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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Dear All,
A friend of mine (ex member actually) was quite shocked this evening when I mentioned to him that I am back on here after nearly a year out...
The first thing he asked me was: WHY
Upon further discussion he made a bold statement: 'slim swingers' are few & far between on there 
Yes I am fully aware that my 'friend' is more than out of order, some would even refer to him as the C word* but that was quite a strong personal opinion from him so it got me thinking...
Are there more of you out there (on here) with opinions as BOLD as his & if so, what are they?
Please, do share
(Communication is key)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure about slim but there certainly are alot of liars on here."
I've only came across the fake profiles, or non verifed ones that seem to lie on here so far
I've been on & off here for 3 years now and to date not had one verified profile tell me a porkie  (yet)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is he out of order?
To me, he came across quite disrespectful saying what he did and because of it we had a falling out
Have I over-reacted..."
Yeah, I think so. If I'm allowed to say I don't fancy someone cos they're under six foot then anyone is allowed to say they don't fancy me cos I'm overweight. If he'd been unpleasant and fat shaming then that would be a bit disrespectful. I'm not even sure he's right. In my experience there's the same proportion of overweight people as anywhere else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Some would even refer to him as the c word"
I find it offensive that a part of a woman's anatomy is the worst thing someone can be called."
But it’s not actual anatomy, it’s a derogatory term can be used in many ways. Or be used it the literal sense. Cunt is one of my favourite words as it’s so versatile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Swinging seems to be something that many come to later in life... when they aren’t quite as slim. However, we’ve met lots of slim folks on here as that happens to be our preference."
You're not the first to say that actually regards 'later in life' & I tend to agree
I like my women all shapes & sizes, a nice smile and a back story keeps me engaged for sure
That's my preference
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"Swinging seems to be something that many come to later in life... when they aren’t quite as slim. However, we’ve met lots of slim folks on here as that happens to be our preference.
You're not the first to say that actually regards 'later in life' & I tend to agree
I like my women all shapes & sizes, a nice smile and a back story keeps me engaged for sure
That's my preference
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Surely he’s just stating his preference OP?
We’ve all got them.
V
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I couldn't agree more but it was just the way he said it and his facial expression
Annoyed me a little that is all and now that I am home it got my cogs turning...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""Some would even refer to him as the c word"
I find it offensive that a part of a woman's anatomy is the worst thing someone can be called."
Apologies - I personally wouldn't say that word but I know many that do
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why is he out of order?
To me, he came across quite disrespectful saying what he did and because of it we had a falling out
Have I over-reacted...
Yeah, I think so. If I'm allowed to say I don't fancy someone cos they're under six foot then anyone is allowed to say they don't fancy me cos I'm overweight. If he'd been unpleasant and fat shaming then that would be a bit disrespectful. I'm not even sure he's right. In my experience there's the same proportion of overweight people as anywhere else. "
Well I'm not going to give him the satisfaction of apologising to him for falling out tonight ha but I thank you for your input, you've made a valid point x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers "
Well if its on another site why is that relevant? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers "
Are large people not allowed sex then?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""Some would even refer to him as the c word"
I find it offensive that a part of a woman's anatomy is the worst thing someone can be called.
But it’s not actual anatomy, it’s a derogatory term can be used in many ways. Or be used it the literal sense. Cunt is one of my favourite words as it’s so versatile "
Many ways, I agree.
It's not one of my favourites though, ha
PS: you sir have a fantastic head of hair!
(compliment, but still jealous)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers "
Also fat life. People just seem to want to be ugly to each other. I guess it's caused by unhappiness. It's very depressing at times. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Swinging seems to be something that many come to later in life... when they aren’t quite as slim. However, we’ve met lots of slim folks on here as that happens to be our preference.
You're not the first to say that actually regards 'later in life' & I tend to agree
I like my women all shapes & sizes, a nice smile and a back story keeps me engaged for sure
That's my preference
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers "
Ouch - they're not playing nice in that chat room are they? Tut Tut
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Well if its on another site why is that relevant? "
Now now, no shooting of messenger...
On a brighter note, how comfy must your feet be in those slippers & socks?! Send some my way, size 9 ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Ouch - they're not playing nice in that chat room are they? Tut Tut
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Oh yes because you see in that chat room they are all perfect size 10's.
