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"I am not going into great detail here as to why this is needed, but haven't seen a post on this here inawhile. And yes there are very personal, very heartbreaking, very real reasons why this is important to me. A safety person is someone who - simply - makes sure you are safe. They are not their to judge, offer an opinion, make you feel inconsequential - they are simply there to be your safety person when you go on a meet. You give them the persons name, number, picture and where you are going to be and a time frame. You let the person you are meeting know that you have divulged their information to a person you trust to protect everyones safety involved. If that other person has any ounce of a problem regarding your safety, you are an adult and can make your own decisions as to if you want to meet them but please do not meet without safety. Your safety person isn't there to judge, gossip, or share information unless they have to. They are not there to make your decisions about your life except protecting it. A safety person, like you, is an adult who respects that you just want to feel safe and that is all. Your safety person - is someone who will start moving police, mountains, motorcades, if they cannot contact you or hear from you by a certain time. And they will. Please protect yourselves. IF YOU DO NOT have a safety person, get a hold of me. I will be your safety person. I may not live in the UK but I know how to shake shit up to get you home, alive, and safe, if I have to. I also know there are so many people on these forums who are going to raise their hands and say the same - and please do that. Please offer your non - judgemental, non - threatening, selves to anyone who wants to feel protected. Please have this conversation with anyone who is new, or anyone who you see just needs to know that their safety is more important than your bias. Your life is so precious, and so valued, and your safety is more important to me than anything. Come back safe. Happy Tuesday everyone. " Do you think guys should have a safety person too? I've had girls tell me they've given my details to a friend for safety and I always thought that was sensible but it's something I've never really thought about for myself, but I guess even for straight dudes you never know who you're meeting until they turn up..... .....I've always gotten to know the person in advance usually, so I have a good idea and they'd have to put up with my shit on text and phone usually before any date so it's never worried me. But I guess there are still some clever arseholes out there....  | |||
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"I am not going into great detail here as to why this is needed, but haven't seen a post on this here inawhile. And yes there are very personal, very heartbreaking, very real reasons why this is important to me. A safety person is someone who - simply - makes sure you are safe. They are not their to judge, offer an opinion, make you feel inconsequential - they are simply there to be your safety person when you go on a meet. You give them the persons name, number, picture and where you are going to be and a time frame. You let the person you are meeting know that you have divulged their information to a person you trust to protect everyones safety involved. If that other person has any ounce of a problem regarding your safety, you are an adult and can make your own decisions as to if you want to meet them but please do not meet without safety. Your safety person isn't there to judge, gossip, or share information unless they have to. They are not there to make your decisions about your life except protecting it. A safety person, like you, is an adult who respects that you just want to feel safe and that is all. Your safety person - is someone who will start moving police, mountains, motorcades, if they cannot contact you or hear from you by a certain time. And they will. Please protect yourselves. IF YOU DO NOT have a safety person, get a hold of me. I will be your safety person. I may not live in the UK but I know how to shake shit up to get you home, alive, and safe, if I have to. I also know there are so many people on these forums who are going to raise their hands and say the same - and please do that. Please offer your non - judgemental, non - threatening, selves to anyone who wants to feel protected. Please have this conversation with anyone who is new, or anyone who you see just needs to know that their safety is more important than your bias. Your life is so precious, and so valued, and your safety is more important to me than anything. Come back safe. Happy Tuesday everyone. Do you think guys should have a safety person too? I've had girls tell me they've given my details to a friend for safety and I always thought that was sensible but it's something I've never really thought about for myself, but I guess even for straight dudes you never know who you're meeting until they turn up..... .....I've always gotten to know the person in advance usually, so I have a good idea and they'd have to put up with my shit on text and phone usually before any date so it's never worried me. But I guess there are still some clever arseholes out there.... "The advice isnt gender specific and doesnt mention anywhere its just for females. Its for everyone | |||
