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"It’s absolutely categorically impossible!
Once you’ve had a fab meet you can never ever have a conventional relationship again. EVER!
Conventional relationships bore me anyway  "
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Of course, like in any part of it life is what you make it and what put in! I think many don't or won't because the grass always seems greener then return to moan about how awful here is!!
Fab is life for a lot as opposed to a great addition to a great life ... perhaps that might be a little of the problem? |
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Yes you can ..if anything both know from the start what you are like and desire. I would love to fond someone who I can have fun with in every way. Weekends away, cocktails and dancing, holidays, cooking dinner..all those things but then all the filthy stuff too. Perfect . Just need to find her |
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"Yes you can ..if anything both know from the start what you are like and desire. I would love to fond someone who I can have fun with in every way. Weekends away, cocktails and dancing, holidays, cooking dinner..all those things but then all the filthy stuff too. Perfect . Just need to find her "
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab? "
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from...  Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time. |
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time."
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed? |
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?"
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed? "
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires. |
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires."
Because you met on Fab? Why so? Why is that different from meeting anywhere else? |
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires."
Why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Me and hubby met through fab, neither of us were looking for a relationship, in fact I'd had a conversation a few weeks prior to our first meet with a friend of mine saying that I was quite content with the thought of not sharing my life with anyone .. then hey ho along he came.. it works well for us , possibly because we spend quite a lot of time apart and in different countries. But I haven't given it that much thought. We have a great relationship and we're very lucky ... |
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires."
Why do you think that is? Because you met on here how is it any different from meeting on dating site for instance. I’m leaning towards the fact if I meet someone on here we’re sexually compatible and open from day one. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires.
Because you met on Fab? Why so? Why is that different from meeting anywhere else? "
Context perhaps? We meet people on fab with a specific reason in the background as opposed to out in the "vanilla" world where that motive may not be initially in play? It's hard to explain. I think in my case, my particular life circumstances at the moment make this difficult to envisage. Again, i'm not saying this can't change with the right person, and indeed things often develop when you least expect them. Pay me no mind  Uncharacteristic waffling here on my part.
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong. "
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires."
Would you say anyone you meet on here would not be relationship material as such ? As there’s a stigma and you wouldn’t want to date anyone who’s been on here but casual sex is ok? Just curious |
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
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3 and a half years and counting  |
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I’ve had several relationships here over the last 6 years. Some great.. others not. It depends on the two people involved. I wouldn’t rule someone out because we met or hooked up from here. Most of the people I’ve come across have been absolutely lovely! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires.
Would you say anyone you meet on here would not be relationship material as such ? As there’s a stigma and you wouldn’t want to date anyone who’s been on here but casual sex is ok? Just curious "
Not at all. I've met some remarkable people here who, under different circumstances, would most certainly be relationship material. |
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires.
Would you say anyone you meet on here would not be relationship material as such ? As there’s a stigma and you wouldn’t want to date anyone who’s been on here but casual sex is ok? Just curious
Not at all. I've met some remarkable people here who, under different circumstances, would most certainly be relationship material."
Different circumstances bring not met on a sex site |
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires.
Would you say anyone you meet on here would not be relationship material as such ? As there’s a stigma and you wouldn’t want to date anyone who’s been on here but casual sex is ok? Just curious
Not at all. I've met some remarkable people here who, under different circumstances, would most certainly be relationship material.
Different circumstances bring not met on a sex site "
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
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Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab?
I'd like to think so, but I often can't help feeling a threshold has been crossed I can't come back from... Perhaps it's just my current mindset and perspectives can change with time.
What do you mean a threshold has been crossed?
That I won't be able to engage in that deep seated emotional commitment that a proper relationship requires.
Would you say anyone you meet on here would not be relationship material as such ? As there’s a stigma and you wouldn’t want to date anyone who’s been on here but casual sex is ok? Just curious
Not at all. I've met some remarkable people here who, under different circumstances, would most certainly be relationship material.
Different circumstances bring not met on a sex site "
No. Different life circumstances in my case. I'm one of the least judgemental people you'd come across. |
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship. "
I agree. If I met someone who I had great sex with I’d no longer be on here. I’m single and don’t meet men conventionally so I use this site. I’m not a swinger.  |
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship. "
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I think it depends on the emotional baggage you carry.
I have trust issues, so meeting someone here would make me angsty, although the realistic side of me knows that a fella in the vanilla world has just as much opportunity to cheat if he wanted to, and not every fella here would cheat if he met someone he really liked and it got romantic.
But you hear so many tales on here of things going tits up that you forget those stories that have a happy ending, of which there are many.
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think. "
By doubt do you mean a lack of trust?
