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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thats another guy I’ve been chatting to on here turned out to be cheating

Do the other single women on here find that being in fab has opened your eyes so much that you don’t want to date in real life either?

The amount of people in relationships sneaking around is awful ... and i find it worse when they actually come across as a decent person because it them makes me think how do you ever have the right radar to know that you could trust someone

Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

When you say 'cheating', how do you mean, exactly?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No wonder at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

They are on here with a single male profile , meeting people and have admitted to having a girlfriend

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By *affron40Woman over a year ago

manchester

Sorry you’ve had that experience

it’s shitty and yes sadly lots of it. There are, however, some lovely genuinely single guys here that do make the place a great one x

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Yeah me, despite me stating what I am looking for and I find non attractive, I have recently been duped after weeks of talk just to exchange face/body pics are not what I am looking for, but what do I do? I liked the chat but not the attraction!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Strictly monogamous here, and I’m 100% single. We’re not all cheating scum bags.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I should probably clarify that its not this person im disappointed in ... what they do is their business and i wasn't trying to date them or anything

Just more an observation that this scenario is on repeat for me on here and it really puts me off attempting to date even outwith fab as it amazes me just how often people are able to come across as decent honest people but be cheating in their partner without a second thought ... makes you lose faith that its possible to ever fully trust anyone

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Thats another guy I’ve been chatting to on here turned out to be cheating

Do the other single women on here find that being in fab has opened your eyes so much that you don’t want to date in real life either?

Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous "

Welcome to my week

It's a choice people make but when they take that choice from you, that's when it's not on.

Onwards and upwards OP xx

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By *lbinoGorillaMan over a year ago

Redditch

I have the opposite problem - I'm single, but can't find anyone who wants to chat, let alone meet.

I must genuinely be that repulsive....

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Strictly monogamous here, and I’m 100% single. We’re not all cheating scum bags. "

Then there was one

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By *eddyBearBazMan over a year ago

St Helens

100% single here and would never dream of cheating on a woman if i met someone

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous "

I honestly don't think we are. If most people are honest then 121 sex with the same person for life is pretty dull. Possibly even wears off after 2 years. That's why swinging couples have some of strongest relationships because they are able to keep the excitement alive.

Of course all of the above is no excuse for cheating (and it's not just restricted to men, women do cheat too)

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By *eilde HoarWoman over a year ago

In a wax coated bubble

At least some of the non "singles" are honest about their situation so a valid decision can be made by a potential meet.

But unfortunately not all have the same ability to be as honest

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

Welsh Lass

"I have the opposite problem - I'm single, but can't find anyone who wants to chat, let alone meet.

I must genuinely be that repulsive....

We’ll have less of that. You’re not repulsive. You’re a fine figure of a man.

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By *modDMan over a year ago

Lichfield

"Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous

Of course all of the above is no excuse for cheating (and it's not just restricted to men, women do cheat too) "

Absolute tosh.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous

Of course all of the above is no excuse for cheating (and it's not just restricted to men, women do cheat too)

Absolute tosh."

Sorry just my opinion. We are both right. Care to expand?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous

Of course all of the above is no excuse for cheating (and it's not just restricted to men, women do cheat too) "

I really do think this more and more!

And again from being on here i know plenty women are cheating too . I think before i joined i would have thought it was a minority of pretty crappy people that cheated and now honestly after 6 years i dont think id believe that i know any couples (swinging couples excluded) where at least one of them hasn’t been involved in at least something unfaithful ... its just not come to light

Trouble is for me I doubt i would ever have the security in myself to share a partner and believe it’s restricted to sex so i guess its lifetime of singleness and no expectations... which is really rather depressing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

BABE SAME!!! It’s absolutely mental!!! I’ve also had about 3 guys msg me on here sending face pics etc and I actually know them and their girlfriend!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"At least some of the non "singles" are honest about their situation so a valid decision can be made by a potential meet.

But unfortunately not all have the same ability to be as honest

I guess its the fact that so many are honest that has enlightened me to just how prevalent it is

Its not them lying to me thats got me thoughtful ... its the fact they really seem like nice people but are obviously capable of lying to someone else they have built a life with ... makes me never want to be that person blind enough to trust a partner

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

Try not to let them make you jaded against men or relationships. Not every guy is like that xx

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Try not to let them make you jaded against men or relationships. Not every guy is like that xx"

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

Yes fab has given me major trust issues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a shame people feel the need to lie about it. Bad experiences like that will obviously put you off, but remember, all it takes is one good person to make it all worth while so don't give up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes fab has given me major trust issues "

Yet you're still here?

