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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply. |
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over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
nice idea but the next 172 messages may educate you lol  |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.nice idea but the next 172 messages may educate you lol "
I CBA....
I'm beginning to feel like a stuck record, constantly explaining, why I/most women don't bother to reply.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
I always reply if I'm not attracted to them with sorry you're not for me and I get abuse for it!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
My profile is really clear about the fact I won't reply if I'm not interested. If people choose the message and then get upset if they don't get a reply then I'm afraid that's on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't reply if I'm not interested , I don't even read all my mails , if I see something or some one interesting at or near the top of my inbox I will reply ,
some times I Mark one back as unread to come back to . I don't even have the time to read all the messages and honestly most aren't worth reading |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
All these people have replied to your post, but you haven't thanked them for reading it and replied to anyone.
Does that mean that you are rude with no manners ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can exceed my message allowance so I'm not going to reply to all messages.. Many are beyond crude and completely beyond fabs level of acceptance. I try to reply but then you get the tennis effect.
Blar blar.... No thank you
But why no a I not your type.... No thank you
But I'm local.... No
I can come round when your free.... Its still no.
Then you end up blocking. Name changes on profile and starts again til you realise.
So a no reply is still a reply..
It's stops a tennis effect |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
I always reply if I'm not attracted to them with sorry you're not for me and I get abuse for it!! "
This, sadly is why you seldom get a reply.
I fully understand why a lady wouldn't reply, too time consuming and risk of being abused. However the few who do reply with a no thank you, good luck, really do make an impression.
Ladies when you do say no thanks, there are many guys who really appreciate you taking the time to do it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
The trouble with replying a polite 'no thank you' is often replied back with abuse and also its impossible to reply back to everyone so just take a no reply as not interested.
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It's just how it is for women on here they get 100s of emails every day just suck it up its nothing personal. Anything worth while is worth waiting for and that's from personal experience on here. Best of luck fella |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When replying with a no thanks leads to abuse.. nope
My profile clearly states that if i dont reply its a no thanks.. if you have been polite enough to actually read my profile first then my non response isnt rude.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
I always reply if I'm not attracted to them with sorry you're not for me and I get abuse for it!!
This, sadly is why you seldom get a reply.
I fully understand why a lady wouldn't reply, too time consuming and risk of being abused. However the few who do reply with a no thank you, good luck, really do make an impression.
Ladies when you do say no thanks, there are many guys who really appreciate you taking the time to do it!"
And we appriciate a guy reading our profiles first and respecting what were looking for..
Yet rarely happens.
Such is life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
It demonstrates that they are kind hearted folk, especially because, if they are couples, they probably have a groaning, overstuffed, inbox |
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If somebody sends us a polite message we always reply politely, but we can because we're not drowning in messages.
If somebody sends us a message with no thought put into it then no thought will be put into getting back to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.nice idea but the next 172 messages may educate you lol
I CBA....
I'm beginning to feel like a stuck record, constantly explaining, why I/most women don't bother to reply.
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oh go on go on go on go on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am I missing something.........
Why is a “ no thank you “reply a good thing ?
Either I’m crazy or Fab has beat the life out of some of you guys.......
When I go out ..... and ask a woman if I can buy her a drink, and she responds no thank you.... I don’t feel great or thank her for turning down my offer....
Please explain why so many men are begging for a response from women online? |
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"If somebody sends us a polite message we always reply politely, but we can because we're not drowning in messages.
If somebody sends us a message with no thought put into it then no thought will be put into getting back to them. "
This for us ,not inundated but if polite i reply and even if its a no most guys are very thankful ive even answered ,so i will if i can ... |
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Genuinely don’t blame any couple or single fem if they don’t reply. For lots it would be a full tome job. Always assume that if you’re keen then at least 50 others are too. If they, read it and don’t reply, then it’s all good. You’re not for them. Life is too short to worry about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
I agree with you OP. In a perfect world someone will respond to your hello. But then, is it just hello you are expecting back or are you looking to have a conversation with them?