I find people can be very derogatory if they think it's what people want to hear and they think it will help them get thired leg over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Are large people not allowed sex then? "
I think a lot of it is just bitterness because they've been rejected by women they feel should be grateful for the attention. I think a lot of bigger women don't realise just how many men find them attractive and I don't mean chubby chasers. I mean desirable men who like all kinds of women including larger ones. I've got a number of fwbs who fit this category. They see me because they want me, not cos they've got a fetish or cos I'm desperate for attention and will let them do anything. I wish more men knew this. I'm so tired of "wow, you're stunning, want to meet?" "no" "no worries you're too fat anyway" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Are large people not allowed sex then?
I think a lot of it is just bitterness because they've been rejected by women they feel should be grateful for the attention. I think a lot of bigger women don't realise just how many men find them attractive and I don't mean chubby chasers. I mean desirable men who like all kinds of women including larger ones. I've got a number of fwbs who fit this category. They see me because they want me, not cos they've got a fetish or cos I'm desperate for attention and will let them do anything. I wish more men knew this. I'm so tired of "wow, you're stunning, want to meet?" "no" "no worries you're too fat anyway" "
Exactly this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Also fat life. People just seem to want to be ugly to each other. I guess it's caused by unhappiness. It's very depressing at times. "
Well that is a word I am all too familiar with (depressing) since listening to people whilst socialising in person and online etc
I stick by what I say regards 'communication being key' and if anybody starts feeling depressed due to many different factors/triggers know that I am a good listener and you have my permission to Inbox me anytime |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Ouch - they're not playing nice in that chat room are they? Tut Tut
Oh yes because you see in that chat room they are all perfect size 10's.
I find people can be very derogatory if they think it's what people want to hear and they think it will help them get thired leg over. "
I agree with that actually, witnessed it myself and I've had to give a nudge to certain people and be like: really?!
Sometimes they took the hint, others ignored and let them get a leg over
Crazy world hey |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Are large people not allowed sex then?
I think a lot of it is just bitterness because they've been rejected by women they feel should be grateful for the attention. I think a lot of bigger women don't realise just how many men find them attractive and I don't mean chubby chasers. I mean desirable men who like all kinds of women including larger ones. I've got a number of fwbs who fit this category. They see me because they want me, not cos they've got a fetish or cos I'm desperate for attention and will let them do anything. I wish more men knew this. I'm so tired of "wow, you're stunning, want to meet?" "no" "no worries you're too fat anyway" "
Are you for real?! People actually reply with that...
Disgusting
Their loss though hey |
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Well if its on another site why is that relevant? "
Because of the statement Op friend made, (sorry ex friend)
"Upon further discussion he made a bold statement: 'slim swingers' are few & far between on there"
It is not only the Op ex friend that has that impression or view of fabswingers.
Like I say please do not shoot the messenger
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally think you may have I er reacted a tad but I can also see your point
There is a lot of body shaming going on,on here be it fat or slim people it actually makes me sick to see adults behave like this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Well if its on another site why is that relevant? Because of the statement Op friend made, (sorry ex friend)
"Upon further discussion he made a bold statement: 'slim swingers' are few & far between on there"
It is not only the Op ex friend that has that impression or view of fabswingers.
Like I say please do not shoot the messenger
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I certainly wont - I'm nice ha
Thanks for your input |
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""Some would even refer to him as the c word"
I find it offensive that a part of a woman's anatomy is the worst thing someone can be called.
But it’s not actual anatomy, it’s a derogatory term can be used in many ways. Or be used it the literal sense. Cunt is one of my favourite words as it’s so versatile "
Oh..... cunt!! I see! When he said “the C-word”, I thought he meant “Conservative”...!!
Although.....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I personally think you may have I er reacted a tad but I can also see your point
There is a lot of body shaming going on,on here be it fat or slim people it actually makes me sick to see adults behave like this "
I'm beginning to agree that I may have over-reacted but it was annoying the way he came across and how loud/proud he was whilst saying it
It's nice to know people see my point though and I'm with you on feeling sick regards body shaming etc. There's just no need for it at all
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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""Some would even refer to him as the c word"
I find it offensive that a part of a woman's anatomy is the worst thing someone can be called.