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By *ig1gaz1Man over a year ago

bradford

"Trouble is for me I doubt i would ever have the security in myself to share a partner and believe it’s restricted to sex so i guess its lifetime of singleness and no expectations... which is really rather depressing!

Sorry to disagree it may not seem the best time at the moment and nothing really to get depressed at.

Your still young you have plenty of time.

Either you will bend and share your life with someone special, as the same for him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I suppose the more i think about it its not even just men from here i experience it with .... people from normal life i have had flings with will message occasionally too chancing it when i know they are in serious relationships

Being a single and pretty relaxed about sex female bizarrely opens you up to an honest side of men (albeit them being honest with you about them lying to someone else) i guess because they see you as no threat ... bit of both blessing and curse ... might have been nice to stay naive

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By *toC Thats MeWoman over a year ago

Sheffield

I’d rather them be upfront and honest than lie to be fair. I’m not one to judge but it can be pretty shitty the lengths some people will go to.

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By *eilde HoarWoman over a year ago

In a wax coated bubble

"At least some of the non "singles" are honest about their situation so a valid decision can be made by a potential meet.

But unfortunately not all have the same ability to be as honest

I guess its the fact that so many are honest that has enlightened me to just how prevalent it is

Ahhh I seem to attract the ones who are not honest and are capable of lying for weeks before slipping and admitting they are in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"At least some of the non "singles" are honest about their situation so a valid decision can be made by a potential meet.

But unfortunately not all have the same ability to be as honest

I guess its the fact that so many are honest that has enlightened me to just how prevalent it is

Ahhh I seem to attract the ones who are not honest and are capable of lying for weeks before slipping and admitting they are in a relationship

Its not all upfront honesty from them lol but ive been about long enough to suss it out quickly and ask outright ... the decor in backgrounds of photos can be a dead giveaway if someone is a bachelor or lives with a woman ... watsapp profile pictures are another

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is why if we meet separately we both know about it .

It's something we like and turns us both on..

So no reason to play away behind each others backs..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"BABE SAME!!! It’s absolutely mental!!! I’ve also had about 3 guys msg me on here sending face pics etc and I actually know them and their girlfriend!!!!!!! "

I’ve had this also. One was/is actually married to my sons head of year school teacher I kid you not!!

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Strictly monogamous here, and I’m 100% single. We’re not all cheating scum bags.

Then there was one

Make that two, you ladies pick these guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are all sorts in Fab, just as here are in dating sites and in real life. Just bad luck OP, keep looking and you’ll eventually find what you’re looking for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"At least some of the non "singles" are honest about their situation so a valid decision can be made by a potential meet.

But unfortunately not all have the same ability to be as honest

I guess its the fact that so many are honest that has enlightened me to just how prevalent it is

Ahhh I seem to attract the ones who are not honest and are capable of lying for weeks before slipping and admitting they are in a relationship

Yep I had one yesterday and picture of woman’s clothing and bags in background. So disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Think it might be time for a break from browsing fab and maybe even people in general lol

Try remind myself that not all humans suck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm 100% single and I've been accused of being in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Puts you right off doesn't it. I'm sick of being messed about!!!

They can't make it, not available but apparently single, can't call or message but apparently single.

Only seem to be able to do certain days.

Or there's the ones that play it like you're the only one but you're clearly not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Puts you right off doesn't it. I'm sick of being messed about!!!

They can't make it, not available but apparently single, can't call or message but apparently single.

Only seem to be able to do certain days.

Or there's the ones that play it like you're the only one but you're clearly not.

Some of what you say applies to singles you know. I’m a single fella but I have my kids on all my days off and I work shifts so just because I’m single it doesn’t mean I’m available 24/7. I get very little free time.

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By *rownhotnessMan over a year ago

Cheshire/London/Midlands

Met with a girl on here and she was a newly wed. Was horrified as I don't promote that behaviour unless their partner is aware.

Also single

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Fab is a relatively small number of people. It is almost designed to skew the figures towards those in a relationship, either as being half of a couple on here or as people interested in NSA, which would suit someone 'cheating'.

Maybe take a break and get some perspective. If you never trust anyone why would they want to trust you?

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By *LARENCE77Man over a year ago

Skellefteå, Sweden

"I should probably clarify that its not this person im disappointed in ... what they do is their business and i wasn't trying to date them or anything

As a previous meet said; if she knows from the off, it's her decision. If she finds out during the meet, it's put her in a position of awkwardness.

