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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello  wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys. "
I would say more women like gym fit guys on here than those who dont. You'll be alright OP  |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
Sounds like you had a lucky escape there.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I would say more women like gym fit guys on here than those who dont. You'll be alright OP "
I don't think that's true at all.
In response to the op, fuck em I say, jealousy, insecurity, whatever it is that they feel threatened. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you've got it, flaunt it, whether that's a toned physique or beautiful curves. Nobody should be ashamed about embracing their body in this day and age whatever they look like  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Happens to gym fit women too sometimes unfortunately. We were referred to another a thread a while back as “gym freaks” with “no personality”. As others have said - it’s a projection of insecurity. Pay no heed. And you look awesome by the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say more women like gym fit guys on here than those who dont.
Based on what?"
Based on my own estimation. I'm not always right and might well be wrong this time. Im not saying women are shallow for liking a fit guy over a not so fit guy, but if you look at the "who's on your hotlist" threads currently running, I would "guess" that most of the guys mentioned have great bodies. Again, I could well be wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As someone who works in a gym, then no most guys I know aren't up their own arses.
They're dedicated to reaching a particular goal.
I find that attractive "
Yes, I also find a person hugely attractive who is motivated to improve their health, general wellbeing and body. |
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FYI short messages saying just “hello” or “Hi” rarely get a good reception anyway.
If someone gym fit only says one word in an opening message it can be perceived, rightly or wrongly, that they think they are so hot they do not even have to make an effort and we will fall at their feet.
There is so much more to human interaction than many appreciate sometimes |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thanks for the nice messages. Wasn't meant to be a thread to boost my ego. Just a discussion. I never thought of it as being someone else's insecurities, that makes me feel a bit better cus I take things to heart and was a bit upset haha. Feel bit better now |
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"As someone who works in a gym, then no most guys I know aren't up their own arses.
They're dedicated to reaching a particular goal.
I find that attractive
Yes, I also find a person hugely attractive who is motivated to improve their health, general wellbeing and body. "
Exactly that. It's not about the body, or what they look like.
I'm an active person, I just wouldn't find a lazy person attractive or find them compatible with my lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"FYI short messages saying just “hello” or “Hi” rarely get a good reception anyway.
If someone gym fit only says one word in an opening message it can be perceived, rightly or wrongly, that they think they are so hot they do not even have to make an effort and we will fall at their feet.
There is so much more to human interaction than many appreciate sometimes "
Ah but if you was starting a conversation with someone at a bar first thing I'd say was hello |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Happens to gym fit women too sometimes unfortunately. We were referred to another a thread a while back as “gym freaks” with “no personality”. As others have said - it’s a projection of insecurity. Pay no heed. And you look awesome by the way "
Thanks so do you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
I wouldn’t be that rude, but in all honesty, from personal experience all the gym fit guys i have met are up their own arse, most likely thought they were stepping down a standard to get a shag with me and tend to not branch out from just rough fast fucking ... i like a bit more of a tease and variety
Yes i know not everyone is the same and i am being stereotypical but 100% of my own (bar 1) personal experience has been like this
You might be the exception but when people have so much choice on here they have the luxury of assuming the rule
Just accept that despite being very happy with your own physique you wont be everyone’s type and like others have said above their will be plenty more who do like a gym fit guy
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say more women like gym fit guys on here than those who dont.
Based on what?
Again, I could well be wrong.
Assumptions are dangerous too
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Agreed on this at least  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys. "
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm currently going through a fat time due to meds, injury and consistently eating my bodyweight in cake and crunchy carbs yummmm.
I'm pretty sure that I was also insecure about my body three stone ago though, when I was all size 32 and had muskly muskles.
My point is... Right now I have a lot of fun and great sex, a wonderful marriage and a lovely gf as well as numerous adventures on my own.
It's almost like... Attraction is more than skin deep.
I do think there are many on here that perhaps haven't got to thinking that way.
I also think that peoples'
Insecurities encourages them to feel threatened by loadsa abs and raaaa muscles.
I would like to get fit again though... If anyone in the worthing /Brighton area can help me with that, I'd be delighted x. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the nice messages. Wasn't meant to be a thread to boost my ego. Just a discussion. I never thought of it as being someone else's insecurities, that makes me feel a bit better cus I take things to heart and was a bit upset haha. Feel bit better now "
People get jealous. Be thankful you won't have to meet them. If they are abusive report them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"FYI short messages saying just “hello” or “Hi” rarely get a good reception anyway.
If someone gym fit only says one word in an opening message it can be perceived, rightly or wrongly, that they think they are so hot they do not even have to make an effort and we will fall at their feet.
There is so much more to human interaction than many appreciate sometimes "
I get these one word messages all the time from men with a range of body shapes. My assumption is they are lazy, not up themselves. I still don’t respond because I don’t like laziness - but just to throw another interpretation into the mix. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd say they probably think you're too good for them..
I know I'd be insecure by a man who was so fit..but I wouldnt be mean.. and would still appreciate him |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast."
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them ."
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......  |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me....... "
Jealousy I guess? |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me....... "
Because gyms are sterile dull places full of narcissists , apparently |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them ."
This exactly. I spend upwards of 8 hours a week in the gym. My goal is nothing to do with looks, just about how much I can lift. I've been given grief about it, someone asking what's the point in it, others saying I should look better given the amount of time I spend I there. Others even calling bullshit that I compete and win and national level. |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me....... "
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead. |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me....... "
It's all part of the same insecurity that makes people imply nasty things about profiles with the word professional in them and say that beautiful people have ugly personalities. |
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"Ah but if you was starting a conversation with someone at a bar first thing I'd say was hello "
Of course and that’s normal. But if there was a woman in a bar and 100s of men were surrounding her saying “Hello” only, wouldn’t she be more likely to perk her ears up at a guy who said something more interesting? |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
Why would you want to be given a chance with them ?