But it’s not actual anatomy, it’s a derogatory term can be used in many ways. Or be used it the literal sense. Cunt is one of my favourite words as it’s so versatile
Oh..... cunt!! I see! When he said “the C-word”, I thought he meant “Conservative”...!!
Although..... "
This made me smile Sir, bravo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Are large people not allowed sex then?
I think a lot of it is just bitterness because they've been rejected by women they feel should be grateful for the attention. I think a lot of bigger women don't realise just how many men find them attractive and I don't mean chubby chasers. I mean desirable men who like all kinds of women including larger ones. I've got a number of fwbs who fit this category. They see me because they want me, not cos they've got a fetish or cos I'm desperate for attention and will let them do anything. I wish more men knew this. I'm so tired of "wow, you're stunning, want to meet?" "no" "no worries you're too fat anyway"
Are you for real?! People actually reply with that...
Disgusting
Their loss though hey "
The guy who did exactly this yesterday was 55. Its a bit undignified for a man of that age  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your friend is entitled to his opinion.
No shits given.
Crack on "
Amen! Ha
Thank you, I am doing just that and I'll no doubt tell him about the forum tomorrow and how I made him famous for 2 mins |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Are large people not allowed sex then?
I think a lot of it is just bitterness because they've been rejected by women they feel should be grateful for the attention. I think a lot of bigger women don't realise just how many men find them attractive and I don't mean chubby chasers. I mean desirable men who like all kinds of women including larger ones. I've got a number of fwbs who fit this category. They see me because they want me, not cos they've got a fetish or cos I'm desperate for attention and will let them do anything. I wish more men knew this. I'm so tired of "wow, you're stunning, want to meet?" "no" "no worries you're too fat anyway"
Are you for real?! People actually reply with that...
Disgusting
Their loss though hey
The guy who did exactly this yesterday was 55. Its a bit undignified for a man of that age "
Re-education for that man...
Smile & Wave madam, ha
Definately his loss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Are large people not allowed sex then?
I think a lot of it is just bitterness because they've been rejected by women they feel should be grateful for the attention. I think a lot of bigger women don't realise just how many men find them attractive and I don't mean chubby chasers. I mean desirable men who like all kinds of women including larger ones. I've got a number of fwbs who fit this category. They see me because they want me, not cos they've got a fetish or cos I'm desperate for attention and will let them do anything. I wish more men knew this. I'm so tired of "wow, you're stunning, want to meet?" "no" "no worries you're too fat anyway"
Are you for real?! People actually reply with that...
Disgusting
Their loss though hey
The guy who did exactly this yesterday was 55. Its a bit undignified for a man of that age
Re-education for that man...
Smile & Wave madam, ha
Definately his loss"
Bless you, darlin x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Please do not shoot the messenger but it is common in the chatroom of another swinger site to refer to this site as flab swingers
Are large people not allowed sex then?
I think a lot of it is just bitterness because they've been rejected by women they feel should be grateful for the attention. I think a lot of bigger women don't realise just how many men find them attractive and I don't mean chubby chasers. I mean desirable men who like all kinds of women including larger ones. I've got a number of fwbs who fit this category. They see me because they want me, not cos they've got a fetish or cos I'm desperate for attention and will let them do anything. I wish more men knew this. I'm so tired of "wow, you're stunning, want to meet?" "no" "no worries you're too fat anyway"
Are you for real?! People actually reply with that...
Disgusting
Their loss though hey
The guy who did exactly this yesterday was 55. Its a bit undignified for a man of that age
Re-education for that man...
Smile & Wave madam, ha
Definately his loss
Bless you, darlin x"
I try |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's an absolute variety!!
Just that. People as they are just the way they're meant to be.
It's interesting that how now in my 30s I'm challenging my pre-conceieved views of who / what type of person I'd have thought may find me and my body appealing / attractive. |
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By *sandu2ukCouple
over a year ago
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"There's an absolute variety!!
Just that. People as they are just the way they're meant to be.
It's interesting that how now in my 30s I'm challenging my pre-conceieved views of who / what type of person I'd have thought may find me and my body appealing / attractive."
This times 100!
Unfortunately it’s late, and I’m struggling to put together a decent and intelligent reply, but basically echo what you put. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's an absolute variety!!
Just that. People as they are just the way they're meant to be.
