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By *naswingdress OP   Woman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

What are your tips and tricks for making the best out of Fab and getting what you're looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Patience

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

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Being honest to who you are and what you hope to get out it. You'll find your people that way, even if it does take time.

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By *B69Woman  over a year ago

Wiltshire

Be considerate of other people’s lives

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I find NOT sending my face pic gets me more responses

Still undecided if thats a good thing or a bad thing.....doesnt feel good

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By *hrista BellendWoman  over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Having a open mind

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Be yourself, not what you think people want you to be.

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By *partharmonyCouple  over a year ago

Ruislip

Don't look for something specific. Just chat and make friends without expectation. You are more likely to stumble across it that find it intentionally.

We have come across a few potential unicorns, including some who don't even meet couples. They made the suggestions, not us. It just came about by chatting.

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By *affron40Woman  over a year ago

manchester


"Be yourself, not what you think people want you to be."

This..

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Shoehorn the word monkey into your profile name, it's like magic!

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By *hunky GentMan  over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Making people smile - even those you'll never meet.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan  over a year ago

Aylesbury

Quit before your self esteem plummets lol.

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.

It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think knowing yourself and what you want is key and then successfully conveying that to your chosen play buddy... And saying thanks, but no thanks, if there is too much compromise involved

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.

It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world."

I agree with you, but would not say low expectations, just not to have expectations. If it happens it happens. Also be prepared that not everyone is here with honourable intensions and people lie... a Lot!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Perspective. Not placing too much importance on it and allowing Fab to be only a small part of your life; not the be all and end all.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Forums best and only good thing about fab

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Don't try, and don't give much of a fuck.... ... .the less you try the better it is.....

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By *innie The MinxWoman  over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Don't take the site too seriously. It is what it is.

Don't take yourself too seriously,but do know your worth.

If you have pictures on public with it all hanging out(this applies to both sexes) then you are liable to get some strange messages. I'm not saying that's acceptable but take responsibility for what you're bring to the party.

If someone doesn't interest you then don't enter into any more dialogue after a polite no thanks.

Use the block button as a tool rather than a punishment.

Works for me

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Perspective. Not placing too much importance on it and allowing Fab to be only a small part of your life; not the be all and end all. "

You're taking to forumites.... .....fab is EVERYTHING.....

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.

It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world."

You missed off the bit about 'monkey'

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By *T.round2Woman  over a year ago

Darlington

Not to forget that first time sex with someone can sometimes be awkward and a little underwhelming. Spot the potential for when you need a round two to get to the good stuff.

Other times it’s unreal haha.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Grow a thick skin

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.

It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world.

I agree with you, but would not say low expectations, just not to have expectations. If it happens it happens. Also be prepared that not everyone is here with honourable intensions and people lie... a Lot!"

Yes you're right "low expectations" could suggest something different entirely and was not the intent - but yep "if it happens it happens" is a good mantra to have for sure.

People lie on here? Well I never

Next you'll be telling me people manipulate and present a facade which is completely fake

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool

If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

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By *emini ManMan  over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."

Conversely if you're a man looking for women, search for them yourself

Funny eh?

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By *ea monkeyMan  over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."

I think that advice stretches across everyone.

I'd also say, don't rely on cold messages to make first contact with people.

In my experience fab works best in tandem with actually getting out and meeting people face to face. Use it as a way to keep up with people, not for making first contact.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

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"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend.... "

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

Conversely if you're a man looking for women, search for them yourself

Funny eh?"

Haha yes, but often the men don't need telling .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend.... "

Ffs this is where I’m going wrong ....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Ffs this is where I’m going wrong .... "

Actually I stopped doing that because I would ended up having to say oops sorry not my type...

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Travelling

Being myself, and not expecting much.

Low expectations means everything else is a bonus. And I won't change who I am just to give me that edge in getting an advantage.

It is serving me well so far. A few ups and downs but that's always going to happen regardless of approach.

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard. "

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As a single male you need to put the effort in and don't take it all too serious or to heart

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By *a LunaWoman  over a year ago

South Wales

Don’t take it all so seriously.

It’s just sex. And sex should be fun, exploratory, intense, passionate and not the be all and end all.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions."

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary. "

That's how to improve your experience! Hire a fab secretary! There must be a sub around who'd do the job for free!

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

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"...I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions."

So weird. Why would you want to talk to forumites?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

That's how to improve your experience! Hire a fab secretary! There must be a sub around who'd do the job for free! "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just try not to be too much of a dick, I think.

