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Hoe do you manage messages?
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"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive. If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them. If you don't read the message they just continue to message If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested. Do I really need to block everytime??? Which people then say is massively rude. What a minefield " Block every time. It's not rude. | |||
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"So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse.... if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite " I tried that, and got a.... well I'll keep trying as that moment might change Can't win | |||
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"So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse.... if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite I tried that, and got a.... well I'll keep trying as that moment might change Can't win " That’s where I block and delete | |||
"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive. If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them. If you don't read the message they just continue to message If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested. Do I really need to block everytime??? Which people then say is massively rude. What a minefield " just block if you are definitely not interested and dont think twice about it   | |||
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"Filters are your friend Op. I dont get any of the above problems "The block button is a blessing The filters are a good way of controlling unwanted messages. | |||
"Fab FAQ suggests that if you do not get a reply then to assume that the person is not interested. I read the profile and if I like what i see I will read the message, if not I delete unread. Any abuse is instant block. " This  | |||
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"Filters are your friend Op. I dont get any of the above problems "Think maybe I'm missing something on the filters | |||
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"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence." Can I borrow him? | |||
"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence. Can I borrow him? "He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later. | |||
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"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence. Can I borrow him?
He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later."He may not be used to the increase in volume! | |||
"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive. If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them. If you don't read the message they just continue to message If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested. Do I really need to block everytime??? Which people then say is massively rude. What a minefield " Does it really matter what they think if you are saying no, you have politely said no thank you if they persist then either ignore or block. | |||
"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence. Can I borrow him?
He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.
He may not be used to the increase in volume!"Well whatever keeps him from fraternising with the rest of the staff will be of benefit. Some of them think this is a holiday camp. | |||
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"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence. Can I borrow him?
He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.
He may not be used to the increase in volume!
Well whatever keeps him from fraternising with the rest of the staff will be of benefit. Some of them think this is a holiday camp."Well if he doesn't do his job I'm sure I can whip him back into line! | |||
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"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence. Can I borrow him?
He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.
He may not be used to the increase in volume!
Well whatever keeps him from fraternising with the rest of the staff will be of benefit. Some of them think this is a holiday camp.
Well if he doesn't do his job I'm sure I can whip him back into line! "Marvellous he’ll be with you shortly and please do chastise him for any grammatical errors also. | |||
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"Set them an impossible challenge and send them on a quest.... " | |||
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"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages. For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone. Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many. The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away. Don't they realise I have a life!? "I would've thought you'd be getting a pretty unmanageable level of messages ! | |||
"Similarly it's not too difficult to deal with messages when they are mostly "fancy getting sucked off now" directed towards the wrong audience. " The message I get the most,despite STRAIGHT being in capital letters and a paragraph on not at all being curious and for gay/bi/tv & ts guys to message someone else to save their own time...  | |||
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"Similarly it's not too difficult to deal with messages when they are mostly "fancy getting sucked off now" directed towards the wrong audience. The message I get the most,despite STRAIGHT being in capital letters and a paragraph on not at all being curious and for gay/bi/tv & ts guys to message someone else to save their own time... " | |||
"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages. For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone. Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many. The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away. Don't they realise I have a life!? "Your inbox will go crazy now!! Ha ha x | |||
"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages. For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone. Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many. The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away. Don't they realise I have a life!? "I thought I was the only soft arse on here who tried to be nice and reply to people. This makes me feel less alone | |||
"Set them an impossible challenge and send them on a quest.... "Seriously though, I find the more sarcastic and rude I am, the more the lady messaging seems to take it as a come on.... ....I think maybe you're all just used to desperation....  | |||
"What are these message things that you speak of?! "I think these ladies are on another site, people on fab don’t message | |||
"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages. For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone. Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many. The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away. Don't they realise I have a life!?
I thought I was the only soft arse on here who tried to be nice and reply to people. This makes me feel less alone " | |||
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"I have a look at the profile, and if i'm not interested I just leave the message unread until it eventually gets auto deleted. If I like the look of their profile I'll then read the message and see if I want to reply or not (generally not as it's normally a 'how are you?' or FAF, in which case it gets marked unread and left) I haven't got the time or the inclination to send replies to all the messages I receive " I must have done something right then lily xx | |||
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"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive. If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them. If you don't read the message they just continue to message If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested. Do I really need to block everytime??? Which people then say is massively rude. What a minefield " I used to delete and block if I wasn’t interested or if it was obvious they hadn’t read my profile. Never had any abuse. So much easier. | |||
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"When I can be bothered to clear it out I delete the ones I'm not interested in. If they message again to whinge or I get multiple uninteresting messages from someone then I block. I don't block straight away as I believe in second chances ."I block if they message again after I've deleted too. Or if they are asking why I'm not replying or what's wrong with them. | |||
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"So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse.... if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite " This for me as well. They'll only get a reply if they've gone beyond the one liner, or even one word messages though. Least I can do. And if it's a polite "sorry, you're not what I'm looking for" they're usually ok with it. If not, block button's your best friend x | |||
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"What numbers are we talking to respond to though? I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages. For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone. Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many. The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away. Don't they realise I have a life!?