If you were outside and you said hello to someone they may reply with a hello back. If you were stopping them to have a conversation, how many would stop and have a conversation with you during their busy life?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I missing something.........
Why is a “ no thank you “reply a good thing ?
Either I’m crazy or Fab has beat the life out of some of you guys.......
When I go out ..... and ask a woman if I can buy her a drink, and she responds no thank you.... I don’t feel great or thank her for turning down my offer....
Please explain why so many men are begging for a response from women online?"
This!! Let’s be honest, you don’t feel great getting turned down. Surely no reply is better that being told ‘you’re not my type’ etc..?
I know I’d rather a man ignore me than reject me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
But I’m not here to chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forums are for people chatting
Off the back of that you may make friends if your awesome you will make many
Pms are for setting up the sex meets and being more intimate if thats haw the convo goes
Its cool to want to make friends via pm only but it much harder take it or dont |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Forums are for people chatting
Off the back of that you may make friends if your awesome you will make many
Pms are for setting up the sex meets and being more intimate if thats haw the convo goes
Its cool to want to make friends via pm only but it much harder take it or dont "
Well damn, LOO out here with stuff I agree with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not here to chat to everyone though. My limited time is better spent and less stressful to me, chatting to those I like and those I might be interested in meeting.
I'm crying my heart out that people see that as rude and lacking manners. Literally crying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Forums are for people chatting
Off the back of that you may make friends if your awesome you will make many
Pms are for setting up the sex meets and being more intimate if thats haw the convo goes
Its cool to want to make friends via pm only but it much harder take it or dont
Well damn, LOO out here with stuff I agree with "
and a 630 brain too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely reply and feel no guilt for deleting any messages because 99% of messages I get are from men who clearly haven’t read my profile or have read it and ignored it.
I’ll show them the same amount of manners and respect as they’ve shown me   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I missing something.........
Why is a “ no thank you “reply a good thing ?
Either I’m crazy or Fab has beat the life out of some of you guys.......
When I go out ..... and ask a woman if I can buy her a drink, and she responds no thank you.... I don’t feel great or thank her for turning down my offer....
Please explain why so many men are begging for a response from women online?"
Baffles me too.
I see these types of people as desperate for any sort of interaction. That in itself tells me that it's someone to be avoided. They just don't understand the differences between real life and online communication. The rules are different. The way we communicate is different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I rarely reply and feel no guilt for deleting any messages because 99% of messages I get are from men who clearly haven’t read my profile or have read it and ignored it.
I’ll show them the same amount of manners and respect as they’ve shown me "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Last night just for fun, I turned my search from just women to men and women. Well, the amount of messages I got was unbelievable.
I did reply to most with a short message “thanks but I’m not looking atm”.
I didn’t get any abuse, but I did get some very persistent message that didn’t want to take no for an answer.the only ones I didn’t reply to were rude or crude |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
We will always reply to messages and so far, we've never had anyone be rude at being turned down.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I missing something.........
Why is a “ no thank you “reply a good thing ?
Either I’m crazy or Fab has beat the life out of some of you guys.......
When I go out ..... and ask a woman if I can buy her a drink, and she responds no thank you.... I don’t feel great or thank her for turning down my offer....
Please explain why so many men are begging for a response from women online?
Baffles me too.
I see these types of people as desperate for any sort of interaction. That in itself tells me that it's someone to be avoided. They just don't understand the differences between real life and online communication. The rules are different. The way we communicate is different. "
The world is really changing....... I guess people can’t take hints anymore and need answers..... |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
North of Okehampton, South of Bideford |
"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
otally agree and manners cost nothing.
However of course there is a Caveat to that.
Just wonder why so many expect a reply, when it is clear they haven't read a profile FULLY.
How many people fire off a one liner saying they believe they tick all our boxes.
Then we see they are either Bi, smoke, have no pictures, outside of our preferred age range, straight but looking for other men or TV's.
If people put the effort in, i am sure they will get effort back. (well sometimes anyway )
A Simple "Hello" OP is not effort |
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We used to reply to everyone. Even a polite no thanks.
Then we would get abuse cos they didn't wana fuck me anyway.