Personally, I don't know how people have the gaul!

My view is, if you're not happy, either work at it, or finish it. Don't bring other folk into the equation.

It's a great site, that's so easily misused.

Sorry, not exactly any advice there.

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By *erseysidemale100Man over a year ago

liverpool

"At least some of the non "singles" are honest about their situation so a valid decision can be made by a potential meet.

But unfortunately not all have the same ability to be as honest

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good words am single an genuine not all men are bad !

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By *rankie31Man over a year ago

Rotherham

Thanks for sticking up for us honest single guys........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Puts you right off doesn't it. I'm sick of being messed about!!!

They can't make it, not available but apparently single, can't call or message but apparently single.

Only seem to be able to do certain days.

Or there's the ones that play it like you're the only one but you're clearly not.

I hear you. I'm a mum myself so I know what it's like but I can still message and take a call or make one.

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By *erseysidemale100Man over a year ago

liverpool

"Puts you right off doesn't it. I'm sick of being messed about!!!

They can't make it, not available but apparently single, can't call or message but apparently single.

Only seem to be able to do certain days.

Or there's the ones that play it like you're the only one but you're clearly not.

Impressive pics I must say

I hear you. I'm a mum myself so I know what it's like but I can still message and take a call or make one. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yup. I'm also on dating sites and get messages from attached men. It really boils my piss.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

It is no wonder your single because chances are if all these men are cheating they wouldn't leave their partner anyways. It's a generalisation but they say men cheat when they want to stay in a relationship with their partner, women cheat when their not happy and want to leave a relationship. It's rather depressing when you realise how much cheating is going on. It's also an eye opener on how many bad relationship models are out there. I think a lot of people given the choice would like the stability and love of a monogamous relationship but also a bit of sexual variety. I guess that why a lot of us are in swinging relationships. And I'm sure many who are not would like this option too but are bound by the orthodoxy of the relationship model they signed up to when they formed their current relationship (and that was no doubt fine back then, but people change as they grow and start to discover and understand them self more). But I'm not a fan of cheating, my Ex wife was a cheat and it causes so much pain. I think it's very selfish, but I've been around the bloke enough to know life is complex and at least understand it a bit. And of course there are some people who are just dicks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats another guy I’ve been chatting to on here turned out to be cheating

Do the other single women on here find that being in fab has opened your eyes so much that you don’t want to date in real life either?

Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous "
what is this if this isnt the real world, is it a futuristic world full of sex gods or are we ordinary people omg the thought of being ordinary terrifies me

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By *londie8399Couple over a year ago

blackpool

We only swing once a month never speratly and we only use fab so we can both see whats going on we have a been together 22 years and our sex life is still the same as it was in the earlier days but you both have to be on the same page for it to work

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We only swing once a month never speratly and we only use fab so we can both see whats going on we have a been together 22 years and our sex life is still the same as it was in the earlier days but you both have to be on the same page for it to work"
oh my so your sex life hasnt improved because youre on the higher plain called fab?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Puts you right off doesn't it. I'm sick of being messed about!!!

They can't make it, not available but apparently single, can't call or message but apparently single.

Only seem to be able to do certain days.

Or there's the ones that play it like you're the only one but you're clearly not.

Same here, I have three kids from previous marriages and spend either my time with them or working making it hard to meet at weekends, which has resulted in me being accused of not been single. I don’t let it bother me now as my children will always come before fab and what people think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fab is a relatively small number of people. It is almost designed to skew the figures towards those in a relationship, either as being half of a couple on here or as people interested in NSA, which would suit someone 'cheating'.

Maybe take a break and get some perspective. If you never trust anyone why would they want to trust you?

That's a good way of looking at it. Numbers and the skew.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats another guy I’ve been chatting to on here turned out to be cheating

Do the other single women on here find that being in fab has opened your eyes so much that you don’t want to date in real life either?

Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous "

Some people are monogamous and happy. I don't like when people (not you OP) use genetics as an excuse for shitty behaviour.

I wouldn't ever date anyone off here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do people come here to look for relationships?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It is no wonder your single because chances are if all these men are cheating they wouldn't leave their partner anyways."

I think you have misunderstood me ... ive never been look for or expecting someone on here cheating to leave their partner for me

What i meant is the amount of cheating i have experienced on here has made me CHOOSE to stay single

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

Welsh Lass

This site doesn’t really help with my trust issue issues.

