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Because we only know our intentions unfortunately though we also get our perceived intentions and actual intentions muddled up, whereas we can only judge others by their actions because we may never know their intentions, and if we do we only have their word on it! |
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"Why do we judge ourselves by our intentions but judge others by their actions?  "
Same reason the media has gone binary some humans just love a false dichotomy
I assess my self on a multitude of attributes, actions, intentions , reasoning understanding , attitude
And I as many others do do the same when working out other humans
But for the statistical record I regard myself usually upon actions/results not my intentions |
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"Because we only know our intentions unfortunately though we also get our perceived intentions and actual intentions muddled up, whereas we can only judge others by their actions because we may never know their intentions, and if we do we only have their word on it! "
I agree with this
And I’m too lazy to bother to paraphrase it and pretend it was my clever answer all along |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Because we only know our intentions unfortunately though we also get our perceived intentions and actual intentions muddled up, whereas we can only judge others by their actions because we may never know their intentions, and if we do we only have their word on it! "
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"Because we only know our intentions unfortunately though we also get our perceived intentions and actual intentions muddled up, whereas we can only judge others by their actions because we may never know their intentions, and if we do we only have their word on it!
I agree with this
And I’m too lazy to bother to paraphrase it and pretend it was my clever answer all along "
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"Because we only know our intentions unfortunately though we also get our perceived intentions and actual intentions muddled up, whereas we can only judge others by their actions because we may never know their intentions, and if we do we only have their word on it! "
i disagree
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"Because we only know our intentions unfortunately though we also get our perceived intentions and actual intentions muddled up, whereas we can only judge others by their actions because we may never know their intentions, and if we do we only have their word on it! i disagree "
Why do you disagree WAF? |
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"Because we only know our intentions unfortunately though we also get our perceived intentions and actual intentions muddled up, whereas we can only judge others by their actions because we may never know their intentions, and if we do we only have their word on it! i disagree
Why do you disagree WAF? "
Just for arguements sake he always does lol just smile and nod boys  |
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"We don't judge ourselves or others....life's more relaxed that way.
Dont we? or are you saying we shouldn't be? we all judge, we look at a person and think this or that, then we read a profile and think maybe or maybe not then we meet them and think oh no   "
Exactly.....it's human nature, ever fabbed a pic on here? Well that's judging...... |
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Judging is pointless, unless you can make a change then "it is what it is", so better to simply react rather than wasting emotion on judgement..... .....and it's easy to change yourself than others and in doing that you'll often achieve both.....
Stay happy fella |
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"Judging is pointless, unless you can make a change then "it is what it is", so better to simply react rather than wasting emotion on judgement..... .....and it's easy to change yourself than others and in doing that you'll often achieve both.....
Stay happy fella "
Oh give me strength, nip your on another thread judging who to put on your hot list....cmon...let's not give the pc answer eh... |
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I think the word judge is what is causing the problem here. People get offended by it but if you are honest we all do it. It’s just the degrees that differs really...
Using judgement to choose if someone is who they say they are and making choices based on actions can be a sound thing.
Making sweeping judgements purely based on people being different that’s a very different beast.
Talk at the end of the day is cheap. I can only go on what people do and if that is in complete contradiction to what they say all the time then that in itself tells me a lot. |
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By *AABMan
over a year ago
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"We don't judge ourselves or others....life's more relaxed that way.
Dont we? or are you saying we shouldn't be? we all judge, we look at a person and think this or that, then we read a profile and think maybe or maybe not then we meet them and think oh no
Exactly.....it's human nature, ever fabbed a pic on here? Well that's judging......"
No not really. I fab a picture because I appreciate the beauty, the cheekiness, the effort made, or eroticism of it. |
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"We don't judge ourselves or others....life's more relaxed that way.
Dont we? or are you saying we shouldn't be? we all judge, we look at a person and think this or that, then we read a profile and think maybe or maybe not then we meet them and think oh no
Exactly.....it's human nature, ever fabbed a pic on here? Well that's judging......
No not really. I fab a picture because I appreciate the beauty, the cheekiness, the effort made, or eroticism of it."
