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Affection before, during, and after casual sex
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am."
I'm the same. Sex without intimacy is just odd.
Intimacy isn't the same thing as emotion though, I think some get the two confused. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
My ideal meet is to do something socially first, and build up to the more intimate activities later on, then spend the night together before going our separate ways the next morning and you can't do that without a level of affection and intimacy as part of the proceedings, hand holding, stolen glances and smiles, just cuddling up etc
As TM says sex without intimacy is just not for me |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes I am because I only meet those I feel some degree of affection for now. It doesn't mean I want to run into the sunset with them but I do enjoy the hand holding, the post coital snuggles and the tender kisses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am."
Totally agree. For me there has to be cuddles. Kisses, holding hands. I'm an intimate person |
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By *rbubbleMan
over a year ago
wild west sligo mayo roscommon |
I’m affectionate guy.. like who doesn’t love a hug and kiss etc but if it’s just casual sex then no point wasting time get straight to the fun and what ye both want.  problem with casual sex and pillow talk hugs etc is one Person will start to fall for the other which in the first place both agreed NSA sex so best keep the affection for someone that you might pursue more into a relationship |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Not everyone wants it, and it's not always practical in a club. But one of my most memorable encounters ended with a lovely cuddle as we talked. I would love to have more like that.
As a single person, that intimacy is often missing, and no less needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not all ladies like after sex cuddles....I for one don't, affection before and during but once the fun has been had a nice cuppa while I'm getting dressed is all I need, then I'm out the door.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s not something we like to do. But I suppose we have each other so don’t need the intimacy with others. But we do like to have a drink and talk after. X |
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"Are you affectionate with people you meet for casual sex? Why or why not? "
Yes, very much so. We are both affectionate people. Couldn’t imagine wanting to have sex with someone and not wanting to kiss and cuddle as well. Especially with threesomes. If we invite another person to share with us, then affection is a big part of it. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"I've noticed that women like a bit of a cuddle afterward, whereas as men and trans women want me to get dressed, and fuck off!!  must just be the way guys are programmed i guess. "
I like a cuddle afterwards too. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
It's interesting to note the difference between the responses to this thread and a similar one posted by a couple in Swingers Chat - highlights the differences between single swingers and couple swingers |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
Depends on the meet and how many times i’ve met them. Men i meet regularly get to see the more touchy feely La Luna as it’s more friends based fun.
That said, i also have no qualms in meeting someone, doing the deed and going as soon as we’ve both cum. I can be a bit cold like that. |
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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
"Are you affectionate with people you meet for casual sex? Why or why not? "
I’m very affectionate and it doesn’t make the sex any less casual for me.
I just think it’s a wonderful, positive, mood boosting thing to both give and receive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like intimacy, but not all the huggy stuff.. I like to get to know someone, see who they are, I like sensual and tactile kisses.
Long embraces and continual non-sexual kisses can feel a little unnatural. I do trace my fingers down their body, or massage.. touch bonding in the moment. I'm not a pack up and leave person, partly because I like a rounds 2, 3 and a 4, partly because I want to get to know them still, which is why I pick who I pick in the first place.
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"Are you affectionate with people you meet for casual sex? Why or why not?
I’m very affectionate and it doesn’t make the sex any less casual for me.
I just think it’s a wonderful, positive, mood boosting thing to both give and receive. "
Absolutely  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's interesting to note the difference between the responses to this thread and a similar one posted by a couple in Swingers Chat - highlights the differences between single swingers and couple swingers "
What did the couples say? Haven't seen the other thread. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am the most affectionate person in the world before and during sex, after I've cum you can just let yourself out
 .....just like me!"
I'm glad someone agrees |
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"Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am.
I'm the same. Sex without intimacy is just odd.
Intimacy isn't the same thing as emotion though, I think some get the two confused. "
This in a nutshell!
When I have a meet - a good one at least - it’s part rampant fucking and part ‘making love’! I adore and need both!
Obviously that doesn’t mean I need to be ‘in love’ with them - it just means there needs to be a lot of chemistry on both sides!  |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am.
I'm the same. Sex without intimacy is just odd.
Intimacy isn't the same thing as emotion though, I think some get the two confused.
This in a nutshell!
When I have a meet - a good one at least - it’s part rampant fucking and part ‘making love’! I adore and need both!
Obviously that doesn’t mean I need to be ‘in love’ with them - it just means there needs to be a lot of chemistry on both sides! "
A agree.
Making love and fucking are 2 different things and you don't need love for either. |
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Touching is a strange thing; I’ve been fortunate to meet a woman who was my perfect match for kissing and yet it was someone else who had an amazing touch.
The pace, the delicacy, the passion... it’s fantastic |
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I love sensual sex and being tactile comes naturally to me.
