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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do guys just send messages without looking back over what they write. I mean seriously I read some messages and think they must have just sent that on a whim. Then there's the copy and paste ones that they send at least 3 times a week. I just don't get it. The ratio of men to women here is way off so if guys what a chance of a reply there message should at least be thought through and relevant to the person's profile. |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
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I only message people from the forums now and never copy and paste
I only message people from the forums now and never copy and paste
I only message people from the forums now and never copy and paste  |
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By *modDMan
over a year ago
Lichfield |
"I've had a few messages that were obviously copy and paste messages for couples. 'Hi you guys' x  
Put that bottom away miss choosy 
It has a life of it's own x  "
I’ve seen other forums where they have ‘stickies’. They’re basically daily recurring threads which are turned into ‘stickies’ to be permanently pinned at the top of the forum so people can add to the same thread/subject instead of starting a new one each day.
Fab needs ‘stickies’ badly. |
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"Do guys just send messages without looking back over what they write. I mean seriously I read some messages and think they must have just sent that on a whim. Then there's the copy and paste ones that they send at least 3 times a week. I just don't get it. The ratio of men to women here is way off so if guys what a chance of a reply there message should at least be thought through and relevant to the person's profile. "
Yep have a had a couple of those the last few days. I think some just message everyone in the hope of getting a reply back so what better way than to copy and paste so it saves them writing the same thing twenty times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it hilarious when I see posts like this... irrespective of the guy to girl ratio, who would walk up to a girl in a bar and say 'hey guys'... or, having been ignored first time, ask the same girl 3x a week "fancy a Shag"...I mean, regardless of the kind of site this is, treat each other with a touch of individualised humanity and respect |
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"I find it hilarious when I see posts like this... irrespective of the guy to girl ratio, who would walk up to a girl in a bar and say 'hey guys'... or, having been ignored first time, ask the same girl 3x a week "fancy a Shag"...I mean, regardless of the kind of site this is, treat each other with a touch of individualised humanity and respect"
think some missed that lesson in school lol |
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
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"I only message people from the forums now and never copy and paste
I only message people from the forums now and never copy and paste
I only message people from the forums now and never copy and paste "
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Do guys just send messages without looking back over what they write. I mean seriously I read some messages and think they must have just sent that on a whim. Then there's the copy and paste ones that they send at least 3 times a week. I just don't get it. The ratio of men to women here is way off so if guys what a chance of a reply there message should at least be thought through and relevant to the person's profile. "
So true. Some we get have been shocking |
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"Do guys just send messages without looking back over what they write. I mean seriously I read some messages and think they must have just sent that on a whim. Then there's the copy and paste ones that they send at least 3 times a week. I just don't get it. The ratio of men to women here is way off so if guys what a chance of a reply there message should at least be thought through and relevant to the person's profile. "
Yep I do all of that except the three times a week part. And yes you guessed it still no reply  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do guys just send messages without looking back over what they write. I mean seriously I read some messages and think they must have just sent that on a whim. Then there's the copy and paste ones that they send at least 3 times a week. I just don't get it. The ratio of men to women here is way off so if guys what a chance of a reply there message should at least be thought through and relevant to the person's profile.
Yep I do all of that except the three times a week part. And yes you guessed it still no reply "
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Some women and couples do the same thing though.
Men aren't the only ones who don't read profiles and send copy paste messages.
I wouldn't know. "
Regarding couples most are single men posing as couples which would explain a lot of couples cut and paste. |
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Most paste its a sad fact they are going for the numbers so its quicker that way. They will lie they don't but when friends get the same message you know its crap. Then they wonder why its just deleted Hmmmmmmmm  |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"Most paste its a sad fact they are going for the numbers so its quicker that way. They will lie they don't but when friends get the same message you know its crap. Then they wonder why its just deleted Hmmmmmmmm "
Lol so true. We say messages that only have one sentence or less will be deleted. And what do we get...'Hi hun'...yuk.
Almost all messages sent by single men get deleted due to them not reading our profile. We do not like doing this but if men cannot read our profile, or do read it and still send three word messages, they cannot complain when their message is deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most paste its a sad fact they are going for the numbers so its quicker that way. They will lie they don't but when friends get the same message you know its crap. Then they wonder why its just deleted Hmmmmmmmm
Lol so true. We say messages that only have one sentence or less will be deleted. And what do we get...'Hi hun'...yuk.