But the rational side of me knows that not everyone cheats. But the irrational part of me thinks that probably most of Fab are!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Puts you right off doesn't it. I'm sick of being messed about!!!

They can't make it, not available but apparently single, can't call or message but apparently single.

Only seem to be able to do certain days.

Or there's the ones that play it like you're the only one but you're clearly not.

Judy coz a guy is single doesn't mean he has no life... outside of work I'm involved in my local scout group and lifeboat station (which has training 2 days a week, one of which is a Sunday...) so can only make certain days and can't always talk on the phone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" It really boils my piss. "

Love this phrase

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Puts you right off doesn't it. I'm sick of being messed about!!!

They can't make it, not available but apparently single, can't call or message but apparently single.

Only seem to be able to do certain days.

Or there's the ones that play it like you're the only one but you're clearly not.

I hear you. I'm a mum myself so I know what it's like but I can still message and take a call or make one. "

I won’t speak on the phone as I hate it. I’m single and genuine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats another guy I’ve been chatting to on here turned out to be cheating

Do the other single women on here find that being in fab has opened your eyes so much that you don’t want to date in real life either?

Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous "

I totally agree

I’m 100% faithful to anyone I date and expect the same back

Unfortunately online sites do show the other side of things and unfortunately there are too many people dating / married playing away behind their partners back.

So they’re not just disrespecting their partner but also single women on here who make it clear they’re not interested in anyone who isn’t also single

No more relationships for me, I doubt I’d ever trust anyone again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This post makes me sad. If something's wrong then you'll usually know very quickly. I think some ppl just see what they want to see and engage with twats in the hope that their initial gut feeling is wrong. It's shocking from a guys perspective to observe how women are attracted to the same type of men and continually get fyckee over. When it goes wrong it's almost as if they then have to prove that their judgement is ok by going for that same type in the hope that this one won't be a wanker. There are some nice guys about if you stop chasing bellends, maybe review what it is you truly want out of a relationship and then go on the attack for it rather than waiting for the twatty ones to come to you.....

Hope things change for you soon

Nip x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This post makes me sad. If something's wrong then you'll usually know very quickly. I think some ppl just see what they want to see and engage with twats in the hope that their initial gut feeling is wrong. It's shocking from a guys perspective to observe how women are attracted to the same type of men and continually get fyckee over. When it goes wrong it's almost as if they then have to prove that their judgement is ok by going for that same type in the hope that this one won't be a wanker. There are some nice guys about if you stop chasing bellends, maybe review what it is you truly want out of a relationship and then go on the attack for it rather than waiting for the twatty ones to come to you.....

Hope things change for you soon

Nip x

I made a new word "fyckee" meaning fucked.....

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

"Yes fab has given me major trust issues

Yet you're still here?"
Im still here to use the forums and meet friends socially, trust doesn't come into that much tbh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Once a female sneaking round on these sites - males, females, couples never questioned it or cared if it meant they could get into my pants.

Oh you're married ? never mind - just simply a "when can we do it again" this was not just guys with no morals, it was couple and females as well.

There is no shock horror, betrayal, deceiver eval woman hundreds or forum posts about cheating females.

With guys it's always pitchforks. It happens it is a fact of life all walks of life - nice guys and nice women do cheat.

It is so easy to set yourself up as judge, jury and executioner on these sites. We are not morality police or keepers, it is a adult site - adults have the right to make choices if even if we agree or disagree, its not for us to judge them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I only commented on men as I am a straight female and do not message or meet women or couples

People who are inclined to cheat will do so irrespective of their sex or sexuality.

If people want to cheat on their partners that’s their choice ... but if someone clearly stares on their profile that they are not interested in someone who is married or dating that should be respected.

Plenty of people don’t care what or who they fuck, those that do should be allowed their viewpoint and have their boundaries respected

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I only commented on men as I am a straight female and do not message or meet women or couples

People who are inclined to cheat will do so irrespective of their sex or sexuality.

Plenty of people don’t care what or who they fuck, those that do should be allowed their viewpoint and have their boundaries respected

Totally agree! Xx

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Thats another guy I’ve been chatting to on here turned out to be cheating

Do the other single women on here find that being in fab has opened your eyes so much that you don’t want to date in real life either?

Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous "

Yep, happens all the time. I've just given up believing anything anyone says on fab until I see it with my own eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats another guy I’ve been chatting to on here turned out to be cheating

Do the other single women on here find that being in fab has opened your eyes so much that you don’t want to date in real life either?

