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Does that first lie put you off?
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By *MP3Man
over a year ago
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"It does me - as soon as I hear it, I get a sinking feeling in my stomach and I lose all enthusiasm.  "
I only exaggerated by an inch...ok, maybe two. Or three. It won't happen again  |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It does me - as soon as I hear it, I get a sinking feeling in my stomach and I lose all enthusiasm.
I only exaggerated by an inch...ok, maybe two. Or three. It won't happen again "
Haha, for you, I would suddenly become very forgiving!  |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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" Depends what it is, and if they raised it of their own volition and outlined why? "
For me it doesn't really....the first small excuse means I am dealing with someone who does not believe in the truth......or, for that matter, my ability to perceive it.  |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed. "
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Depends what it is, and if they raised it of their own volition and outlined why?
For me it doesn't really....the first small excuse means I am dealing with someone who does not believe in the truth......or, for that matter, my ability to perceive it. "
Hmmm. One I get all the time is guys clocking their ages. I am NEVER buying a used car from anyone here. But I never mind that cos it's understandable, a confidence thing etc. Telling deliberate lies about other things... I'd just think why? And then I think yeah it would put me off. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
...Up on the Downs |
"I think being honest is about respect as well. You can't respect someone who is not being honest."
No, and you cannot BE respected by someone who is not being honest with you.
Do other people just ignore it, or don't they care? |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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" Depends what it is, and if they raised it of their own volition and outlined why?
For me it doesn't really....the first small excuse means I am dealing with someone who does not believe in the truth......or, for that matter, my ability to perceive it.
Hmmm. One I get all the time is guys clocking their ages. I am NEVER buying a used car from anyone here. But I never mind that cos it's understandable, a confidence thing etc. Telling deliberate lies about other things... I'd just think why? And then I think yeah it would put me off. "
Yes, a lot do the age thing every time they leave and rejoin.....(you know who you are!  )
One of my friends came back so young he couldn't even message me anymore haha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?"
No you are not on your own...becomes positively antarctic when i find out someone has lied to me (Mrs)... |
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"What about, age, name, location?
Oh anything really, it's the thinnest end of a wedge, doesn't matter how thin."
Ah OK.
I get really pissed off when people lie about their age by more than the couple of months it's sensible to disguise dare of birth. If they tell me one name in messages then half way through the social tell me "oh my name isn't Aloysous its Harold" I think why didn't you just say that when I called you Aloysous when we met? Location is understandable.
Having been married to an habitual liar I have a low tolerance for deception but am able to understand certain lies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the fab world I seem to have become a right gullible gary and fall into lie traps all the time 
On the other hand sometimes it is right to give someone the benefit of the doubt and another chance |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
...Up on the Downs |
"It depends if its a lie or a bend of the truth & what it is. "
Even just a tiny little excuse does it for me. I'm talking more dating site than fab I guess, higher expectations there, tougher criteria. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a guy who was actually 27 but had 30 on his profile because he “just wanted to try out being 30”
I don’t get it?!
He said I could pretend to be 25, but why would I?
It’s the inflation of the value of youth that puts the pressure on everyone else to be dishonest. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
...Up on the Downs |
"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?
No you are not on your own...becomes positively antarctic when i find out someone has lied to me (Mrs)... "
Haha, yes, Ice Queens this way.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does me - as soon as I hear it, I get a sinking feeling in my stomach and I lose all enthusiasm. "
Yeah me too - I'm so bored of the married / attached peoples lies.
Makes me glad I'm single! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Depends what it is, and if they raised it of their own volition and outlined why?
For me it doesn't really....the first small excuse means I am dealing with someone who does not believe in the truth......or, for that matter, my ability to perceive it.
Hmmm. One I get all the time is guys clocking their ages. I am NEVER buying a used car from anyone here. But I never mind that cos it's understandable, a confidence thing etc. Telling deliberate lies about other things... I'd just think why? And then I think yeah it would put me off.
Yes, a lot do the age thing every time they leave and rejoin.....(you know who you are! )
One of my friends came back so young he couldn't even message me anymore haha!"
That's hilarious. I should have qualified I don't mind as long as their real age isn't outside my filter range. If it then that's that. You're toast. |
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"The only lie I will stomach is someone’s name, as I see that as a protection mechanism especially after some of the things I hear them go through
Anything else is a no, no and goodbye from me "
I agree.
I will also allow an inch in accuracy on height
My profile is entirely honest. If my age puts someone off, they were clearly not for me anyway. |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
...Up on the Downs |
" Depends what it is, and if they raised it of their own volition and outlined why?