Cheaters exist everywhere not just on this site. In fact I think I have met more of them on conventional dating sites. Well more of the ones that don’t even admit they are married, but strangely can only meet just after work etc.
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"Yes you can ..if anything both know from the start what you are like and desire. I would love to fond someone who I can have fun with in every way. Weekends away, cocktails and dancing, holidays, cooking dinner..all those things but then all the filthy stuff too. Perfect . Just need to find her
Think I need to move to the midlands "
Ooh yes please x |
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think.
By doubt do you mean a lack of trust?
Cheaters exist everywhere not just on this site. In fact I think I have met more of them on conventional dating sites. Well more of the ones that don’t even admit they are married, but strangely can only meet just after work etc.
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No, not a lack of trust but sometime down the line and things aren’t going smoothly wouldn’t you begin to doubt and question your partner.
I am a professor in this subject by the way. |
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I actually don't think I believe in monogamy. I think it's just a nice idea. I know the difference between love and sex and friendship. Some of my fwbs have treated me better than most people in my life have, I love them as friends. But I love my bf like a boyfriend. And whoever either of us has sex with either together or apart isn't going to change that. There's still a big stigma around having sex outside of a monogamous relationship. Especially for a woman. But I'd rather be me and get called a few names than be someone who has no idea what her husbands gets up to. |
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"Yes you can ..if anything both know from the start what you are like and desire. I would love to fond someone who I can have fun with in every way. Weekends away, cocktails and dancing, holidays, cooking dinner..all those things but then all the filthy stuff too. Perfect . Just need to find her "
You had me at cocktails and dancing - where do I sign up? |
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think. "
If you have that element of doubt then maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship? Whatever the type of relationship it should be built on trust and respect. |
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"Can u actually have a proper relationship after meeting through fab? "
of course....... fab is just that....... a meeting point...... we're all real people living in the real world, we are just a lil more upfront about the sexy things in life is all  |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think.
By doubt do you mean a lack of trust?
Cheaters exist everywhere not just on this site. In fact I think I have met more of them on conventional dating sites. Well more of the ones that don’t even admit they are married, but strangely can only meet just after work etc.
No, not a lack of trust but sometime down the line and things aren’t going smoothly wouldn’t you begin to doubt and question your partner.
I am a professor in this subject by the way."
Well I would hope that if I was in a relationship and things weren’t going smoothly we would both be adult enough to talk it through and work it out rather than cheat. After all, they would be able to have sex with others with my knowledge anyway. If I was doubting my partner to the extent I felt I needed to check up on them I would end it. I don’t need that craziness in my life! |
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think. "
No way I'd date anyone off here. |
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"Guess what? Many of us have a proper relationship whilst on fab. Jeez you singletons need to realise what site you're on ffs!"
Depends on what people think a proper relationship is. |
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"Yes you can ..if anything both know from the start what you are like and desire. I would love to fond someone who I can have fun with in every way. Weekends away, cocktails and dancing, holidays, cooking dinner..all those things but then all the filthy stuff too. Perfect . Just need to find her
You had me at cocktails and dancing - where do I sign up? "
We keep trying dont we x |
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"Yes you can ..if anything both know from the start what you are like and desire. I would love to fond someone who I can have fun with in every way. Weekends away, cocktails and dancing, holidays, cooking dinner..all those things but then all the filthy stuff too. Perfect . Just need to find her
You had me at cocktails and dancing - where do I sign up?
We keep trying dont we x"
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think.
By doubt do you mean a lack of trust?
Cheaters exist everywhere not just on this site. In fact I think I have met more of them on conventional dating sites. Well more of the ones that don’t even admit they are married, but strangely can only meet just after work etc.
No, not a lack of trust but sometime down the line and things aren’t going smoothly wouldn’t you begin to doubt and question your partner.
I am a professor in this subject by the way.
Well I would hope that if I was in a relationship and things weren’t going smoothly we would both be adult enough to talk it through and work it out rather than cheat. After all, they would be able to have sex with others with my knowledge anyway. If I was doubting my partner to the extent I felt I needed to check up on them I would end it. I don’t need that craziness in my life!"
Your not in a committed relationship then if your having sex with multiple people even with your partner’s consent! |
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think.
By doubt do you mean a lack of trust?
Cheaters exist everywhere not just on this site. In fact I think I have met more of them on conventional dating sites. Well more of the ones that don’t even admit they are married, but strangely can only meet just after work etc.
No, not a lack of trust but sometime down the line and things aren’t going smoothly wouldn’t you begin to doubt and question your partner.
I am a professor in this subject by the way.
