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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I recently told my friend about fab and its left him with a feeling of missing out.

He's 54 and he told me that the people on here in their early 20's have had more sex than he as had in his life.

A feeling a jeoulesy perhaps? Do anyone feel like this?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nope. Not even a little bit. And I’ve only had sex a handful of times this year (at most).

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Are you jealous OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54"

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Are you jealous OP?"

I don't think jealous is the word. I do feel like I'm missing out though.

When I'm in the mood.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex "

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

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By *elshsunsWoman  over a year ago

Flintshire

Nope .....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ive not had sex for 2 years and could quite happily go another 2 years, couldnt give a monkeys what other people do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging. "

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

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By *uriousscouserWoman  over a year ago

Wirral

Not really. Lord knows I'm not getting much but if I lowered my standards slightly I'd be up to my eyes in cock.

I'd rather be picky and have less sex than just screw anything that twitches.

It's not a situation that provokes envy in me, more a "bloody good for them" mentality.

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex "

That's not true. Quantity of offers doesn't trump preferences or attraction.

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men "

Do you really think that?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex "

Not strictly true. If you’re choosy about who you have sex with. I’m sure most of us women could meet 10 different men a day if we wanted to. Most of choose not to

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not in the slightest bit - the mistake many make on here is comparing, and often making incorrect assumptions, about how much sex others are having, and getting bent out of shape over it rather than focusing on their own personal experience and how they can improve it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ive not had sex for 2 years and could quite happily go another 2 years, couldnt give a monkeys what other people do."

Apart from oral, I can't even remember the last time I had sex.

It's been that long. But hey il live. It's when I'm in the mood to be with someone, that's when it gets me down.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I haven’t had sex since March

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Words to live by for you OP.

I really can't help but think that if you spent less time looking around at the fun you (or your 'friend') think that others are having and spend more time dealing with your own stuff, you'd be so much happier.

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Not in the slightest bit - the mistake many make on here is comparing, and often making incorrect assumptions, about how much sex others are having, and getting bent out of shape over it rather than focusing on their own personal experience and how they can improve it."

Snap!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that? "

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this. "

Me. I disagree

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this. "

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Don't think about others sex lives unless they're getting in our bed with us.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nope - not here to win a shagathon

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Me. I disagree "

Are you being serious lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No.

I'd rather have no sex than sex for the sake of it.

Quality over quantity. It's not just about the physical act. Physical attraction, mental attraction, similar interests and chemistry all play a part too

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS  over a year ago

west here ford shire


"I recently told my friend about fab and its left him with a feeling of missing out.

He's 54 and he told me that the people on here in their early 20's have had more sex than he as had in his life.

A feeling a jeoulesy perhaps? Do anyone feel like this? "

Nope sex is between two adults or more he he, I don’t advertise who I have me or fucked, that’s just bragging

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong! "

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No I say good on them

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Me. I disagree

Are you being serious lol "

Yes. Totally

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

The only thing I'm jealous of is confidence of some fellow ladies doing things I want to..

Visit a club

Experience DP

Etc...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men? "

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple  over a year ago

Cumbria


"I recently told my friend about fab and its left him with a feeling of missing out.

He's 54 and he told me that the people on here in their early 20's have had more sex than he as had in his life.

A feeling a jeoulesy perhaps? Do anyone feel like this? "

Not sure how you told it but you do not seem to get much .. ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Me. I disagree

Are you being serious lol

Yes. Totally "

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he? "

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I recently told my friend about fab and its left him with a feeling of missing out.

He's 54 and he told me that the people on here in their early 20's have had more sex than he as had in his life.

A feeling a jeoulesy perhaps? Do anyone feel like this? "

Can't you just have a wank?. I always read you cry for sex topics as well, cries for sex. Why are you always comparing?, its not the healthiest of ways to be, surely?.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this. "

Good thread buddy. On average, yes, Mickey, you're right, due to the numbers (despite the condescending comments you've had from some successful folk) but it's all in the approach and interview technique you employ and project, I guess thats what they meant, I could be wrong and probably am..... ....I'm a decidedly average looking middle aged dude and I've never found it difficult because of my excessive flirting skills....

To answer you're question though, OF COURSE I'M JEALOUS, I'm only human....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men? "

That's not what you said. You said someone they fancy. I get lots of offers, sure but I get very few offers from men I fancy. Would you be happier if you got loads of offers of sex from women you didn't find attractive at all?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none. "

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Me. I disagree

Are you being serious lol

Yes. Totally

"

What? Yeah if you’re willing to meet anything with a cock then of course it’s easy. Personally it took me 2 years so your theory isn’t true.

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men? "

No, what he (and I) are saying is that both women and men (who have their attitude, approach and expectations right) could meet just as many people they fancy of the opposite sex as each other.