For me it doesn't really....the first small excuse means I am dealing with someone who does not believe in the truth......or, for that matter, my ability to perceive it.
Hmmm. One I get all the time is guys clocking their ages. I am NEVER buying a used car from anyone here. But I never mind that cos it's understandable, a confidence thing etc. Telling deliberate lies about other things... I'd just think why? And then I think yeah it would put me off.
Yes, a lot do the age thing every time they leave and rejoin.....(you know who you are! )
One of my friends came back so young he couldn't even message me anymore haha!
That's hilarious. I should have qualified I don't mind as long as their real age isn't outside my filter range. If it then that's that. You're toast. "
I can understand why they do it on here, though I would expect them to be straight with me from the outset. Mind you, I have simply not replied to people who are obviously lying about their age. |
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"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?"
Nope.. once it’s niggling I’ve lost faith already x |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
...Up on the Downs |
"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?
Nope.. once it’s niggling I’ve lost faith already x"
Yup, I have such high hopes, the first excuse spoils them.... |
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"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?
Nope.. once it’s niggling I’ve lost faith already x
Yup, I have such high hopes, the first excuse spoils them.... "
I think it’s a good thing though.. you listen to your gut and protect yourself. It’s bloody awful but we know not everyone’s decent hope you’re ok x |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
...Up on the Downs |
"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?
Nope.. once it’s niggling I’ve lost faith already x
Yup, I have such high hopes, the first excuse spoils them....
I think it’s a good thing though.. you listen to your gut and protect yourself. It’s bloody awful but we know not everyone’s decent hope you’re ok x"
Yes, I'm fine - it's just so rare I find someone who I feel has real relationship potential it's very sad when they throw it away with something totally ephemeral, without even realising it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All men on internet sites like this or dating sites lie.
So why join a site looking for them if you're going to be lied to?
Because I’m a nosey cow  "
Liar!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Truly wish I'd spot the first lie. Or the second, third, fourth or fifth one..... I often only see it when they've wrapped themselves up in so many lies that they trip themselves up with it.
They're either really good liars or I'm just a trusting gullible fucktard who refuses to see the bad in anyone until I'm burnt beyond measure.
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"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?
Nope.. once it’s niggling I’ve lost faith already x
Yup, I have such high hopes, the first excuse spoils them....
I think it’s a good thing though.. you listen to your gut and protect yourself. It’s bloody awful but we know not everyone’s decent hope you’re ok x
Yes, I'm fine - it's just so rare I find someone who I feel has real relationship potential it's very sad when they throw it away with something totally ephemeral, without even realising it."
I know.. don’t get why people can’t be honest but it seems an alien concept to some. There are some amazing guys out there though.. sooner or later you’ll get a good one x |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Truly wish I'd spot the first lie. Or the second, third, fourth or fifth one..... I often only see it when they've wrapped themselves up in so many lies that they trip themselves up with it.
They're either really good liars or I'm just a trusting gullible fucktard who refuses to see the bad in anyone until I'm burnt beyond measure.
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Aww that's a shame, I hope you find one of the good ones! |
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By *risky_Mare OP Woman
over a year ago
...Up on the Downs |
"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?
Nope.. once it’s niggling I’ve lost faith already x
Yup, I have such high hopes, the first excuse spoils them....
I think it’s a good thing though.. you listen to your gut and protect yourself. It’s bloody awful but we know not everyone’s decent hope you’re ok x
Yes, I'm fine - it's just so rare I find someone who I feel has real relationship potential it's very sad when they throw it away with something totally ephemeral, without even realising it.
I know.. don’t get why people can’t be honest but it seems an alien concept to some. There are some amazing guys out there though.. sooner or later you’ll get a good one x"
Thanks, meanwhile, I have a large gin!!! |
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"Truly wish I'd spot the first lie. Or the second, third, fourth or fifth one..... I often only see it when they've wrapped themselves up in so many lies that they trip themselves up with it.
They're either really good liars or I'm just a trusting gullible fucktard who refuses to see the bad in anyone until I'm burnt beyond measure.
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I’m the opposite, I don’t see the good in anyone on internet sites anymore. I’m very cynical and automatically think they’re lying from the start  |
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"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?
Nope.. once it’s niggling I’ve lost faith already x
Yup, I have such high hopes, the first excuse spoils them....