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"...I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

So weird. Why would you want to talk to forumites? "

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary. "

The poor sod who had that as a job.

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Travelling


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job."

I'll do it! What's the pay?

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By * WillisMan  over a year ago

London


"What are your tips and tricks for making the best out of Fab and getting what you're looking for? "

Find a site where 90% of the members meet rather than 9% of the members

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay? "

One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay? "

You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within "

You're joking, but I bet you'll get serious applicants now. Resulting in even more messages to delete lol.

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Travelling


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within "

Room. For negotiating?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within

You're joking, but I bet you'll get serious applicants now. Resulting in even more messages to delete lol."

Fecking hell. Didn’t think that one though did I ....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within

You're joking, but I bet you'll get serious applicants now. Resulting in even more messages to delete lol.

Fecking hell. Didn’t think that one though did I .... "

Nooooooooooooooooooope lol

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Travelling


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?"

Want to? Not at all.

If the pay is good, it would not bother me. I'm "numb" to seeing dicks at this point anyway with all the messages from guys, and just seeing them on avatar pics from the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

One blow job per every 10 read and responded to / deleted messages. Apply within

Room. For negotiating? "

Depends on the negotiation...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ignoring most of my messages and only message those I'm attracted to.

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?

Want to? Not at all.

If the pay is good, it would not bother me. I'm "numb" to seeing dicks at this point anyway with all the messages from guys, and just seeing them on avatar pics from the forum. "

We'll if I ever become minted I'll give you a shout

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By *ollycouple71Couple  over a year ago

manchester


"Be yourself, not what you think people want you to be."
Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?

Want to? Not at all.

If the pay is good, it would not bother me. I'm "numb" to seeing dicks at this point anyway with all the messages from guys, and just seeing them on avatar pics from the forum.

We'll if I ever become minted I'll give you a shout "

Unless you pay in blow jobs. I’ve just thought of a loop hole that could be exploited here though... What if he sends me 10 messages himself and reads and deletes them, to earn a blow job?

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Travelling


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself.

I think that's SUCH good advice! I see a lot of girls here who go on about waiting for dudes to message and them first etc and then complaining they've picked up a bellend....

Or moaning about the messages they receive, the volume of them blah blah blah. Take control of your experience! It's not that hard.

I still do that. Mostly because I'm lazy and neglect my inbox. I currently have about 1200 messages. I don't want to use message filters though because I like for anyone to be able to message me, especially from forum discussions.

I had 1400 the other day and just decided enough was enough. I did a mass delete and I promptly received a few angry “you could just said you weren’t interested” type messages. I could have, yes. But for that I would have had to hire a Fab secretary.

The poor sod who had that as a job.

I'll do it! What's the pay?

You want to look at dicks and abuse and read random men's weird fantasies all day?

Want to? Not at all.

If the pay is good, it would not bother me. I'm "numb" to seeing dicks at this point anyway with all the messages from guys, and just seeing them on avatar pics from the forum.

We'll if I ever become minted I'll give you a shout

Unless you pay in blow jobs. I’ve just thought of a loop hole that could be exploited here though... What if he sends me 10 messages himself and reads and deletes them, to earn a blow job? "

I'm far too honest for that...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing"

What did you do in the end?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

What did you do in the end? "

Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

What did you do in the end?

Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

What did you do in the end?

Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details"

very clever. I bloody almost did too

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By *hunky GentMan  over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

What did you do in the end?

Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details

very clever. I bloody almost did too "

Go onnnnn .you know you want to.

Make his day.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I would give people the same advice for this site, that I would give vanilla / non dating social media users:

1. Be yourself

2. Treat people the way you want to be treated

3. Be polite (but don't take any shit - use the block button if necessary)

4. Be honest, kind and considerate

N x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

What did you do in the end?

Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details

very clever. I bloody almost did too

Go onnnnn .you know you want to.

Make his day. "

I’ve never once sent a first message. Not sure how I feel about breaking that tradition?

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By *hunky GentMan  over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

What did you do in the end?

Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details

very clever. I bloody almost did too

Go onnnnn .you know you want to.

Make his day.

I’ve never once sent a first message. Not sure how I feel about breaking that tradition? "

It could be a pure innocent one.

I'm sure he'd like it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Have zero expectations, that way you wont be disapointed and just enjoy the social aspect without being desperate to meet people

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Being open, honest, respectful and considerate - having low expectations, and not a sense of entitlement, able to communicate and articulate and treat people not only as equals but as humans not pieces of meat.

