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Why do you get treated differently in public if you have disabled children
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
I presume you're not talking about how most people try to help anyone with a disability if they can.
If i see a family struggle with any problem and i think i can help i offer as not all disabilities are visable |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
Bristol East |
Yes, it's gone - the description of events may have been a bit provocative.
Your their dad, you stood up for them, well done to you
If someone had said that about mine, I'd have been very tempted to do the same.
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
Don’t know OP. I’ve only experienced mean comments from teenagers regarding my youngest. Adults have been a bit more understanding.
I think some are just unsure how to treat people with disabilities, especially if it’s a hidden disability. And they just get it wrong.
It’s shitty and i’m sorry you’ve had it happen. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m talking about the stares and the wide births people give you sometimes and being told to leave places it upsets my kids which upsets me I wish some people would just stop being so ignorant and learn that just because they have a disability there not different and still love hugs and kiss and just want to be accepted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When one of my autistic kids was very young, going on holiday and got priority boarding before every one else.
I was walking to get on and some bloke said 'I wish I had a spastic so I could get on first'.
Took all my willpower not to cave his face in. I did politely inform him I would put him in a wheelchair for the rest of his life if he said anything else. I don't think he expected a response.
It's not easy and I understand your frustrations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m talking about the stares and the wide births people give you sometimes and being told to leave places it upsets my kids which upsets me I wish some people would just stop being so ignorant and learn that just because they have a disability there not different and still love hugs and kiss and just want to be accepted "
If only. Ignorance is the worst thing. I feel your pain x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When one of my autistic kids was very young, going on holiday and got priority boarding before every one else.
I was walking to get on and some bloke said 'I wish I had a spastic so I could get on first'.
Took all my willpower not to cave his face in. I did politely inform him I would put him in a wheelchair for the rest of his life if he said anything else. I don't think he expected a response.
It's not easy and I understand your frustrations."
Bloody hell. I wouldn’t have that much willpower I honestly wouldn’t! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When one of my autistic kids was very young, going on holiday and got priority boarding before every one else.
I was walking to get on and some bloke said 'I wish I had a spastic so I could get on first'.
Took all my willpower not to cave his face in. I did politely inform him I would put him in a wheelchair for the rest of his life if he said anything else. I don't think he expected a response.
It's not easy and I understand your frustrations."
I have 4 with autism 2 also have a heart condition one of which hasn’t learned to walk without a frame yet |
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I've learnt the subtle art of talking very quietly, smiling sweetly, staring people straight in the eye
While I tell them exactly what I think of them, and exactly what I'd like to do to them.
No one says a bad word against my kids.
They've gone through more than most adults could in a dozen lifetimes.
They don't deserve abuse, I won't tolerate it.
Only 1 person has ever answered me back after my little chat.
Big mistake, his 2nd was to shove me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because some people are ignorant, we’ve had parents pull their kids away from playing with ours when they learn they had epilepsy, because god forbid they might catch it. My eldest was shouted at to stop his noise, because a few weeks before he’d had major brain surgery and it was his only way of letting us know he was in pain or if he needed anything.
Over the years we’ve had some awful treatment by people, but also lots of kindness and compassion. Things are getting better at times. But you can’t do anything about the few ignorant people x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've learnt the subtle art of talking very quietly, smiling sweetly, staring people straight in the eye
While I tell them exactly what I think of them, and exactly what I'd like to do to them.
No one says a bad word against my kids.
They've gone through more than most adults could in a dozen lifetimes.
They don't deserve abuse, I won't tolerate it.
Only 1 person has ever answered me back after my little chat.
Big mistake, his 2nd was to shove me "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've learnt the subtle art of talking very quietly, smiling sweetly, staring people straight in the eye
While I tell them exactly what I think of them, and exactly what I'd like to do to them.
No one says a bad word against my kids.
They've gone through more than most adults could in a dozen lifetimes.
They don't deserve abuse, I won't tolerate it.
Only 1 person has ever answered me back after my little chat.
Big mistake, his 2nd was to shove me "
This is me now too. Took a while to get to this stage I must admit. I’d either flip out or burst out crying. Nobody know what it’s like unless they’re going through it. Nobody. I dont even think people are entitled to an opinion. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve had one lady let me cross the road and stop traffic with her car whilst I crossed only to have a guy stop inches from my son because he was in a hurry the lady went nuts calling him all sorts and asking him if he was blind I grabbed my son up with his frame and crossed the rest of the way she apologised for the guy then said bye but continued to give this guy abuse |
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I think in some of these types of instances,it's just a case of people not having been previously exposed to people with disabilities. They simply don't know how to react, and (I'd be willing to bet the last thing they actually want to do is cause offence) they probably get shy and act awkward, which might not come accross well, as it gives the standoffish "wide birth" impression. So whilst they may appear a little rude, they probably don't mean to be at all.
Some however are just complete douches!
With regards to the comments some of the previous posters mentioned - absolutely disgusting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The best ones are the old people who berate you for parking in disabled spaces.
I had one a few years ago, I parked up. Got out and was confronted by a very irate man, probably in his 80s screaming at me saying I shouldn't be parked there and should move so he could have the space. Despite me having a blue badge for my child.
He called security, they then asked me to move, I didn't and then the police were called 
This was despite the man shouting at me not looking at all disabled. Perfectly able looking, just like my child.
I just walk away these days. |
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"The best ones are the old people who berate you for parking in disabled spaces.
I had one a few years ago, I parked up. Got out and was confronted by a very irate man, probably in his 80s screaming at me saying I shouldn't be parked there and should move so he could have the space. Despite me having a blue badge for my child.
He called security, they then asked me to move, I didn't and then the police were called
This was despite the man shouting at me not looking at all disabled. Perfectly able looking, just like my child.
I just walk away these days."
Oh I love those ones!!
Parked in a disabled bay at the leisure centre, was the last space.
I got out, 2 steps from my car old boy pulls up & started shouting at me.
Telling me I can't park there, move my car.
I waved & carried on walking.
Came out 10mins later to find he'd parked across the back of me, blocked me in.
I turned to see him, walking out with a security guard.
His face when he realised I had my son, in his wheelchair with me.
Yes, an able bodied person is allowed to park in a marked bay, on a badge. IF they are there for the purpose of picking up owner of the badge.
I still chuckle at seeing how red the old boys face was, and the guard telling him to move his car or he'd be the one getting the ticket  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Because people don't know what to say or how to act. sounds daft but should people just not act as they would around let’s say someone who hasn’t got a disability "
Yes they should but out of fear of saying something wrong or offending anyone some people just act awkward which is worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't be offended by such people, sadly they are ignorant and know no better. Take the morale high ground, difficult as it is. The only way to deal with intolerance is by being tolerant.
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"Because people don't know what to say or how to act. sounds daft but should people just not act as they would around let’s say someone who hasn’t got a disability "
If possible then yes of course.
It's no different having a conversation with someone just because they might be in a wheelchair for example. But not all disabilities can be treated in the same way
I worked a brain injury rehabilitation centre for a while, and some of our service users actions and behaviour were very alarming to anyone not used to them. From very loud unexpected shouting, very exaggerated physical displays of movements, becoming physically aggressive/violent - a whole range of unusual behaviour that can be very unnerving, and make it difficult to act as they would around someone without the disability. The world is a complicated place! |
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By *ojo1964Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
Being disabled all my life and a single parent of a 17yr old son.
I still have comments on social media and on FAB from people from time to time saying that it disgusted at the thought of a disabled person having a relationship, let alone having sex.
But I say thats their problem, not mine also prove what thick t**ts they are.... |
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