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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m thinking 15 min , hasn’t responded this morning but confirmed time last night !
When was she last online?"
Last night messaged me to say can I do 10 instead of 10.30
I replied ok |
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Up to you OP.
If someone agreed to a meet and didn't turn up without informing you in advance, not even a simple text message. personally I will take that as a timewaster.
She/he might be running late though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I'd give her an hour, but it's your call. I was 15 minutes late for a social because we were at different Premier Inns! I couldn't message because I was driving... 
An hour flies by on fab... |
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I would say 30mins
You're original time was 10.30
She may have got caught up.
Yes she could message to say running late.
But she could be driving, unable to use her phone.
I wouldn't risk points on my license or cause an accident.
I'm often late due to traffic.
But I always send a message as I'm leaving, with an ETA, and mention any delays showing on my Sat Nav that could delay me |
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3 weeks ago we waited an hour for a no show not in touch guy even though he messaged that morning ,only waited that long as we had each others company and a drink ,but next time half an hour will be it ..  |
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Give her time for the original meet time and then being late... As other say, driving and being unable to respond.... Don't pepper her with messages and then don't get the huno with her if she doesn't show, just put it down to nerves and move on pal |
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To be honest. It would depend where I was waiting and whether I had the day off etc. If I had no further plans, and was in a cafe I would probably write it off, order a slice of cake and another coffee and people watch, completely forgetting I had arranged a meet) #easilydistracted)
When I got home and still hadn't had a message, I would block and get on with meeting others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to arrange a social near shops so if it's a no show I can look through the shops before heading home.
I'd give someone half hour.
Tbh though, I wouldn't have even left home without hearing from them in the morning.
I hope she turns up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to arrange a social near shops so if it's a no show I can look through the shops before heading home.
Oh that is so dangerous.
You might end up buying things you don't need !  "
But I could get a bargain |
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"I tend to arrange a social near shops so if it's a no show I can look through the shops before heading home.
Oh that is so dangerous.
You might end up buying things you don't need !
But I could get a bargain "
Love your optimism.
Learn from this OP...wait another 30mins. |
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"Right it’s 10.30 I’m leaving 
Give it another 15 minutes 
Why? everything so far indicates she’s not coming . "
Because 30 minutes is an allowable time to be late and have not called. A bit extra and she should either have arrived or been able to pull over and call |
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Did she reply after you agreed on 10am? She may still think it's 10.39. Personally id give it 30 mins from 10.30. Message her to say u are there and will be leaving after having a drink . She may think you are turning up at 10.30 and she maybe running late. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Right it’s 10.30 I’m leaving
Give it another 15 minutes
Why? everything so far indicates she’s not coming .
Because 30 minutes is an allowable time to be late and have not called. A bit extra and she should either have arrived or been able to pull over and call"
Her journey is 5 mins by car or 15 min walk . I’m not far from coffee shop so if she turns up can go back . It’s obvious she won’t tho . |
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"Right it’s 10.30 I’m leaving
Give it another 15 minutes
Why? everything so far indicates she’s not coming .
Because 30 minutes is an allowable time to be late and have not called. A bit extra and she should either have arrived or been able to pull over and call
Her journey is 5 mins by car or 15 min walk . I’m not far from coffee shop so if she turns up can go back . It’s obvious she won’t tho . "
Sorry you've been messed about. It does happen occasionally. Onwards and upwards |
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"Right it’s 10.30 I’m leaving
Give it another 15 minutes
Why? everything so far indicates she’s not coming .
Because 30 minutes is an allowable time to be late and have not called. A bit extra and she should either have arrived or been able to pull over and call
Her journey is 5 mins by car or 15 min walk . I’m not far from coffee shop so if she turns up can go back . It’s obvious she won’t tho . "
Ah, 5 minutes away is different.
Sorry |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks everyone for ur comments . She gave me the time of 10 , my messages are being delivered . No returned message from her today . I left at 10.30 messaged her to let her know.
Still no response it’s 10.47 now .
Been chatting for a few months . Really thought she would turn up as she asked me for this meet . Just shows there is no guaranteed checks . |
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"Thanks everyone for ur comments . She gave me the time of 10 , my messages are being delivered . No returned message from her today . I left at 10.30 messaged her to let her know.
Still no response it’s 10.47 now .
Been chatting for a few months . Really thought she would turn up as she asked me for this meet . Just shows there is no guaranteed checks . "
Her loss ,put it behind you and move on there are some genuine ones just hard to find ...  |
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"Thanks everyone for ur comments . She gave me the time of 10 , my messages are being delivered . No returned message from her today . I left at 10.30 messaged her to let her know.
Still no response it’s 10.47 now .
Been chatting for a few months . Really thought she would turn up as she asked me for this meet . Just shows there is no guaranteed checks . "
Sorry to hear this, friend. Seems like you did everything right; you shouldn't feel bad, even though it probably stings some.
Have a cuppa, grab some cake, walk it off a little. It's only Tuesday, the week will get better.
Hope you're good. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
People are just ignorant and disrespectful it's the way a lot have become. What's it take to drop someone a quick text to say I'm running late...or I've changed my mine. Just seems to much to ask doesnt it. Onwards and upwards Op  |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
Bristol East |
"Thanks everyone for ur comments . She gave me the time of 10 , my messages are being delivered . No returned message from her today . I left at 10.30 messaged her to let her know.
Still no response it’s 10.47 now .
Been chatting for a few months . Really thought she would turn up as she asked me for this meet . Just shows there is no guaranteed checks . "
Awww . . . nothing ventured, nothing gained, I guess.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People are just ignorant and disrespectful it's the way a lot have become. What's it take to drop someone a quick text to say I'm running late...or I've changed my mine. Just seems to much to ask doesnt it. Onwards and upwards Op "
I agree I would respect a change of mind |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
For all the single ladies saying "wait a bit longer" How many would wait more than 30mins for a guy who'd not been in contact?