Maybe its true that we are just not genetically programmed to be monogamous

Yep, happens all the time. I've just given up believing anything anyone says on fab until I see it with my own eyes. "

It's a good philosophy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I only commented on men as I am a straight female and do not message or meet women or couples

People who are inclined to cheat will do so irrespective of their sex or sexuality.

Plenty of people don’t care what or who they fuck, those that do should be allowed their viewpoint and have their boundaries respected

No disagreement here, but it it down to the individuals to make the judgement calls and not Forum zealots.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Maybe take a break and get some perspective. If you never trust anyone why would they want to trust you?

I dont think they cheat because they are on fab

I think they are on fab because they cheat

In that way , and in the form that others contact me from my past nothing to do with this site, i think it is genuinely reflective of wider society

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not just on Fab OP.

The internet is cheaters paradise- what goes on in most peoples relationships isn't usually known to us.

The doors are closed and cheaters are usually good at keeping secrets.

Sites like these have opened my eyes to other peoples relationships.

The male half of some couples who I see out and about with their partners and kids are usually looking for other mens cocks to suck.

Or participating in risky outdoor sex with bareback lovers

It's all there as plain as day on my local feed.

Unfortunately cheaters are in the majority on Fab.

It really isn't the place to look for anything other than sex.

But them most of the men on here are on all the other dating sites.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I should probably clarify that its not this person im disappointed in ... what they do is their business and i wasn't trying to date them or anything

If you're looking to date both through or away from fab, surely the are signs that would early on make you suspicious as to the other person's relationship status? (In one or not).

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I should probably clarify that its not this person im disappointed in ... what they do is their business and i wasn't trying to date them or anything

If you're looking to date both through or away from fab, surely the are signs that would early on make you suspicious as to the other person's relationship status? (In one or not)."

Its not that i think i meet people already cheating when trying to date ... more that it really puts me off wanting to date anyone

knowing now just how prevalent cheating is , the odds are very high thats its going to happen to me down the line, and if it doesn’t, well if ive not trusted them the whole time its just going to open up a different can of worms anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope things change for you soon

Nip x

I made a new word "fyckee" meaning fucked.....

I thought this guy gave great advice even if his spelling was questionable. But it's so telling that this reply was overlooked in favour of shaming the cheaters. If only we were more positive and proactive in our approach to life then we may well receive a more positive outcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m staying single as the amount of cheating gf’s and wife’s haha it’s unreal (

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m staying single as the amount of cheating gf’s and wife’s haha it’s unreal ("

That's my excuse too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t want to be single but I don’t trust many

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I should probably clarify that its not this person im disappointed in ... what they do is their business and i wasn't trying to date them or anything

If you're looking to date both through or away from fab, surely the are signs that would early on make you suspicious as to the other person's relationship status? (In one or not).

Its not that i think i meet people already cheating when trying to date ... more that it really puts me off wanting to date anyone

Sounds like an unwinnable situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hope things change for you soon

Nip x

I made a new word "fyckee" meaning fucked.....

I did read this post , and get where it is coming from but it just doesn’t really hit the spot with my experience

On fab I’m not chasing anyone let alone bell ends ... before i hid my profile it already said i wasn’t meeting and was here for forums and a bit of a perve

Im also not the one being cheated on ... and tbh 90% of these guys i actually think are decent guys (which goes to the point some have made that its not all scumbags who cheat) some of them i met while single but have gravitated back here (or to my inbox elsewhere) after getting into a relationship

When the “nice” guys do it it disappoints me more because i cant categorise black and white these guys are dicks and these are not anymore

I know for a fact their partners also think they are nice guys and in so many areas of their life they are

Its that very fact that i am saying puts me off getting into any relationship (not necessarily from fab) ... that i could end up that woman blissfully happy with the wool pulled well over my eyes ... or my experience would leave such a lack of trust that it couldn’t even get that far

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not just "fab singles" that cheat!!

Over the years that I've been on here I've been approached by guys who are in couples who are looking to meet without their partners knowledge!!

Shit happens

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not just "fab singles" that cheat!!

Over the years that I've been on here I've been approached by guys who are in couples who are looking to meet without their partners knowledge!!

Shit happens "

Yup exact same but vice versa women cheating on their men but meant to be couples profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hope things change for you soon

Nip x

I made a new word "fyckee" meaning fucked.....

Also meant to say i dont think ive shamed any cheaters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope things change for you soon

Nip x

I made a new word "fyckee" meaning fucked.....