Take it as a neon flashing warning sign saying "don't touch them with a barge pole" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
Because gyms are sterile dull places full of narcissists , apparently "
People are ignorant. I go to a ladies only gym and the friends I’ve made there are the exact opposite of narcissistic - they’re warm and lovely, and a few of them are even slightly insecure about their bodies, but still making the effort to change what they aren’t happy about. And you know what, I fucking admire them so much. Then you have the people who are unhappy and unwilling to do anything productive about it who just sit and tear others down ...I’d rather be surrounded by gym “narcissistists” thanks |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
This exactly. I spend upwards of 8 hours a week in the gym. My goal is nothing to do with looks, just about how much I can lift. I've been given grief about it, someone asking what's the point in it, others saying I should look better given the amount of time I spend I there. Others even calling bullshit that I compete and win and national level."
That's awful. My PT has had similar. He used to be a really big guy and has lost a tonne of weight and is now an absolute machine! He'll never look like some of the younger ones who have never been overweight though. The thing is many of them still come to him for help. He's had hateful comments from people because he's not ripped and still has a slight belly but the way he has transformed his body is phenomenal! People can be cruel. |
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"Ah but if you was starting a conversation with someone at a bar first thing I'd say was hello
Of course and that’s normal. But if there was a woman in a bar and 100s of men were surrounding her saying “Hello” only, wouldn’t she be more likely to perk her ears up at a guy who said something more interesting?"
That's true. I'll go away and work on it |
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"Exactly that. It's not about the body, or what they look like.
I'm an active person, I just wouldn't find a lazy person attractive or find them compatible with my lifestyle "
But not going to a gym does not mean someone is automatically lazy  |
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"That's true. I'll go away and work on it "
In reality the answer to your original question is that it could be any of a multitude of reasons.
Being aware of potential reactions from complete strangers is an art form |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
Because gyms are sterile dull places full of narcissists , apparently
People are ignorant. I go to a ladies only gym and the friends I’ve made there are the exact opposite of narcissistic - they’re warm and lovely, and a few of them are even slightly insecure about their bodies, but still making the effort to change what they aren’t happy about. And you know what, I fucking admire them so much. Then you have the people who are unhappy and unwilling to do anything productive about it who just sit and tear others down ...I’d rather be surrounded by gym “narcissistists” thanks "
A lot of people don't realise that eating disorders aren't the only form of body dysmorphia. I have met people before with it relating to muscle gain. It doesn't matter how big they get they still see themselves as small and weak. I even know a woman who used to have an eating disorder and considered herself to have recovered as she got really into fitness instead and gained enough muscle weight to have a healthy BMI but then her periods stopped as she had such a low body fat percentage and she has realised she wasn't in fact recovered, she had just switched one obsession for another. Of course not everyone who goes to the gym a lot has these issues but what I mean is that the perception that everyone who is very physically fit loves themselves and their bodies can be the complete opposite to the truth in some cases. |
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"Exactly that. It's not about the body, or what they look like.
I'm an active person, I just wouldn't find a lazy person attractive or find them compatible with my lifestyle
But not going to a gym does not mean someone is automatically lazy "
That is true of course. There are other ways to be active and some people have very active jobs. Others have obstacles that prevent them from being active. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys. "
This really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" A lot of people don't realise that eating disorders aren't the only form of body dysmorphia. I have met people before with it relating to muscle gain. It doesn't matter how big they get they still see themselves as small and weak. I even know a woman who used to have an eating disorder and considered herself to have recovered as she got really into fitness instead and gained enough muscle weight to have a healthy BMI but then her periods stopped as she had such a low body fat percentage and she has realised she wasn't in fact recovered, she had just switched one obsession for another. Of course not everyone who goes to the gym a lot has these issues but what I mean is that the perception that everyone who is very physically fit loves themselves and their bodies can be the complete opposite to the truth in some cases."
I understand and sympathise with alot of this ... ive seen it happen too
I think part of the confusion is though that people like myself are assumed to think they are obsessed with themselves when actually my assumption is they are obsessed with the gym and all that comes with it... which i just find so boring
I couldn’t care less what someone can lift or what their body fat percentage is and eating chicken and steamed veg out of tupperware or worse ... beans and tuna gives me the heebie jeebies ... i would literally not have any common ground with someone whos life was centred round their gym life and physique ... no matter what their reasoning behind doing it was
What am i going to talk to them about ... lying in bed binge watching Netflix while i eat pizza |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead."
Exactly. I can hazard a guess that the difference is sitting in a hairdressers requires no effort but to sit and be pampered. Anyone can do that right? Takes dedication, commitment and a kick arse attitude to change yourself for the better using a gym and physical training. People aren’t willing to put the effort in so they perceive it as a threat. And when people feel under threat it’s easier to tear down and attack those who are able to accomplish what they’re not. Lifting weights does *not* come easy to me. I could have sat and watched ladies lifting and made shitty remarks and pulled them down - instead I allowed those women to be my inspiration - i put my big girl pants on and went in there and faced it head on with a positive mindset. It’s there for the taking for anyone who really wants it. End of sermon |
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" A lot of people don't realise that eating disorders aren't the only form of body dysmorphia. I have met people before with it relating to muscle gain. It doesn't matter how big they get they still see themselves as small and weak. I even know a woman who used to have an eating disorder and considered herself to have recovered as she got really into fitness instead and gained enough muscle weight to have a healthy BMI but then her periods stopped as she had such a low body fat percentage and she has realised she wasn't in fact recovered, she had just switched one obsession for another. Of course not everyone who goes to the gym a lot has these issues but what I mean is that the perception that everyone who is very physically fit loves themselves and their bodies can be the complete opposite to the truth in some cases.
