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How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?
Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?
It's a given that it's safe sex.
Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?
What's decent for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm guessing texting your next meet while being fucked by your current meet isn't a decent amount of time 
Both knew....it was hot  "
Disgraceful - good work  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh"
I think they have the right to know, just as you have the right to not tell them. If neither like it, don't meet. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I don't think there is a definition of the right amount of time between meet other than the one you decide for yourself and with the person you meet if you're talking meets with the same person.
Between two different people, again it's down to the individuals concerned I guess, I personally couldn't have two different meets in the same day for example and would feel personally awkward having one one day and another the next, but it may depend on circumstances and how well I knew the people concerned.
I certainly wouldn't expect anyone to tell me when they last had sex, or I to tell them, but by the time I get round to meeting I usually have a fair idea of how seriously and responsibly they take their sexual health if that is the angle you're coming from. |
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over a year ago
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"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh
I think they have the right to know, just as you have the right to not tell them. If neither like it, don't meet."
No strings means no strings. I don't get to ask you and you don't get to ask me. I don't see why it matters or how it affects the time you have together. I don't play with anyone unless I'm freshly bathed. That's all you need to know, you've got the right to me being clean but beyond that... No strings. |
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"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh
I think they have the right to know, just as you have the right to not tell them. If neither like it, don't meet.
No strings means no strings. I don't get to ask you and you don't get to ask me. I don't see why it matters or how it affects the time you have together. I don't play with anyone unless I'm freshly bathed. That's all you need to know, you've got the right to me being clean but beyond that... No strings. "
Exactly this ... why would anyone have a right to know? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't want to meet someone who had sex the same day. 3 days gap at least. Preferably more.
How would you know if they were telling you the truth about when they last had sex ?"
I wouldn't. Everyone lies. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Is anyone else singing "I Just Had Sex" by Akon and Lonely Island? Just me then.... "
I was singing The Hills by The Weeknd "I just fucked two bitches before I saw you, so you're gonna have to do it at my tempo" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is anyone else singing "I Just Had Sex" by Akon and Lonely Island? Just me then....
I was singing The Hills by The Weeknd "I just fucked two bitches before I saw you, so you're gonna have to do it at my tempo" "
Crying laughing... Fucking brilliant |
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By *handraWoman
over a year ago
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Anytime between shags, long as you've had a shower. If the shag's are close together (same day or within 2 days) I would let them know so as to have no upset if publishing veris.
If any wouldn't leave a veri, no need to say anything. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?"
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender"
Oh and P.S. to that having realised where the question was coming from - if they're clean and/or the other person is aware of the possible consequences again the answer would be no. |
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"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender"
Yes sexual health is everything
I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.
I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.
I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.
They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.
Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender
Yes sexual health is everything
I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.
I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.
I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.
They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.
Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.
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Yeah I realised where you were coming from after my initial response - hence my P.S.
As with anything it comes down to open and honest communication and how much you personally want to reveal to others. If someone said to me they'd had unprotected sex the day before with a partner then it wouldn't bother me if I'd been told about it prior - but can understand why some wouldn't want to, and also why you may have felt reluctant to say anything - which comes down to how well you know a potential meet I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?
Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?
It's a given that it's safe sex.
Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?
What's decent for you?"
for me I'd rather not know so keep it to yourself then if your need is 5 minutes then it doesn't matter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s really only your business, when you are meeting people form fab, they know the process and should be fine with it. Whatever time you need to prepare for the next meet is fine from my point of view
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"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender
Yes sexual health is everything
I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.
I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.
I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.
They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.
Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.
Yeah I realised where you were coming from after my initial response - hence my P.S.
As with anything it comes down to open and honest communication and how much you personally want to reveal to others. If someone said to me they'd had unprotected sex the day before with a partner then it wouldn't bother me if I'd been told about it prior - but can understand why some wouldn't want to, and also why you may have felt reluctant to say anything - which comes down to how well you know a potential meet I guess."
I was just getting to know them. It was early fab days when I thought a social was just that |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender
Yes sexual health is everything
I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.