It's interesting that how now in my 30s I'm challenging my pre-conceieved views of who / what type of person I'd have thought may find me and my body appealing / attractive."
Morning neighbour (not really but 3 miles is close enough ha)
Thank you for your input
Considering you are challenging those views, are you surprised by the results so far or were they what you expected?x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's an absolute variety!!
Just that. People as they are just the way they're meant to be.
It's interesting that how now in my 30s I'm challenging my pre-conceieved views of who / what type of person I'd have thought may find me and my body appealing / attractive.
Morning neighbour (not really but 3 miles is close enough ha)
Thank you for your input
Considering you are challenging those views, are you surprised by the results so far or were they what you expected?x"
You're practically within touching distance haha
It's fair to say I'm surprised. Clearly, ideologies that were shaped whilst in school were embedded somewhere. For example I would never have expected someone to be very athletic, fit, defined muscles, tall, broad shoulders etc (I know I'm limiting to physique here but let's also assume great personality and just all round great person) to ever be interested in me. In my mind I wouldn't even allow myself to entertain the idea as I would've thought that person to be completely not within my realm of partner.
Having the opportunity to meet and be with people who are open, honest and transparent with their sexual self has given rise to much understanding of what I like and understanding what they like. Needless to say, shattering many of my childhood views which were the model I had. So, I can only conclude I require more opportunity to meet a variety of people and continue in this shared learning |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's an absolute variety!!
Just that. People as they are just the way they're meant to be.
It's interesting that how now in my 30s I'm challenging my pre-conceieved views of who / what type of person I'd have thought may find me and my body appealing / attractive.
This times 100!
Unfortunately it’s late, and I’m struggling to put together a decent and intelligent reply, but basically echo what you put. "
I'm glad it echoed somewhere to someone |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There's an absolute variety!!
Just that. People as they are just the way they're meant to be.
It's interesting that how now in my 30s I'm challenging my pre-conceieved views of who / what type of person I'd have thought may find me and my body appealing / attractive.
Morning neighbour (not really but 3 miles is close enough ha)
Thank you for your input
Considering you are challenging those views, are you surprised by the results so far or were they what you expected?x
You're practically within touching distance haha
It's fair to say I'm surprised. Clearly, ideologies that were shaped whilst in school were embedded somewhere. For example I would never have expected someone to be very athletic, fit, defined muscles, tall, broad shoulders etc (I know I'm limiting to physique here but let's also assume great personality and just all round great person) to ever be interested in me. In my mind I wouldn't even allow myself to entertain the idea as I would've thought that person to be completely not within my realm of partner.
Having the opportunity to meet and be with people who are open, honest and transparent with their sexual self has given rise to much understanding of what I like and understanding what they like. Needless to say, shattering many of my childhood views which were the model I had. So, I can only conclude I require more opportunity to meet a variety of people and continue in this shared learning "
I'm all education, so if you're still wanting to continue with your learning my Inbox is above... ha
Thank you for sharing 'touching distance neighbour' |
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By *sandu2ukCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi my names lisa and I’m fat...... I’m not a size 10 and I enjoy sex "
Are you fat? Really? Or are you just amazingly curvy and more personality conscious than body conscious?
Are you fat, or are you just too busy to be one of these Gym freaks because you are awesome and have a great social life!
I don’t believe there’s such a thing as fat. Just people that think “sod it; I’ve got way better stuff to be doing that pretending I’m enjoying running on the spot on a treadmill, that I’m paying £50 a month for the privilidge to use.... I’m off to the pub for a pint, a bag of scratchings, random conversation, and maybe a d*unken shag I’ll regret in the morning”.
My kinda people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of guys on here don't go for slim swingers. In fact i would say that most like the more fuller figures nowadays. "
Naturally predestined to ... wide hips would signify fertility and good for child bearing therefore potential for survival of your (male) genes being greater. More body fat would mean if the woman fell pregnant she'd have enough stores for herself and growing baby therefore potential for survival of your genes being greater. Somewhere, all our actions are shaped by our need to ensure survival of genes even if we aren't proactively creating life. Just one thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think hes out of order at all. Its a fact of life if you look around, there are high numbers of people carrying excess weight these days especially those above 30 which i find tends to be many in here.
Personal preference and were all allowed them.