I understand and sympathise with alot of this ... ive seen it happen too
I think part of the confusion is though that people like myself are assumed to think they are obsessed with themselves when actually my assumption is they are obsessed with the gym and all that comes with it... which i just find so boring
I couldn’t care less what someone can lift or what their body fat percentage is and eating chicken and steamed veg out of tupperware or worse ... beans and tuna gives me the heebie jeebies ... i would literally not have any common ground with someone whos life was centred round their gym life and physique ... no matter what their reasoning behind doing it was
What am i going to talk to them about ... lying in bed binge watching Netflix while i eat pizza "
Well you would need to talk to them in order to find the common ground: both have fab in common. And I love pizza and currently watching endgame in bed and then going to watch 300  |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead.
Exactly. I can hazard a guess that the difference is sitting in a hairdressers requires no effort but to sit and be pampered. Anyone can do that right? Takes dedication, commitment and a kick arse attitude to change yourself for the better using a gym and physical training. People aren’t willing to put the effort in so they perceive it as a threat. And when people feel under threat it’s easier to tear down and attack those who are able to accomplish what they’re not. Lifting weights does *not* come easy to me. I could have sat and watched ladies lifting and made shitty remarks and pulled them down - instead I allowed those women to be my inspiration - i put my big girl pants on and went in there and faced it head on with a positive mindset. It’s there for the taking for anyone who really wants it. End of sermon "
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"Exactly that. It's not about the body, or what they look like.
I'm an active person, I just wouldn't find a lazy person attractive or find them compatible with my lifestyle
But not going to a gym does not mean someone is automatically lazy
That is true of course. There are other ways to be active and some people have very active jobs. Others have obstacles that prevent them from being active."
I think my comment has been taken out of context.
I didn't mean, if you don't go the a gym you're lazy.
It was more aimed at the mental attitude of some people.
Some people have no 'Ooomph' are happy to eat, work, watch TV, sleep.
That kind of person I wouldn't be compatible with.
Im always on the go, never sit still.
I need to keep physically active, whether at the gym, at home or just out & about.
I'v put on 3st this year due to health issues I have no control over, so I don't look like what you'd consider gym fit at the moment, but I can still lift the same, smash out an hours hiit class.
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"Exactly that. It's not about the body, or what they look like.
I'm an active person, I just wouldn't find a lazy person attractive or find them compatible with my lifestyle
But not going to a gym does not mean someone is automatically lazy
That is true of course. There are other ways to be active and some people have very active jobs. Others have obstacles that prevent them from being active.
I think my comment has been taken out of context.
I didn't mean, if you don't go the a gym you're lazy.
It was more aimed at the mental attitude of some people.
Some people have no 'Ooomph' are happy to eat, work, watch TV, sleep.
That kind of person I wouldn't be compatible with.
Im always on the go, never sit still.
I need to keep physically active, whether at the gym, at home or just out & about.
I'v put on 3st this year due to health issues I have no control over, so I don't look like what you'd consider gym fit at the moment, but I can still lift the same, smash out an hours hiit class.
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I completely get your point of view ... im in that no oomph category and feel the same about people with all the oomph
My point is its ok for people to be one or the other and to want to gravitate towards like minded people |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead.
Exactly. I can hazard a guess that the difference is sitting in a hairdressers requires no effort but to sit and be pampered. Anyone can do that right? Takes dedication, commitment and a kick arse attitude to change yourself for the better using a gym and physical training. People aren’t willing to put the effort in so they perceive it as a threat. And when people feel under threat it’s easier to tear down and attack those who are able to accomplish what they’re not. Lifting weights does *not* come easy to me. I could have sat and watched ladies lifting and made shitty remarks and pulled them down - instead I allowed those women to be my inspiration - i put my big girl pants on and went in there and faced it head on with a positive mindset. It’s there for the taking for anyone who really wants it. End of sermon
I think there is an arrogant assumption in this though that we SHOULD want it ... people are entitled to like and dislike completely different things "
I was waiting for someone to misinterpret it. I can assure you arrogant is absolutely not one of my personal qualities.
This, in my mind, applies only to people who tear others down deliberately on the basis of their own insecurities and wishing they could do what that person can do. It’s *only* that group of people I am referring to here.
If you are happy with your life and your body, and you don’t go around tearing others down, absolutely wonderful with me |
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There’s a context to my above comment, so just to make it clear ... The OP is referring to people who make assumptions about gym fit people as being “up the their own arse” etc. And there were a number of speculations on this post about where that stems from, one theory being insecurity and jealousy. That’s where my above comment was aimed - at that group of people.
I’m not sitting here passing any judgement about people who have no interest in the gym. Of course I’m not. I couldn’t care what anyone’s interests are so long as they aren’t passing negative judgement on mine |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead.
Exactly. I can hazard a guess that the difference is sitting in a hairdressers requires no effort but to sit and be pampered. Anyone can do that right? Takes dedication, commitment and a kick arse attitude to change yourself for the better using a gym and physical training. People aren’t willing to put the effort in so they perceive it as a threat. And when people feel under threat it’s easier to tear down and attack those who are able to accomplish what they’re not. Lifting weights does *not* come easy to me. I could have sat and watched ladies lifting and made shitty remarks and pulled them down - instead I allowed those women to be my inspiration - i put my big girl pants on and went in there and faced it head on with a positive mindset. It’s there for the taking for anyone who really wants it. End of sermon
I think there is an arrogant assumption in this though that we SHOULD want it ... people are entitled to like and dislike completely different things
I was waiting for someone to misinterpret it. I can assure you arrogant is absolutely not one of my personal qualities.
This, in my mind, applies only to people who tear others down deliberately on the basis of their own insecurities and wishing they could do what that person can do. It’s *only* that group of people I am referring to here.