Yes women *could* meet as many men as they wanted on here if they weren't fussy, but that doesn't mean to say most women would want to - similarly men who "get" the site are usually happy with their experience and have a similar number of meets as their female counterparts

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

That's not what you said. You said someone they fancy. I get lots of offers, sure but I get very few offers from men I fancy. Would you be happier if you got loads of offers of sex from women you didn't find attractive at all? "

Some people need the confidence boost

That’s why I keep my filters off and get 100 messages a day

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

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By *iamondCougarWoman  over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

Not strictly true. If you’re choosy about who you have sex with. I’m sure most of us women could meet 10 different men a day if we wanted to. Most of choose not to "

Correct

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I recently told my friend about fab and its left him with a feeling of missing out.

He's 54 and he told me that the people on here in their early 20's have had more sex than he as had in his life.

A feeling a jeoulesy perhaps? Do anyone feel like this?

Can't you just have a wank?. I always read you cry for sex topics as well, cries for sex. Why are you always comparing?, its not the healthiest of ways to be, surely?."

I do. Cry for sex topics? What else have I compared?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none. "

Women may get offers it does not mean they accept them!

You're not a woman so what they get up to shouldn't have any baring on your experience on here. Have YOUR fab experience instead of coveting others.

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong! "

I see what he is trying to get it, though ever so poorly worded and not hitting the mark at all.

It is not easier at all. In fact based on the way a lot of guys tend to come across surely they have it easier as they seem more willing to drop their standards and preferences for anything that can be fucked.

Anybody with standards and preferences will have a harder time narrowing it down to who they will choose to have sex with.

The difference with regards to SOME women is that they don't need to go searching, they have full inboxes that they can choose to pic from while as a man it is more likely you need to do the searching to be noticed.

Just because the ladies have thousands of offers does not mean that they want to have sex with a single one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I recently told my friend about fab and its left him with a feeling of missing out.

He's 54 and he told me that the people on here in their early 20's have had more sex than he as had in his life.

A feeling a jeoulesy perhaps? Do anyone feel like this?

Can't you just have a wank?. I always read you cry for sex topics as well, cries for sex. Why are you always comparing?, its not the healthiest of ways to be, surely?.

I do. Cry for sex topics? What else have I compared? "

They have a theme, is what I meant to say, just gave the theme a title.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

That's not what you said. You said someone they fancy. I get lots of offers, sure but I get very few offers from men I fancy. Would you be happier if you got loads of offers of sex from women you didn't find attractive at all? "

No but I've heard people say in forums before, that it's just so easy for men to get meets. I just don't believe this.

Maybe it's easier for men to meet other men.. But not to meet women at all.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nah, I havn’t had sex since my last relationship ended over 3 years ago. I’m by no means desperate and I’m not jealous of anybody else. I’ve never been one to just have sex for the sake of it though so I’d rather go without than have sex with a girl I wasn’t really into just so I could scratch an itch.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

OP it’s explained to you often that although women may get more offers, it isn’t easier to meet someone for sex just because of the amount of offers. Whether you choose to believe that or not is your call, but it’s explained often, with different peoples points of (agreeing) views on the matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Good thread buddy. On average, yes, Mickey, you're right, due to the numbers (despite the condescending comments you've had from some successful folk) but it's all in the approach and interview technique you employ and project, I guess thats what they meant, I could be wrong and probably am..... ....I'm a decidedly average looking middle aged dude and I've never found it difficult because of my excessive flirting skills....

To answer you're question though, OF COURSE I'M JEALOUS, I'm only human.... "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OP it’s explained to you often that although women may get more offers, it isn’t easier to meet someone for sex just because of the amount of offers. Whether you choose to believe that or not is your call, but it’s explained often, with different peoples points of (agreeing) views on the matter "

And the same goes for men meeting women. Some may find it easy. Some don’t. But it doesn’t mean it’s more difficult or impossible...

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys"

You have a group of regular guys. Okay now I wonder how many men have a group of regular women.?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys"

Rugby team?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

You have a group of regular guys. Okay now I wonder how many men have a group of regular women.?"

Quite a few. I know of a few

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men "

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality "

Your reality. Plenty of men have disagreed with you

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality "

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Nah, I havn’t had sex since my last relationship ended over 3 years ago. I’m by no means desperate and I’m not jealous of anybody else. I’ve never been one to just have sex for the sake of it though so I’d rather go without than have sex with a girl I wasn’t really into just so I could scratch an itch. "

I feel the same. I wouldn't just have sex with anyone for the sake of it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Interesting.

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By *epsonWoman  over a year ago

Biddulph


"I haven’t had sex since March "

And look what that resulted in

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

You have a group of regular guys. Okay now I wonder how many men have a group of regular women.?