Or they'd argue that yeah they're over the age limit but everyone says they look young. Or they're not athletic, it's just an old pic and they broke their leg and can't gym. (seriously we've had over 10 broken legs/ankles now)
They argue and bicker and bitch and it ruined fab for us. If we get a really polite message we will still reply even if it's a no but most of the time we don't. It's not worth it. |
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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Thing is if single guys were able to communication properly we would reply even to say thanks but no thanks.
However we opened our filters saturday evening and the quality of messages is rather shocking! Out of about 40 males 3 were polite enough to speak to. 1 of those 3 turned out to be playing away from home! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile is spiky, even has a 'not meeting' prominent. I am still messaged asking to meet, do I really have to be polite and repeat what Ive already written. How many times? |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"My profile is spiky, even has a 'not meeting' prominent. I am still messaged asking to meet, do I really have to be polite and repeat what Ive already written. How many times? "
Welcome back! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile is spiky, even has a 'not meeting' prominent. I am still messaged asking to meet, do I really have to be polite and repeat what Ive already written. How many times? "
No. I don’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whether I reply or not depends on how well written the message is.
Meet now and fancy a fuck type affairs get ignored
But if effort is made then that deserves acknowledgement
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reply to all first messages.
Doesn't take long, and I usually get a thank you for replying message, before I block them.
If I find replying is giving me a headache, or becoming disheartening, I shut down my profile so I don't receive any more messages.
This allows me to clean my inbox and clear my head.
I had great sex from a message saying hi once. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.nice idea but the next 172 messages may educate you lol
I CBA....
I'm beginning to feel like a stuck record, constantly explaining, why I/most women don't bother to reply.
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Put the needle on the record...put the needle on the record...put the needle on the record, put the needle on the record, put the needle on the record when the forum threads go like THIS! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's about priorities. I reply when someone showed that they read my profile. Otherwise not. And sometimes other things take over and volume of message can be absurd... but mostly meaningless. |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
I'm always surprised that folk spend time and energy in wondering how others choose to do things or trying to sway others to change their ways.  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I reply, even if just to say no thanks. I don’t get shedloads of messages though and i keep my inbox tidy so it’s fairly straight forward.
I tend to get a lot of “awww thanks for replying” messages. Which makes me feel nice .
Men just want to be seen on here. I reckon. And obviously get a shag but you know what i mean.... |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
I dont, I find it mildly annoying and condescending
Not interested ? Cool block me and move on saves us all time and trouble x |
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And erm no in the outside we dont and should not reply to everyone who wants to interrupt our lives
So there you are walking down the street thinking about whatever you want and random people you have zero interest in associating yourself with persistently interrupt your thing . No they do Not deserve a reply |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
That reminds me. I need to reply to the number on that flyer posted through my door advertising 'top prices for driveways'.
I don't have one so don't need mine doing.
Might as well contact all the pizza and chicken companies and thank them for their leaflets as well while I'm at it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
That reminds me. I need to reply to the number on that flyer posted through my door advertising 'top prices for driveways'.
I don't have one so don't need mine doing.
Might as well contact all the pizza and chicken companies and thank them for their leaflets as well while I'm at it."
That's totally different. Let's assume everyone who joins the site is looking for sex, and they know they can use filters.
If my profile says looking for single men, and I have my filters set to a certain age range, I expect to get messages. They won't all be from men I'm attracted to, and some might only be a hi, but they are from profiles I'm asking for.
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
That reminds me. I need to reply to the number on that flyer posted through my door advertising 'top prices for driveways'.
I don't have one so don't need mine doing.
Might as well contact all the pizza and chicken companies and thank them for their leaflets as well while I'm at it.
That's totally different. Let's assume everyone who joins the site is looking for sex, and they know they can use filters.
If my profile says looking for single men, and I have my filters set to a certain age range, I expect to get messages. They won't all be from men I'm attracted to, and some might only be a hi, but they are from profiles I'm asking for.
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Okay.
Do you have a driveway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
That reminds me. I need to reply to the number on that flyer posted through my door advertising 'top prices for driveways'.
