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Don't look for something specific. Just chat and make friends without expectation. You are more likely to stumble across it that find it intentionally.
We have come across a few potential unicorns, including some who don't even meet couples. They made the suggestions, not us. It just came about by chatting. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.
It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world. |
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over a year ago
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I think knowing yourself and what you want is key and then successfully conveying that to your chosen play buddy... And saying thanks, but no thanks, if there is too much compromise involved |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.
It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world."
I agree with you, but would not say low expectations, just not to have expectations. If it happens it happens. Also be prepared that not everyone is here with honourable intensions and people lie... a Lot! |
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Don't take the site too seriously. It is what it is.
Don't take yourself too seriously,but do know your worth.
If you have pictures on public with it all hanging out(this applies to both sexes) then you are liable to get some strange messages. I'm not saying that's acceptable but take responsibility for what you're bring to the party.
If someone doesn't interest you then don't enter into any more dialogue after a polite no thanks.
Use the block button as a tool rather than a punishment.
Works for me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Perspective. Not placing too much importance on it and allowing Fab to be only a small part of your life; not the be all and end all.  "
You're taking to forumites.... .....fab is EVERYTHING.....  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.
It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world."
You missed off the bit about 'monkey' |
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Not to forget that first time sex with someone can sometimes be awkward and a little underwhelming. Spot the potential for when you need a round two to get to the good stuff.
Other times it’s unreal haha. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.
It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world.
I agree with you, but would not say low expectations, just not to have expectations. If it happens it happens. Also be prepared that not everyone is here with honourable intensions and people lie... a Lot!"
Yes you're right "low expectations" could suggest something different entirely and was not the intent - but yep "if it happens it happens" is a good mantra to have for sure.
People lie on here? Well I never
Next you'll be telling me people manipulate and present a facade which is completely fake |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."
I think that advice stretches across everyone.
I'd also say, don't rely on cold messages to make first contact with people.
In my experience fab works best in tandem with actually getting out and meeting people face to face. Use it as a way to keep up with people, not for making first contact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend.... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend.... "
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend.... "
Ffs this is where I’m going wrong ....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Ffs this is where I’m going wrong .... "
Actually I stopped doing that because I would ended up having to say oops sorry not my type... 
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
Being myself, and not expecting much.
Low expectations means everything else is a bonus. And I won't change who I am just to give me that edge in getting an advantage.
It is serving me well so far. A few ups and downs but that's always going to happen regardless of approach. |
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard. "
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions."
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary. "
That's how to improve your experience! Hire a fab secretary! There must be a sub around who'd do the job for free! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
That's how to improve your experience! Hire a fab secretary! There must be a sub around who'd do the job for free! "
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary. "
The poor sod who had that as a job. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job."
I'll do it! What's the pay? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay? "
One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within |
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay? "
You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within "
You're joking, but I bet you'll get serious applicants now. Resulting in even more messages to delete lol. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within "
Room. For negotiating? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within
You're joking, but I bet you'll get serious applicants now. Resulting in even more messages to delete lol."
Fecking hell. Didn’t think that one though did I .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within
You're joking, but I bet you'll get serious applicants now. Resulting in even more messages to delete lol.
Fecking hell. Didn’t think that one though did I .... "
Nooooooooooooooooooope lol |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?"
Want to? Not at all.
If the pay is good, it would not bother me. I'm "numb" to seeing dicks at this point anyway with all the messages from guys, and just seeing them on avatar pics from the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within
Room. For negotiating? "
Depends on the negotiation...  |
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?
Want to? Not at all.
If the pay is good, it would not bother me. I'm "numb" to seeing dicks at this point anyway with all the messages from guys, and just seeing them on avatar pics from the forum. "
We'll if I ever become minted I'll give you a shout |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?
Want to? Not at all.
If the pay is good, it would not bother me. I'm "numb" to seeing dicks at this point anyway with all the messages from guys, and just seeing them on avatar pics from the forum.
We'll if I ever become minted I'll give you a shout "
Unless you pay in blow jobs. I’ve just thought of a loop hole that could be exploited here though... What if he sends me 10 messages himself and reads and deletes them, to earn a blow job? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.
I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....
Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.
I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.
I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.
The poor sod who had that as a job.
I'll do it! What's the pay?
You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?
Want to? Not at all.
