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over a year ago
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I'm difficult to please so it happens alot with me..and even if i think the woman is happy and sarisfied...a part of me thinks she isnt really as i feel it could make her think she wasnt desirable enough or sexy enough...so ive faked it a few times x
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If we’re having sex within a few hours of cumming the last time, I might struggle to get over the hill before one of us needs a break. In which case I’m honest about it and I suggest I save it for next time. It’s a bonus for her since I’ll want another go fairly soon.
But she knows she does it for me cos I tell her. And jump on her at every opportunity. |
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An ex used to tell me that if I couldn't cum, for whatever reason, it was incredibly frustrating for her.
I assume she thought she either wasn't enough to turn me on fully or wasn't doing her job properly.
I never saw it as a problem per se, but would apologise if it wasn't going to happen as I knew she liked me to finish |
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over a year ago
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"I (Luke) don't always ejaculate during sex and Hannah is fine with that. We don't set it as a goal. Our only goal in sex is to enjoy ourselves. "
It's the right way to be. |
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over a year ago
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K gets disappointed sometimes if I can't cum but sometimes it just doesn't happen for me. It's not that I'm not turned on or anything, it's just one of those things. |
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By *icknHMan
over a year ago
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"I (Luke) don't always ejaculate during sex and Hannah is fine with that. We don't set it as a goal. Our only goal in sex is to enjoy ourselves. "
Yep this is the best way. If not cumming becomes an thing’ it makes it worse....not cumming becomes can’t cum |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"K gets disappointed sometimes if I can't cum but sometimes it just doesn't happen for me. It's not that I'm not turned on or anything, it's just one of those things."
At least she understands. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When C has had too much to drink he take absolutely forever to cum which is fine. I dont like it if they dont cum feel like I've failed in some way"
Yah I have a friend who says the same. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Quids in for me ! .. I like very physical sex over a long time which has varying pace and energy, sensual play.
There's lots more to sex than the goal of orgasm and more to orgasm than ejaculation.
In some practices men aim to retain their semen and expand the experience/sensation/orgasm away from the genitals for a more fulfilling experience for both partners.
If it was a struggle or disheartening I'd be more tempted to try and remedy that rather than putting the onus on cumming everytime.
Plus, as long as there's an erection we get to fuck ourselves fit! Happy days  |
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"Quids in for me ! .. I like very physical sex over a long time which has varying pace and energy, sensual play.
There's lots more to sex than the goal of orgasm and more to orgasm than ejaculation.
In some practices men aim to retain their semen and expand the experience/sensation/orgasm away from the genitals for a more fulfilling experience for both partners.
If it was a struggle or disheartening I'd be more tempted to try and remedy that rather than putting the onus on cumming everytime.
Plus, as long as there's an erection we get to fuck ourselves fit! Happy days "
Fuck yourselves fit. I love it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ladies do you mind if a guy doesn't cum during sex or if he takes way to long to cum?"
yes from my experience ladies do mind if you dont cum as I suffer this from time to time
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over a year ago
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"Ladies do you mind if a guy doesn't cum during sex or if he takes way to long to cum? yes from my experience ladies do mind if you dont cum as I suffer this from time to time"
Care to explain? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It doesnt really feel 'finished' to me if the man doesnt cum, Im not so bothered about it for myself. I think its because I do love the cum, it wouldn't particulary be a problem. Sexual frustration is a good frustration, as long as I get to have another go with him faìrly soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I know what you mean by that if I guy doesn't cum but I'm a guy that loves to please a lady and cums first so I know that I have satisfied her then I will cum ."
Its very British to argue over who should cum first, like two old ladies fighting over who will pay for the tea at the teashop. 'You first dear', 'No,No you first, I insist' |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I (Luke) don't always ejaculate during sex and Hannah is fine with that. We don't set it as a goal. Our only goal in sex is to enjoy ourselves. "
Totally agree.
I've never cum with anyone else but I still love sex, I find if there's too much pressure then it ruins it, I just go with the flow and see what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I (Luke) don't always ejaculate during sex and Hannah is fine with that. We don't set it as a goal. Our only goal in sex is to enjoy ourselves.
Totally agree.
I've never cum with anyone else but I still love sex, I find if there's too much pressure then it ruins it, I just go with the flow and see what happens. "
Couldnt agree more. Just enjoy having fun and take away the pressures of cumming! |
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over a year ago
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"It doesnt really feel 'finished' to me if the man doesnt cum, Im not so bothered about it for myself. I think its because I do love the cum, it wouldn't particulary be a problem. Sexual frustration is a good frustration, as long as I get to have another go with him faìrly soon "
If he didn't cum when you went again would you be upset? |
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"Ladies do you mind if a guy doesn't cum during sex or if he takes way to long to cum? yes from my experience ladies do mind if you dont cum as I suffer this from time to time
Care to explain?"
like especially if it happens more than once they start to think theres something wrong with them when the reality is it's me who cant reach climax. If they wernt doing it for me I wouldn't be hard. |
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"I can get beyond cuming.. over-sensitised sometimes. Dosent bother me or my partner - In fact makes me turbo charged for next time!"