I don't have one so don't need mine doing.
Might as well contact all the pizza and chicken companies and thank them for their leaflets as well while I'm at it.
That's totally different. Let's assume everyone who joins the site is looking for sex, and they know they can use filters.
If my profile says looking for single men, and I have my filters set to a certain age range, I expect to get messages. They won't all be from men I'm attracted to, and some might only be a hi, but they are from profiles I'm asking for.
Okay.
Do you have a driveway?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
That reminds me. I need to reply to the number on that flyer posted through my door advertising 'top prices for driveways'.
I don't have one so don't need mine doing.
Might as well contact all the pizza and chicken companies and thank them for their leaflets as well while I'm at it.
That's totally different. Let's assume everyone who joins the site is looking for sex, and they know they can use filters.
If my profile says looking for single men, and I have my filters set to a certain age range, I expect to get messages. They won't all be from men I'm attracted to, and some might only be a hi, but they are from profiles I'm asking for.
Okay.
Do you have a driveway?
Nope "
If I did it would be gated. I have dogs to ward off unwanted visitors too. See, I use my brain to make my life easier |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
That reminds me. I need to reply to the number on that flyer posted through my door advertising 'top prices for driveways'.
I don't have one so don't need mine doing.
Might as well contact all the pizza and chicken companies and thank them for their leaflets as well while I'm at it.
That's totally different. Let's assume everyone who joins the site is looking for sex, and they know they can use filters.
If my profile says looking for single men, and I have my filters set to a certain age range, I expect to get messages. They won't all be from men I'm attracted to, and some might only be a hi, but they are from profiles I'm asking for.
Okay.
Do you have a driveway?
Nope "
Same here.
And seeing as the front of my house goes straight to pavement (I have to look left and right before stepping out my front door) then I can't help but think this company wasted a decent leaflet on me.
I do like pizza though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
That reminds me. I need to reply to the number on that flyer posted through my door advertising 'top prices for driveways'.
I don't have one so don't need mine doing.
Might as well contact all the pizza and chicken companies and thank them for their leaflets as well while I'm at it.
That's totally different. Let's assume everyone who joins the site is looking for sex, and they know they can use filters.
If my profile says looking for single men, and I have my filters set to a certain age range, I expect to get messages. They won't all be from men I'm attracted to, and some might only be a hi, but they are from profiles I'm asking for.
Okay.
Do you have a driveway?
Nope
Same here.
And seeing as the front of my house goes straight to pavement (I have to look left and right before stepping out my front door) then I can't help but think this company wasted a decent leaflet on me.
I do like pizza though"
I don't really like takeaway food, but when I fancy a pizza, or Asian food, I'm grateful for the leaflets I have saved in my kitchen drawer.
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
That reminds me. I need to reply to the number on that flyer posted through my door advertising 'top prices for driveways'.
I don't have one so don't need mine doing.
Might as well contact all the pizza and chicken companies and thank them for their leaflets as well while I'm at it.
That's totally different. Let's assume everyone who joins the site is looking for sex, and they know they can use filters.
If my profile says looking for single men, and I have my filters set to a certain age range, I expect to get messages. They won't all be from men I'm attracted to, and some might only be a hi, but they are from profiles I'm asking for.
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But I need to eat. Also I like the taste of chicken. Therefore I'd better reply to every takeaway that sells chicken advertised in every leaflet that has been put through my door. I'll ring them up and say "Hi, I'm not hungry right now/Hi I get my chicken from a place round the corner usually, but thanks for your interest" etc?
Manners maketh the man!
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I will always reply if someone has written a decent message and i can see they have read my profile
Otherwise i delete,its rude not to take 2 mins to read a profile and message despite not being what they are looking for. |
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"I will always reply if someone has written a decent message and i can see they have read my profile
Otherwise i delete,its rude not to take 2 mins to read a profile and message despite not being what they are looking for."