" Do you think guys should have a safety person too? I've had girls tell me they've given my details to a friend for safety and I always thought that was sensible but it's something I've never really thought about for myself, but I guess even for straight dudes you never know who you're meeting until they turn up..... .....I've always gotten to know the person in advance usually, so I have a good idea and they'd have to put up with my shit on text and phone usually before any date so it's never worried me. But I guess there are still some clever arseholes out there.... "Absolutely. There is literally no difference. Protect yourselves. | |||
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"I am not going into great detail here as to why this is needed, but haven't seen a post on this here inawhile. And yes there are very personal, very heartbreaking, very real reasons why this is important to me. A safety person is someone who - simply - makes sure you are safe. They are not their to judge, offer an opinion, make you feel inconsequential - they are simply there to be your safety person when you go on a meet. You give them the persons name, number, picture and where you are going to be and a time frame. You let the person you are meeting know that you have divulged their information to a person you trust to protect everyones safety involved. If that other person has any ounce of a problem regarding your safety, you are an adult and can make your own decisions as to if you want to meet them but please do not meet without safety. Your safety person isn't there to judge, gossip, or share information unless they have to. They are not there to make your decisions about your life except protecting it. A safety person, like you, is an adult who respects that you just want to feel safe and that is all. Your safety person - is someone who will start moving police, mountains, motorcades, if they cannot contact you or hear from you by a certain time. And they will. Please protect yourselves. IF YOU DO NOT have a safety person, get a hold of me. I will be your safety person. I may not live in the UK but I know how to shake shit up to get you home, alive, and safe, if I have to. I also know there are so many people on these forums who are going to raise their hands and say the same - and please do that. Please offer your non - judgemental, non - threatening, selves to anyone who wants to feel protected. Please have this conversation with anyone who is new, or anyone who you see just needs to know that their safety is more important than your bias. Your life is so precious, and so valued, and your safety is more important to me than anything. Come back safe. Happy Tuesday everyone. Do you think guys should have a safety person too? I've had girls tell me they've given my details to a friend for safety and I always thought that was sensible but it's something I've never really thought about for myself, but I guess even for straight dudes you never know who you're meeting until they turn up..... .....I've always gotten to know the person in advance usually, so I have a good idea and they'd have to put up with my shit on text and phone usually before any date so it's never worried me. But I guess there are still some clever arseholes out there....
The advice isnt gender specific and doesnt mention anywhere its just for females.
Its for everyone"I know friend! I was just saying as a big strong (skinny) fella I've never worried, but I probs should think about it more, especially if I was to meet more casually...  | |||
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"I always tell someone where I’m going and turn the location on my phone on" Mines also always on | |||
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"Safety first. We have a chat group. My Birds, always know who I'm meeting & where I'm going. Follow me on a tracker app. Check in on arrival, on leaving & once home. Emergency button set on my phone, 1 press & the calls go out. Failing that, I have a good right hook "What tracker app would you recommend for anyone that doesn't currently use one? | |||
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"Cell phones are great but wont help you if someone knocks you out and tosses it. Plus they can be hacked; disabled; you can be in an area with no service; they can be emp stunted; so many various ways to fuck with your phone. It IS a very good protection but nothing is better than a person who will raise a shitstorm if they dont hear from you. Please DO NOT rely solely on technology. "
Spot on, tech only works as much as people work with it. | |||
"Safety first. We have a chat group. My Birds, always know who I'm meeting & where I'm going. Follow me on a tracker app. Check in on arrival, on leaving & once home. Emergency button set on my phone, 1 press & the calls go out. Failing that, I have a good right hook
What tracker app would you recommend for anyone that doesn't currently use one?"We just use Google Maps, live location | |||
"Safety first. We have a chat group. My Birds, always know who I'm meeting & where I'm going. Follow me on a tracker app. Check in on arrival, on leaving & once home. Emergency button set on my phone, 1 press & the calls go out. Failing that, I have a good right hook
What tracker app would you recommend for anyone that doesn't currently use one?
We just use Google Maps, live location " | |||
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"Great post, OP. I have a wonderful friend who I send details to (not in the scene, but gets it). Happy to be someone's safety person if they're not able to tell anyone in RL - just drop me a PM "Same here
Having had a very bad meet at the beginning of the year where I ended up with a black eye, safety is absolutely paramount!
