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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.
Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
Unfortunately it’s something you have to get used to. I find it’s easier to bear if you expect to be let down. When they don’t it’s a great bonus!
Insisting on a social first wastes less time and isn’t a completely wasted time if they don’t show |
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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago
Worcestershire |
"Fit a social in around your day so it’s not a massive issue if a no show and if they do and you click bingo more confidence at next meet
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I'll second that! I can't understand it but you've just got to accept that some people don't show  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I try and view every meet that I have planned as 'schrodingers meet'; it exists in a state of both happening and not happening until the point of discovery.
I find that helps me to manage my expectations and possible disappointment if it does get called off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate being let down in this way can be extremely traumatic and potentially harmful. I would make yourself a big cup of tea ( anything but green) and a digestive ( you can choose any variety but pref not dark chocolate). Then watch a sad movie and let the emotions out.
Then put your big boy pants on ( helps if they have a super hero theme ) and go find the next willing person to let you down...and repeat.
In all seriousness just crack on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mate being let down in this way can be extremely traumatic and potentially harmful. I would make yourself a big cup of tea ( anything but green) and a digestive ( you can choose any variety but pref not dark chocolate). Then watch a sad movie and let the emotions out.
Then put your big boy pants on ( helps if they have a super hero theme ) and go find the next willing person to let you down...and repeat.
In all seriousness just crack on "
Good advice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a few experiences where I have an amazing connection with somebody, arrange a meet then out of the blue get blocked. Couldn't think of anything I'd done or said to warrant a block. Maybe they got cold feet or were a fake, but anybody can change their minds and I still love the discretion this site provides.
All that aside, had some amazing meets on here and been a paid subscriber for years. You just got to keep looking for the good ones and forget the timewasters. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Mate being let down in this way can be extremely traumatic and potentially harmful. I would make yourself a big cup of tea ( anything but green) and a digestive ( you can choose any variety but pref not dark chocolate). Then watch a sad movie and let the emotions out.
Then put your big boy pants on ( helps if they have a super hero theme ) and go find the next willing person to let you down...and repeat.
In all seriousness just crack on
Good advice "
Quite like idea of superhero pants..lol
I am cracking on. The people i was scheduled to meet were the ones who instigated it.. which makes it even more weird. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You came on too strong and scared them away
And how would you know that???
He’s psychic  "
If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then..  |
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"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.
Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."
Talk to people on the phone its been said 100 times or more on here you get let down less when people have a rapport with you and chatting on cam or on the phone helps. |
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"You came on too strong and scared them away
And how would you know that???
He’s psychic
If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then.. "
*puts hand to temple...
You're thinking "I bet he's not really psychic" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.
Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be.
Talk to people on the phone its been said 100 times or more on here you get let down less when people have a rapport with you and chatting on cam or on the phone helps. "
We had.. makes it even more weird.. at no time was i rude, always respectful and allowed them to dictate the speed at which we moved etc . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.
Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."
A regular occurrence, unfortunately.
Block, move on. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Fit a social in around your day so it’s not a massive issue if a no show and if they do and you click bingo more confidence at next meet
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Exactly how I do it, I'm out and about anyway, works well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You came on too strong and scared them away
And how would you know that???
He’s psychic
If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then..
*puts hand to temple...
You're thinking "I bet he's not really psychic""
That has made me laugh. In reality i was thinking something that rhymes with brick!!! |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire |
"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.
Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."
Happens to all of us mate. Don't let it get to you. Juar focus on the genuine people. |
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"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.
Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."
It happens to lots of people on here which is soul destroying and plays havoc with the mind. Its a shame a few people spoil it for others whereas others make it all worthwhile. Chin up and keep smiling.x |
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"I try and view every meet that I have planned as 'schrodingers meet'; it exists in a state of both happening and not happening until the point of discovery.
I find that helps me to manage my expectations and possible disappointment if it does get called off. "
Sadly I don't have a schrodinger's foof - it's either waxed or it isn't, and if I'm having it de-fuzzed twice in ten days for two no-shows it's hard to meet that with equanimity.
Still, I'm a randy bugger so I carry on trying and living in hope  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.
Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be.
How many time you been let down?"
A married couple over the weekend. And 2 single women on seperate occassions since i rejoined.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.
Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."
makes me laugh how women and couples I would love to meet her let down but won’t let someone reliable like myself have the chance to meet them.... oh well x |
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"You came on too strong and scared them away
And how would you know that???
He’s psychic
If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then..
*puts hand to temple...
You're thinking "I bet he's not really psychic"
That has made me laugh. In reality i was thinking something that rhymes with brick!!!"
Why would you be thinking "stick" |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I try and view every meet that I have planned as 'schrodingers meet'; it exists in a state of both happening and not happening until the point of discovery.
I find that helps me to manage my expectations and possible disappointment if it does get called off.
Sadly I don't have a schrodinger's foof - it's either waxed or it isn't, and if I'm having it de-fuzzed twice in ten days for two no-shows it's hard to meet that with equanimity.
Still, I'm a randy bugger so I carry on trying and living in hope "
I know exactly the feeling! Manscaping for nothing is much the same! |
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Hey it happens buddy. I've had the same over my 3 years or so here... Especially when I came back and had deleted the profile. Chat, post in forums, interact and people will get to know you a little better and build a decent relationship.... You'll find your meets soon enough....
Christ I remember one lady let me down 3 times.... I learned from that (eventually ) |
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By *almprintsWoman
over a year ago
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"I try and view every meet that I have planned as 'schrodingers meet'; it exists in a state of both happening and not happening until the point of discovery.
I find that helps me to manage my expectations and possible disappointment if it does get called off. "
Genius!!   |
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These things happen. We were chatting to a couple and getting on great, when we exchanged face pics they blocked us  . Hurt a bit at the time, but fab is a fickle place it seems ( still like it though)
Just need to adopt “Fishmo”: Fuck it, shit happens, move on. |
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