What she said. I'm guessing that being a couple is why we very rarely get any abusive responses to our messages that a lot of single females get, but just simply reading a profile would solve the problems of most singles worrying why they don't get a reply. |
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By *eilde HoarWoman
over a year ago
In a wax coated bubble |
"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
I tried that once and recieved abuse for not wanting to speak to them so I shut down my filters and use my status updates to attract them Instead, happily now they get bored of me pretty quickly so I receive less random messages and replying is easier |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
I tried that once and recieved abuse for not wanting to speak to them so I shut down my filters and use my status updates to attract them Instead, happily now they get bored of me pretty quickly so I receive less random messages and replying is easier "
This is definitely not an isolated incident either. No reply of a read message is a “no”. Simple to understand really |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
If I say "submissive men only" and I won't reply to anyone outwith my preference. Why is it rude to ignore a Dom who contacts me seeking a submissive slut?
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
My profile is really clear about the fact I won't reply if I'm not interested. If people choose the message and then get upset if they don't get a reply then I'm afraid that's on them. "
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
My profile is really clear about the fact I won't reply if I'm not interested. If people choose the message and then get upset if they don't get a reply then I'm afraid that's on them.
Exactly! "
Deleted your last message a few years ago, cos yera cunt
and to answer:-
yes the earth is round you idiot |
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply.
My profile is really clear about the fact I won't reply if I'm not interested. If people choose the message and then get upset if they don't get a reply then I'm afraid that's on them.
Exactly!
Deleted your last message a few years ago, cos yera cunt
and to answer:-
yes the earth is round you idiot"
I haven’t been on in ages...missed your cheeky wit. |
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We try and respond to most messages but even when it is a polite no we have found that a lot of single guys will keep pushing or wait a few days and then send a copy and paste of their initial message!
Even resorted to blocking a couple of times, so it does tend to make me want to just delete without explaining why. |
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By *icknHMan
over a year ago
Ilfracombe |
"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
Spot on |
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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago
Near the River |
I know someone who just deletes messages without reading as she gets 20-30 on a good day but 80 or more on a bad day. I can only think that the ratio of guys has grown and because it’s free, there’s more spammers |
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It depends on the content of the message to be honest. If a bit of effort has been shown, I’m more likely to do similar and reply.
If it’s just a really poor effort or an obvious copy and paste job then will likely just delete.
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"I know someone who just deletes messages without reading as she gets 20-30 on a good day but 80 or more on a bad day. I can only think that the ratio of guys has grown and because it’s free, there’s more spammers "
Why does she allow anyone to message, if she's not going to read them? |
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By *kmaleMan
over a year ago
Bedford |
It is the downside with an uneven balance on the site.
If I send a message and it gets deleted then I know not to message ever again.
The one that confuses me is when it is read and then not deleted...is that good bad or maybe lol |
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"It is the downside with an uneven balance on the site.
If I send a message and it gets deleted then I know not to message ever again.
The one that confuses me is when it is read and then not deleted...is that good bad or maybe lol"
I read them and dont delete as I do mean to reply but some get lost x |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"It is the downside with an uneven balance on the site.
If I send a message and it gets deleted then I know not to message ever again.
The one that confuses me is when it is read and then not deleted...is that good bad or maybe lol"
I'd class that as a maybe - but I don't send another message.
Unless I'm trying to be amusing or saying something platonic. |
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"I know someone who just deletes messages without reading as she gets 20-30 on a good day but 80 or more on a bad day. I can only think that the ratio of guys has grown and because it’s free, there’s more spammers
Why does she allow anyone to message, if she's not going to read them?"
Maybe she does what I do and looks to see if the profile is of interest. If it isn't I don't read them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to be honest, i like when people reply even with no thank you, not interested.Reply is a dialog thats why we are here to chat, to have fun,not being rude and not reply at all.pls this is my opinion.It is like outside if someone says hello, manners you have to be polite and reply."
Agree and also just good manners |
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By *andy IanMan
over a year ago
cheshire/Preston |
I think it’s rude not to reply. Most guys send a message because the could/lady sounds like what they are looking for and the guys fit with what the couple/lady is looking for. If your not interested just say so I would be offended in fact I put a note on their profile to remind me not to contact them again |
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