30mins is plenty & as another has said we'd ensure during the conversation we said message in the morning before leaving.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People get cold feet. Its happened to me more than once. I know it's not very fair on you waiting around for a no show. Onwards and upwards OP, I hope your next date is more successful |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
Bristol East |
"Probably because she....is really a he...
I did think this too to be honest.
I get men trying to scam me that they are women on a regular basis, my spider senses are pretty good now tho
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Someone must be envious of that rather fine physique on display
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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I wonder if she ever responded back to him.
I have been stood up and I had even put my lippy on. The cheek of it. I think he saw me and changed his mind personally. But that’s okay. Shallow Hal is not for me.
It’s easier for people just to ghost you now if they change their mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m thinking 15 min , hasn’t responded this morning but confirmed time last night ! "
When someone doesn't message in the morning to confirm, we wouldn't bother meeting. Its amazing how many people get cold feet on the day of the meet.
Did the women have veris? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks everyone for ur comments . She gave me the time of 10 , my messages are being delivered . No returned message from her today . I left at 10.30 messaged her to let her know.
Still no response it’s 10.47 now .
Been chatting for a few months . Really thought she would turn up as she asked me for this meet . Just shows there is no guaranteed checks . "
Aw I'm sorry what a nightmare and waste of your time. It's really shitty she stood you up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wonder if she ever responded back to him.
I have been stood up and I had even put my lippy on. The cheek of it. I think he saw me and changed his mind personally. But that’s okay. Shallow Hal is not for me.
It’s easier for people just to ghost you now if they change their mind. "
Not heard from her yet ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m thinking 15 min , hasn’t responded this morning but confirmed time last night !
When someone doesn't message in the morning to confirm, we wouldn't bother meeting. Its amazing how many people get cold feet on the day of the meet.
Did the women have veris? "
Yes had veris but left fab chatting on kik
I felt I had to go as if she didn’t turn up that wouldn’t be very nice that I wasn’t there ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People get cold feet. Its happened to me more than once. I know it's not very fair on you waiting around for a no show. Onwards and upwards OP, I hope your next date is more successful "
Change of mind is fine just tell me ! |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"People get cold feet. Its happened to me more than once. I know it's not very fair on you waiting around for a no show. Onwards and upwards OP, I hope your next date is more successful
Change of mind is fine just tell me ! "
Exactly |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"People get cold feet. Its happened to me more than once. I know it's not very fair on you waiting around for a no show. Onwards and upwards OP, I hope your next date is more successful
Change of mind is fine just tell me ! "
Third time lucky mate.
That worked for me.  |
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"I’m thinking 15 min , hasn’t responded this morning but confirmed time last night !
When someone doesn't message in the morning to confirm, we wouldn't bother meeting. Its amazing how many people get cold feet on the day of the meet.
Did the women have veris?
Yes had veris but left fab chatting on kik
I felt I had to go as if she didn’t turn up that wouldn’t be very nice that I wasn’t there ! "
Have you actually spoken with her at all? Heard her voice? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good maners and kindness doesn't seem to exist in some folk. Next time, before you leave for the meet, confirm beforehand just to be sure. That's the best we can do, but unfortunately some people are just plain mean. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m thinking 15 min , hasn’t responded this morning but confirmed time last night !
When someone doesn't message in the morning to confirm, we wouldn't bother meeting. Its amazing how many people get cold feet on the day of the meet.
Did the women have veris?
Yes had veris but left fab chatting on kik
I felt I had to go as if she didn’t turn up that wouldn’t be very nice that I wasn’t there !
Have you actually spoken with her at all? Heard her voice?"
Nope but as above |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Sorry to read how it turned out OP. You can never really be 100% certain about these things can you? In the past I was waiting for almost a hour before someone arrived; I was a few minutes from leaving but he arrived and explained why. I'm glad I waited (I think ). I hope the next person you arrange to meet does meet you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Good maners and kindness doesn't seem to exist in some folk. Next time, before you leave for the meet, confirm beforehand just to be sure. That's the best we can do, but unfortunately some people are just plain mean. "
I did but she didn’t respond . Imagine if I didn’t bother and she turned up that wouldn’t be fair on my part would it ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good maners and kindness doesn't seem to exist in some folk. Next time, before you leave for the meet, confirm beforehand just to be sure. That's the best we can do, but unfortunately some people are just plain mean.
I did but she didn’t respond . Imagine if I didn’t bother and she turned up that wouldn’t be fair on my part would it ?"
Fair comment. Fingers crossed it doesn't happen to you ever again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well she is back on fab from yesterday and responded to say she was sorry. I said she should have just messaged me rather than waste my time . Then she blocked me !
So sorry but I reported her for not showing up . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well she is back on fab from yesterday and responded to say she was sorry. I said she should have just messaged me rather than waste my time . Then she blocked me !
So sorry but I reported her for not showing up . "
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There are life events that can completely derail your desire to meet or stay in touch even blocking you is maybe just a way of saying at the moment all is too much bother - it does not necessarily mean your "date" is a bad person. The lack of communication is horrible as you dont know where you stand - good luck next time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are life events that can completely derail your desire to meet or stay in touch even blocking you is maybe just a way of saying at the moment all is too much bother - it does not necessarily mean your "date" is a bad person. The lack of communication is horrible as you dont know where you stand - good luck next time "
I respect the good u see in all people and I realise that . If it’s a one off then
Hopefully she will communicate better fir her future meets but it may not be the 1st time she has not done this. I had doubts that she wouldn’t turn up in morning but I did not once consider the possibility of letting her down . It’s not much to expect in return I’d respect her more fur telling me she had changed her mind . |
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