It also never ceases to amaze me how people lose sight of real world values and norms on here - things like attraction, where in the real world people wouldn't be attracted to all but a small percentage you encounter, yet on here *some* expect that percentage to somehow magnify and multiply. Or the thing of how some speak to others on here, yet wouldn't do the same in the real world."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

What did you do in the end?

Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details

very clever. I bloody almost did too

Go onnnnn .you know you want to.

Make his day.

I’ve never once sent a first message. Not sure how I feel about breaking that tradition? "

Lies.....

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By *loswingersCouple  over a year ago

Gloucester

Be sure in your mind about what you are actually looking for.

When you’ve done that, ask yourself if this is the site that will help you find it.

If in doubt, try it out, but if you have no joy don’t blame the site or the people on here.

It’s far more likely that you’ve just tried to make the site fit your requirements, which it won’t do unless you’re requirements match those of a swinging site.

We never had any great expectations, and always saw what we did on here as a bit of fun.

We loved every minute of it for the eight very active years we had whilst meeting.

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By *inky SpiceWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow

Think about what you want from the site, and write it on your profile.

Set yourself boundaries, some flexible and some hard, to keep yourself safe.

Be open, and honest, whilst also maintaining an element of discretion.

Don't engage with anyone who doesn't fit in with or respect the previous points.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I once had 3 messages in my inbox had to decide whether to mass delete or just let the number keep growing

What did you do in the end?

Can't discuss such info on the forums DM me for details

very clever. I bloody almost did too

Go onnnnn .you know you want to.

Make his day.

I’ve never once sent a first message. Not sure how I feel about breaking that tradition? "

Live dangerously there is always the block button !!

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By *hunky GentMan  over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Go onnnnn Luciejo.

You know it's the nice thing to do. Xx

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By * and M lookingCouple  over a year ago

Worcester

Don’t search too hard.

We always find the best experiences are ones that we haven’t planned.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

There is plenty of life beyond the forums

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"There is plenty of life beyond the forums"

My whole life is a lie!!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There is plenty of life beyond the forums

My whole life is a lie!!!"

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."

I very much like this

I put filters on incoming messages as can't handle the bombardment. So i'm the first to message. The filter works for me but the downside is that it stops the potential of a wonderful other getting in touch. (I sometimes turn it off but then realise again why it's on haha)

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Be sure in your mind about what you are actually looking for.

When you’ve done that, ask yourself if this is the site that will help you find it.

If in doubt, try it out, but if you have no joy don’t blame the site or the people on here."

very true ... know your mind and what you seek to meet which need and why.

Took me some time and it can change and be fluid.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman  over a year ago

On a mooch

Take a chance, bend those rules, go with the flow and just see where it leads

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Think about what you want from the site, and write it on your profile.

Set yourself boundaries, some flexible and some hard, to keep yourself safe.

Be open, and honest, whilst also maintaining an element of discretion.

Don't engage with anyone who doesn't fit in with or respect the previous points."

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By *uckOfTheBayMan  over a year ago

Mold


"Patience "

And a bag of haribos (other confectionery is available)

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By *layfullsamMan  over a year ago

Solihull


"What are your tips and tricks for making the best out of Fab and getting what you're looking for? "

Lower your expectations

Don't put all your eggs in one basket(women outside of fab like fun as well)

Remember to live a life outside of fab as it's easy to get addicted

Keep a good Fab/Life balance

Learn to debate in the forums rather than be nasty

If you read something in a forum you disagree with, be polite or ignore it.

If you wouldn't say something to a woman you met in a bar, don't say it in an opening message

But most of all be Happy, life's short !

* Disclaimer

* I'm not successful on fab so it's probably best not to take my advice

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Relax talk to people like there human not your fave porn star

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If you are a woman looking for men, search for them yourself."

this

Use your filters

Clear and recent face photos

Assume they lie

Be clear what you want

*go with your gut*

Block is your friend

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Be yourself, not what you think people want you to be."

Yes this

When I first joined I had a few bad experiences because I was pretending to be someone else.

I know what I want now - so I rarely meet anyone

It's better than shit sex for the sake of not being alone!

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By *acey_RedWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool


"Be yourself, not what you think people want you to be.

Yes this

When I first joined I had a few bad experiences because I was pretending to be someone else.

I know what I want now - so I rarely meet anyone

It's better than shit sex for the sake of not being alone!"

Absolutely agree.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Don’t take it all so seriously.

It’s just sex. And sex should be fun, exploratory, intense, passionate and not the be all and end all.

"

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