Personally i like slim only too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of guys on here don't go for slim swingers. In fact i would say that most like the more fuller figures nowadays.
Naturally predestined to ... wide hips would signify fertility and good for child bearing therefore potential for survival of your (male) genes being greater. More body fat would mean if the woman fell pregnant she'd have enough stores for herself and growing baby therefore potential for survival of your genes being greater. Somewhere, all our actions are shaped by our need to ensure survival of genes even if we aren't proactively creating life. Just one thought."
Theres a difference between wide hips seen as fertility and excess fat seen as unhealthy |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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The general population is getting larger/fatter. The members reflect that. I don't find what your friend said to be too shocking or offensive, possibly not that accurate, there are quite a few slim people on here but not as many as there are overweight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own really. We all have preferences at the end of the day and at least someone knowing what they want is less likely to a lier or no show in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m currently a size 8. When I was a swinger with my partner (yes “proper swinging” where we swapped with couples) I was even slimmer than I am now.
People’s sweeping generalisations really do make me at times.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh also, when we couple swapped, our preference was for those with similar physiques to ourselves and we had no problems whatsoever finding people who we fancied. Further negating the idea that there are no “slim swingers” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi my names lisa and I’m fat...... I’m not a size 10 and I enjoy sex
Are you fat? Really? Or are you just amazingly curvy and more personality conscious than body conscious?
Are you fat, or are you just too busy to be one of these Gym freaks because you are awesome and have a great social life!
I don’t believe there’s such a thing as fat. Just people that think “sod it; I’ve got way better stuff to be doing that pretending I’m enjoying running on the spot on a treadmill, that I’m paying £50 a month for the privilidge to use.... I’m off to the pub for a pint, a bag of scratchings, random conversation, and maybe a d*unken shag I’ll regret in the morning”.
My kinda people. "
. Well... “gym freaks” can also, surprise surprise, be pretty fucking awesome, have social lives, enjoy running, enjoy weight lifting, and (shocker coming up...) go to the pub for a pint and a d*unken shag!! Who knew? |
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"Why is he out of order?
To me, he came across quite disrespectful saying what he did and because of it we had a falling out
Have I over-reacted...
Yeah, I think so. If I'm allowed to say I don't fancy someone cos they're under six foot then anyone is allowed to say they don't fancy me cos I'm overweight. If he'd been unpleasant and fat shaming then that would be a bit disrespectful. I'm not even sure he's right. In my experience there's the same proportion of overweight people as anywhere else. "
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"Hi my names lisa and I’m fat...... I’m not a size 10 and I enjoy sex
Are you fat? Really? Or are you just amazingly curvy and more personality conscious than body conscious?
Are you fat, or are you just too busy to be one of these Gym freaks because you are awesome and have a great social life!
I don’t believe there’s such a thing as fat. Just people that think “sod it; I’ve got way better stuff to be doing that pretending I’m enjoying running on the spot on a treadmill, that I’m paying £50 a month for the privilidge to use.... I’m off to the pub for a pint, a bag of scratchings, random conversation, and maybe a d*unken shag I’ll regret in the morning”.
My kinda people.
. Well... “gym freaks” can also, surprise surprise, be pretty fucking awesome, have social lives, enjoy running, enjoy weight lifting, and (shocker coming up...) go to the pub for a pint and a d*unken shag!! Who knew? "
Drinks pints and have fun??? God no I haven’t got time for that with spending all my time being a gym freak, in fact I don’t even have time to swing because of it! I maybe should be more personality conscious instead |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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You don’t have to fuck fat people though. I mean the site could be overun with chocolate eclairs but i wouldn’t eat every single one. Just the ones that looked tasty to me.
It’s about choice. I don’t get anybody in a vice like grip between my thighs and demand they fuck me unless they’ve consented to do that. |
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"You don’t have to fuck fat people though. I mean the site could be overun with chocolate eclairs but i wouldn’t eat every single one. Just the ones that looked tasty to me.
It’s about choice. I don’t get anybody in a vice like grip between my thighs and demand they fuck me unless they’ve consented to do that."
Another fantasy ruined |
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"Why is he out of order?
To me, he came across quite disrespectful saying what he did and because of it we had a falling out
Have I over-reacted..."
The way he said it may have been twatish, but if slim is his preference hes not a twat for having that preference.