Quite a few. I know of a few "

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"OP it’s explained to you often that although women may get more offers, it isn’t easier to meet someone for sex just because of the amount of offers. Whether you choose to believe that or not is your call, but it’s explained often, with different peoples points of (agreeing) views on the matter "

Yeh...but men aren't having sex on fab, its just all the ladymclovin. ...in fact in the words of Marvin....let's get it on Queenie haha

All joking aside, some people just don't want to listen, they'll always argue black is white. Only leaves others but them exhausted lols.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I haven’t had sex since March

And look what that resulted in "

That was way back in December

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By *nnocentimesMan  over a year ago

over there by that tree

Nope..... you make your own luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

You have a group of regular guys. Okay now I wonder how many men have a group of regular women.?

Quite a few. I know of a few

Me too. "

And quite a few more women, I imagine

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none. "

Doesn't matter if I get 20 million offers a day. If I don't fancy them I still won't fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

You have a group of regular guys. Okay now I wonder how many men have a group of regular women.?

Quite a few. I know of a few

Me too.

And quite a few more women, I imagine "

I only have a couple of women friends on here and they don’t. So I don’t really know about women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said. "

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ive not had sex for 2 years and could quite happily go another 2 years, couldnt give a monkeys what other people do.

Apart from oral, I can't even remember the last time I had sex.

It's been that long. But hey il live. It's when I'm in the mood to be with someone, that's when it gets me down. "

It's not an exclusive feeling to those who are single. B works away loads and we don't live together. This leaves us both yearning at times, and not just for the sex side.

Sometimes catching a quick call or a text is all we can manage in a day.

I imagine you look at us thinking we're living it up and have a wonderful time whenever we want to as we're a couple, but that's not the case. Much the same I suppose as I look at those who live together, married, have holidays planned and sleep in the same bed every night with a sense of "I'd love that"

P

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys"

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman  over a year ago

Victoria, London

should never be jealous of others

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol. "

Like I’ve said before. Everyone’s here for different reasons. Don’t look at it as just “men” and “women” looking for quick sex. Not many were compatible enough with me. I’m unbelievably choosy in what I want and I won’t budge. Some aren’t so choosy. Just carry on making the effort and someone may just pop up who wants the same as you x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

If you got off your arse and did something about it instead of constantly moaning how good women have it on here you might just get a shag

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ive not had sex for 2 years and could quite happily go another 2 years, couldnt give a monkeys what other people do.

Apart from oral, I can't even remember the last time I had sex.

It's been that long. But hey il live. It's when I'm in the mood to be with someone, that's when it gets me down.

It's not an exclusive feeling to those who are single. B works away loads and we don't live together. This leaves us both yearning at times, and not just for the sex side.

Sometimes catching a quick call or a text is all we can manage in a day.

I imagine you look at us thinking we're living it up and have a wonderful time whenever we want to as we're a couple, but that's not the case. Much the same I suppose as I look at those who live together, married, have holidays planned and sleep in the same bed every night with a sense of "I'd love that"

P"

I could have written this. Right now I'm longing for him and all the sex in the world means jack shit, I just want my man but I don't drone on about it because its my problem.

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By *epsonWoman  over a year ago

Biddulph


"I haven’t had sex since March

And look what that resulted in

That was way back in December "

Oopsy. Crap at maths

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol. "

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X"

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless."

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women! "

Men would have nothing to moan about. Women would have nothing to moan about.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women! "

Imagine that, i actually think more men would have a better experience, because the women wouldnt feel so ground down by all the faf messages and would probably seek out men more regular in my humble opinion.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman  over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I love the assumption that us women, have it easy on here, could have as many men, as much sex as we wanted.

Yes, a lot of are inundated with offers, I took my filters off the other day. 115 messages, that's 115 men I could have had sex with.

That's 115 men I chose not to have sex with, because not 1, had read my profile or matched my preferences.

I'd rather go without. I know what I like. I know what I want.

I'd rather wait weeks, months even than settle for 2nd best.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women!

Imagine that, i actually think more men would have a better experience, because the women wouldnt feel so ground down by all the faf messages and would probably seek out men more regular in my humble opinion."

This is probably true. I’ve never mailed a man first the whole time I’ve been on here. I probably would have if I hadn’t received so many to be fair.

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women! "

Well I don't mean all men and all women stop mailing haha more a case of men stopped mailing in desperation. A friend of mine returned, she made a new profile with a single pic and didn't put anything in her profile for a few day came back to double digits.

They knew very little about her or what she was wanting.

I would be curious to see the outcome if that impossible feat did happen though. How many women would hate the lack of attention and how many would enjoy the relief.