If you are happy with your life and your body, and you don’t go around tearing others down, absolutely wonderful with me "
Sorry i wasn’t happy putting the word arrogant tbh because it wasn’t meant to be an attack but i couldn’t think of an alternative ... i didn’t mean it in the sense of being a bit of an arsehole ... more that its quite widely assumed (partly due to media) that people should want to be slim (or built for guys) and that certain things ate attractive and thats what we should be aspiring to be and be with ... but thats not always the case |
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Just ignore the people that say nasty comments it doesn’t matter what other people think about your body type I sometimes get the odd smart comment saying you need to improve this or work on that at the end of the day I go to the gym for me really just to keep fit and healthy and this is what I like to look like  |
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"There’s a context to my above comment, so just to make it clear ... The OP is referring to people who make assumptions about gym fit people as being “up the their own arse” etc. And there were a number of speculations on this post about where that stems from, one theory being insecurity and jealousy. That’s where my above comment was aimed - at that group of people.
I’m not sitting here passing any judgement about people who have no interest in the gym. Of course I’m not. I couldn’t care what anyone’s interests are so long as they aren’t passing negative judgement on mine "
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"Just ignore the people that say nasty comments it doesn’t matter what other people think about your body type I sometimes get the odd smart comment saying you need to improve this or work on that at the end of the day I go to the gym for me really just to keep fit and healthy and this is what I like to look like "
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"Exactly that. It's not about the body, or what they look like.
I'm an active person, I just wouldn't find a lazy person attractive or find them compatible with my lifestyle
But not going to a gym does not mean someone is automatically lazy
That is true of course. There are other ways to be active and some people have very active jobs. Others have obstacles that prevent them from being active.
I think my comment has been taken out of context.
I didn't mean, if you don't go the a gym you're lazy.
It was more aimed at the mental attitude of some people.
Some people have no 'Ooomph' are happy to eat, work, watch TV, sleep.
That kind of person I wouldn't be compatible with.
Im always on the go, never sit still.
I need to keep physically active, whether at the gym, at home or just out & about.
I'v put on 3st this year due to health issues I have no control over, so I don't look like what you'd consider gym fit at the moment, but I can still lift the same, smash out an hours hiit class.
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I think I know what you meant. It's not that if you don't go to the gym you're lazy, more that you know that those do go a lot probably aren't? |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead.
Exactly. I can hazard a guess that the difference is sitting in a hairdressers requires no effort but to sit and be pampered. Anyone can do that right? Takes dedication, commitment and a kick arse attitude to change yourself for the better using a gym and physical training. People aren’t willing to put the effort in so they perceive it as a threat. And when people feel under threat it’s easier to tear down and attack those who are able to accomplish what they’re not. Lifting weights does *not* come easy to me. I could have sat and watched ladies lifting and made shitty remarks and pulled them down - instead I allowed those women to be my inspiration - i put my big girl pants on and went in there and faced it head on with a positive mindset. It’s there for the taking for anyone who really wants it. End of sermon
I think there is an arrogant assumption in this though that we SHOULD want it ... people are entitled to like and dislike completely different things
I was waiting for someone to misinterpret it. I can assure you arrogant is absolutely not one of my personal qualities.
This, in my mind, applies only to people who tear others down deliberately on the basis of their own insecurities and wishing they could do what that person can do. It’s *only* that group of people I am referring to here.
If you are happy with your life and your body, and you don’t go around tearing others down, absolutely wonderful with me
Sorry i wasn’t happy putting the word arrogant tbh because it wasn’t meant to be an attack but i couldn’t think of an alternative ... i didn’t mean it in the sense of being a bit of an arsehole ... more that its quite widely assumed (partly due to media) that people should want to be slim (or built for guys) and that certain things ate attractive and thats what we should be aspiring to be and be with ... but thats not always the case "
No worries - it’s hard to get your meaning across on here. Yes, the media assumes many unhelpful things I agree. But my comment wasn’t a reflection of that. My message was essentially “if you feel the need to tear down gym fit people because you’re insecure about your own body, how about don’t. Instead, let those people be your motivation, aspire to be as fit as them, and go kick some arse”. And rem_mber that the chances are - the person you’re tearing down with the seemingly “media perfect” body has been through their own struggles and battled their own demons to look in the mirror and feel a tiny bit happier with what they see. |
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"Isn’t going to the gym a bit like cheating?
Oh yeah. I do it behind my partners back all the time!
Quick early morning session then creep
Back to bed "
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
I love a gym fit guy with a great face!
But to make you feel better - I’ve recently had a spate of messages telling me I’m ugly as now too gym fit and toned.... I’m seriously not. It’s just some movements show certain areas toned.
You can’t please them all! And I’m far from being super built and muscly! |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad
I love a gym fit guy with a great face!
But to make you feel better - I’ve recently had a spate of messages telling me I’m ugly as now too gym fit and toned.... I’m seriously not. It’s just some movements show certain areas toned.
You can’t please them all! And I’m far from being super built and muscly! "
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad
I love a gym fit guy with a great face!
But to make you feel better - I’ve recently had a spate of messages telling me I’m ugly as now too gym fit and toned.... I’m seriously not. It’s just some movements show certain areas toned.
You can’t please them all! And I’m far from being super built and muscly! "
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad
It's impossible to meet cpls if your way bigger, more masculine than the male partner."
I’ve not found this in my experience but then maybe my age as made the male feel more dominant as being the older one haha |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad
It's impossible to meet cpls if your way bigger, more masculine than the male partner.
I’ve not found this in my experience but then maybe my age as made the male feel more dominant as being the older one haha"
Nope, we've never made decisions based on that We clearly state what's most important to us in our profile, but if you're as athletic or more so than Mr ABC then great we have no problem with that. And if you're not, then that's ok too ! |
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I (brat) ask for no athletic guys in our profile. Its nothing at all to do with your attitude, it's just not what I'm attracted to.
