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One persons hardship is another persons everyday. Different personality types react differently to different situations. Almost impossible to determine how much is too much. Not all people are created equal |
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over a year ago
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"One persons hardship is another persons everyday. Different personality types react differently to different situations. Almost impossible to determine how much is too much. Not all people are created equal"
I completely agree with you on, every one is not created equal. However my question was, is it hardship that makes a person stronger. Or is it something else? |
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger? 
Spinach   "
Do you have a recipe I could follow |
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"Six hours a day at the gym for six months
Doing what
Wiping arse sweat from plastic saddles. "
Do you have to do that at the gym? Why dont you do that at home?
You could atleast save on gym membership.  |
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"Six hours a day at the gym for six months
Doing what
Wiping arse sweat from plastic saddles.
Do you have to do that at the gym? Why dont you do that at home?
You could atleast save on gym membership. "
I don't have any plastic saddles at home ...... |
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"You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward."
I think rocky had the right way of it. You gotta keep on keeping on and take pride in yourself and feel mentally stronger for not letting life break you. |
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""You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward."
I think rocky had the right way of it. You gotta keep on keeping on and take pride in yourself and feel mentally stronger for not letting life break you."
Intresting. |
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Baggage of life! It's what life throws at you and how you handle it. I think my bag in the baggage of life is very heavy. Not many would want to share the carring the handle of my bag, let alone carry it for a day.
I'm not saying what mine is. But yesterday for example. My son has 2 cars. Dropping the engin out of one putting it in another. 1 car on my driveway, one one the road. We live in a cil de sac, so limited parking. I get a knock on the door yesterday. Neighbour saying / shouting, hes gonna report the car on the road. It's been fly tipped its dangerous and needs to be moved. Its been there sinse last Friday, not even a week. Its Taxed & mot'd till April 2020. And fully insured
 . It has every right to be parked on the public highway. So I slammed the door in his face.
That evening, my 12 year old sons bully came round and egged the house.  . We've dine nothing byt get atracked from all angels.
A dew years ago I would not of slammed the door in someones face! And if I catch upto the bully, I will confront him. I'm not a mild and meek whimp anymore! |
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Usually its how u see what your made of are you a fighter can you overcome it and survive but it does depend on the hardship some take u from living to just existing |
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"Baggage of life! It's what life throws at you and how you handle it. I think my bag in the baggage of life is very heavy. Not many would want to share the carring the handle of my bag, let alone carry it for a day.
I'm not saying what mine is. But yesterday for example. My son has 2 cars. Dropping the engin out of one putting it in another. 1 car on my driveway, one one the road. We live in a cil de sac, so limited parking. I get a knock on the door yesterday. Neighbour saying / shouting, hes gonna report the car on the road. It's been fly tipped its dangerous and needs to be moved. Its been there sinse last Friday, not even a week. Its Taxed & mot'd till April 2020. And fully insured
. It has every right to be parked on the public highway. So I slammed the door in his face.
That evening, my 12 year old sons bully came round and egged the house. . We've dine nothing byt get atracked from all angels.
A dew years ago I would not of slammed the door in someones face! And if I catch upto the bully, I will confront him. I'm not a mild and meek whimp anymore! "
Sorry to hear that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"(Ray) upbringing, morals, character and a good bullshit detector 
And a good woman by your side
As they say behind every great man is an even greater woman x"
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger? "
Lots of factors come into play and cannot be defined into one category.
There are differing types and sub types.
What is some person's hardship is another ones first world problem and everyone has their own version.
My hardships have turned into lessons giving me the tools of independence and resilience, which is great.
Bereavement has taken my confidence and spark. Working zt building it up.
My understanding is take whatever life is giving you and turn it around, see what can be gleaned from it, what lesson has that given you and what can you do about it.
Some of the greatest people in yhe world have used their hardships to benefit others.
Moving forward from any sìtuatìon is all you can do.
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger?
Lots of factors come into play and cannot be defined into one category.
There are differing types and sub types.
What is some person's hardship is another ones first world problem and everyone has their own version.
My hardships have turned into lessons giving me the tools of independence and resilience, which is great.
Bereavement has taken my confidence and spark. Working zt building it up.
My understanding is take whatever life is giving you and turn it around, see what can be gleaned from it, what lesson has that given you and what can you do about it.
Some of the greatest people in yhe world have used their hardships to benefit others.
Moving forward from any sìtuatìon is all you can do.
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Wow. I love your wisdom. You can certainly go deep. No one turns me on like you do.
In fact I love everything about you  |
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger? "
It depends on the person, our individual resiliance, how folk deal with lifes knocks, some will rise, some will crumble.
I know some of the things I've endured would have broken most people. That's not me being big headed, it's a fact.
One of my mums nickname for me is Teabag.
Because its only when I'm dropped in hot water, you can see how strong I get.
I am stronger for the knocks I've encountered, and I'm grateful for the lessons I've learnt through them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Life throws all kinds of crap at you & how you cope with it can make you stronger or feel vulnerable. Some of the strongest people ive met were disabled. "
That is a great point. Have you ever watched a guy name Nick Vijivic. He is an Aussie motivational speaker. No arms or feet. Truly inspirational |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger?