Almost all messages sent by single men get deleted due to them not reading our profile. We do not like doing this but if men cannot read our profile, or do read it and still send three word messages, they cannot complain when their message is deleted."
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"I've had a few messages that were obviously copy and paste messages for couples. 'Hi you guys' x "
I get those, and always question them about it as I like to see them squirm a bit. Always only a 3 word message, I mean how lazy is that, to copy and paste a 3 word message  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had a few messages that were obviously copy and paste messages for couples. 'Hi you guys' x
I get those, and always question them about it as I like to see them squirm a bit. Always only a 3 word message, I mean how lazy is that, to copy and paste a 3 word message "
Extremely lazy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've started taking screenshots to actually show guys how many times they've messaged me or sent me the same message more than once without any reply from me. You actually get a prompt if you try to message someone you've messaged before and had no reply from. They then claim they don't remember who they've messaged. Well.. The site just told you very clearly that you've messaged me before and I've not replied. It's soooo fucking boring  |
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I think these messages happen for a variety of reasons. Lack of imagination and effort, simply not knowing how to play the game, and perhaps in many cases, reaching the point where, after sending soooo many messages that receive no response, some guys simply give up making the effort. I can’t imagine how soul destroying it must be for so many single guys on here.
If someone goes to the trouble of writing to us, something that is a few sentences long and is polite and coherent and specific to us, we always send a reply. |
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We have quite a few who send the same thing week after week, or every time we post up new pics, sometimes even after a polite no thanks. We don't WANT to block them but sometimes it gets very close! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have quite a few who send the same thing week after week, or every time we post up new pics, sometimes even after a polite no thanks. We don't WANT to block them but sometimes it gets very close!"
I get that, post a new pic, show a new veri and the same names again and again. And what incenses me is the way they say "I had to tell you how hot you look, I couldn't help myself" There's just so many reasons why that's just all kinds of wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well as a guy I have never yet been messaged by a lady first,only gay guys and Iv been here a while now.im starting to think it’s to much of a cock fest on fab,and when you do speak to ladys you just never know what they want to herd as an ice breaker |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t message first as a rule and respond to those that take an interest in me. I find it far less frustrating than attempting to craft a really good first message, after reading the profile, checking out the pics and writing something pertinent, slightly amusing and even proof read ( a rarity for me these days) for it to simply disappear like a needle in a haystack.
I concentrate instead on things I enjoy, such as chatting to friends that I really like, posting in the forum and when feeling brave venturing into the chat rooms.
I have got to know far more people I really like this way than I ever did trying to be proactive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t message first as a rule and respond to those that take an interest in me. I find it far less frustrating than attempting to craft a really good first message, after reading the profile, checking out the pics and writing something pertinent, slightly amusing and even proof read ( a rarity for me these days) for it to simply disappear like a needle in a haystack.
I concentrate instead on things I enjoy, such as chatting to friends that I really like, posting in the forum and when feeling brave venturing into the chat rooms.
I have got to know far more people I really like this way than I ever did trying to be proactive."
But you are being proactive. You're just working smart instead of working hard. You're an object lesson to a lot of men here who don't understand that they'll need to give women a reason to want to get to know them. That's what you're doing. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
I am always amazed when people respond to my messages, thanking me for a well thought out introductory message. I just don't get how people think Hi or fancy a fuck has the slightest chance of working for them?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do guys just send messages without looking back over what they write. I mean seriously I read some messages and think they must have just sent that on a whim. Then there's the copy and paste ones that they send at least 3 times a week. I just don't get it. The ratio of men to women here is way off so if guys what a chance of a reply there message should at least be thought through and relevant to the person's profile. "
none of the above I send after reading the profile. If its a story I dont send
All messages are different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do agree with you on the pasted and stupid messages.
Getting a reply from any message, pasted or original is almost like winning a lotto.
I understand women have too many messages.
Me, I send to less women to make it original. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am always amazed when people respond to my messages, thanking me for a well thought out introductory message. I just don't get how people think Hi or fancy a fuck has the slightest chance of working for them?! "
I always wonder if it's ever actually worked  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am always amazed when people respond to my messages, thanking me for a well thought out introductory message. I just don't get how people think Hi or fancy a fuck has the slightest chance of working for them?!
