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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is this something women do regularly? I mean a meet was planned and we had agreed where and then for the last 2 days just total disappearance... I get life can get in the way but surely a message to say “I can’t meet” is not too much to ask?
I can understand on the sheer volume of messages women get that they can not respond to every one but when you have a meet arranged does that require a little more respect? |
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By *oirinMarkusCouple
over a year ago
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Men do this too. They go awol and then on the day, an hour before they'll crop up again to say they are ready. It's hilarious because they honestly don't seem to realise that women appreciate being able to contact them the day before and the morning of, to make sure everything is on and still okay.
I am not keeping my whole day free for someone who can't say hi beforehand. |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Is this something women do regularly? I mean a meet was planned and we had agreed where and then for the last 2 days just total disappearance... I get life can get in the way but surely a message to say “I can’t meet” is not too much to ask?
I can understand on the sheer volume of messages women get that they can not respond to every one but when you have a meet arranged does that require a little more respect?"
That's a shame. Thinks can happen but yeah they should let u know. No one likes being stood up without good reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The easiness of being able to log out or block combined with anonymity on here.. seems to make some people think they dont owe you a respectful- Sorry, I changed my mind. I am having cold feet. I cannot make it.
Sorry to hear that. Its just a one experience and says nothing about you. Just her. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
That's shit, but at least you weren't actually stood up, she just stopped messaging, I assume you knew then that she wasn't turning up. But she should have told you she changed her mind, rude. |
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By *adetMan
over a year ago
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"Is this something women do regularly? I mean a meet was planned and we had agreed where and then for the last 2 days just total disappearance... I get life can get in the way but surely a message to say “I can’t meet” is not too much to ask?
I can understand on the sheer volume of messages women get that they can not respond to every one but when you have a meet arranged does that require a little more respect?"
In answer to your question yes it is disrespectful
I would move on while you still have the moral high ground  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Is this something women do regularly? I mean a meet was planned and we had agreed where and then for the last 2 days just total disappearance... I get life can get in the way but surely a message to say “I can’t meet” is not too much to ask?
I can understand on the sheer volume of messages women get that they can not respond to every one but when you have a meet arranged does that require a little more respect?"
It happens to me too with single men. |
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This really isn't a Fab thing at all. It is life. We come across flakes all the time. Social arrangements made weeks in advance with reminders and checks along the way get cancelled two hours before. We have bought tickets with other people to see shows as and they crash out last minute. It happens all the time.
A lot of people just think that when they commit to something they don't really have any obligation to follow through. It's shit but it happens all the time.
Men, women, Fab, normal life - it happens all the time. People should stop talking about it like it only happens on Fab. It doesn't. |
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Honestly, I've never been stood up as much as I have on here, by single guys and by couples. Twice by the same guy, second time by blocking me on here and on WhatsApp an hour before we were due to meet when I was already en route (serves me right for giving him a second chance, in fairness).
Honestly, it was driving me demented because I felt like I was the only person it was happening to (and no, I don't really love sitting in random bars and cafes waiting for someone who isn't on his way).
At least coming on the forum and seeing other people's posts makes me realise it's actually not just me, not some massive cosmic joke at my expense.
Shit happens, sadly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this something women do regularly? I mean a meet was planned and we had agreed where and then for the last 2 days just total disappearance... I get life can get in the way but surely a message to say “I can’t meet” is not too much to ask?
I can understand on the sheer volume of messages women get that they can not respond to every one but when you have a meet arranged does that require a little more respect?"
All sounds pretty standard, I’m afraid. Sorry to burst the bubble. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of fakes on here - but don’t ever forget, it takes a lot of guts to meet someone for the first time with the sole intention of having sex with them. Some people simply get nervous and disappear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is partly why I don't do social meets. I talk on the phone and then I wait and watch. I pay little attention to what people say, they'll say anything if they think it'll get them what they want. I watch what they do, how they interact with me after we've spoken and established there's an attraction. Often they don't bother to stay in touch and I take that as them just wanting to talk about it, delete the number and forget them. When they resurface wanting to meet I don't remember them. The ones who put the effort into building a connection, who are interested in me as a woman and not just as an opportunity for sex, they're the ones I end up meeting. I have people flake out and let me down like anyone does but it doesn't happen often. And when it does I'm at home and not sitting dressed up with a three quid cup of coffee and an irritable journey home in front of me. No system is fool proof but this MO works well enough that I'm not going to change it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this something women do regularly? I mean a meet was planned and we had agreed where and then for the last 2 days just total disappearance... I get life can get in the way but surely a message to say “I can’t meet” is not too much to ask?
I can understand on the sheer volume of messages women get that they can not respond to every one but when you have a meet arranged does that require a little more respect?"
Some folks are ignorant |
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I got invited to a couple’s hotel room to ‘fuck her while he filmed’. A few men invited. This was my first time and I was hoping I could hang back and watch for a bit to overcome nerves. But none of the other guys turned up (something I could tell they were both used to and frustrated by) so while they were a lovely couple, the nerves got the better of me and my performance was less than stellar.
I feel it’s really important to honour a commitment once you’ve said you’ll turn up. Or at least let them know in plenty of time if something unavoidable crops up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our experience it is definitely something single males do to married couples, and the younger they are the greater the percentage that you'll be stood up.
So no, it's not just ladies who stand folk up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got invited to a couple’s hotel room to ‘fuck her while he filmed’. A few men invited. This was my first time and I was hoping I could hang back and watch for a bit to overcome nerves. But none of the other guys turned up (something I could tell they were both used to and frustrated by) so while they were a lovely couple, the nerves got the better of me and my performance was less than stellar.
I feel it’s really important to honour a commitment once you’ve said you’ll turn up. Or at least let them know in plenty of time if something unavoidable crops up.
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But you showed up which means you've got more kahunas than the rest of the guys and than an awful lot of men here who just want to jerk off over the idea. Life begins outside your comfort zone, you shouldn't feel anything but proud |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In our experience it is definitely something single males do to married couples, and the younger they are the greater the percentage that you'll be stood up.
So no, it's not just ladies who stand folk up."
We had six guys let us down in one day once. I do realise it's daunting but ffs just say so instead of wimping out and disappearing. We're not here to help you with your bedtime wank  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had a couple of let downs both males and couples over the last couple of years but that's life. We only do meets if we're already there or doing something already in the area. Mr |
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It's to be expected I'm afraid. At least you were ghosted giving you a couple of days grace. Whether for social/action people often get cold feet.
I think it's mostly that someone else has taken their fancy.
Worse to turn up at a pub and act like Billy no mates. ... waiting.
The excuse will be that they don't want the grief when they cancel. Still fucking rude though.
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"Fab is full of timewasters. "
I've had fewer meetings here than any other site.
And I'm talking about just the socials.
Chatting is better than mist though.
It's never the fault of the site, just those on it |
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