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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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People who go to swingers clubs but have no intention at all of fucking anyone.
Should that be allowed? Surely it dilutes the pool of 'available people' and can also make it awkward if someone dares to ask them for a fuck. |
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We’ve been to clubs and only played with each other, just depends how the night goes and what kind of mood we’re in.
Even when it is just us, we enjoy the atmosphere, watching and being watched, would hate to think people would rather us stay home just because we didn’t want to play with anybody else that night. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"People who go to swingers clubs but have no intention at all of fucking anyone.
Should that be allowed? Surely it dilutes the pool of 'available people' and can also make it awkward if someone dares to ask them for a fuck. "
Of course it should be allowed. I had health issues that stopped me playing properly for a long while and I still went. If someone had told me I shouldn't be there I'd have told them to fuck off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely they’re welcomed by the exhibitionists?"
We didn't play at all the first time we went to a club. The second time, we played with each other.
To be fair, if play was compulsory, I would have never dared to go in the first place, so my guess is that clubs would lose a load of newbies.
And if it did, what else would become compulsory. What if you go and nobody catches your fancy? Would you have to play with them because its compulsory?
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Surely they’re welcomed by the exhibitionists?
We didn't play at all the first time we went to a club. The second time, we played with each other.
To be fair, if play was compulsory, I would have never dared to go in the first place, so my guess is that clubs would lose a load of newbies.
And if it did, what else would become compulsory. What if you go and nobody catches your fancy? Would you have to play with them because its compulsory?
N x"
And surely they’re welcomed by the exhibitionists too?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely they’re welcomed by the exhibitionists?
We didn't play at all the first time we went to a club. The second time, we played with each other.
To be fair, if play was compulsory, I would have never dared to go in the first place, so my guess is that clubs would lose a load of newbies.
And if it did, what else would become compulsory. What if you go and nobody catches your fancy? Would you have to play with them because its compulsory?
N x
And surely they’re welcomed by the exhibitionists too? "
Clearly! 
x N |
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"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
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We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex? |
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"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex?"
This is why I am popping my club cherry on a couples night, Its going to be overwhelming as it is  |
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"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex?"
I think that their expectation is on them and that you can't be responsible for someone else's night. |
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"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex?
This is why I am popping my club cherry on a couples night, Its going to be overwhelming as it is "
I love going to clubs. Just being in that non judgmental environment gets me extremely horny  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex?"
Some do. I don't like when clubs charge men a ridiculous amount to get in.  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex?"
Most people don't think like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex?
Some do. I don't like when clubs charge men a ridiculous amount to get in. "
Here here. How much is it to get in btw? |
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"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex?
Most people don't think like that. "
And those who do think like that don't enjoy themselves and/or are often spoken to by staff. |
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"I think it is fine.
As a single woman who goes to clubs I would hate to be pressured into having sex and would hate management to have the attitude of well that's what you're here for if there was an issue with someone.
We always worry that people pay a fair bit to get into clubs so do they "expect" to have sex?
Some do. I don't like when clubs charge men a ridiculous amount to get in. "
I don't like this either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't been to a club before, but if I did I'd like to go with no pressure to have sex and just see what it's all about.
I don't like the thought of having to fuck. There may be nobody who I fancy there or I probably wouldn't like it when I'm there. So no I think we should be free to do what we like. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To paraphrase one of your favourite sentence when it comes to sexual racial preference: 'I won't fuck people I am not attracted to' "
You have a sweet crush on me. I'm flattered. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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However saying that I do struggle to get my head around people who pay for gold membership here, who don’t meet, don’t message, don’t post pictures at all.
I mean I know everyone has a reason, but I don’t get it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To paraphrase one of your favourite sentence when it comes to sexual racial preference: 'I won't fuck people I am not attracted to'
You have a sweet crush on me. I'm flattered."
Sure I do but don't forget that I do fuck watermelons too x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To paraphrase one of your favourite sentence when it comes to sexual racial preference: 'I won't fuck people I am not attracted to'
You have a sweet crush on me. I'm flattered.
Sure I do but don't forget that I do fuck watermelons too x"
Watermelons are more attractive. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To paraphrase one of your favourite sentence when it comes to sexual racial preference: 'I won't fuck people I am not attracted to'
You have a sweet crush on me. I'm flattered.
Sure I do but don't forget that I do fuck watermelons too x
Watermelons are more attractive. X"
Depends on the state of your face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To paraphrase one of your favourite sentence when it comes to sexual racial preference: 'I won't fuck people I am not attracted to'
You have a sweet crush on me. I'm flattered.
Sure I do but don't forget that I do fuck watermelons too x
Watermelons are more attractive. X
Depends on the state of your face "
Camels prolapse based on facepic Friday. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To paraphrase one of your favourite sentence when it comes to sexual racial preference: 'I won't fuck people I am not attracted to'
You have a sweet crush on me. I'm flattered.
Sure I do but don't forget that I do fuck watermelons too x
Watermelons are more attractive. X
Depends on the state of your face
Camels prolapse based on facepic Friday."
Rosebuds always gave me hard on |
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Perfectly in the right place for those of us who like an audience. And to be fair we love to socialise so adds to the pool their even if we are not able to drag them away into a room with us. Anyway Mrs J is very good at corrupting people so you never know. |
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"Surely they’re welcomed by the exhibitionists?"
I think it is the frustration of a single female ...they want someone to fuck but couples are too busy with each other....tis the green eyed monster I suspect lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont see the issue, id not play with randoms but if i was there as a couple it purely to put on a show for others so id welcome being watched very much so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who go to swingers clubs but have no intention at all of fucking anyone.