I aggregate sometimes after so long it's like your dick becomes numb and you cant achieve orgasm. Then other times I'll cum.after 30 seconds haha  |
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I think that if I felt pressurised to cum it might be a problem. I have had times due to performance anxiety and lack of practice that I’ve taken longer to cum than I would have expected and also struggling with my erection.
Thankfully my partners have been patient and very understanding which has been very helpful.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ladies do you mind if a guy doesn't cum during sex or if he takes way to long to cum? yes from my experience ladies do mind if you dont cum as I suffer this from time to time
Care to explain?like especially if it happens more than once they start to think theres something wrong with them when the reality is it's me who cant reach climax. If they wernt doing it for me I wouldn't be hard. "
Yah that is a very good point. |
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"I sometimes dont cum but always enjoy the sex. I get satisfaction knowing the lady is happy."
This and it’s always about the ladies for me.
A bit like the saying “Happy wife, Happy life” not that I’m married anymore.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ladies do you mind if a guy doesn't cum during sex or if he takes way to long to cum? do you mind or not,,
This is valuable info before you invite me down to Cat land,,, "
It would probably annoy me a little but not enough to make me not keep trying. |
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"I can get beyond cuming.. over-sensitised sometimes. Dosent bother me or my partner - In fact makes me turbo charged for next time!I aggregate sometimes after so long it's like your dick becomes numb and you cant achieve orgasm. Then other times I'll cum.after 30 seconds haha "
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"Ladies do you mind if a guy doesn't cum during sex or if he takes way to long to cum? do you mind or not,,
This is valuable info before you invite me down to Cat land,,,
It would probably annoy me a little but not enough to make me not keep trying."
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"Ladies do you mind if a guy doesn't cum during sex or if he takes way to long to cum? do you mind or not,,
This is valuable info before you invite me down to Cat land,,,
It would probably annoy me a little but not enough to make me not keep trying. stored in the vault,, "
Oh and I here I was thinking you may have released it this morning |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like to make sure he does yesits only fair x
So would you feel bad if he just couldn't cum?
I would definitely feel bad xxx"
I think it looks like most would |
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"K gets disappointed sometimes if I can't cum but sometimes it just doesn't happen for me. It's not that I'm not turned on or anything, it's just one of those things."
it's just one of those things for me too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If he didn't cum at all over a whole session then probably yes. Although if I've already made him cum and he's spending time getting me there then I have no issues whatsoever |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If he didn't cum at all over a whole session then probably yes. Although if I've already made him cum and he's spending time getting me there then I have no issues whatsoever"
I mean if they didn't cum at all |
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I don't see it as an issue on the odd occasion.
Just like women, men cum through different stimulus. Or sometimes not at all. I've found sometimes play can last for ages (woo!) and the simplest finish is to finish themselves as oversensitive or tired etc. |
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"I don't see it as an issue on the odd occasion.
Just like women, men cum through different stimulus. Or sometimes not at all. I've found sometimes play can last for ages (woo!) and the simplest finish is to finish themselves as oversensitive or tired etc. "
That's very true |
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"I don't see it as an issue on the odd occasion.
Just like women, men cum through different stimulus. Or sometimes not at all. I've found sometimes play can last for ages (woo!) and the simplest finish is to finish themselves as oversensitive or tired etc. "
Would it bother you if the guy finished himself off |
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"I don't see it as an issue on the odd occasion.
Just like women, men cum through different stimulus. Or sometimes not at all. I've found sometimes play can last for ages (woo!) and the simplest finish is to finish themselves as oversensitive or tired etc.
Would it bother you if the guy finished himself off"
Nope. But I'm pretty chilled. There's a lot of pressure on men to perform, satisfy AND cum. As long as whatever occurs is pleasurable, its all good! |
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"I don't see it as an issue on the odd occasion.
Just like women, men cum through different stimulus. Or sometimes not at all. I've found sometimes play can last for ages (woo!) and the simplest finish is to finish themselves as oversensitive or tired etc.
Would it bother you if the guy finished himself off
Nope. But I'm pretty chilled. There's a lot of pressure on men to perform, satisfy AND cum. As long as whatever occurs is pleasurable, its all good! "
Such a great attitude to have |
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"Ladies do you mind if a guy doesn't cum during sex or if he takes way to long to cum? do you mind or not,,
This is valuable info before you invite me down to Cat land,,,
It would probably annoy me a little but not enough to make me not keep trying. stored in the vault,, "
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