Also meant to say i dont think ive shamed any cheaters "

Fair enough my love, I don't think you've picked up the main point of what I was trying to say, I know I'm not easy to read sometimes so I'll shush and stop trying. I was just trying to say that a re-evaluation, some well thought out change and a positive and slightly different approach often makes all the difference. Wasn't a criticism of the OP at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I should probably clarify that its not this person im disappointed in ... what they do is their business and i wasn't trying to date them or anything

If you're looking to date both through or away from fab, surely the are signs that would early on make you suspicious as to the other person's relationship status? (In one or not).

Its not that i think i meet people already cheating when trying to date ... more that it really puts me off wanting to date anyone

It is a minefield and whatever site dating or swinging it is a big risk, almost guarantee that everyone on these sites is hiding something. I made an adult choice, I paid a big price, made quite a few mistakes along the way. Then I found happiness I'd never known before, it may not last for many reasons but I wouldn't change my choice.

But no one has the right to judge me for my decisions especially if they know nothing about me. It's not about the act it's about how people on these sites feel they have the right to judge others, the hypocrisy and moral fluidity they seem to have.

Cheating is a fact of life on any of these sites and dating sites for many different reasons. Its going in with your eyes open, not every story has a happy ending sadly - but pick yourself up and move on and hopefully find what you are looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hope things change for you soon

Nip x

I made a new word "fyckee" meaning fucked.....

Also meant to say i dont think ive shamed any cheaters

Please dont shush , nothing wrong with a differing opinion and even if it didn’t resonate with me it might with some

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You have to go into this knowing that this site is packed to the brim with deviant cheating buggers lol. I’ve been told on many occasions that someone is single, but they can’t accommodate, when it actually transpired that they lived with their husband and family, but, “we don’t sleep together, he has a separate bedroom” yawn yawn lol. “We have been split up for a year” really hmmmm lol.

If you want uncomplicated sex then you can find it here, if you don’t need to know someone’s background. But don’t ever come to fab looking for something remotely regular or monogamous as you won’t find it, the guys lie, the girls lie, the girls bitch about each other and spread awful tales about meets that perhaps didn’t go their way. There is so much jealousy it’s unbelievable.

However, if you can take it all with a pinch of salt, if you can accept someone for who they are, if you can laugh at scenarios and if you know who you are as a person, then you can play fab like a banjo and have an amazing time!

Just be careful who you befriend and accept your own limits and boundaries

Failing all that come chat to me hahahah

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You have to go into this knowing that this site is packed to the brim with deviant cheating buggers lol. I’ve been told on many occasions that someone is single, but they can’t accommodate, when it actually transpired that they lived with their husband and family, but, “we don’t sleep together, he has a separate bedroom” yawn yawn lol. “We have been split up for a year” really hmmmm lol.

Just be careful who you befriend and accept your own limits and boundaries

Failing all that come chat to me hahahah

Ive lost count of how many times ive said now that i was never trying to date these people from fab

But thanks for your input

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just be careful who you befriend and accept your own limits and boundaries

Failing all that come chat to me hahahah

Ive lost count of how many times ive said now that i was never trying to date these people from fab

But thanks for your input"

apologies that you got the snippy response ... straw that broke the camels back and all that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just be careful who you befriend and accept your own limits and boundaries

Failing all that come chat to me hahahah

Ive lost count of how many times ive said now that i was never trying to date these people from fab

But thanks for your input

apologies that you got the snippy response ... straw that broke the camels back and all that "

Don’t be silly it’s fine xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% cheater here, I'm surprised you ladies fall for it if he can't meet at the drop of a hat , accommodate most of the time and goes missing for days off here he's defo got a missus, if you think something's fishy it prob is, lads you just need to be honest also

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"100% cheater here, I'm surprised you ladies fall for it if he can't meet at the drop of a hat , accommodate most of the time and goes missing for days off here he's defo got a missus, if you think something's fishy it prob is, lads you just need to be honest also"

When you say lads you just need to be honest ... i presume you are thinking to the woman you are cheating with not the woman you are cheating on?

That logic blows my mind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get where you're coming from OP, after seeing what goes on and how much, it does put you off having a relationship full stop because you become aware that it could be you that might be the one being cheated on and not have a clue.

But even on here it's hard work.

I'm totally single and don't want relationship. Just trying to find that honest one single that is wanting the same isnt easy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When you say lads you just need to be honest ... i presume you are thinking to the woman you are cheating with not the woman you are cheating on?