Just to add that's not a complaint on the situation, just a curious observation.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy "

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

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By *dam1971Man  over a year ago

Bedford


"I love the assumption that us women, have it easy on here, could have as many men, as much sex as we wanted.

Yes, a lot of are inundated with offers, I took my filters off the other day. 115 messages, that's 115 men I could have had sex with.

That's 115 men I chose not to have sex with, because not 1, had read my profile or matched my preferences.

I'd rather go without. I know what I like. I know what I want.

I'd rather wait weeks, months even than settle for 2nd best. "

How long to wait for 114th best?

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By *abs..Woman  over a year ago

..


"I love the assumption that us women, have it easy on here, could have as many men, as much sex as we wanted.

Yes, a lot of are inundated with offers, I took my filters off the other day. 115 messages, that's 115 men I could have had sex with.

That's 115 men I chose not to have sex with, because not 1, had read my profile or matched my preferences.

I'd rather go without. I know what I like. I know what I want.

I'd rather wait weeks, months even than settle for 2nd best. "

Exactly

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By *ribsaMan  over a year ago

A box at end of your bed


"Nope. Not even a little bit. And I’ve only had sex a handful of times this year (at most). "

But have you got big hands this is the question?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier? "

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't"

Ok. It isn't. It's really shit for you. Do you feel happier now?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Nope. Not even a little bit. And I’ve only had sex a handful of times this year (at most).

But have you got big hands this is the question? "

I have little hands. I figured it out - four times this year. And I haven’t had sex since March. Go me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

Ok. It isn't. It's really shit for you. Do you feel happier now? "

Yes now do you feel better for speaking the truth and not sugar coating it?

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By *hunky GentMan  over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Nopw.

Beat of luck to them.

Its actually nice to hear from fab friends that they've met someone they've connected with and met.

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By *mileTogether69Man  over a year ago

Brighton

No not really..

Sounds like he may of brought into the " illusion" that everyone else is at it like rabbits..

Also what they do is obviously so much better ,bigger and longer than everyone else...

NER ner ner ner ner ner !

exsageration, exsageration, exsageration...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm not sure I dont think so, I dont think of others activity.

Maybe the concept of missing out on fun enjoyable sex as opposed to repetitive going through the motions sex, is what some of us may be jealous of?

I'm not even sure what the perceived average figure for the amount of times people have sex is?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

Ok. It isn't. It's really shit for you. Do you feel happier now?

Yes now do you feel better for speaking the truth and not sugar coating it?

"

I felt fine before, dude. Glad you feel better

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't"

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!"

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this. "

I'm a woman and I disagree with this or maybe I'm being silly and the men know better.

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men? "

I know men who have slept with more women in the past month than I have men in the past year.

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

I'm a woman and I disagree with this or maybe I'm being silly and the men know better."

I think you hit the nail on the head right there!

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

.


"

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!"

Good post but why is the woman so passive and dull and the man is a go getting forum user?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this. "

Monkey shakes his head in a masculine whole heartedly disagreeing manner

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"Nah, I havn’t had sex since my last relationship ended over 3 years ago. I’m by no means desperate and I’m not jealous of anybody else. I’ve never been one to just have sex for the sake of it though so I’d rather go without than have sex with a girl I wasn’t really into just so I could scratch an itch.

I feel the same. I wouldn't just have sex with anyone for the sake of it. "

And neither do us women which is why despite the countless awful messages I don't meet many people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!"

How many women have you met through this site and not socials/clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

My sex drive is always off the scale

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post "

What have I ignored?

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By *adetMan  over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Literally have no idea why guys find it so hard to be successful on here. It's not rocket science

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

I know men who have slept with more women in the past month than I have men in the past year."

Maybe that was at clubs and they weren't fussy

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Monkey shakes his head in a masculine whole heartedly disagreeing manner "

I shake my head back at him

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women!

Well I don't mean all men and all women stop mailing haha more a case of men stopped mailing in desperation. A friend of mine returned, she made a new profile with a single pic and didn't put anything in her profile for a few day came back to double digits.

They knew very little about her or what she was wanting.

I would be curious to see the outcome if that impossible feat did happen though. How many women would hate the lack of attention and how many would enjoy the relief.

Just to add that's not a complaint on the situation, just a curious observation. "

I'd love to try it as an experiment.

I suppose there are websites where men can't mail the women first. Not sure if they work... or how the dynamic changes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Literally have no idea why guys find it so hard to be successful on here. It's not rocket science "

I could be successful too, if I wanted to meet other men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

Good post but why is the woman so passive and dull and the man is a go getting forum user? "

Right on

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this. "

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women!

Imagine that, i actually think more men would have a better experience, because the women wouldnt feel so ground down by all the faf messages and would probably seek out men more regular in my humble opinion."

