Help us out here ladies...
In the excitement and heat of play...
Is it better for a guy to attempt things then get a gentle " no" and telling off first...
Or
Is it best to ask.....hoping this won,t kill the moment?
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For us, it’s important to establish the boundaries beforehand and have partners that we trust not to try to push.
We don’t like ‘permission’ sex where partners have to ask to do something but equally don’t like people to push our hard limits.
It’s all about trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely discuss, agree + understand soft / hard limits in advance of any play /dynamic ...
Ideally you should be pushing your own limits, not someone else's |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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If you have established the necessary trust with a woman she will tell you what boundary she wants you to explore if any. That trust comes with time. Until that time it's best to stay within her declared boundaries. |
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"In the heat of the moment I want things I couldn't imagine beforehand."
I suppose we're all different. In the heat of the moment I don't always have the faculties or feel the power to say no, or I'm not heard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had an incredible woman but she was so polite to me that she asked for permission each time she wanted to change position and try something different. It was nice of her, but it felt a bit strange to grant her permission for this and that during intercourse. I just go with instinct and do what I think she might like, but give her every opportunity to say no if she doesn't like something I do during intercourse. e.g. I began to kiss down her whole body and the souls of her beautiful bare feet. But my moustache was tickling her feet and she gently moved them away and said 'no' and I obliged. I usually chat with the girls in the lounge or jacuzzi at the clubs I go to. It helps to create a good introduction and to see what each other likes when we head up to the play rooms afterwards.
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