So, good people of Fab, I'm interested in your opinions please. I hardly ever post a thread but here we go.
Someone you have met (once) before texts you to say they would like to see you again this weekend. You text back saying I'm free on Saturday evening. Two days go by without a confirmation (no I didn't follow it up) so you make other arrangements. Then you get a reply saying "see you tonight" and you have to let them know about said alternative arrangements. You are then made to feel like something that's dropped off your shoe after walking around a farmyard.
My question is, is there blame to be apportioned here? Was it an arrangement or not? I'm not looking for support (or otherwise), just a few honest opinions. I might not be able to interact immediately as I'm getting ready for my alternate arrangement but I am interested to know what your thoughts are?  |
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"I'd have texted him the next day when he didn't confirm asking if it was a solid arrangement or not. I don't think you were in the wrong, it was just poor communication all round. "
Agree with this poor communication  both of you should've confirmed the meet. But the other party more to blame as you replied last  |
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"So, good people of Fab, I'm interested in your opinions please. I hardly ever post a thread but here we go.
Someone you have met (once) before texts you to say they would like to see you again this weekend. You text back saying I'm free on Saturday evening. Two days go by without a confirmation (no I didn't follow it up) so you make other arrangements. Then you get a reply saying "see you tonight" and you have to let them know about said alternative arrangements. You are then made to feel like something that's dropped off your shoe after walking around a farmyard.
My question is, is there blame to be apportioned here? Was it an arrangement or not? I'm not looking for support (or otherwise), just a few honest opinions. I might not be able to interact immediately as I'm getting ready for my alternate arrangement but I am interested to know what your thoughts are? "
You didn't get a confirmation so not yr problem, you could have ended yr text with "ok?" i suppose but your blameless here |
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"Thank you for all replies so far. A lesson learnt I think. Better communication is the key! "
. Hsve you replied yet? Tell him yr ill and will get back when feeling better  |
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If you sent the last message and he didn’t confirm or made firm plans... for e.g discussing what time would be suitable etc then sorry no plans were made. It’s rude assuming someone is just at home waiting on you.
If someone doesn’t confirm or even stay in touch then they can fuck right off. You did nothing wrong here. Hope you have the best night out OP  |
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Just a breakdown in communication. I didn't think they've got any grounds to be annoyed with you because they didn't confirm but equally you shouldn't have made alternative plans without checking.
Not worth worrying about in my opinion |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd have texted him the next day when he didn't confirm asking if it was a solid arrangement or not. I don't think you were in the wrong, it was just poor communication all round. "
This sums up my thoughts. |
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By *eliWoman
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"I'd have texted him the next day when he didn't confirm asking if it was a solid arrangement or not. I don't think you were in the wrong, it was just poor communication all round.
This sums up my thoughts."
Yes. Making you feel like crap isn't quite fair. If someone suggests something I do like to finalise and I also like others to do so. Both parties should do it if there's a genuine interest. |
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"So, good people of Fab, I'm interested in your opinions please. I hardly ever post a thread but here we go.
Someone you have met (once) before texts you to say they would like to see you again this weekend. You text back saying I'm free on Saturday evening. Two days go by without a confirmation (no I didn't follow it up) so you make other arrangements. Then you get a reply saying "see you tonight" and you have to let them know about said alternative arrangements. You are then made to feel like something that's dropped off your shoe after walking around a farmyard.
My question is, is there blame to be apportioned here? Was it an arrangement or not? I'm not looking for support (or otherwise), just a few honest opinions. I might not be able to interact immediately as I'm getting ready for my alternate arrangement but I am interested to know what your thoughts are? "
No confimation, you were right to make other plans |
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