I wouldn't fall out with someone about their perception of what the site users are. If you disagree just say that and change the subject.
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"Hi my names lisa and I’m fat...... I’m not a size 10 and I enjoy sex
Are you fat? Really? Or are you just amazingly curvy and more personality conscious than body conscious?
Are you fat, or are you just too busy to be one of these Gym freaks because you are awesome and have a great social life!
I don’t believe there’s such a thing as fat. Just people that think “sod it; I’ve got way better stuff to be doing that pretending I’m enjoying running on the spot on a treadmill, that I’m paying £50 a month for the privilidge to use.... I’m off to the pub for a pint, a bag of scratchings, random conversation, and maybe a d*unken shag I’ll regret in the morning”.
My kinda people.
. Well... “gym freaks” can also, surprise surprise, be pretty fucking awesome, have social lives, enjoy running, enjoy weight lifting, and (shocker coming up...) go to the pub for a pint and a d*unken shag!! Who knew?
Drinks pints and have fun??? God no I haven’t got time for that with spending all my time being a gym freak, in fact I don’t even have time to swing because of it! I maybe should be more personality conscious instead "
I don’t even know how I have the time to type this comment tbh. I must get my “freak” arse to the gym to squat and flex my biceps. |
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over a year ago
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""Some would even refer to him as the c word"
I find it offensive that a part of a woman's anatomy is the worst thing someone can be called."
Totally agree..hate that word  |
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over a year ago
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If a person has a type then why should he not express it..everyone has likes and dislikes..to me he was just expressing his type...and what you say he said I don't think is derogatory if all he said was slim..could have been far worse |
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over a year ago
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"I would take that as just his personal preference and not rude at all OP and find the "c" word more offensive "
Thank you Amy
I'm meeting up with him again today, I'm gonna squash my mood swing and treat him to a Costa Coff' |
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"I dont think hes out of order at all. Its a fact of life if you look around, there are high numbers of people carrying excess weight these days especially those above 30 which i find tends to be many in here.
Personal preference and were all allowed them.
Personally i like slim only too"
Thanks for your input, much appreciated x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The general population is getting larger/fatter. The members reflect that. I don't find what your friend said to be too shocking or offensive, possibly not that accurate, there are quite a few slim people on here but not as many as there are overweight."
Thank you. I've realised now that he deserves a coffee and a handshake for having an opinion and not a 'moody friend' like me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You don’t have to fuck fat people though. I mean the site could be overun with chocolate eclairs but i wouldn’t eat every single one. Just the ones that looked tasty to me.
It’s about choice. I don’t get anybody in a vice like grip between my thighs and demand they fuck me unless they’ve consented to do that."
I LOVE chocolate eclairs! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why is he out of order?
To me, he came across quite disrespectful saying what he did and because of it we had a falling out
Have I over-reacted...
The way he said it may have been twatish, but if slim is his preference hes not a twat for having that preference.
I wouldn't fall out with someone about their perception of what the site users are. If you disagree just say that and change the subject.
Sin."
Thank you very much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ad go to say most woman iv come across, on there profile say muscley guys only "
Do they? The only profiles I've seen it in is gym for females wanting gym fit men
Give me a dad bod over a muscle clad bod any day |
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"Ad go to say most woman iv come across, on there profile say muscley guys only
Do they? The only profiles I've seen it in is gym for females wanting gym fit men
Give me a dad bod over a muscle clad bod any day"
My dad bod is ready for those who only need ask |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Funnily enough; another forumite posted a comment about ‘slim’ ladies.... which is wishful thinking on his part all the veris so far lead to somewhat less so..... just sayin "
I'm confused... I'm not aware of other forums etc
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over a year ago
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"I’ve read this thread and I still don’t get why you were offended on behalf of us non-slim women"
I said to him: what dyou mean by that
He then went on a rant saying how it was full of fat/ugly women etc and embarrassing that I was on it. He said he tried it out and was hardly any slim women etc etc
I took offence massively and we had a falling out. The way he came across was quite aggressive and loud so I was in my right to have a go back
Ive spoken to him today though and all is settled now.