It depends on the person, our individual resiliance, how folk deal with lifes knocks, some will rise, some will crumble.
I know some of the things I've endured would have broken most people. That's not me being big headed, it's a fact.
One of my mums nickname for me is Teabag.
Because its only when I'm dropped in hot water, you can see how strong I get.
I am stronger for the knocks I've encountered, and I'm grateful for the lessons I've learnt through them.
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Good on ya Stay strong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger?
Lots of factors come into play and cannot be defined into one category.
There are differing types and sub types.
What is some person's hardship is another ones first world problem and everyone has their own version.
My hardships have turned into lessons giving me the tools of independence and resilience, which is great.
Bereavement has taken my confidence and spark. Working zt building it up.
My understanding is take whatever life is giving you and turn it around, see what can be gleaned from it, what lesson has that given you and what can you do about it.
Some of the greatest people in yhe world have used their hardships to benefit others.
Moving forward from any sìtuatìon is all you can do.
Wow. I love your wisdom. You can certainly go deep. No one turns me on like you do.
In fact I love everything about you "
I try and look at situations from a variety of lenses. Always learning and enquiring. Nothing is ever linear, rarely black and white but many shades inbetween
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"One persons hardship is another persons everyday. Different personality types react differently to different situations. Almost impossible to determine how much is too much. Not all people are created equal"
One same thing might break person A but make person B stronger. |
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Apparently what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I note this has been mentioned further up.
In my humble opinion this is condescending, patronising claptrap designed to dismiss anybody who has been defeated by what life has thrown at them and needs to curl up in a ball and be looked after.
With the current drive towards enabling people to talk about mental health issues I'm amazed anybody still trots this out.
Life can throw some awful, awful things at you and it's absolutely OK to not be strong because of it.
What makes people stronger is supporting the ones who aren't without judging them. |
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Personally i don't think hardship makes a person stronger, more that gives the person an opportunity to realise their own strength.
A person can be strong without being tested. However won't fully appreciate what they could possibly overcome.
as for at what point is it too much hardship. everyone will have their own limits. It doesn't however take away from the strength they found. |
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"Personally i don't think hardship makes a person stronger, more that gives the person an opportunity to realise their own strength.
A person can be strong without being tested. However won't fully appreciate what they could possibly overcome.
as for at what point is it too much hardship. everyone will have their own limits. It doesn't however take away from the strength they found. "
Exactly and nobody should feel bad to discover that some of life's most awful events have broken them despite not killing them. |
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"One persons hardship is another persons everyday. Different personality types react differently to different situations. Almost impossible to determine how much is too much. Not all people are created equal
I completely agree with you on, every one is not created equal. However my question was, is it hardship that makes a person stronger. Or is it something else?"
Not the actual hardship but the reaction to it: the knowledge that you can (and have) survived it can make you stronger |
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My personal mantra
Surround yourself with the people that make you happy or make you a better person.
Everyone else you remove from your life or as best as you can.
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"One persons hardship is another persons everyday. Different personality types react differently to different situations. Almost impossible to determine how much is too much. Not all people are created equal
I completely agree with you on, every one is not created equal. However my question was, is it hardship that makes a person stronger. Or is it something else?"
Hardship can make you stronger or it can destroy you.
It's helped me in many ways but in others it has broken me, it all depends on how you cope with it and how bad it is. |
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Most people i know are not made stronger by going through hardship. Sure it gives them skills that many don't have but they do not, mentally, come out of it stronger and often need support.
Support makes people stronger. |
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"Most people i know are not made stronger by going through hardship. Sure it gives them skills that many don't have but they do not, mentally, come out of it stronger and often need support.
Support makes people stronger. "
sure does, so in a way does supporting people. |
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Hardship can both build you and destroy you. Pain is relative to each person and their own circumstances so should never be compared. No pain is less important than another. Often it’s the smaller things that break the spirit after beating something much bigger. Resilience only goes so far sometimes and we all have our breaking point.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ah the limits of strength I find most people do like to put a limitation on themselves, yet you must realise you're only ever as strong as you need to be, and you're capabilities far suppose what you imagine! Dig deep and push forward |
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"Most people i know are not made stronger by going through hardship. Sure it gives them skills that many don't have but they do not, mentally, come out of it stronger and often need support.
Support makes people stronger.
sure does, so in a way does supporting people."
Never thought of that but yes some people find comfort in supporting others. |
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Grief.
It absoloutely breaks you and you will never be the same person that you used to be.
Time helps to ease the pain and those of us who are lucky enough to have loving supportive friends and family to help us, you eventually become a stronger person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Grief.
It absoloutely breaks you and you will never be the same person that you used to be.
Time helps to ease the pain and those of us who are lucky enough to have loving supportive friends and family to help us, you eventually become a stronger person."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger?
Lots of factors come into play and cannot be defined into one category.
There are differing types and sub types.
What is some person's hardship is another ones first world problem and everyone has their own version.
My hardships have turned into lessons giving me the tools of independence and resilience, which is great.
Bereavement has taken my confidence and spark. Working zt building it up.