Fucking, well that can lead to a feeling of something lacking, even if the sex has been great.
Now a days even if just a meet I like to touch after, kiss and enjoy my buzz. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely. It might be casual sex but if I didn't want to enjoy a partner as a human being I'd just buy a sex doll. Kissing, pleasing, communication, non-sexual touching and being able to enjoy the time however brief are big parts of the experience. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
No such thing as casual sex for me. Every encounter, whatever the scenario (each one is different), has layers, depth ... even if it's casual if you know what I mean.
'Casual' sex is from the days of my past where I was less conscious in my choices and probably too off my head to care! Not a bad thing .. it's just different now.
I've always been warm and sensual,tactile, intimate but sometimes my encounters are experimental, playing with different aspects of myself that are not affectionate at all!
Sometimes, paradoxically, this can actually bring an intimacy which is deeper to me than some affection can offer.
Do I always require or want to give cuddly affection with sex? .. no. It depends on the connection and the playing field.
I do love it when it flows.
Affection is one form of intimacy and if it flows and feels natural, it is delicious, i can offer it freely.
Fundamentally I want to respect and to be respected, receive and give gratitude. I love warmth and humility, the ability to be present. Affection in the right time and place is precious AND there is so much more to intimacy and connection.
I've gone on a bit ..
Oh and btw, when I'm ovulating, everything i ever say is out the window, i will fuck you like a goddess, stare into your soul like ive known you since we were wolves, you will think I want you and you only forever... but once were done, just shut the door behind you and hug yourself when you get home over a hot milk and honey. Ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No such thing as casual sex for me. Every encounter, whatever the scenario (each one is different), has layers, depth ... even if it's casual if you know what I mean.
'Casual' sex is from the days of my past where I was less conscious in my choices and probably too off my head to care! Not a bad thing .. it's just different now.
I've always been warm and sensual,tactile, intimate but sometimes my encounters are experimental, playing with different aspects of myself that are not affectionate at all!
Sometimes, paradoxically, this can actually bring an intimacy which is deeper to me than some affection can offer.
Do I always require or want to give cuddly affection with sex? .. no. It depends on the connection and the playing field.
I do love it when it flows.
Affection is one form of intimacy and if it flows and feels natural, it is delicious, i can offer it freely.
Fundamentally I want to respect and to be respected, receive and give gratitude. I love warmth and humility, the ability to be present. Affection in the right time and place is precious AND there is so much more to intimacy and connection.
I've gone on a bit ..
Oh and btw, when I'm ovulating, everything i ever say is out the window, i will fuck you like a goddess, stare into your soul like ive known you since we were wolves, you will think I want you and you only forever... but once were done, just shut the door behind you and hug yourself when you get home over a hot milk and honey. Ha "
I think I've fallen for you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No such thing as casual sex for me. Every encounter, whatever the scenario (each one is different), has layers, depth ... even if it's casual if you know what I mean.
'Casual' sex is from the days of my past where I was less conscious in my choices and probably too off my head to care! Not a bad thing .. it's just different now.
I've always been warm and sensual,tactile, intimate but sometimes my encounters are experimental, playing with different aspects of myself that are not affectionate at all!
Sometimes, paradoxically, this can actually bring an intimacy which is deeper to me than some affection can offer.
Do I always require or want to give cuddly affection with sex? .. no. It depends on the connection and the playing field.
I do love it when it flows.
Affection is one form of intimacy and if it flows and feels natural, it is delicious, i can offer it freely.
Fundamentally I want to respect and to be respected, receive and give gratitude. I love warmth and humility, the ability to be present. Affection in the right time and place is precious AND there is so much more to intimacy and connection.
I've gone on a bit ..
Oh and btw, when I'm ovulating, everything i ever say is out the window, i will fuck you like a goddess, stare into your soul like ive known you since we were wolves, you will think I want you and you only forever... but once were done, just shut the door behind you and hug yourself when you get home over a hot milk and honey. Ha "
Completely spot on! Well said
Peach x |
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I don't have a tendency to have sex with people I don't like so I always enjoy the afterwards bit, whether it be snuggled up or just lying naked chatting.
However I do worry one day whether it'll cross the line if I get a regular thing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I’m affectionate before, during and after usually. I like to meet people where there is genuine affection for each other. I have met in the past where that was less of the case to non-existent. They ranged from scratching an itch, trying something new or to sexually exciting experiences, but they weren’t spiritually or emotionally fulfilling experiences. |
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I must have a sensual passionate meet with loads of cuddles and kissing, stoking hair etc after sex . But a lot of the hot husbands wives do not like it, so I tend to stick to single men unless its been previously agreed with the couple. |
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