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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I bit of a follow up an would like your take on this
So last Friday I'm sure my now ex was having phone sex with her "best mate" so did what was avived an spoke to her about it, didn't go down well, obviously she denied it saying your being paranoid but a few days later spoke to her again about what I heard an she says this she had finished the convo with her male friend and was still wide awake at 5am so she went on prom hub an had a little play but still insisted she made no sound,am not deaf and would hear the sounds and talking.
So do you think shes hiding something going on with her so called best mate or am I being paranoid |
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You do realise that none of us were there.
None of us heard or saw anything.
None of us know you.
You got advice and you carried it out.
All the decisions are yours now.
You don't believe she is innocent so ACT on that. Unless you want to believe she is innocent and if you do then ACT on that.
No one else can tell you jack shit. |
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Maybe concentrate more on the reasons why she was doing it. Clearly she wasn't happy. Did she have a very high sex drive? Or weren't you satisfying her enough or not paying her enough attention? Had she caught you on here without permission and was seeking revenge?
See if this experience can help you become a better person/partner in future. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would trust your gut & its telling you she was up to something.
My husband had an affair & I knew he was up to something. You just know.
MsDub"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe concentrate more on the reasons why she was doing it. Clearly she wasn't happy. Did she have a very high sex drive? Or weren't you satisfying her enough or not paying her enough attention? Had she caught you on here without permission and was seeking revenge?
See if this experience can help you become a better person/partner in future."
Ya we had amazing sex when we had it an ya we were drifting but thought we were making some effort to that,she knew about me on here too
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First of all OP, I'm sorry to hear your relationship ended. That's always a difficult time.
As difficult as it is to hear, your ex doesn't need to tell you anything, although your gut instinct is probably right.
Try to move on the best you can.  |
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"Maybe concentrate more on the reasons why she was doing it. Clearly she wasn't happy. Did she have a very high sex drive? Or weren't you satisfying her enough or not paying her enough attention? Had she caught you on here without permission and was seeking revenge?
See if this experience can help you become a better person/partner in future.
Ya we had amazing sex when we had it an ya we were drifting but thought we were making some effort to that,she knew about me on here too
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Knew about it but was she happy about it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If she's now your ex, does it really matter?
Well ya it's more to do with closure
Sometimes closure is moving on and forgetting. "
am moving on iv accepted that it's over its is it over coz of another guy or she just give up but shes not that type of person just to give up so that's what's making it tought |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe concentrate more on the reasons why she was doing it. Clearly she wasn't happy. Did she have a very high sex drive? Or weren't you satisfying her enough or not paying her enough attention? Had she caught you on here without permission and was seeking revenge?
See if this experience can help you become a better person/partner in future.
Ya we had amazing sex when we had it an ya we were drifting but thought we were making some effort to that,she knew about me on here too
Knew about it but was she happy about it?"
I was on here before I met her an told her from the beginning but ya was she hiding it more questions to ask myself |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Sometimes when you're not happy OP you suspect and "believe" things that simply aren't true - because you *want* to believe them as it somehow explains your unhappiness.
Is it possible this is the case with what you *think* you heard? Is it possible that actually she's telling the truth but you *want* to believe that she isn't so you have a reason to finish with her that will put the blame on her and not both of you?
I'm not saying you're wrong, but she's offered a plausible explanation, even if it *may* not be true (you may never know for sure).
Or even if she was having sex chat, perhaps the fact she knows you are on here (and potentially meeting others or doing the same as you *think* she was) she thought it would be ok for her?
Ultimately though only you can decide what you want to do, if you don't believe her you probably never will - so you have two choices, either you finish with her, or you stay and try and work things out and try to put this behind you regardless of what the truth is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I bit of a follow up an would like your take on this
So last Friday I'm sure my now ex was having phone sex with her "best mate" so did what was avived an spoke to her about it, didn't go down well, obviously she denied it saying your being paranoid but a few days later spoke to her again about what I heard an she says this she had finished the convo with her male friend and was still wide awake at 5am so she went on prom hub an had a little play but still insisted she made no sound,am not deaf and would hear the sounds and talking.
So do you think shes hiding something going on with her so called best mate or am I being paranoid"
it doesnt sound good my friend    |
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