Well I would hope that if I was in a relationship and things weren’t going smoothly we would both be adult enough to talk it through and work it out rather than cheat. After all, they would be able to have sex with others with my knowledge anyway. If I was doubting my partner to the extent I felt I needed to check up on them I would end it. I don’t need that craziness in my life!
Your not in a committed relationship then if your having sex with multiple people even with your partner’s consent! "
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think.
By doubt do you mean a lack of trust?
Cheaters exist everywhere not just on this site. In fact I think I have met more of them on conventional dating sites. Well more of the ones that don’t even admit they are married, but strangely can only meet just after work etc.
No, not a lack of trust but sometime down the line and things aren’t going smoothly wouldn’t you begin to doubt and question your partner.
I am a professor in this subject by the way.
Well I would hope that if I was in a relationship and things weren’t going smoothly we would both be adult enough to talk it through and work it out rather than cheat. After all, they would be able to have sex with others with my knowledge anyway. If I was doubting my partner to the extent I felt I needed to check up on them I would end it. I don’t need that craziness in my life!
Your not in a committed relationship then if your having sex with multiple people even with your partner’s consent!
That's swinging. "
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Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think.
By doubt do you mean a lack of trust?
Cheaters exist everywhere not just on this site. In fact I think I have met more of them on conventional dating sites. Well more of the ones that don’t even admit they are married, but strangely can only meet just after work etc.
No, not a lack of trust but sometime down the line and things aren’t going smoothly wouldn’t you begin to doubt and question your partner.
I am a professor in this subject by the way.
Well I would hope that if I was in a relationship and things weren’t going smoothly we would both be adult enough to talk it through and work it out rather than cheat. After all, they would be able to have sex with others with my knowledge anyway. If I was doubting my partner to the extent I felt I needed to check up on them I would end it. I don’t need that craziness in my life!
Your not in a committed relationship then if your having sex with multiple people even with your partner’s consent! "
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"I doubt it, but that’s just my opinion.
Why not?
Tarring everyone with the same brush comes to mind with some of these comments. Although I could be wrong.
I’m not tarring anyone, it’s just the cynical side of me. Some don’t like the site being labelled as a sex one but ultimately it is. I’ve answered the question with the term relationship being based on ‘long term’ partners. If you were to continue to use the site in the same way you did before you started a relationship then I can’t see it lasting long.
Firstly. Not everyone is a swinger on here and don’t use it as a sex site, but I think you actually know that anyway.
Secondly. Those who aren’t swingers would be unlikely to carry on using the site once in a relationship.
I’m with you all the way. But wouldn’t there always be an element of doubt in the back of your head? Like I said its only my opinion and not the consensus of what people think.
By doubt do you mean a lack of trust?
Cheaters exist everywhere not just on this site. In fact I think I have met more of them on conventional dating sites. Well more of the ones that don’t even admit they are married, but strangely can only meet just after work etc.
No, not a lack of trust but sometime down the line and things aren’t going smoothly wouldn’t you begin to doubt and question your partner.
I am a professor in this subject by the way.
Well I would hope that if I was in a relationship and things weren’t going smoothly we would both be adult enough to talk it through and work it out rather than cheat. After all, they would be able to have sex with others with my knowledge anyway. If I was doubting my partner to the extent I felt I needed to check up on them I would end it. I don’t need that craziness in my life!
Your not in a committed relationship then if your having sex with multiple people even with your partner’s consent! "
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Is this a case of the men on here who see ladies as “tarred or damaged goods” because of the type of site it is. They don’t or won’t take the good ladies of Fab seriously as potential longer term partners? |
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"Is this a case of the men on here who see ladies as “tarred or damaged goods” because of the type of site it is. They don’t or won’t take the good ladies of Fab seriously as potential longer term partners? "
That’s my interpretation yes. |
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"Is this a case of the men on here who see ladies as “tarred or damaged goods” because of the type of site it is. They don’t or won’t take the good ladies of Fab seriously as potential longer term partners? "
its about information you dont need to know not assumptions |
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"Is this a case of the men on here who see ladies as “tarred or damaged goods” because of the type of site it is. They don’t or won’t take the good ladies of Fab seriously as potential longer term partners? "
Not necessarily. Some may want a monogamous relationship so looking on here would be pointless.
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"Is this a case of the men on here who see ladies as “tarred or damaged goods” because of the type of site it is. They don’t or won’t take the good ladies of Fab seriously as potential longer term partners?
That’s my interpretation yes. "
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I know loads of people that met on fab and now have loving relationships. I wouldn't dismiss the idea of meeting someone on here myself if it felt right. |
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A relationship can happen between 2 people almost anywhere. Work, friends, internet platforms. Some will work, some won't, it all depends on the 2 that connect. Surely if someone wanted a relationship, then why not look on here for someone who has the same interests in the scene x |
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