I get annoyed when guys with gym bods message because it's right there in the profile! It just shows they ignored it all. |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad
I love a gym fit guy with a great face!
But to make you feel better - I’ve recently had a spate of messages telling me I’m ugly as now too gym fit and toned.... I’m seriously not. It’s just some movements show certain areas toned.
You can’t please them all! And I’m far from being super built and muscly!
For what it's worth and sorry if this sounds strange but you have fantastic calves!"
Hahaha thank you!!!! I’ve been blessed with good legs so do try to look after them - calves included! You are a first to ever comment on them though! Mwah xxx |
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" A lot of people don't realise that eating disorders aren't the only form of body dysmorphia. I have met people before with it relating to muscle gain. It doesn't matter how big they get they still see themselves as small and weak. I even know a woman who used to have an eating disorder and considered herself to have recovered as she got really into fitness instead and gained enough muscle weight to have a healthy BMI but then her periods stopped as she had such a low body fat percentage and she has realised she wasn't in fact recovered, she had just switched one obsession for another. Of course not everyone who goes to the gym a lot has these issues but what I mean is that the perception that everyone who is very physically fit loves themselves and their bodies can be the complete opposite to the truth in some cases.
I understand and sympathise with alot of this ... ive seen it happen too
I think part of the confusion is though that people like myself are assumed to think they are obsessed with themselves when actually my assumption is they are obsessed with the gym and all that comes with it... which i just find so boring
I couldn’t care less what someone can lift or what their body fat percentage is and eating chicken and steamed veg out of tupperware or worse ... beans and tuna gives me the heebie jeebies ... i would literally not have any common ground with someone whos life was centred round their gym life and physique ... no matter what their reasoning behind doing it was
What am i going to talk to them about ... lying in bed binge watching Netflix while i eat pizza
Well you would need to talk to them in order to find the common ground: both have fab in common. And I love pizza and currently watching endgame in bed and then going to watch 300 "
Actually I'm not sure ,with such a narrow view and simplistic trite reasoning I might conclude there would be little room for intelligent common ground?
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead.
Exactly. I can hazard a guess that the difference is sitting in a hairdressers requires no effort but to sit and be pampered. Anyone can do that right? Takes dedication, commitment and a kick arse attitude to change yourself for the better using a gym and physical training. People aren’t willing to put the effort in so they perceive it as a threat. And when people feel under threat it’s easier to tear down and attack those who are able to accomplish what they’re not. Lifting weights does *not* come easy to me. I could have sat and watched ladies lifting and made shitty remarks and pulled them down - instead I allowed those women to be my inspiration - i put my big girl pants on and went in there and faced it head on with a positive mindset. It’s there for the taking for anyone who really wants it. End of sermon
I think there is an arrogant assumption in this though that we SHOULD want it ... people are entitled to like and dislike completely different things
I was waiting for someone to misinterpret it. I can assure you arrogant is absolutely not one of my personal qualities.
This, in my mind, applies only to people who tear others down deliberately on the basis of their own insecurities and wishing they could do what that person can do. It’s *only* that group of people I am referring to here.
If you are happy with your life and your body, and you don’t go around tearing others down, absolutely wonderful with me "
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There is a perception among some people that gym fit = vanity. And if a person goes to the gym and works hard on their body then they must be vain and shallow and somewhat narcissistic. It is the inverse perception that many motivated and healthy people have of the obese, that they must be lazy and lack discipline and be half-assed in all that they do. It is human nature to label, and make snap judgements. Such judgements are rarely accurate, but we don’t care, as we blithely go through life believing in our assumptions. If you don’t make them about a person’s appearance and fitness level, you will make them about their politics or social status or religion or sense of fashion, or education or ethnicity or... the list is endless. Sometimes you come up against it. Sometimes you don’t. It’s just how people are these days. |
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"There is a perception among some people that gym fit = vanity. And if a person goes to the gym and works hard on their body then they must be vain and shallow and somewhat narcissistic. It is the inverse perception that many motivated and healthy people have of the obese, that they must be lazy and lack discipline and be half-assed in all that they do. It is human nature to label, and make snap judgements. Such judgements are rarely accurate, but we don’t care, as we blithely go through life believing in our assumptions. If you don’t make them about a person’s appearance and fitness level, you will make them about their politics or social status or religion or sense of fashion, or education or ethnicity or... the list is endless. Sometimes you come up against it. Sometimes you don’t. It’s just how people are these days.
Being gym fit doesn't equal vain. Being a lardy mess does mean poor discipline."
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over a year ago
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them ."
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"There is a perception among some people that gym fit = vanity. And if a person goes to the gym and works hard on their body then they must be vain and shallow and somewhat narcissistic. It is the inverse perception that many motivated and healthy people have of the obese, that they must be lazy and lack discipline and be half-assed in all that they do. It is human nature to label, and make snap judgements. Such judgements are rarely accurate, but we don’t care, as we blithely go through life believing in our assumptions. If you don’t make them about a person’s appearance and fitness level, you will make them about their politics or social status or religion or sense of fashion, or education or ethnicity or... the list is endless. Sometimes you come up against it. Sometimes you don’t. It’s just how people are these days.
Being gym fit doesn't equal vain. Being a lardy mess does mean poor discipline."
I dont think that or endorse that ridiculous prejudice
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"Oh come here OP. Muscle to muscle rub
You have to be strong mentally to deal with this place. Dont sweat the small stuff because you are worth it "
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"There is a perception among some people that gym fit = vanity. And if a person goes to the gym and works hard on their body then they must be vain and shallow and somewhat narcissistic. It is the inverse perception that many motivated and healthy people have of the obese, that they must be lazy and lack discipline and be half-assed in all that they do. It is human nature to label, and make snap judgements. Such judgements are rarely accurate, but we don’t care, as we blithely go through life believing in our assumptions. If you don’t make them about a person’s appearance and fitness level, you will make them about their politics or social status or religion or sense of fashion, or education or ethnicity or... the list is endless. Sometimes you come up against it. Sometimes you don’t. It’s just how people are these days.