I receive lots of messages but I still message men first and it works a lot better for me than sifting through my inbox.

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By *adetMan  over a year ago

South of Ipswich


"Literally have no idea why guys find it so hard to be successful on here. It's not rocket science

I could be successful too, if I wanted to meet other men.

"

And if other men wanted to meet you of course

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

I'm a woman and I disagree with this or maybe I'm being silly and the men know better.

I think you hit the nail on the head right there! "

Yeah just being silly

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't"

I think the chances are the same for both as far as finding someone they fancy. Less chance of finding that person fancies them too.

Men have it harder because they get no replies and often abuse.

Women have it harder because they have too many messages and often abuse.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

I'm a woman and I disagree with this or maybe I'm being silly and the men know better.

I think you hit the nail on the head right there!

Yeah just being silly "

And there in one simple statement explains why some aren't successful

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman  over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post

What have I ignored? "

Pretty much, everything.

But why change your habits!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Literally have no idea why guys find it so hard to be successful on here. It's not rocket science

I could be successful too, if I wanted to meet other men.

And if other men wanted to meet you of course "

Even I get winks and messages from men. It's once in a blue moon that I get a message from a woman and only had 1wink since I've been here.

Which again goes to show that it's much easier to get men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post

What have I ignored?

Pretty much, everything.

But why change your habits! "

I've acknowledged what was said. Not ignored it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

I'm a woman and I disagree with this or maybe I'm being silly and the men know better.

I think you hit the nail on the head right there!

Yeah just being silly

And there in one simple statement explains why some aren't successful "

Get a joke man

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Literally have no idea why guys find it so hard to be successful on here. It's not rocket science

I could be successful too, if I wanted to meet other men.

"

So do you just stay to complain then? It's clearly not working for you here so why invest any more time in it?

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

I know men who have slept with more women in the past month than I have men in the past year.

Maybe that was at clubs and they weren't fussy "

It wasn't and maybe they're not but I'd give the women they meet one.

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post

What have I ignored? "

Pretty much everything people have said to you as you always do

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women!

Imagine that, i actually think more men would have a better experience, because the women wouldnt feel so ground down by all the faf messages and would probably seek out men more regular in my humble opinion.

I receive lots of messages but I still message men first and it works a lot better for me than sifting through my inbox."

I bet none of them ever turn you down either

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Literally have no idea why guys find it so hard to be successful on here. It's not rocket science

I could be successful too, if I wanted to meet other men.

So do you just stay to complain then? It's clearly not working for you here so why invest any more time in it? "

I stay because of the forums, it's been good to pass the time. I may leave soon.

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"No. Why would I? Im getting all the sex i need and im 54

Because you are getting all the sex you need and it's not so much of a problem for women to have sex

That's true if you're prepared to settle for just anything. If you're not then it can be challenging.

Surely not so much of a challenge for women compared to men

Do you really think that?

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

Quite easily, because you're wrong!

So are you saying that if you wanted to you could meet just as many women for sex as a woman could meet men?

Of course he could. Why wouldn’t he?

Because life isn't like that. Women get a million offers and messages a day. How many do men get? I get none.

I didn’t realise that you represent all men

I don't.. I'm just speaking reality

But you aren't. Reality has spoken to you, and you are choosing to ignore what it has said.

Okay so it's just so easy for men to meet attractive women for sex as it is for women to meet attractive men for sex.

Well I've learned something new today. Not lol.

It still all comes down to standards. The vast majority of the time men are willing to drop their standards for sex. The majority of women are not.

Thats the fault of men, not women. If men didn't throw themselves at women in such a desperate attempt to get sex women wouldn't have such an "easy" time through their over abundance of offers. That right there is what the difference is.

With that said, if said women don't find you attractive they are not going to offer regardless.

Imagine if the men all stopped mailing the women!

Imagine that, i actually think more men would have a better experience, because the women wouldnt feel so ground down by all the faf messages and would probably seek out men more regular in my humble opinion.

I receive lots of messages but I still message men first and it works a lot better for me than sifting through my inbox.

I bet none of them ever turn you down either "

Some don't respond so I guess yes they do.

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post

What have I ignored?

Pretty much everything people have said to you as you always do"

Exactly.

I'm really starting to believe that the OP doesn't want help or to discuss, he just wants to start arguments and stir up agitation. The last few threads have all been worded in that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post

What have I ignored?

Pretty much everything people have said to you as you always do"

Sorry if there's anything I missed from you. You always write a novel and it's hard to take it all in.

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"

How many women have you met through this site and not socials/clubs?

"

Every person I have met one to one has been through the site and NOT at socials/clubs

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Literally have no idea why guys find it so hard to be successful on here. It's not rocket science

I could be successful too, if I wanted to meet other men.