I'm tending to agree with a post above, the word "judge" can be taken more ways than one... |
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Because we know our intentions or at least we like to think we do. I suspect many of us claim to even ourselves that the intent behind lots of our actions is honourable when sometimes it's not.
We can only infer other people's intentions from their actions unless they explain.
This doesn't take into account those of us who continue to believe what people say rather than what they do which leads me to think that your op isn't 100% correct. |
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"We don't judge ourselves or others....life's more relaxed that way.
Dont we? or are you saying we shouldn't be? we all judge, we look at a person and think this or that, then we read a profile and think maybe or maybe not then we meet them and think oh no
Exactly.....it's human nature, ever fabbed a pic on here? Well that's judging......
No not really. I fab a picture because I appreciate the beauty, the cheekiness, the effort made, or eroticism of it."
Then you're judging. Positively I grant you but you're making a judgement |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We don't judge ourselves or others....life's more relaxed that way.
Dont we? or are you saying we shouldn't be? we all judge, we look at a person and think this or that, then we read a profile and think maybe or maybe not then we meet them and think oh no "
Mate, you are hilarious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We don't judge ourselves or others....life's more relaxed that way.
Dont we? or are you saying we shouldn't be? we all judge, we look at a person and think this or that, then we read a profile and think maybe or maybe not then we meet them and think oh no
Exactly.....it's human nature, ever fabbed a pic on here? Well that's judging......
No not really. I fab a picture because I appreciate the beauty, the cheekiness, the effort made, or eroticism of it."
You could call this judgement, if you changed the text to
"I fab a picture because I have judged to to be beautiful, cheeky, good effort and/or erotic" ... everyone judges though some prefer to use different words to describe it! Nothing wrong with it in the slightest but the OP asked a totally different question! |
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"Judging is pointless, unless you can make a change then "it is what it is", so better to simply react rather than wasting emotion on judgement..... .....and it's easy to change yourself than others and in doing that you'll often achieve both.....
Stay happy fella
Oh give me strength, nip your on another thread judging who to put on your hot list....cmon...let's not give the pc answer eh..."
We can all aspire for inner peace and greatness can't we, rather than give up? And hotlist is less judgment more I fancy you and haven't had the courage to friend you, or you concern me because you've wronged me, for me anyway, it's a fab survival tool, I don't waste energy seething or comparing, I focus on the positives....   |
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"Judging is pointless, unless you can make a change then "it is what it is", so better to simply react rather than wasting emotion on judgement..... .....and it's easy to change yourself than others and in doing that you'll often achieve both.....
Stay happy fella
Oh give me strength, nip your on another thread judging who to put on your hot list....cmon...let's not give the pc answer eh...
We can all aspire for inner peace and greatness can't we, rather than give up? And hotlist is less judgment more I fancy you and haven't had the courage to friend you, or you concern me because you've wronged me, for me anyway, it's a fab survival tool, I don't waste energy seething or comparing, I focus on the positives.... "
Ok so I see more than one gorgeous fabber on there, I'm assuming your not hotlisting them all? Judging no? |
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"Judging is pointless, unless you can make a change then "it is what it is", so better to simply react rather than wasting emotion on judgement..... .....and it's easy to change yourself than others and in doing that you'll often achieve both.....
Stay happy fella
Oh give me strength, nip your on another thread judging who to put on your hot list....cmon...let's not give the pc answer eh...
We can all aspire for inner peace and greatness can't we, rather than give up? And hotlist is less judgment more I fancy you and haven't had the courage to friend you, or you concern me because you've wronged me, for me anyway, it's a fab survival tool, I don't waste energy seething or comparing, I focus on the positives....
Ok so I see more than one gorgeous fabber on there, I'm assuming your not hotlisting them all? Judging no? "
There's judging and there's judging, the same way as there's a friendly look and an aggressive "I'm gonna kill you" look, right? Are you following me? One is healthy, other is not....
Now look at me like I'm a friend and be nice....! |
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"Judging is pointless, unless you can make a change then "it is what it is", so better to simply react rather than wasting emotion on judgement..... .....and it's easy to change yourself than others and in doing that you'll often achieve both.....