Being gym fit doesn't equal vain. Being a lardy mess does mean poor discipline. "
I actually misread the above statement. Being over-weight does not at all mean poor discipline. Such sweeping assumptions and judgement is exactly what I was talking about in my original post. |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad
I love a gym fit guy with a great face!
But to make you feel better - I’ve recently had a spate of messages telling me I’m ugly as now too gym fit and toned.... I’m seriously not. It’s just some movements show certain areas toned.
You can’t please them all! And I’m far from being super built and muscly!
For what it's worth and sorry if this sounds strange but you have fantastic calves!
Hahaha thank you!!!! I’ve been blessed with good legs so do try to look after them - calves included! You are a first to ever comment on them though! Mwah xxx"
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Looking at your pics, the trained eye can tell you work out "
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Looking at your pics, the trained eye can tell you work out
Is it my melon crushing thighs that give it away? "
They can do that?? 
However has their head between those thighs better behave! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Looking at your pics, the trained eye can tell you work out
Is it my melon crushing thighs that give it away?
They can do that??
However has their head between those thighs better behave! "
Whoever |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
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"I think I know what you meant. It's not that if you don't go to the gym you're lazy, more that you know that those do go a lot probably aren't?"
Depends on one’s idea of laziness. If all someone can do is the gym and they have no other interests or skills that could be considered lazy |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Looking at your pics, the trained eye can tell you work out
Is it my melon crushing thighs that give it away?
They can do that??
However has their head between those thighs better behave!
Whoever "
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Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!"
Screw 'em. (Not literally! ) |
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!"
cowards i hate those pussy you know there the kind of people who would fuck a dying junky if her legs were wide open need to get off that high horse before they end up like superman |
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!
Screw 'em. (Not literally! )"
The sad thing is that I know it's true
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!
Screw 'em. (Not literally! )
The sad thing is that I know it's true
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It's not. You're gorgeous. |
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!
Screw 'em. (Not literally! )
The sad thing is that I know it's true
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sweetheart pricks like that you wouldnt want to fuck with a corses minge hole |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!
Screw 'em. (Not literally! )
The sad thing is that I know it's true
It's not. You're gorgeous. "
Aw thankyou lovely - I'm PMSing and taking keyboard warriors to heart x |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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People are weird OP, based on your profile you sound friendly and down to earth, you just happen to also be hot!
There will always be people who project their insecurities onto others.
See it that they're doing you a favour, they're filtering themselves out of your life so you don't have to x |
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!
Screw 'em. (Not literally! )
The sad thing is that I know it's true
sweetheart pricks like that you wouldnt want to fuck with a corses minge hole"
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead."
For once Lacey, you and I are in agreement!
There's nothing wrong with people using the gym for purely vanity benefits at all, like you said people use hairdressers and many many other things for vanity - and vanity isn't the worst thing in the world anyways!
I'm happy to admit my goals were purely vanity based. I had reached 20 stone and after seeing some photos of myself I had to change.
Now admittedly health benefits came along with getting in shape, but they weren't my motivation to work out and diet, I wanted to look better. I'd never been slim or in shape, and always envied guys that were.
I'm now pretty jacked, and proud of my hard work |
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over a year ago
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!"
People can be vile x |
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"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead.
For once Lacey, you and I are in agreement!
There's nothing wrong with people using the gym for purely vanity benefits at all, like you said people use hairdressers and many many other things for vanity - and vanity isn't the worst thing in the world anyways!
I'm happy to admit my goals were purely vanity based. I had reached 20 stone and after seeing some photos of myself I had to change.
Now admittedly health benefits came along with getting in shape, but they weren't my motivation to work out and diet, I wanted to look better. I'd never been slim or in shape, and always envied guys that were.
I'm now pretty jacked, and proud of my hard work "
You should be proud, you look amazing |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad
To be honest if that’s what people think or say then it’s a rat’s arse from us , you can’t stop people making assumptions/ judgements "
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I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"They're probably projecting their own insecurity onto you. I wouldn't worry about it, you look good and plenty of people love gym fit guys.
I'd agree it's probably this. Just because we work on our physique doesn't mean we think less of anyone or have an inflated sense of ego. Most people who work out do so for personal fulfilment and to feel good about themselves first and foremost, and not to brag or boast.
Exactly. And not everyone who works out regularly has a "gym fit" body. I love the gym but haven't got a low enough body fat percentage to show muscle definition. It's funny because people then feel comfortable bad mouthing people who spend hours in the gym to me not realising I'm one of them .
Grrrr... why does anyone feel the need to bad mouth a person for going to a gym?! It genuinely baffles the life out of me.......
No idea. People seem to see it as a purely vanity thing. Personally it's a combination of things including health and preventing pain but even if people do go purely for vanity, I don't see why that's any different to spending hours in the hairdressers instead.
For once Lacey, you and I are in agreement!
There's nothing wrong with people using the gym for purely vanity benefits at all, like you said people use hairdressers and many many other things for vanity - and vanity isn't the worst thing in the world anyways!
I'm happy to admit my goals were purely vanity based. I had reached 20 stone and after seeing some photos of myself I had to change.
Now admittedly health benefits came along with getting in shape, but they weren't my motivation to work out and diet, I wanted to look better. I'd never been slim or in shape, and always envied guys that were.
I'm now pretty jacked, and proud of my hard work "
Jacked is an understatement! I'd be content with half of your abs but sadly can't give up some guilty pleasures despite the amount of exercise I do. Well done hitting your targets |
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Thanks Chillout!