"

Truth of the matter, and speaking as a bisexual man, is it's actually harder to meet other men (that interest me enough to want to meet them) than it is women - and is why I've yet to meet a man despite being open to doing so.

So that statement is incorrect!!

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"

Good post but why is the woman so passive and dull and the man is a go getting forum user? "

Oh Meli

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Fucked my ex . That’s it. .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Hell yes I'm missing out.

For 9 years I've been missing out. Makes me wonder if all this is worth my risk.

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London

It’s like Groundhog Day.

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By *abs..Woman  over a year ago

..


"It’s like Groundhog Day."

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"It’s like Groundhog Day."

Ned? Ned Ryerson??

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Mickey.... maybe it would be easier if you viewed people as individuals rather than gender and those difficulties as "meet requirement fulfilment areas"

You say yourself you are fussy, and fair play to you for sticking to those requirements, but those requirements will be making it harder for you, much the same as if I wanted to meet an Arnie lookalike who only ate parsnips. It's as hard as we make it for ourselves plus that bit harder as others need to be wanting the same thing from us.

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P"

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

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By *ySweetLadyWoman  over a year ago

London

In all honesty, yes I am jealous, but I am also happy for them and wish them the best.

The fact that I am not getting any does not mean that the rest of the world should stop having sex. That would be ridiculous.

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

"

If there were women about who would message a blank male profile begging for sex, do you think they would be likely to be the type of woman you would want to meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post

What have I ignored?

Pretty much everything people have said to you as you always do

Exactly.

I'm really starting to believe that the OP doesn't want help or to discuss, he just wants to start arguments and stir up agitation. The last few threads have all been worded in that way. "

I appreciate your advice, but to me you have always come across as if you are looking for an argument. You are probably not like this in reality, but on here you are sometimes so blunt it makes me think you want an argument.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

"

Jesus Mickey what don't you get... those women STILL NEED TO FIND THE BLOKES ATTRACTIVE if that's one if their needs and volume of messages doesn't mean they're gonna find volume of attractive chaps.

If they simply want a penis then yes, BUT, if LIKE YOU, they have standards they need meeting then volume of messages doesn't make a snot of difference in whether they'll find what they're looking for.

Yes, I felt the volume needed adjusting to enhance the key points.

P

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman  over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"oh and i am choosy for those that say otherwise. I just happen to have a group of regular guys

People can fuck 20 people a day but still be choosy. X

Okay il go choose 20 women. Sounds easy

So if we all agree that it's really shit and unfair and women have it easy and you don't get any messages will it make you happier?

No it just makes me annoyed when people say it's just the same for men to find someone.

It obviously isn't

You can get as annoyed as you like - but you're coming across as a petulant teenager who thinks he knows best all the time to be frank.

You've ignored everything that has been said to you on this thread, and often do so on your other "pity poor me" threads, you make comparisons and assumptions based on things you can't possibly know.

No it's not easy for men to find what they are looking for from the site - but then not is it easy for women to find what they are looking for either!! Therefore it *is* just as easy/difficult for *both* of them - if that annoys you then that is *your* problem and no-one elses!! The sooner you actually listen to what you are told here, by people obviously better placed to give valid views, the sooner you may find your experience improves.

Oh and to back up my thing about it being just as easy/difficult for men/women consider this:

Two users, one man, one woman, similar personalities, average bodies, well written profiles, decent set of pics, similar attitudes, expectations and approaches to the site etc etc - essentially the *only* difference is their gender.

The lady does nothing but waits for men to message her, gets 100 messages a day but of those 100 messages only 10 of them even merit a reply, of those 5 she chats to a little and after doing so, only 2 of them is she interested in meeting.

The guy takes his time, uses the forums, presents himself as a decent bloke, builds up a rapport and gets to know people, picks two or three women that he likes the look of and has got to know a little and suggests meeting - one of them isn't interested but the other two are.

See? Same result just different way of getting to it - and it is something that happens the site over on a regular basis!!

He won't listen but that is such a perceptive, well written post

What have I ignored?

Pretty much everything people have said to you as you always do

Exactly.

I'm really starting to believe that the OP doesn't want help or to discuss, he just wants to start arguments and stir up agitation. The last few threads have all been worded in that way.

I appreciate your advice, but to me you have always come across as if you are looking for an argument. You are probably not like this in reality, but on here you are sometimes so blunt it makes me think you want an argument. "

Pot, kettle, black!

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London

It’s like Groundhog Day.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"It’s like Groundhog Day."

Ned? Ned Ryerson?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

Jesus Mickey what don't you get... those women STILL NEED TO FIND THE BLOKES ATTRACTIVE if that's one if their needs and volume of messages doesn't mean they're gonna find volume of attractive chaps.