I thought I was the only soft arse on here who tried to be nice and reply to people. This makes me feel less alone "I get on average 5-10 messages a day. It may sound a lot to someone who doesn't get any. | |||
"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages. For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone. Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many. The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away. Don't they realise I have a life!?
I thought I was the only soft arse on here who tried to be nice and reply to people. This makes me feel less alone "It's good to know I'm not alone! | |||
"If there's a lack of pics and short profile I automatically delete. Especially if there is no face pic attached or on the profile. " you are an especially sexy looking woman mind so i imagine you do get many messages | |||
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"So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse.... if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite " I usually say the same thing without the "at the moment" bit. Or if they message me saying how much they liked my profile and it's a guy I just send them to read my profile again | |||
"I used to reply to almost all, but like OP, got a barrage of questions and sometimes abuse. My new method is 1)ninja perve the profile of sender 2) leave unread the non-starters 3)answer the possibles. It's working better. " I like this! I was being polite but having a rethink | |||
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"If there's a lack of pics and short profile I automatically delete. Especially if there is no face pic attached or on the profile. you are an especially sexy looking woman mind so i imagine you do get many messages "Awww thanks. But I have nothing to compare it to so don't know if I get lots or the norm really. Its definitely a lot less than when I first joined. Newbies clearly get pounced on. | |||
"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive. If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them. If you don't read the message they just continue to message If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested. Do I really need to block everytime??? Which people then say is massively rude. What a minefield " You're right it is. And I now stop going on PM game because I am constantly pestered by one person... (I know that's the point of the game) but when my first message comes through from him now ... I put 'I'm out' on the thread... because he is relentless; and cant take a polite 'go ask someone else now'. Theres no fun in the game anymore. I look at the game thread and there is just a stream of my messages in blue! Ok.. moan over. | |||
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"Crikey. I don't think I'll ever message anybody again. "We can message each other if you like? I am not that complicated x | |||
"It's literally just about distance, nothing else as I have no public photos unless my description is doing it for them. That's a real compulsion to have cock in your mouth Similarly it's not too difficult to deal with messages when they are mostly "fancy getting sucked off now" directed towards the wrong audience. The message I get the most,despite STRAIGHT being in capital letters and a paragraph on not at all being curious and for gay/bi/tv & ts guys to message someone else to save their own time... "Yea you could be right-almost like the offer of a blowjob from a guy cos you’re within 5 miles is enough to forget that you’re straight! | |||
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But I don’t get the whole getting angry if someone says no thanks or doesn’t reply. As a man I’ve had that since I was 16!! | |||
"Just tell them to fuck off that's what I do with my imaginery mails " | |||
"Crikey. I don't think I'll ever message anybody again.
We can message each other if you like?
I am not that complicated x"What does 'complicated' mean? Lol | |||
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"Crikey. I don't think I'll ever message anybody again.
We can message each other if you like?
I am not that complicated x
What does 'complicated' mean? Lol"I don't even know myself but at least I don't fart silently and say 'it wasn't mec I own it like a real and accuse someone else | |||
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"I got mine framed. It was from admin, but they all count right!" excellent!! Lol | |||
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"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence. Can I borrow him?
He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later."I fear that Cuthbert may have been at the cooking sherry again if he's preparing supper at 3pm! | |||
"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence. Can I borrow him?
He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.
I fear that Cuthbert may have been at the cooking sherry again if he's preparing supper at 3pm! "It’s not the cooking sherry but Sherry the maid I fear he is constantly at. | |||
Any messages that are just "hi" or just aimed towards one of us (these are normally males asking I meet alone) are really just a block straight away.
If we get a reply to our message where we have said no thank you, we delete reply, if they still persist then we then block them.
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"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive. If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them. If you don't read the message they just continue to message If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested. Do I really need to block everytime??? Which people then say is massively rude. What a minefield " I’m sure i’m Like most guys in that I send a fair few messages. I always check to see if they’ve opened. If the message hasn’t been opened after like 24hrs then I may resend it because yesterday’s message is prob way off the screen. If she has opened the message and i’ve Not had a reply then I leave it at that and move on, it’s obvious she had read it and I don’t want to be strung along if she isn’t interested | |||
"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive. If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them. If you don't read the message they just continue to message If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested. Do I really need to block everytime??? Which people then say is massively rude. What a minefield You're right it is. And I now stop going on PM game because I am constantly pestered by one person... (I know that's the point of the game) but when my first message comes through from him now ... I put 'I'm out' on the thread... because he is relentless; and cant take a polite 'go ask someone else now'. Theres no fun in the game anymore. I look at the game thread and there is just a stream of my messages in blue! Ok.. moan over. " Why don't you block him? Or just ignore his messages and play with everyone else? | |||