My understanding is take whatever life is giving you and turn it around, see what can be gleaned from it, what lesson has that given you and what can you do about it.
Some of the greatest people in yhe world have used their hardships to benefit others.
Moving forward from any sìtuatìon is all you can do.
Wow. I love your wisdom. You can certainly go deep. No one turns me on like you do.
In fact I love everything about you
I try and look at situations from a variety of lenses. Always learning and enquiring. Nothing is ever linear, rarely black and white but many shades inbetween
Glad you do "
You know what. You are a keeper! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Personally i don't think hardship makes a person stronger, more that gives the person an opportunity to realise their own strength.
A person can be strong without being tested. However won't fully appreciate what they could possibly overcome.
as for at what point is it too much hardship. everyone will have their own limits. It doesn't however take away from the strength they found. "
Are you talking resilience?  |
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"It’s amazing how people think they can knock you down. I’ve experienced some of the cruelest acts of people. In age I have learnt to pity them and move on. "
That is called grace. Great attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"One persons hardship is another persons everyday. Different personality types react differently to different situations. Almost impossible to determine how much is too much. Not all people are created equal
I completely agree with you on, every one is not created equal. However my question was, is it hardship that makes a person stronger. Or is it something else?
Not the actual hardship but the reaction to it: the knowledge that you can (and have) survived it can make you stronger"
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger? "
Hate to say it tragedy and adversity makes you stronger |
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"I seem to have either been around or had 'trying times'.
Now I'm strong enough to learn from those and willing to help other through difficult times.
Big hugs to all "
Great to hear mate. I can see that on the forums. There are a few (handful) gentlemen like you on here. Keep it up. Respect! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger?
Hate to say it tragedy and adversity makes you stronger"
It does. And taking time to reflect. Knowing when to switch off. Understanding your strengths and weaknesses. Being vulnerable also strengthens you! |
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By *hunky GentMan
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"I seem to have either been around or had 'trying times'.
Now I'm strong enough to learn from those and willing to help other through difficult times.
Big hugs to all
Great to hear mate. I can see that on the forums. There are a few (handful) gentlemen like you on here. Keep it up. Respect! "
Touché my friend. |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger? "
People get vulnerable and then learn to adapt and change perspectives and views. Its called survival and a turning point. Failure is only an option. If u have no one and no where to turn |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger?
People get vulnerable and then learn to adapt and change perspectives and views. Its called survival and a turning point. Failure is only an option. If u have no one and no where to turn"
Strength and support comes from places and people you would never expect but is there. Never be afraid to seek it out |
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"Hardship can both build you and destroy you. Pain is relative to each person and their own circumstances so should never be compared. No pain is less important than another. Often it’s the smaller things that break the spirit after beating something much bigger. Resilience only goes so far sometimes and we all have our breaking point. "
I like the Japanese custom of filling broken porcelain with molten gold. I like to think that hardships are similar. They break us, but also shape us. How we react to pain is individual and our threshold. And what we make of it too. I want to believe that choice is ultimately ours and we can chose to react based on facts, not emotions. It's such a hard lesson to process though |
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"Hardship can both build you and destroy you. Pain is relative to each person and their own circumstances so should never be compared. No pain is less important than another. Often it’s the smaller things that break the spirit after beating something much bigger. Resilience only goes so far sometimes and we all have our breaking point.
I like the Japanese custom of filling broken porcelain with molten gold. I like to think that hardships are similar. They break us, but also shape us. How we react to pain is individual and our threshold. And what we make of it too. I want to believe that choice is ultimately ours and we can chose to react based on facts, not emotions. It's such a hard lesson to process though "
Never heard of that before. Thank you for sharing. Nice one |
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"To become stronger, we must first identify and acknowledge our weaker areas. That in itself gives us strength in them.
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Agree. Being vulnerable and knowing your boundaries. |
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"Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger?
People get vulnerable and then learn to adapt and change perspectives and views. Its called survival and a turning point. Failure is only an option. If u have no one and no where to turn
Strength and support comes from places and people you would never expect but is there. Never be afraid to seek it out "
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No simple answer to that at all. We are all different and what breaks one may not break another. I think we all become stronger as we learn more about ourselves. The more we know ourselves the better and stronger we become. Life throws some awful situations at us and I've had my fair share and some. Some I feel stronger for and others broke me and made me realise that no matter how strong I think I am there's always something new to overcome. |
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"No simple answer to that at all. We are all different and what breaks one may not break another. I think we all become stronger as we learn more about ourselves. The more we know ourselves the better and stronger we become. Life throws some awful situations at us and I've had my fair share and some. Some I feel stronger for and others broke me and made me realise that no matter how strong I think I am there's always something new to overcome. "
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"Apparently what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I note this has been mentioned further up.
In my humble opinion this is condescending, patronising claptrap designed to dismiss anybody who has been defeated by what life has thrown at them and needs to curl up in a ball and be looked after.
With the current drive towards enabling people to talk about mental health issues I'm amazed anybody still trots this out.
Life can throw some awful, awful things at you and it's absolutely OK to not be strong because of it.
What makes people stronger is supporting the ones who aren't without judging them. "
Well said |
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