be difficult.
Why this year and how come you're smiling if it's so difficult? "
Of I meant to say different.
I don't really have a family and spent almost every Christmas from the age of 16 on my own.
But I'm with an awesome man and we are going to have the best Christmas ever. |
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"It’s my first Christmas alone this year and I’m genuinely looking forward to it. Usually Christmas involves a lot of travel, arguments and overindulgence which drains me. So this year I’m hiding at home on my tod " Like you, I will be alone at Christmas. Daughter is with her mother and folks are away. I do love Christmas though, so will be a little weird. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I won't be lonely at Christmas, but I will be going to my mums for 3 days. However, I cannot go as myself as my mum does not accept me as trans. I have to go as male, and that gives me so much dysphoria. Wish me luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I won't be lonely at Christmas, but I will be going to my mums for 3 days. However, I cannot go as myself as my mum does not accept me as trans. I have to go as male, and that gives me so much dysphoria. Wish me luck. "
Stay strong and being yourself starts and ends in your head. No one can take that away from you |
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
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This is my first ever Christmas alone. My kids are with their dad for 10 days until 28th Dec. my parents are going on holiday and other family are away, or working.
I'm not particularly bothered, although it has completely dampened my spirit for decorating the house and indulging in Christmas baking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Alone here too, Christmas and New Year by choice.
I've never been a fan of it. Too much greed, over indulgence, preparation and stress.
I've been promising myself to opt out for years, and now my children are all grown and have partners, I feel I can finally do it.
I've apologised in advance to them for my selfishness and they have been brilliant. |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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I've always invited friends of family who would otherwise be alone to mine for christmas dinner!!
Never been lonely at Christmas but I have worked a few Christmas's in care. Which can be quite lonely. |
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First Christmas alone and not sure how I feel about it. Although this is a very attractive thought
"Any W/E lonely guys are welcome to cum to ours for X-mas & enjoy our hospitality as long as u can satisfy Stacey over night." |
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