If the pay is good, it would not bother me. I'm "numb" to seeing dicks at this point anyway with all the messages from guys, and just seeing them on avatar pics from the forum.
We'll if I ever become minted I'll give you a shout
Unless you pay in blow jobs. I’ve just thought of a loop hole that could be exploited here though... What if he sends me 10 messages himself and reads and deletes them, to earn a blow job? "
I'm far too honest for that...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing
What did you do in the end? "
Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing
What did you do in the end?
Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details"
very clever. I bloody almost did too |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing
What did you do in the end?
Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details
very clever. I bloody almost did too "
Go onnnnn .you know you want to.
Make his day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would give people the same advice for this site, that I would give vanilla / non dating social media users:
1. Be yourself
2. Treat people the way you want to be treated
3. Be polite (but don't take any shit - use the block button if necessary)
4. Be honest, kind and considerate
N x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing
What did you do in the end?
Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details
very clever. I bloody almost did too
Go onnnnn .you know you want to.
Make his day. "
I’ve never once sent a first message. Not sure how I feel about breaking that tradition? |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing
What did you do in the end?
Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details
very clever. I bloody almost did too
Go onnnnn .you know you want to.
Make his day.
I’ve never once sent a first message. Not sure how I feel about breaking that tradition? "
It could be a pure innocent one.
I'm sure he'd like it anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.
It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing
What did you do in the end?
Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details
very clever. I bloody almost did too
Go onnnnn .you know you want to.
Make his day.
I’ve never once sent a first message. Not sure how I feel about breaking that tradition? "
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Be sure in your mind about what you are actually looking for.
When you’ve done that, ask yourself if this is the site that will help you find it.
If in doubt, try it out, but if you have no joy don’t blame the site or the people on here.
It’s far more likely that you’ve just tried to make the site fit your requirements, which it won’t do unless you’re requirements match those of a swinging site.
We never had any great expectations, and always saw what we did on here as a bit of fun.
We loved every minute of it for the eight very active years we had whilst meeting. |
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Think about what you want from the site, and write it on your profile.
Set yourself boundaries, some flexible and some hard, to keep yourself safe.
Be open, and honest, whilst also maintaining an element of discretion.
Don't engage with anyone who doesn't fit in with or respect the previous points. |
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"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing
What did you do in the end?
Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details
very clever. I bloody almost did too
Go onnnnn .you know you want to.
Make his day.
I’ve never once sent a first message. Not sure how I feel about breaking that tradition? "
Live dangerously there is always the block button !! |
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."
I very much like this
I put filters on incoming messages as can't handle the bombardment. So i'm the first to message. The filter works for me but the downside is that it stops the potential of a wonderful other getting in touch. (I sometimes turn it off but then realise again why it's on haha) |
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"Be sure in your mind about what you are actually looking for.
When you’ve done that, ask yourself if this is the site that will help you find it.
If in doubt, try it out, but if you have no joy don’t blame the site or the people on here."
very true ... know your mind and what you seek to meet which need and why.
Took me some time and it can change and be fluid. |
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"Think about what you want from the site, and write it on your profile.
Set yourself boundaries, some flexible and some hard, to keep yourself safe.
Be open, and honest, whilst also maintaining an element of discretion.
Don't engage with anyone who doesn't fit in with or respect the previous points."
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"What are your tips and tricks for making the best out of Fab and getting what you're looking for? "
Lower your expectations
Don't put all your eggs in one basket(women outside of fab like fun as well)
Remember to live a life outside of fab as it's easy to get addicted
Keep a good Fab/Life balance
Learn to debate in the forums rather than be nasty
If you read something in a forum you disagree with, be polite or ignore it.
If you wouldn't say something to a woman you met in a bar, don't say it in an opening message
But most of all be Happy, life's short !
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* I'm not successful on fab so it's probably best not to take my advice
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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."
this
Use your filters
Clear and recent face photos
Assume they lie
Be clear what you want
*go with your gut*
Block is your friend |
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"Be yourself, not what you think people want you to be."
Yes this
When I first joined I had a few bad experiences because I was pretending to be someone else.
I know what I want now - so I rarely meet anyone 
It's better than shit sex for the sake of not being alone! |
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"Be yourself, not what you think people want you to be.
Yes this
When I first joined I had a few bad experiences because I was pretending to be someone else.
I know what I want now - so I rarely meet anyone
It's better than shit sex for the sake of not being alone!"
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