Yeah it's the diet that's the hard part,but has the most impact on my appearence.
I have a friend who looks very similar to me, but he doesn't have to watch his diet at all, can eat complete junk and only gain lean muscle!
Wish i was the same lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!cowards i hate those pussy you know there the kind of people who would fuck a dying junky if her legs were wide open need to get off that high horse before they end up like superman "
I'm not sure accusing people of being "the kind of people who would fuck a dying junkie if her legs were wide open" and calling them pussies and cowards does anything other than reinforce the suggestion there are lots of nasty keyboard warriors around  |
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!cowards i hate those pussy you know there the kind of people who would fuck a dying junky if her legs were wide open need to get off that high horse before they end up like superman
I'm not sure accusing people of being "the kind of people who would fuck a dying junkie if her legs were wide open" and calling them pussies and cowards does anything other than reinforce the suggestion there are lots of nasty keyboard warriors around "
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Thanks Chillout!
Yeah it's the diet that's the hard part,but has the most impact on my appearence.
I have a friend who looks very similar to me, but he doesn't have to watch his diet at all, can eat complete junk and only gain lean muscle!
Wish i was the same lol"
Genetically gifted people...grrr
I can't give up my four sugars in my black coffee |
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason."
**not sure if serious....** |
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"Thanks Chillout!
Yeah it's the diet that's the hard part,but has the most impact on my appearence.
I have a friend who looks very similar to me, but he doesn't have to watch his diet at all, can eat complete junk and only gain lean muscle!
Wish i was the same lol
Genetically gifted people...grrr
I can't give up my four sugars in my black coffee "
Genetically gifted ... there’s another phrase that keeps landing in my inbox.
I *worked* for this body goddammit!!! |
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"Thanks Chillout!
Yeah it's the diet that's the hard part,but has the most impact on my appearence.
I have a friend who looks very similar to me, but he doesn't have to watch his diet at all, can eat complete junk and only gain lean muscle!
Wish i was the same lol
Genetically gifted people...grrr
I can't give up my four sugars in my black coffee "
I had to switch to sweeteners, I tried the black sugarless coffee for a few days but couldn't stick to it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason.
**not sure if serious....**"
Same. Just chose to swiftly move on.... |
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason.
**not sure if serious....**"
This is the arrogance/up their own arse the op referred to |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Thanks Chillout!
Yeah it's the diet that's the hard part,but has the most impact on my appearence.
I have a friend who looks very similar to me, but he doesn't have to watch his diet at all, can eat complete junk and only gain lean muscle!
Wish i was the same lol
Genetically gifted people...grrr
I can't give up my four sugars in my black coffee
Genetically gifted ... there’s another phrase that keeps landing in my inbox.
I *worked* for this body goddammit!!! "
And have obtained brilliant results I must say |
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason.
**not sure if serious....**"
You both look bloody amazing
Well done on the weight loss and the awesome body, you should feel very proud of yourself |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Thanks Chillout!
Yeah it's the diet that's the hard part,but has the most impact on my appearence.
I have a friend who looks very similar to me, but he doesn't have to watch his diet at all, can eat complete junk and only gain lean muscle!
Wish i was the same lol
Genetically gifted people...grrr
I can't give up my four sugars in my black coffee
I had to switch to sweeteners, I tried the black sugarless coffee for a few days but couldn't stick to it! "
Nothing tastes like the genuine article  |
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason."
Do you fuck them even if they are of a different standard to you? |
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"Thanks Chillout!
Yeah it's the diet that's the hard part,but has the most impact on my appearence.
I have a friend who looks very similar to me, but he doesn't have to watch his diet at all, can eat complete junk and only gain lean muscle!
Wish i was the same lol
Genetically gifted people...grrr
I can't give up my four sugars in my black coffee
Genetically gifted ... there’s another phrase that keeps landing in my inbox.
I *worked* for this body goddammit!!! "
Yeah I can be frustrating sometimes that people don't realise you made yourself look that way not lucky genetics. Although I also think it's complimentary in a way, that they only see your "butterfly" form and assume it must have always been this way for you.
This said I will admit god gifted me some epic calfs! The rest I had to work for lol |
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
the haters lots of them on here. |
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!"
That's awful and you deserve so much more. |
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason."
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason."
And herein the lies the problem.. people not being able to deal with the fact someone doesn't find them attractive.
Brat replied earlier saying how we specifically mentions on our profile aren't looking for big muscles / gym bods. Brat doesn't like them. That's it. Nothing offensive. No nasty reasoning. Just her preference..
Yet we get people message despite that. Some haven't read the profile, some chose to ignore it and have the attitude of "oh well. Of course you'll want me. Look at me."
It isn't everyone, it's just a percentage. Same as anything else. But it's highly irritating and rude. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason.
And herein the lies the problem.. people not being able to deal with the fact someone doesn't find them attractive.
Brat replied earlier saying how we specifically mentions on our profile aren't looking for big muscles / gym bods. Brat doesn't like them. That's it. Nothing offensive. No nasty reasoning. Just her preference..
Yet we get people message despite that. Some haven't read the profile, some chose to ignore it and have the attitude of "oh well. Of course you'll want me. Look at me."
It isn't everyone, it's just a percentage. Same as anything else. But it's highly irritating and rude."
I think he was kidding |
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"I know girls always think they are not good enough for me when they see me naked.
And I have never been to the gym.
But I think yeah a lot of people do despise me for my nice body too. I dont think its jealousy more that I know I am perfect.
Same reason the devil was fucked out of heaven, people who know they are perfect annoy everyone else for no real reason.
And herein the lies the problem.. people not being able to deal with the fact someone doesn't find them attractive.