I think it’s a good thing though.. you listen to your gut and protect yourself. It’s bloody awful but we know not everyone’s decent hope you’re ok x
Yes, I'm fine - it's just so rare I find someone who I feel has real relationship potential it's very sad when they throw it away with something totally ephemeral, without even realising it.
I know.. don’t get why people can’t be honest but it seems an alien concept to some. There are some amazing guys out there though.. sooner or later you’ll get a good one x
Thanks, meanwhile, I have a large gin!!! "
Snap!!! Cheers  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Identity protectors I don't mind. (Name, location)
Other stuff yes, I get the gut sink.
When they tell me the truth of their own accord I still feel sense of disappointment but then I appreciate they trust me enough with it
If it's a truth I find out on my own without them telling me then I'm pretty much done.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Identity protectors I don't mind. (Name, location)
Other stuff yes, I get the gut sink.
When they tell me the truth of their own accord I still feel sense of disappointment but then I appreciate they trust me enough with it
If it's a truth I find out on my own without them telling me then I'm pretty much done.
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"The only lie I will stomach is someone’s name, as I see that as a protection mechanism especially after some of the things I hear them go through
Anything else is a no, no and goodbye from me
I agree.
I will also allow an inch in accuracy on height
My profile is entirely honest. If my age puts someone off, they were clearly not for me anyway. "
Height I’m useless at measuring but then e wry one is taller than me, even in my heels
My profile is me too, we’ll except my name isn’t Starburst |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No because I think there's a spectrum of lies; the little white ones that aren't so much lies as omissions or lacking clarity to the full blown fantasist sorts. There are some that will, yes. I ask people if they've done x, y and z and if they still lie at the point it's very bleedin' irksome. |
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"I think I’m a bit of a mug sometimes.. takes a couple for it to sink in.. then I’m off. Door closed.
We choose to ignore it sometimes...but am I the only one that gets that total loss of enthusiasm?
Nope.. once it’s niggling I’ve lost faith already x
Yup, I have such high hopes, the first excuse spoils them....
I think it’s a good thing though.. you listen to your gut and protect yourself. It’s bloody awful but we know not everyone’s decent hope you’re ok x
Yes, I'm fine - it's just so rare I find someone who I feel has real relationship potential it's very sad when they throw it away with something totally ephemeral, without even realising it.
I know.. don’t get why people can’t be honest but it seems an alien concept to some. There are some amazing guys out there though.. sooner or later you’ll get a good one x
Thanks, meanwhile, I have a large gin!!!
Snap!!! Cheers "
I feel like a poor relation already with my rolla-cola, crisps and amazon prime video |
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The first lie does put me off but by the time I realise they’ve lied there’s probably already been a whole load more that I haven’t cottoned on to yet. That’s the problem for me, once I know they’ve lied I can’t help thinking what else are they lying about that I don’t know, and it applies to either gender. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My profile is full of lies. The only things I can say that are completely true are my age, height and being married, the rest is a mixture of half truths and bollocks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My profile is full of lies. The only things I can say that are completely true are my age, height and being married, the rest is a mixture of half truths and bollocks."
Oh being bald and hairy is also true |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Truly wish I'd spot the first lie. Or the second, third, fourth or fifth one..... I often only see it when they've wrapped themselves up in so many lies that they trip themselves up with it.
They're either really good liars or I'm just a trusting gullible fucktard who refuses to see the bad in anyone until I'm burnt beyond measure.
I’m the opposite, I don’t see the good in anyone on internet sites anymore. I’m very cynical and automatically think they’re lying from the start "
Have you never lied in your life? Everyone has lied in some form or other. Then why act so holier than thou? |
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"Truly wish I'd spot the first lie. Or the second, third, fourth or fifth one..... I often only see it when they've wrapped themselves up in so many lies that they trip themselves up with it.
They're either really good liars or I'm just a trusting gullible fucktard who refuses to see the bad in anyone until I'm burnt beyond measure.
I’m the opposite, I don’t see the good in anyone on internet sites anymore. I’m very cynical and automatically think they’re lying from the start
Have you never lied in your life? Everyone has lied in some form or other. Then why act so holier than thou?"
I’ve never lied about being someone I’m not. I haven’t lied on internet sites. |
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"Truly wish I'd spot the first lie. Or the second, third, fourth or fifth one..... I often only see it when they've wrapped themselves up in so many lies that they trip themselves up with it.
They're either really good liars or I'm just a trusting gullible fucktard who refuses to see the bad in anyone until I'm burnt beyond measure.
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Burnt beyond measure leaves a lot of scars  |
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