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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some things are unforgivable. Fortunately they've been very rare occurences. I shan't forgive or forget those.
Everything else is just humans bumbling along unintentionally messing up. Eveything is about intent. Inlike to remember the good things about people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it would depend on what has happened and how important that person was to me. To not forgive would be too negative an energy for me to live with. I like to be light on that front. xxx |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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It really depends on who it is , what's happened and how much I like them. I've been guilty of giving too many chances and being too kind in the past. It now makes me think twice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A bit of both if I'm honest .
Sometimes I can just shut people out my life if they hurt me without a second thought.
Other times I can't . Often I give them too many chances and they hurt me more.
I tend to forgive and I try not to hold a grudge where possible. I've nothing to gain from harbouring anger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I forgive easily, possibly too easily at times and because my memory ain’t what it used to be I probably forget as well."
Oh I only forgive those who apologise. Anyone who fucks me about and doesn’t apologise will neither be forgiven or forgotten, although I find it healthier if I don’t hang onto the anger so I deal with that in a different way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget."
Thats a very honest confession. Many people are like that though. Eventually life may lead you to forgive or forget or both. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget.
Thats a very honest confession. Many people are like that though. Eventually life may lead you to forgive or forget or both."
No. My heart is hard and cold  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget.
Thats a very honest confession. Many people are like that though. Eventually life may lead you to forgive or forget or both.
No. My heart is hard and cold
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Confusing your heart with your mind? Hearts are squishy and pumping... 
As i said, life will cause you to change. Never say never... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m a hypocrite because I would want to be forgiven but I don’t forgive or forget.
Thats a very honest confession. Many people are like that though. Eventually life may lead you to forgive or forget or both.
No. My heart is hard and cold
Confusing your heart with your mind? Hearts are squishy and pumping...
As i said, life will cause you to change. Never say never..."
Life has taught me to never forgive or forget.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wanted to say something about this because for some reason it crossroaded against other things going on around me. But I wanted to think about how to say it.
Earlier this year, I was challenged in a difficult yet profound break up. And in the recourse, my ex did something of which I responded to in the only way I could - which was publically writing about it as I do write articles and blog on a different site. It was done as a reaction to something he did, the only thing he could do really, to get any reaction from me.
I thought about how you are supposed to forgive and forget, for yourself to move on and then I thought. What is to forgive here? Am I supposed to forgive myself for being so angry about something that it set me off to stand up for myself? Is that something I am supposed to forgive? Am I supposed to forgive him for doing what he did as it literally is something that he will never change about himself? Am I supposed to forgive myself for putting into words, and my words are my treasure, what I wanted to finally say without recourse? I can forgive the hurt, the treachery, the deception. In both myself and from him. But this... this isn't something to forgive. This, what I did, is something that just became. And how do I forgive that?
Maybe, in some things, forgiveness isn't what is needed. How can you forgive something that changed you so profoundly and so remarkably, into something better in the long run? And why would I want to forget that?
Anyways. Maybe this will help someone, or give hope to someone else, or perhaps someone out there would just like to say it to. Forgiveness isn't always something that's needed to move on. Clarity and change is. And that's not a bad thing. Not at all. |
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it depends how hurt I am.
It’s doubtful that I would forget but not in a ‘dwelling on it’ kind of way, just being cautious. 