I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.
I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.
They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.
Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.
Yeah I realised where you were coming from after my initial response - hence my P.S.
As with anything it comes down to open and honest communication and how much you personally want to reveal to others. If someone said to me they'd had unprotected sex the day before with a partner then it wouldn't bother me if I'd been told about it prior - but can understand why some wouldn't want to, and also why you may have felt reluctant to say anything - which comes down to how well you know a potential meet I guess.
I was just getting to know them. It was early fab days when I thought a social was just that "
Totally understandable - would you approach the situation any differently now? |
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"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender
Yes sexual health is everything
I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.
I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.
I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.
They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.
Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.
Yeah I realised where you were coming from after my initial response - hence my P.S.
As with anything it comes down to open and honest communication and how much you personally want to reveal to others. If someone said to me they'd had unprotected sex the day before with a partner then it wouldn't bother me if I'd been told about it prior - but can understand why some wouldn't want to, and also why you may have felt reluctant to say anything - which comes down to how well you know a potential meet I guess.
I was just getting to know them. It was early fab days when I thought a social was just that
Totally understandable - would you approach the situation any differently now?"
Probably not..though never say never. |
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"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?
Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?
It's a given that it's safe sex.
Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?
What's decent for you?"
It depends on the situation. In a club you may quiet literally go from one partner straight to another in the same room.
When meeting away from a club, as long as there's enough time between meets to freshen up and change, that's sufficient.
Anyone who is concerned about when you last had sex, probably shouldn't be on Fab. Swinging is generally about having NSA sex with people for fun. |
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"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?
Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?
It's a given that it's safe sex.
Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?
What's decent for you?
It depends on the situation. In a club you may quiet literally go from one partner straight to another in the same room.
When meeting away from a club, as long as there's enough time between meets to freshen up and change, that's sufficient.
Anyone who is concerned about when you last had sex, probably shouldn't be on Fab. Swinging is generally about having NSA sex with people for fun."
In addition, I would expect that most committed have sex without condoms. |
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"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?
Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?
It's a given that it's safe sex.
Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?
What's decent for you?"
I think it should proportional of arouseness, multiply by hornyness and divided by CS  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender
Yes sexual health is everything
I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.
I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.
I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.
They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.
Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.
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To put it the other way around, if you meet a couple do you expect them to abstain for a given period prior to that meet? As the male half, when we’ve met other couples and I’ve given oral sex it has never crossed my mind to question what percentage of what I’m tasting is her and what is him.
Really quite sweet though that it bothers you 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can see this one dividing opinion, but it's a pretty grey area. I don't really care tbh as long as I feel special at the time and I know what I'm letting myself in for |
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"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?
Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?
It's a given that it's safe sex.
Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?
What's decent for you?
It depends on the situation. In a club you may quiet literally go from one partner straight to another in the same room.
When meeting away from a club, as long as there's enough time between meets to freshen up and change, that's sufficient.
Anyone who is concerned about when you last had sex, probably shouldn't be on Fab. Swinging is generally about having NSA sex with people for fun."
Why shouldn't they be on Fab? What rules must we follow? |
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"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?
No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?
The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender
Yes sexual health is everything
I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.
I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.
I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.
They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.
Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.
To put it the other way around, if you meet a couple do you expect them to abstain for a given period prior to that meet? As the male half, when we’ve met other couples and I’ve given oral sex it has never crossed my mind to question what percentage of what I’m tasting is her and what is him.
Really quite sweet though that it bothers you
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Not that sweet really but thanks..I want to be able to grab him by the ears and know that when his face is covered that's its all me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh"
I agree with this. I don't think people have a right to know all the details, especially when it's just nsa sex. I think as long as you're not putting someone else's health at risk and you clean up after meeting and then moving onto your next meet then it's fine.
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Up to each I individual I’d say. There’s no right or wrong. It wouldn’t happen to me anyway but if I was meeting lots of people I wouldn’t like it if they’d met someone else the same day no. Neither would I meet different people in the same day. Does it matter as long as you’re both on the same page. |
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