That logic blows my mind "

Yes of course, some people don't agree with it, some it doesn't bother everyone's entitled to their own opinions on it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

Can't like the woman that your speaking to that much then to make time for meeting or you're cheating either or mate

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By *manaWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

When you say lads you just need to be honest ... i presume you are thinking to the woman you are cheating with not the woman you are cheating on?

That logic blows my mind

Yes of course, some people don't agree with it, some it doesn't bother everyone's entitled to their own opinions on it

Yes but it's when the cheaters are not honest that it causes problems for others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

O think it's the case most men fond it hard to be in monogamous relationships. Things can get boring you know who are we to judge. Bet theirs a few woman on here with their other half unknowing of what they're getting up to aswell

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When you say lads you just need to be honest ... i presume you are thinking to the woman you are cheating with not the woman you are cheating on?

That logic blows my mind

Yes of course, some people don't agree with it, some it doesn't bother everyone's entitled to their own opinions on it

Yes but it's when the cheaters are not honest that it causes problems for others.

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get where you're coming from OP, after seeing what goes on and how much, it does put you off having a relationship full stop because you become aware that it could be you that might be the one being cheated on and not have a clue.

But even on here it's hard work.

I'm totally single and don't want relationship. Just trying to find that honest one single that is wanting the same isnt easy.

If only you lived near Leeds grrrr

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

Can't like the woman that your speaking to that much then to make time for meeting or you're cheating either or mate "

Well I’m not one to abandon my kids, job or other commitments for the sake of a shag but each to their own I suppose. Still doesn’t make me a cheat now does it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

Can't like the woman that your speaking to that much then to make time for meeting or you're cheating either or mate

Well I’m not one to abandon my kids, job or other commitments for the sake of a shag but each to their own I suppose. Still doesn’t make me a cheat now does it. "

You have no spare time for a meet for 2 week periods then is that what youre saying??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As much as I try, I have to say Fab has definitely made me more wary and hesitant to have a relationship due to the number of people cheating there are on here.

She says, like she is beating them off with a stick.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would you or any of you get off with someone in a relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

Can't like the woman that your speaking to that much then to make time for meeting or you're cheating either or mate

Well I’m not one to abandon my kids, job or other commitments for the sake of a shag but each to their own I suppose. Still doesn’t make me a cheat now does it.

You have no spare time for a meet for 2 week periods then is that what youre saying??"

Where does 2 weeks come into it? When did I say that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

Can't like the woman that your speaking to that much then to make time for meeting or you're cheating either or mate

Well I’m not one to abandon my kids, job or other commitments for the sake of a shag but each to their own I suppose. Still doesn’t make me a cheat now does it.

You have no spare time for a meet for 2 week periods then is that what youre saying??

Where does 2 weeks come into it? When did I say that?"

Well that's what I'm saying if a bloke can't arrange a meet within a month then he's either not interested or cheating on his missus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

Can't like the woman that your speaking to that much then to make time for meeting or you're cheating either or mate

Well I’m not one to abandon my kids, job or other commitments for the sake of a shag but each to their own I suppose. Still doesn’t make me a cheat now does it.

You have no spare time for a meet for 2 week periods then is that what youre saying??

Where does 2 weeks come into it? When did I say that?"

Well that's what I'm saying if a bloke can't arrange a meet within a month then he's either not interested or cheating on his missus

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

Can't like the woman that your speaking to that much then to make time for meeting or you're cheating either or mate

Well I’m not one to abandon my kids, job or other commitments for the sake of a shag but each to their own I suppose. Still doesn’t make me a cheat now does it.

You have no spare time for a meet for 2 week periods then is that what youre saying??

Where does 2 weeks come into it? When did I say that?

Well that's what I'm saying if a bloke can't arrange a meet within a month then he's either not interested or cheating on his missus"

What a load of bollocks. Some men have work and kids and other real life commitments.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes fab has given me major trust issues "
communities thriving off of drug misuse

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Or maybe he works shifts, has kids and a life away from fab and has his priorities in order.

Can't like the woman that your speaking to that much then to make time for meeting or you're cheating either or mate

Well I’m not one to abandon my kids, job or other commitments for the sake of a shag but each to their own I suppose. Still doesn’t make me a cheat now does it.

You have no spare time for a meet for 2 week periods then is that what youre saying??

Where does 2 weeks come into it? When did I say that?

