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What constitutes a "good message"?
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Now I know I'm gonna get a million different answers on this but what makes your message "stand out" and be noticed?
Countless times I've seen profiles with something along the lines of "hi how are you? Will be ignored/deleted" so I make an effort to write something more. Never pushy in my messages and more often than not mention something in a profile only to have it go by the wayside or deleted.
Maybe it's passive aggressiveness on my part I don't know but I'm curious to find out from other people.  |
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"A good message is the one that is quite interesting, that much more importantly arrives at the time the recipient wants to receive it!
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But what makes it quite interesting? (Funnily enough just watching QI on Dave) |
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"A good message is the one that is quite interesting, that much more importantly arrives at the time the recipient wants to receive it!
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This is correct. Most women or couples get inundated with messages so it's a bit of pot luck if they are interested at that time. Best to message them when they have a meet notice up and within reasonable travelling distance. But it's not all about the message, they have to fancy you too of course |
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"Someone who quotes the random nonsense on my profile.. and unfotunately, they have to attract me too.."
I am not quoting your profile in writing! It is just the sort of evidence they need to put me in that coat with the really long sleeves  |
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One thing you may consider OP is on this sort of thread women often say that they read the profile of the sender before the message, so make sure that is interesting and fun. |
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Here's a formula that would be guaranteed to get a polite reply from us (I can't speak for others). It doesn't necessarily mean we'd be interested in meeting, but it would get a friendly reply because it's respectful and informative.
Read it through before you send it to make sure it makes sense. We have received messages that we can't even understand what they are trying to say.
You would stand out because few people do this.
Our formula...
Hello, Luke and Hannah.
I'm [insert name] and I... [fill in non-sexual things about you to demonstrate you can talk about things other than sex].
I saw your profile and I liked it because... [demonstrate you have read our profile and are interested in us and not just in getting your dick wet].
I think we'd be a good match because... [demonstrate you are interested in compatibility, not just what you personally want].
It would be great to hear back from you.
[insert name again] |
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"One thing you may consider OP is on this sort of thread women often say that they read the profile of the sender before the message, so make sure that is interesting and fun."
This.
It's not just about the message. The message can be great but if they don't fancy the person or don't like their profile then what is there to say except no thank you. |
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"One thing you may consider OP is on this sort of thread women often say that they read the profile of the sender before the message, so make sure that is interesting and fun.
This.
It's not just about the message. The message can be great but if they don't fancy the person or don't like their profile then what is there to say except no thank you. "
Of a no thank you will not be sent to as on many occasions this is met with abuse.
If the read and don't respond/delete just accept it and move along. Theres probably 30-40 guys to a lady her, tough odds but just stick with it. |
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For me it’s....
1 cock avatar/crude/vulgar - delete
2 if it makes sense and is polite - reply
3 if it’s a message written with a degree of thought - I may chat
4 if it’s a suit pic, it grabs my attention - definitely chat. Even better if the message is clearly articulate
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Whenever I send this message I always get a reply. 