Brat replied earlier saying how we specifically mentions on our profile aren't looking for big muscles / gym bods. Brat doesn't like them. That's it. Nothing offensive. No nasty reasoning. Just her preference..
Yet we get people message despite that. Some haven't read the profile, some chose to ignore it and have the attitude of "oh well. Of course you'll want me. Look at me."
It isn't everyone, it's just a percentage. Same as anything else. But it's highly irritating and rude.
I think he was kidding "
Whether or not he wasn't, we've had interactions similar to that from people who just can't get their head around the fact Brat has rejected them.
So it works as a perfect example |
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First time i realised i was bi was when a fit lad in shower oppsite was washing his cock
We just faced each other and washed our cocks for a lot longer lol |
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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago
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This has sort of happened to me, I was told it’s a bit to much and also had women turn me down because they wouldn’t feel comfortable with me, sooo a bit of both sides... but I’m happy like this so that’s the main thing. I’m sure there are many that like it and many that don’t. Each to their own |
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Thats so odd. Ive never looked at people who are into the gym as being vain or up themselves. Jeez my hubs has been working out for as long as ive known him and hes the polar opposite of vain. We both go to the gym and its literally a case of keeping ourselves in physically good shape but its also for the mental side. Nothing like the buzz of hitting a new weight range. That being said i agree with some of the thoughts on here that its just projecting insecurities etc onto you. Is it that you turned them down so then they decided to get nasty re your body or just general conversation? |
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"Is this really a thing?
Theres been a lot of threads like this recently.
In the real world slim gym fit people are desired and sought after.
It's probably jealousy.
I'm on the other end of the scale where I'm told that I will only ever be a secret fuck because I'm fat.
There are some nasty keyboard warriors about!"
Thats messed up. Youre gorgeous. dont be worrying about them fools |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Makes me laugh at work,lads on powershakes probs juice as well,n some braw farm lad never been in a gym picks up a kerb they've been struggling with or lads pumped up look great in a t shirt couple size too small in a club n some ex mining lads,could shovel all day n the meat heads are sitting down after couple mins n never seen again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I shy away from gym fit guys but that’s due to my own insecurities not because of any other reason even though I do love to perv the pics.
I’d never assume anyone of any size was up their own arse based on their looks, that assumption usually comes when they open their mouth lol.
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Makes me laugh at work,lads on powershakes probs juice as well,n some braw farm lad never been in a gym picks up a kerb they've been struggling with or lads pumped up look great in a t shirt couple size too small in a club n some ex mining lads,could shovel all day n the meat heads are sitting down after couple mins n never seen again "
You don't sound bitter at all |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Spend all the time in the gym for your wellbeing or vanity?
Does it matter?
I did wonder what the relevance was ... "
It's none of anybody else's business why someone goes to the gym, it's also not for anyone to judge or male derogatory comments about someone because they go to the gym, regardless of the reason for going.
I dunno why people can't just mind their own fecking business and let people do what they want to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Spend all the time in the gym for your wellbeing or vanity?
Does it matter?
I did wonder what the relevance was ...
It's none of anybody else's business why someone goes to the gym, it's also not for anyone to judge or male derogatory comments about someone because they go to the gym, regardless of the reason for going.
I dunno why people can't just mind their own fecking business and let people do what they want to do "
Amen to that!! |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Spend all the time in the gym for your wellbeing or vanity?
Does it matter?
I did wonder what the relevance was ...
It's none of anybody else's business why someone goes to the gym, it's also not for anyone to judge or male derogatory comments about someone because they go to the gym, regardless of the reason for going.
I dunno why people can't just mind their own fecking business and let people do what they want to do
Amen to that!! "
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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So tired of body shaming of any kind!
Comparing and judging MEH!
It's not pleasant to be on the receiving end of projection and negativity. Sorry bout that.
AND OP ... at least it's clear from the start that person is a fool. Good to get that out of the way huh?
You look great, feel it x
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
Just have to accept there are nasty and insecure folk on here and move on. I’m all for people having their preferences but nastiness is unnecessary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I lift heavy and guys look at me like I’m mad I do it for me.  "
Same here - although the glamorous woman get the hump when I’m in the gym as the guys always start to to pay me attention as I’m not just mincing about like them! So shout one more to me to motivate me when that last rep is killing me! |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"I lift heavy and guys look at me like I’m mad I do it for me.
Same here - although the glamorous woman get the hump when I’m in the gym as the guys always start to to pay me attention as I’m not just mincing about like them! So shout one more to me to motivate me when that last rep is killing me! "
Bloody hell aka. That’s one hell of a body. If going to the gym does that it’s well worth it!
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
Quite often see profiles where the don’t want “men who spend all their time in the gym” etc
I do my training as quick as possible ! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad
Quite often see profiles where the don’t want “men who spend all their time in the gym” etc
I do my training as quick as possible !"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
Ach. Haters or those who have been rejected will always find a reason to hate. Ignore them OP, you’re tasty |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
The sweetest, tenderest fwb I have is currently training for a body building competition. He's one of many gym fit guys I've met who've been generous, unselfish lovers and wonderful company. My partner is a former gridiron player and he's a sweetheart. It's bullshit, honey. Just ignore it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay so happened a couple times now, been getting nasty replies saying I'm (amend all guys that look after themselves) are up their own arse and think they are gods gift. All I said was hello wondering if anyone else has had this experience and why people make assumptions so quickly. Give me a chance I'm not that bad "
I've found gym guys to be the most gentle and often insecure people.
Not met one I'd describe as up himself but maybe I've just been lucky. I admire the dedication and time that goes into getting into shape. Think everyone has the capacity to be an arsehole regardless of body shape it's just that when another feels bad about themself, your body is an obvious target. Fk em, or not actually.
You look good so dont let it trouble you. |
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