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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My partner has just been on one of her girls weeks away..dancing and getting down the alcohol....they mean a lot to her..myself on the other hand had a high risk job to do which could have gone so wrong so quickly. Here's the query...if you were busted up or taken seriously ill would you inform your other half..it's not terminal and you can still manage the most basic of functions but that's all and you re in lots of pain or discomfort. I wouldn't because I know she d worry or try to get back but I know how much these holidays mean to her...  |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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Yes I would.
Because if you don't tell her then she won't trust that you will tell her if anything really bad happens which means that in future she'll always be in tenterhooks.
I speak from experience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's not lying...if it's manageable by yourself and they re only gone for a week why drag them back to tend you...maybe it's my ex military and back woodsman background ...we re all different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My partner has just been on one of her girls weeks away..dancing and getting down the alcohol....they mean a lot to her..myself on the other hand had a high risk job to do which could have gone so wrong so quickly. Here's the query...if you were busted up or taken seriously ill would you inform your other half..it's not terminal and you can still manage the most basic of functions but that's all and you re in lots of pain or discomfort. I wouldn't because I know she d worry or try to get back but I know how much these holidays mean to her... "
Firstly are you ok?
Secondly no, I don't think I could tell, not if it wasn't life threatening/changing because as you say what can she do other thn panic and the last thing you want is her upset and out of the country 
We had a situation where my sons were both away in Scotland and due home the day after their Nan passed away. How do you tell your kids something like that over the phone.
The rest of the family wanted them to hear the news when they got home, I knew that if I didn't tell them them some cunt on Facebook would.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if she's back then yes..if not no"
Precisely. ..if I can self manage it then why bring her back to nurse me but then I am extremely medic and have spent many extreme years alone self managing injuries and illnesses so maybe that side doesn't t see why she should be expected to rush home to nurse me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My partner has just been on one of her girls weeks away..dancing and getting down the alcohol....they mean a lot to her..myself on the other hand had a high risk job to do which could have gone so wrong so quickly. Here's the query...if you were busted up or taken seriously ill would you inform your other half..it's not terminal and you can still manage the most basic of functions but that's all and you re in lots of pain or discomfort. I wouldn't because I know she d worry or try to get back but I know how much these holidays mean to her...
Firstly are you ok?
Secondly no, I don't think I could tell, not if it wasn't life threatening/changing because as you say what can she do other thn panic and the last thing you want is her upset and out of the country
We had a situation where my sons were both away in Scotland and due home the day after their Nan passed away. How do you tell your kids something like that over the phone.
The rest of the family wanted them to hear the news when they got home, I knew that if I didn't tell them them some cunt on Facebook would.
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Ah fb..yes..has a lot to answer for lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My partner has just been on one of her girls weeks away..dancing and getting down the alcohol....they mean a lot to her..myself on the other hand had a high risk job to do which could have gone so wrong so quickly. Here's the query...if you were busted up or taken seriously ill would you inform your other half..it's not terminal and you can still manage the most basic of functions but that's all and you re in lots of pain or discomfort. I wouldn't because I know she d worry or try to get back but I know how much these holidays mean to her...
Firstly are you ok?
Secondly no, I don't think I could tell, not if it wasn't life threatening/changing because as you say what can she do other thn panic and the last thing you want is her upset and out of the country
We had a situation where my sons were both away in Scotland and due home the day after their Nan passed away. How do you tell your kids something like that over the phone.
The rest of the family wanted them to hear the news when they got home, I knew that if I didn't tell them them some cunt on Facebook would.
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Yes am fine ta.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was struggling then yes, I'd tell him because he would want to know. If I could get on with things and it wasn't having much of an impact in my day to day, life then I'd tell him but he would know not to worry and that I'd be fine and I'd seek help if I needed it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't ruin her holiday. I also don't need reminding not to do stupid shit whilst I am already suffering..She can do that when she finds out."
Hahaha..love it |
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
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I think it depends on the circumstances, if it were something that she couldn't do anything about and would only worry her and spoil the holiday, I'd wait til she came back before telling anyone (for example something serious like diagnosis of a terminal illness). Its not as if rushing back a few days early would change anything
If it were something like a broken wrist, I'd just mention it and tell her I'm fine, no need to make a big fuss.
If it were something I needed help with, I'd consider asking her to come back, but if other help were available, why spoil a bought-and-paid-for holiday? |
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My parents are very old and my mum is in poor health. They always say that if anything happens while we're on holiday they will tell people not to let us know. I'm not sure how I feel about it. I think my memories of the holiday would be spoiled. |
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