Thank you everyone for your input |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ad go to say most woman iv come across, on there profile say muscley guys only
Do they? The only profiles I've seen it in is gym for females wanting gym fit men
Give me a dad bod over a muscle clad bod any day"
I'd agree actually... |
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"I’ve read this thread and I still don’t get why you were offended on behalf of us non-slim women
I said to him: what dyou mean by that
He then went on a rant saying how it was full of fat/ugly women etc and embarrassing that I was on it. He said he tried it out and was hardly any slim women etc etc
I took offence massively and we had a falling out. The way he came across was quite aggressive and loud so I was in my right to have a go back
Ive spoken to him today though and all is settled now.
Thank you everyone for your input"
But why did you take offence? He didn’t say you were fat or ugly did he?
And he’s partly right, there’s plenty of fat people on fab. Plenty of people he wouldn’t find attractive. But there are also plenty of slim people, and plenty of people he would fine attractive. Ah well.
Also - how would he know who’s on fab? Unless he’s been on it? But surely not, if it’s embarrassing that you’re on here? |
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"Dear All,
A friend of mine (ex member actually) was quite shocked this evening when I mentioned to him that I am back on here after nearly a year out...
The first thing he asked me was: WHY
Upon further discussion he made a bold statement: 'slim swingers' are few & far between on there
Yes I am fully aware that my 'friend' is more than out of order, some would even refer to him as the C word* but that was quite a strong personal opinion from him so it got me thinking...
Are there more of you out there (on here) with opinions as BOLD as his & if so, what are they?
Please, do share
(Communication is key)
Regards,
Maverick"
Your friend is not out of order.. Grow a pair of bollocks.. He does actually shown the truth as you well know. Is certainty been a observation of mine. Doesn't make me a cnut, it means I just have preferences. I think you are just virtue signalling tbh which is rife on here from guys pandering to women
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"I’ve read this thread and I still don’t get why you were offended on behalf of us non-slim women
I said to him: what dyou mean by that
He then went on a rant saying how it was full of fat/ugly women etc and embarrassing that I was on it. He said he tried it out and was hardly any slim women etc etc
I took offence massively and we had a falling out. The way he came across was quite aggressive and loud so I was in my right to have a go back
Ive spoken to him today though and all is settled now.
Thank you everyone for your input
But why did you take offence? He didn’t say you were fat or ugly did he?
And he’s partly right, there’s plenty of fat people on fab. Plenty of people he wouldn’t find attractive. But there are also plenty of slim people, and plenty of people he would fine attractive. Ah well.
Also - how would he know who’s on fab? Unless he’s been on it? But surely not, if it’s embarrassing that you’re on here?"
I clearly told you in my previous message that yes he had tried it out...
He can call me what he likes but I didnt like him calling women fat/ugly, that's all?
Sorry for trying to be a nice guy like...
Also, as Ive said and agreed to in this thread that I have over-reacted and ive apologised to him today
Thanks for your input |
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"I’ve read this thread and I still don’t get why you were offended on behalf of us non-slim women
I said to him: what dyou mean by that
He then went on a rant saying how it was full of fat/ugly women etc and embarrassing that I was on it. He said he tried it out and was hardly any slim women etc etc
I took offence massively and we had a falling out. The way he came across was quite aggressive and loud so I was in my right to have a go back
Ive spoken to him today though and all is settled now.
Thank you everyone for your input
But why did you take offence? He didn’t say you were fat or ugly did he?
And he’s partly right, there’s plenty of fat people on fab. Plenty of people he wouldn’t find attractive. But there are also plenty of slim people, and plenty of people he would fine attractive. Ah well.
Also - how would he know who’s on fab? Unless he’s been on it? But surely not, if it’s embarrassing that you’re on here?
I clearly told you in my previous message that yes he had tried it out...
He can call me what he likes but I didnt like him calling women fat/ugly, that's all?
Sorry for trying to be a nice guy like...
Also, as Ive said and agreed to in this thread that I have over-reacted and ive apologised to him today
Thanks for your input"
Sorry I’m multitasking so missed that part
And it’s okay. It’s nice to be nice. I just didn’t understand why you took offence when it wasn’t you he was insulting. Us gals can be offended for ourselves |
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"Is this just a "white knight" post?