I always wonder if it's ever actually worked "
It will if you're a man looking for men. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"I am always amazed when people respond to my messages, thanking me for a well thought out introductory message. I just don't get how people think Hi or fancy a fuck has the slightest chance of working for them?!
I always wonder if it's ever actually worked "
I could see it working if you sent the message..I would certainly reply!  |
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
Masked and Distant |
I send very few messages. Only when a status or pictures takes my interest or as part of a forum challenge.
Therefore none of mine are simply copy and paste, all are individual.
Perhaps if I were sending 100s per day then I would resort to copy and paste. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am always amazed when people respond to my messages, thanking me for a well thought out introductory message. I just don't get how people think Hi or fancy a fuck has the slightest chance of working for them?!
I always wonder if it's ever actually worked I could see it working if you sent the message..I would certainly reply! "
It probably would if a woman sent it |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"I am always amazed when people respond to my messages, thanking me for a well thought out introductory message. I just don't get how people think Hi or fancy a fuck has the slightest chance of working for them?!
I always wonder if it's ever actually worked I could see it working if you sent the message..I would certainly reply!
It probably would if a woman sent it "
Or a couple |
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When we first joined "most" blokes would send copy and paste messages or "nice tits" so Ray changed our settings.
For me I like the person to engage and actually put something nice or a conversation starter and a thank you goes a long way xxx
Lou |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With a number of newbies that has join the site.
An most as gone with the same
I'm 40 and single n live in such a place.
We haven't got much to go on. To be fair I tend not to send them any messages..
Same as ones with a very large profile it's really off putting.
I like it simple an easy, and does not hurt the eyes. When reading it |
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"Gave up on messaging, works for me x
How does it?
If people want to meet me, they message me.....
Not at all cocky "
Not Cocky... just a sound use of time. Years ago when I did message first 90% were deleted without being read, it matters not what was written in them.
I could spend 4 hours a day, reading profiles, crafting messages etc. WOuldn't make much difference, maybe 1 or 2 extra meets a year if I am lucky.
Couples and single women complain about getting too many messages. My profile states who I am, my pictures describe me more than words. If someone likes what they see, they either wink or message.
Saves a lot of time
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gave up on messaging, works for me x
How does it?
If people want to meet me, they message me.....
Not at all cocky
Not Cocky... just a sound use of time. Years ago when I did message first 90% were deleted without being read, it matters not what was written in them.
I could spend 4 hours a day, reading profiles, crafting messages etc. WOuldn't make much difference, maybe 1 or 2 extra meets a year if I am lucky.
Couples and single women complain about getting too many messages. My profile states who I am, my pictures describe me more than words. If someone likes what they see, they either wink or message.
Saves a lot of time
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Do females actually mail you first ? |
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"Gave up on messaging, works for me x
How does it?
If people want to meet me, they message me.....
Not at all cocky
Not Cocky... just a sound use of time. Years ago when I did message first 90% were deleted without being read, it matters not what was written in them.
I could spend 4 hours a day, reading profiles, crafting messages etc. WOuldn't make much difference, maybe 1 or 2 extra meets a year if I am lucky.
Couples and single women complain about getting too many messages. My profile states who I am, my pictures describe me more than words. If someone likes what they see, they either wink or message.
Saves a lot of time
Do females actually mail you first ?"
Couples tend to wink, and yes women do message first, I've had a few meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand what is being said and get a few myself but I just sort of eye roll and ignore it.
If it bothered me that much the solution is in my hands, block all from making the first contact and I'd mail which ever profile I was interested in. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gave up on messaging, works for me x
How does it?
If people want to meet me, they message me.....
Not at all cocky
Not Cocky... just a sound use of time. Years ago when I did message first 90% were deleted without being read, it matters not what was written in them.
I could spend 4 hours a day, reading profiles, crafting messages etc. WOuldn't make much difference, maybe 1 or 2 extra meets a year if I am lucky.
Couples and single women complain about getting too many messages. My profile states who I am, my pictures describe me more than words. If someone likes what they see, they either wink or message.
Saves a lot of time
Do females actually mail you first ?
Couples tend to wink, and yes women do message first, I've had a few meets "
Well that something I suppose. |
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