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"That's a really good idea. Indeed. The administrators of the site should actually build it into the site so there is a register of people willing to be safety people." This! | |||
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"This is an excellent post - when i get to the point of a new meet, i may take someone up on their offer. I did this when i got involved in my current dynamic and it really helped me to relax and feel more in control of the situation I would like to offer myself as someone who is sane, caring and non-judgemental + discreet to do this for someone else in need x Maybe we should agree a PM heading so it doesn't get lost in the sea of messages and so the receiver knows it is important /request for help" Excellent idea. With people having filters though can be a bit challenging. What would you, or anyone, suggest? | |||
"I’d be happy to help anyone needing a safety friend. I have one, but sometimes they have a life too, so another would be good " Any time you can shout me! | |||
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"Who's vetting the safety people?" Quis custodiet ipsos custodes? | |||
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"Who's vetting the safety people?" Me! | |||
"Who's vetting the safety people? Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?" I said WHO'S VETTING THE SAFETY PEOPLE? | |||
"I am not going into great detail here as to why this is needed, but haven't seen a post on this here inawhile. And yes there are very personal, very heartbreaking, very real reasons why this is important to me. A safety person is someone who - simply - makes sure you are safe. They are not their to judge, offer an opinion, make you feel inconsequential - they are simply there to be your safety person when you go on a meet. You give them the persons name, number, picture and where you are going to be and a time frame. You let the person you are meeting know that you have divulged their information to a person you trust to protect everyones safety involved. If that other person has any ounce of a problem regarding your safety, you are an adult and can make your own decisions as to if you want to meet them but please do not meet without safety. Your safety person isn't there to judge, gossip, or share information unless they have to. They are not there to make your decisions about your life except protecting it. A safety person, like you, is an adult who respects that you just want to feel safe and that is all. Your safety person - is someone who will start moving police, mountains, motorcades, if they cannot contact you or hear from you by a certain time. And they will. Please protect yourselves. IF YOU DO NOT have a safety person, get a hold of me. I will be your safety person. I may not live in the UK but I know how to shake shit up to get you home, alive, and safe, if I have to. I also know there are so many people on these forums who are going to raise their hands and say the same - and please do that. Please offer your non - judgemental, non - threatening, selves to anyone who wants to feel protected. Please have this conversation with anyone who is new, or anyone who you see just needs to know that their safety is more important than your bias. Your life is so precious, and so valued, and your safety is more important to me than anything. Come back safe. Happy Tuesday everyone. " Any day any time, safety is better than sorry, | |||
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"I am not going into great detail here as to why this is needed, but haven't seen a post on this here inawhile. And yes there are very personal, very heartbreaking, very real reasons why this is important to me. A safety person is someone who - simply - makes sure you are safe. They are not their to judge, offer an opinion, make you feel inconsequential - they are simply there to be your safety person when you go on a meet. You give them the persons name, number, picture and where you are going to be and a time frame. You let the person you are meeting know that you have divulged their information to a person you trust to protect everyones safety involved. If that other person has any ounce of a problem regarding your safety, you are an adult and can make your own decisions as to if you want to meet them but please do not meet without safety. Your safety person isn't there to judge, gossip, or share information unless they have to. They are not there to make your decisions about your life except protecting it. A safety person, like you, is an adult who respects that you just want to feel safe and that is all. Your safety person - is someone who will start moving police, mountains, motorcades, if they cannot contact you or hear from you by a certain time. And they will. Please protect yourselves. IF YOU DO NOT have a safety person, get a hold of me. I will be your safety person. I may not live in the UK but I know how to shake shit up to get you home, alive, and safe, if I have to. I also know there are so many people on these forums who are going to raise their hands and say the same - and please do that. Please offer your non - judgemental, non - threatening, selves to anyone who wants to feel protected. Please have this conversation with anyone who is new, or anyone who you see just needs to know that their safety is more important than your bias. Your life is so precious, and so valued, and your safety is more important to me than anything. Come back safe. Happy Tuesday everyone. Do you think guys should have a safety person too? I've had girls tell me they've given my details to a friend for safety and I always thought that was sensible but it's something I've never really thought about for myself, but I guess even for straight dudes you never know who you're meeting until they turn up..... .....I've always gotten to know the person in advance usually, so I have a good idea and they'd have to put up with my shit on text and phone usually before any date so it's never worried me. But I guess there are still some clever arseholes out there.... "There was a post a couple of nights ago regarding women staying safe and completely agre with both posts and commented that men should take notice to the advice as well and if anyone has a problem with your safety walk away | |||
"I’d be happy to help anyone needing a safety friend. I have one, but sometimes they have a life too, so another would be good Any time you can shout me! " Thank you xx | |||
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