Well that's what I'm saying if a bloke can't arrange a meet within a month then he's either not interested or cheating on his missus"

Is it 2 weeks or a month? How long should we give them before grabbing the torch and pitchfork ? Asking for a friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not just on Fab OP.

The internet is cheaters paradise- what goes on in most peoples relationships isn't usually known to us.

The doors are closed and cheaters are usually good at keeping secrets.

Sites like these have opened my eyes to other peoples relationships.

The male half of some couples who I see out and about with their partners and kids are usually looking for other mens cocks to suck.

Or participating in risky outdoor sex with bareback lovers

It's all there as plain as day on my local feed.

Unfortunately cheaters are in the majority on Fab.

It really isn't the place to look for anything other than sex.

But them most of the men on here are on all the other dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hope things change for you soon

Nip x

I made a new word "fyckee" meaning fucked.....

Also meant to say i dont think ive shamed any cheaters

Are you saying it's their own fault for picking bellends/ cheaters? And they should pick decent types instead?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok all have a go at me either way if a bloke you're talking too can't arrange a meet with you in two weeks where the actual meeting date is in that month then he's either not interested or attached

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They are on here with a single male profile , meeting people and have admitted to having a girlfriend"

Plenty of Fems on here cheating too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They are on here with a single male profile , meeting people and have admitted to having a girlfriend

Plenty of Fems on here cheating too. "

Another good point

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By *am450Man over a year ago

North Kent/Greater London

Some people do genuinely live in sexless marriages (I'm probably going to regret making this post) but it is true. Pressing the nuclear button on a relationship and the impact on children/family just because you're relationship evolves in a way that you and your partner are nolonger sexually incompatible?? Truly selfish??

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By *am450Man over a year ago

North Kent/Greater London

Should have read "sexually compatible"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm on here with a single profile, and I'm married

Dun dun duuuuun

It's a problem if you are lying to your wife, I don't lie to my wife, I don't have to, she knows what I get up to, and I know what she gets up to, we love it.

But not everyone can deal with that level of openness.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

"Ok all have a go at me either way if a bloke you're talking too can't arrange a meet with you in two weeks where the actual meeting date is in that month then he's either not interested or attached

Busy with work/life, Timing and distance also plays apart in meeting people

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

"Ok all have a go at me either way if a bloke you're talking too can't arrange a meet with you in two weeks where the actual meeting date is in that month then he's either not interested or attached

Are you speaking from experience with men on here because I am. Plenty of them have work commitments all over the country and kids that take precedence over getting their dicks wet amongst other real life stuff but they are definitely single.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think men and women should come on here with no expectations ~ there's less disappointment that way.

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I’m married and it says so on my profile. It’s up to women and couples if they want to meet me. I respect that some won’t. But it also amuses me that I’ve met with a number of women that say they won’t meet married men on their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% single and have been for the last 6 years,and the way things are looking it's going to be another 6!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"100% single and have been for the last 6 years,and the way things are looking it's going to be another 6!"

Same x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They are on here with a single male profile , meeting people and have admitted to having a girlfriend

Plenty of Fems on here cheating too. "

Have already acknowledged that ... you have quoted a response to someone asking the specifics of the cheating scenario i was referring to and that scenario involved a male

There have been alot of guys comment on here “women do it too” not sure if thats because they feel it was a man bashing thread (it wasn’t even a cheater bashing thread) or if they are of the opinion “women do it to so why shouldn’t we” as a justification ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok all have a go at me either way if a bloke you're talking too can't arrange a meet with you in two weeks where the actual meeting date is in that month then he's either not interested or attached

I'd be more wary if they could arrange something quicker than 2 weeks. The wife at home looking after the kids while he 'just pops out for some milk'. Hmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok all have a go at me either way if a bloke you're talking too can't arrange a meet with you in two weeks where the actual meeting date is in that month then he's either not interested or attached

So you've asked a guy for a meet and he hasn't been able to organise one within a month but he was single and interested in you ?

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By *arger than life xWoman over a year ago

Birmingham

I know 10 guys on here, two are single.. one is in a fairly new relationship and very in love but still putting it about on here!

I met someone really nice in here.. we started to make a go of things cos he wanted more.. he screwed around last month after telling me he’d be gutted if I met up with anyone from my past in here.. I was disappointed but not the least bit surprised to he honest... most of my closest friends are men and they all cheat given the opportunity... having said that there seem to be plenty of women who seem happy to go with those friends knowing they aren’t single.. x guess men and women aren’t that different x

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