Stay happy fella
Oh give me strength, nip your on another thread judging who to put on your hot list....cmon...let's not give the pc answer eh...
We can all aspire for inner peace and greatness can't we, rather than give up? And hotlist is less judgment more I fancy you and haven't had the courage to friend you, or you concern me because you've wronged me, for me anyway, it's a fab survival tool, I don't waste energy seething or comparing, I focus on the positives....
Ok so I see more than one gorgeous fabber on there, I'm assuming your not hotlisting them all? Judging no?
There's judging and there's judging, the same way as there's a friendly look and an aggressive "I'm gonna kill you" look, right? Are you following me? One is healthy, other is not....
Now look at me like I'm a friend and be nice....! "
And tell me I'm pretty.... |
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"Judging is pointless, unless you can make a change then "it is what it is", so better to simply react rather than wasting emotion on judgement..... .....and it's easy to change yourself than others and in doing that you'll often achieve both.....
Stay happy fella
Oh give me strength, nip your on another thread judging who to put on your hot list....cmon...let's not give the pc answer eh...
We can all aspire for inner peace and greatness can't we, rather than give up? And hotlist is less judgment more I fancy you and haven't had the courage to friend you, or you concern me because you've wronged me, for me anyway, it's a fab survival tool, I don't waste energy seething or comparing, I focus on the positives....
Ok so I see more than one gorgeous fabber on there, I'm assuming your not hotlisting them all? Judging no?
There's judging and there's judging, the same way as there's a friendly look and an aggressive "I'm gonna kill you" look, right? Are you following me? One is healthy, other is not....
Now look at me like I'm a friend and be nice....!
And tell me I'm pretty.... "
Your very pretty in my judgement......... |
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"Judging is pointless, unless you can make a change then "it is what it is", so better to simply react rather than wasting emotion on judgement..... .....and it's easy to change yourself than others and in doing that you'll often achieve both.....
Stay happy fella
Oh give me strength, nip your on another thread judging who to put on your hot list....cmon...let's not give the pc answer eh...
We can all aspire for inner peace and greatness can't we, rather than give up? And hotlist is less judgment more I fancy you and haven't had the courage to friend you, or you concern me because you've wronged me, for me anyway, it's a fab survival tool, I don't waste energy seething or comparing, I focus on the positives....
Ok so I see more than one gorgeous fabber on there, I'm assuming your not hotlisting them all? Judging no?
There's judging and there's judging, the same way as there's a friendly look and an aggressive "I'm gonna kill you" look, right? Are you following me? One is healthy, other is not....
Now look at me like I'm a friend and be nice....!
And tell me I'm pretty....
Your very pretty in my judgement......... "
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"I think the word judge is what is causing the problem here. People get offended by it but if you are honest we all do it. It’s just the degrees that differs really...
Using judgement to choose if someone is who they say they are and making choices based on actions can be a sound thing.
Making sweeping judgements purely based on people being different that’s a very different beast.
Talk at the end of the day is cheap. I can only go on what people do and if that is in complete contradiction to what they say all the time then that in itself tells me a lot. "
yes you hit the galvanised nail on the head 'honesty' how can anyone not judge another person on looks, deeds, opinions its human nature, I'm sorry i dont believe anyone who says they dont judge, even if its judging in a positive manner |
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There is judging and there is discerning.
We all have judgemental thoughts sometime, it’s what we do with those thoughts that counts.
Discernment is essential, we need to be able to do that.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is judging and there is discerning.
We all have judgemental thoughts sometime, it’s what we do with those thoughts that counts.
Discernment is essential, we need to be able to do that.
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yes lots don’t judge very well but ce la vie |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There is judging and there is discerning.
We all have judgemental thoughts sometime, it’s what we do with those thoughts that counts.
Discernment is essential, we need to be able to do that.
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"I think the word judge is what is causing the problem here. People get offended by it but if you are honest we all do it. It’s just the degrees that differs really...
Using judgement to choose if someone is who they say they are and making choices based on actions can be a sound thing.
Making sweeping judgements purely based on people being different that’s a very different beast.
Talk at the end of the day is cheap. I can only go on what people do and if that is in complete contradiction to what they say all the time then that in itself tells me a lot. "
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