If they simply want a penis then yes, BUT, if LIKE YOU, they have standards they need meeting then volume of messages doesn't make a snot of difference in whether they'll find what they're looking for.

Yes, I felt the volume needed adjusting to enhance the key points.

P"

It's a waste of time. There are people who are dissatisfied with their situation and don't want to make the effort to change it, they just want to complain and come up with reasons why the fact they're dissatisfied is because of stuff they can't control instead of their own choices. My first spanker was exactly like this. Sadly he passed away seven years ago by which time he'd driven away everyone who loved him, including me.

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

"

And *this* is why people say you don't listen and ignore what is said to you - yes you're right in that two blank profiles one male, one female, the female one will get the interest - but that doesn't mean to say the interest will be *of* interest.

My earlier example is what you need to take on board if you insist on making comparisons (which it's been pointed out numerous times you shouldn't).

You make a huge deal about the number imbalance being the reason women are more "successful" here than men (and as ever I hate the term successful as it makes the site sound like some kind of competition) but that is inaccurate also so consider this one:

Yes it's true men outnumber women by around 10:1 - but if you remove the men that have the wrong attitude, approach and expectations of the site, the ones who have crap profiles and awful pics that imbalance disappears and there are probably a lot more even number of men and women all of whom "get" the site and how it works, and all of whom are equally likely to find what they are looking for from it.

Again another way of seeing that it *is* fairly evenly balanced in terms of "difficulty" here for those that "get" it.

The question you have to ask yourself is do you "get" it and are taking the right steps to show that you do, or are you one of the men that doesn't "get" it and are therefore going to be frustrated by the site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

If there were women about who would message a blank male profile begging for sex, do you think they would be likely to be the type of woman you would want to meet?"

No I'd think she wanted money. I just used that for an example. If the males profile had pics and text.. It still wouldn't create as much interest. No where near so many offers.

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By *lanemikeMan  over a year ago

Bolton

To answer original question.......YES!!!!

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS  over a year ago

stockport

Of course. Daft question

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

If there were women about who would message a blank male profile begging for sex, do you think they would be likely to be the type of woman you would want to meet?

No I'd think she wanted money. I just used that for an example. If the males profile had pics and text.. It still wouldn't create as much interest. No where near so many offers. "

So a lady messages you .. offering you something ... you'd nail her?

Or do you need a connection, an attraction?

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By *nabelle21Woman  over a year ago

B38


"I recently told my friend about fab and its left him with a feeling of missing out.

He's 54 and he told me that the people on here in their early 20's have had more sex than he as had in his life.

A feeling a jeoulesy perhaps? Do anyone feel like this? "

That doesn't necessarily mean he's jealous though does it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

Jesus Mickey what don't you get... those women STILL NEED TO FIND THE BLOKES ATTRACTIVE if that's one if their needs and volume of messages doesn't mean they're gonna find volume of attractive chaps.

If they simply want a penis then yes, BUT, if LIKE YOU, they have standards they need meeting then volume of messages doesn't make a snot of difference in whether they'll find what they're looking for.

Yes, I felt the volume needed adjusting to enhance the key points.

P"

Of course they need to find the men attractive. But unlike men, they have an unlimited amount to choose from.

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London

Micky, is this actually what gets you off? Being deliberately obtuse? If so, I reckons you’re having the best “success” on the site of everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Yes of course its easier for women to find someone who they fancy for sex. I don't know how anyone could disagree with this.

This does not compute.

How? Explain how?

You could put 100 blokes in front of me and I MAY get a bit of an eyebrow raise of curiosity towards 2 of them. This doesn't mean I fancy them, it means I may be interested in getting to know them.

You may be stood in front of 100 women and think half of them are fuckable, you may fancy just 1 of them or want to get to know them well enough to put your cock in them.

How is that different?

Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women? Still doesn't mean women will find more of those men attractive. I could have 1000 in front of me and STILL only get fanny flutters over 1 or 2.

It depends on what you find attractive, what preferences you have, what boxes you need them to tick. That surely isn't so hard to understand

P

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

Jesus Mickey what don't you get... those women STILL NEED TO FIND THE BLOKES ATTRACTIVE if that's one if their needs and volume of messages doesn't mean they're gonna find volume of attractive chaps.

If they simply want a penis then yes, BUT, if LIKE YOU, they have standards they need meeting then volume of messages doesn't make a snot of difference in whether they'll find what they're looking for.

Yes, I felt the volume needed adjusting to enhance the key points.

P

Of course they need to find the men attractive. But unlike men, they have an unlimited amount to choose from. "

Who match everything they're looking for? How many parsnip eating Arnie lookalikes you come across?