I don't get it?! "
I think this is to imply that you’re giving the impression of being a nice guy who defends women in order to earn yourself favour among women on here and increase your chances of getting laid. Unfortunately, on here, you’re not allowed to be actually a nice person expressing something that you find distasteful - it will naturally be assumed you’re doing it in a strategic way for some personal gain. Seems a sad state of affairs that others are so pessimistic... but unfortunately it is what it is. |
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"Dear All,
A friend of mine (ex member actually) was quite shocked this evening when I mentioned to him that I am back on here after nearly a year out...
The first thing he asked me was: WHY
Upon further discussion he made a bold statement: 'slim swingers' are few & far between on there
Yes I am fully aware that my 'friend' is more than out of order, some would even refer to him as the C word* but that was quite a strong personal opinion from him so it got me thinking...
Are there more of you out there (on here) with opinions as BOLD as his & if so, what are they?
Please, do share
(Communication is key)
Regards,
Maverick
Your friend is not out of order.. Grow a pair of bollocks.. He does actually shown the truth as you well know. Is certainty been a observation of mine. Doesn't make me a cnut, it means I just have preferences. I think you are just virtue signalling tbh which is rife on here from guys pandering to women
Each to their own though.. "
'V S' ... What a load of b*ll*cks!
I get attention from Women just by being myself, I don't have to make things up to look good etc
But thanks for taking the time to comment though
Have a great day
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"Is this just a "white knight" post?
I don't get it?!
I think this is to imply that you’re giving the impression of being a nice guy who defends women in order to earn yourself favour among women on here and increase your chances of getting laid. Unfortunately, on here, you’re not allowed to be actually a nice person expressing something that you find distasteful - it will naturally be assumed you’re doing it in a strategic way for some personal gain. Seems a sad state of affairs that others are so pessimistic... but unfortunately it is what it is. "
Wow - thank you for clearing that up for me
I'll remove the post and go back to being quiet,
Have no personal opinion and not care about others
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"Is this just a "white knight" post?
I don't get it?!
I think this is to imply that you’re giving the impression of being a nice guy who defends women in order to earn yourself favour among women on here and increase your chances of getting laid. Unfortunately, on here, you’re not allowed to be actually a nice person expressing something that you find distasteful - it will naturally be assumed you’re doing it in a strategic way for some personal gain. Seems a sad state of affairs that others are so pessimistic... but unfortunately it is what it is.
Wow - thank you for clearing that up for me
I'll remove the post and go back to being quiet,
Have no personal opinion and not care about others
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It’s narrow mindedness. I wouldn’t let it get to you. |
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Im always coming on here just to let people know how upset i was with something that someone else said. I mean, it just makes sense to do that doesn't it? Especially if I can gain favour with people notorious for low self esteem.
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I wasn't aware that I couldn't remove this thread/topic once it's posted...
(Awkward)
So thank you to all that commented, I will no longer be posting to it or replying to your input
All the best |
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"I wasn't aware that I couldn't remove this thread/topic once it's posted...
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So thank you to all that commented, I will no longer be posting to it or replying to your input
All the best "
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"I wasn't aware that I couldn't remove this thread/topic once it's posted...
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So thank you to all that commented, I will no longer be posting to it or replying to your input
All the best "
I didn’t see this before i posted
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"I wasn't aware that I couldn't remove this thread/topic once it's posted...
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So thank you to all that commented, I will no longer be posting to it or replying to your input
All the best "
I honestly don’t think you are the one with the problem here, OP. You can’t win. If you come on here slagging women and/or being a general arsehole, you’ll be slated. If you come on here being nice about women and appear to be a nice person, you’re manipulative and only doing it to get laid, and you’ll be slated. You just be you. You seem lovely
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"I wasn't aware that I couldn't remove this thread/topic once it's posted...
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So thank you to all that commented, I will no longer be posting to it or replying to your input
All the best
I honestly don’t think you are the one with the problem here, OP. You can’t win. If you come on here slagging women and/or being a general arsehole, you’ll be slated. If you come on here being nice about women and appear to be a nice person, you’re manipulative and only doing it to get laid, and you’ll be slated. You just be you. You seem lovely
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I'm not even close to gym fit. I'm pretty overweight. And I have a preference for very muscular guys, doesn't say so on my profile but i do. And sorry and everything... But I find them with no problems and they find me very much to their liking. I've been in a relationship for almost seven years with a former American football player. I've never once encountered anyone I really wanted to meet who turned me down because of my size. Not once. |
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