Should that be allowed? Surely it dilutes the pool of 'available people' and can also make it awkward if someone dares to ask them for a fuck. "
I’m yet to go to a club that doesn’t say in their t&c’s that there is no pressure to play and no means no.
There will be plenty of other people there for you to try and get a fuck from.
Perhaps they’re new and not ready to go further. Perhaps they don’t fancy anyone that night. Perhaps they just don’t fancy you! There are loads of reasons why they aren’t playing. They have every right to be there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s comments like this that put me off even venturing to a club "
Exactly.
It’s ok; very few people think like the op. We were all new or had our reasons not to play at some point xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To paraphrase one of your favourite sentence when it comes to sexual racial preference: 'I won't fuck people I am not attracted to'
You have a sweet crush on me. I'm flattered.
Sure I do but don't forget that I do fuck watermelons too x
Watermelons are more attractive. X
Depends on the state of your face
Camels prolapse based on facepic Friday.
Rosebuds always gave me hard on "
youve moved on to twolips now  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s comments like this that put me off even venturing to a club
Exactly.
It’s ok; very few people think like the op. We were all new or had our reasons not to play at some point xx"
You should read the whole thread before assuming you know what I think mate. You are VERY wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s comments like this that put me off even venturing to a club
Exactly.
It’s ok; very few people think like the op. We were all new or had our reasons not to play at some point xx
You should read the whole thread before assuming you know what I think mate. You are VERY wrong. "
I did read the whole thread OP and I didn't notice you mention what you thought?
Maybe that's why the writer assumed they did from your original question that started thread - which I totally get was just a question to encourage debate.
For myself I don't think forced consent is gonna fly legally or as a business plan and would automatically exclude people new to going to a club so probably not a great idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People who go to swingers clubs but have no intention at all of fucking anyone.
Should that be allowed? Surely it dilutes the pool of 'available people' and can also make it awkward if someone dares to ask them for a fuck. "
Voyeurism's just another kink, like fucking random strangers. Why should your kink trump someone else's? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I don't think forced consent is gonna fly legally or as a business plan and would automatically exclude people new to going to a club so probably not a great idea. "
Lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love going to clubs. Just being in that non judgmental environment gets me extremely horny "
Lol - I thought the original post was a wee bit judgemental. Voyeurism might not be everyone's cup of tea but surely unwanted attentions are worse? Perhaps I'm now judging forced consent aficionados? ?? x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you aren’t prepared to fuck anyone and everyone, you shouldn’t be in a club.
Then why do you have age limits on your profile?"
I think that remark was a wind up.  |
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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago
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I'm looking forward to going to a club... But certainly don't see it as a must play to enjoy type of evening....
I love meeting people, flirting and the build up... And if there happens to be someone/s that we are mutually attracted to then ... Going from there... It should always feel right and not be pre planned/assumed... half the fun/excitement for me is Not knowing how the night is going to go! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s comments like this that put me off even venturing to a club
Exactly.
It’s ok; very few people think like the op. We were all new or had our reasons not to play at some point xx
You should read the whole thread before assuming you know what I think mate. You are VERY wrong.
I did read the whole thread OP and I didn't notice you mention what you thought?
Maybe that's why the writer assumed they did from your original question that started thread - which I totally get was just a question to encourage debate.
For myself I don't think forced consent is gonna fly legally or as a business plan and would automatically exclude people new to going to a club so probably not a great idea. "
You get it.
The OP was based on a comment in the 'straight men going to bi nights' thread. I wanted to see if the feeling was different if it was asked a different way.
Apparently it is is different.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s comments like this that put me off even venturing to a club
Exactly.
It’s ok; very few people think like the op. We were all new or had our reasons not to play at some point xx
You should read the whole thread before assuming you know what I think mate. You are VERY wrong.
I did read the whole thread OP and I didn't notice you mention what you thought?
Maybe that's why the writer assumed they did from your original question that started thread - which I totally get was just a question to encourage debate.
For myself I don't think forced consent is gonna fly legally or as a business plan and would automatically exclude people new to going to a club so probably not a great idea.
You get it.
The OP was based on a comment in the 'straight men going to bi nights' thread. I wanted to see if the feeling was different if it was asked a different way.
Apparently it is is different. "
Oh I see. I didn't read that thread but I'm guessing the sentiment there was 'don't go if you don't want to participate'. Very interesting... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some couples get off on being watched. Horses for courses.
Same could be said for people who don't want to fuck but still want to play in one way or another.
I've paid my money to be in there, I'll sit and drink tea if I want. |
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"People who go to swingers clubs but have no intention at all of fucking anyone.
Should that be allowed? Surely it dilutes the pool of 'available people' and can also make it awkward if someone dares to ask them for a fuck. "
I only go for the buffet, plus it's warmer than my house.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People who go to swingers clubs but have no intention at all of fucking anyone.
Should that be allowed? Surely it dilutes the pool of 'available people' and can also make it awkward if someone dares to ask them for a fuck.
I only go for the buffet, plus it's warmer than my house.
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Gotta love a warm buffet.  |
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"People who go to swingers clubs but have no intention at all of fucking anyone.
Should that be allowed? Surely it dilutes the pool of 'available people' and can also make it awkward if someone dares to ask them for a fuck.
I only go for the buffet, plus it's warmer than my house.
Gotta love a warm buffet. "
I was going to say I only go for the crack....... |
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