There you have it

P

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman  over a year ago

On a mooch


"

I bet none of them ever turn you down either "

and that quote there on it’s own OP just shows you don’t get it .... of course women get turned down and why, because everyone is entitled to make a choice, even men.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No, I get envious over men with pretty hair

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"

"Do you mean because there are more men on the site therefore more people to choose from for women?" yes

Now I know we can't all be attracted to everyone.. But if a single female signed in with no pics or profile, she would still get bombed with messages for sex? Sex? Sex? Sex?... Now sign in the same with male gender and you get fuck all.

So when people say it's just so hard for women as men, I think they're having a joke.

And *this* is why people say you don't listen and ignore what is said to you - yes you're right in that two blank profiles one male, one female, the female one will get the interest - but that doesn't mean to say the interest will be *of* interest.

My earlier example is what you need to take on board if you insist on making comparisons (which it's been pointed out numerous times you shouldn't).

You make a huge deal about the number imbalance being the reason women are more "successful" here than men (and as ever I hate the term successful as it makes the site sound like some kind of competition) but that is inaccurate also so consider this one:

Yes it's true men outnumber women by around 10:1 - but if you remove the men that have the wrong attitude, approach and expectations of the site, the ones who have crap profiles and awful pics that imbalance disappears and there are probably a lot more even number of men and women all of whom "get" the site and how it works, and all of whom are equally likely to find what they are looking for from it.

Again another way of seeing that it *is* fairly evenly balanced in terms of "difficulty" here for those that "get" it.

The question you have to ask yourself is do you "get" it and are taking the right steps to show that you do, or are you one of the men that doesn't "get" it and are therefore going to be frustrated by the site?

"

I think I get it in my way. I think what I said is true. I get what you just said but I think it still comes down to what I said to a certain extent.

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool

Ok then OP. If it's easy for women on here to meet men they fancy, what's wrong with me that makes it hard?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I recently told my friend about fab and its left him with a feeling of missing out.

He's 54 and he told me that the people on here in their early 20's have had more sex than he as had in his life.

A feeling a jeoulesy perhaps? Do anyone feel like this?

That doesn't necessarily mean he's jealous though does it."

Maybe not. He seemed down.. I'm sorry for telling him about this.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

There was a time I had sex every day however my current lifestyle only lends itself to two or three times a week. This tally doesn’t include a sexy female pegging me which can add up to four to the monthly total.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ok then OP. If it's easy for women on here to meet men they fancy, what's wrong with me that makes it hard?"

You have 8 verifications and probably met more than that. I wouldn't say it's hard.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple  over a year ago

Hailsham


"Ok then OP. If it's easy for women on here to meet men they fancy, what's wrong with me that makes it hard?

You have 8 verifications and probably met more than that. I wouldn't say it's hard. "

And all of those must be sex

No socials

No coffee meets

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman  over a year ago

On a mooch


"Ok then OP. If it's easy for women on here to meet men they fancy, what's wrong with me that makes it hard?

You have 8 verifications and probably met more than that. I wouldn't say it's hard.

And all of those must be sex

No socials

No coffee meets "

Don’t you know all verifications must be sexual

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The point you appear to be missing completely is the difference between QUANTITY and QUALITY.

Yes women get a far greater QUANTITY of interest than men - but when it comes down to QUALITY of interest it's a very different story and it's surely QUALITY of interest that people are interested in?

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"Ok then OP. If it's easy for women on here to meet men they fancy, what's wrong with me that makes it hard?

You have 8 verifications and probably met more than that. I wouldn't say it's hard. "

If you read them you'll see I've only slept with one of my verifications. The others are friends or socials. There's only one other person off this site I have slept with and that was over a year ago and he's no longer on the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"

I bet none of them ever turn you down either

and that quote there on it’s own OP just shows you don’t get it .... of course women get turned down and why, because everyone is entitled to make a choice, even men.

"

I know everyone is entitled to make a choice. What I should of said was I bet not 'many' turned her down.

If she messages 10 men I'm sure most would reply. If I messaged 10 women I know none would reply usually.

Yet its the same for women lol

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By *itty9899Man  over a year ago

Craggy Island

Everyone at some point thinks they haven't had enough sex compare to everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

I bet none of them ever turn you down either

and that quote there on it’s own OP just shows you don’t get it .... of course women get turned down and why, because everyone is entitled to make a choice, even men.

I know everyone is entitled to make a choice. What I should of said was I bet not 'many' turned her down.

If she messages 10 men I'm sure most would reply. If I messaged 10 women I know none would reply usually.

Yet its the same for women lol "

It’s difficult, for different reasons.

Which has been explained. Many times

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ok then OP. If it's easy for women on here to meet men they fancy, what's wrong with me that makes it hard?

You have 8 verifications and probably met more than that. I wouldn't say it's hard.

And all of those must be sex

No socials

No coffee meets "

I didn't say that. I'd like coffee meets.

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