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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it possible to find someone on a dating site that has the kinkiness this site offers.
Does anyone have any dating site profiles that are successful for actual dating not just sex?
How hard is it to find someone you’re attracted to, with chemistry who does not live on mars.
Are dating sites even worth trying? |
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"Is it possible to find someone on a dating site that has the kinkiness this site offers.
Does anyone have any dating site profiles that are successful for actual dating not just sex?
How hard is it to find someone you’re attracted to, with chemistry who does not live on mars.
Are dating sites even worth trying? "
I have a chemistry set and dont live on Mars (yet ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible to find someone on a dating site that has the kinkiness this site offers.
Does anyone have any dating site profiles that are successful for actual dating not just sex?
How hard is it to find someone you’re attracted to, with chemistry who does not live on mars.
Are dating sites even worth trying? "
Once you have all of these answers please let me know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I met my OH on a dating site. He told me about this site. We briefly had a couples profile for a while. We’re still together 4 and a half years later (no longer swinging together but joint agreement for me to have this profile). We’re totally sexually on the same wavelength but we didn’t meet here originally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started to use dating sites about eight years ago.
I struck lucky with my first date. She used to go to sex clubs. We saw eachother for a while but it didn't last.
I met my last girlfriend on there a year or so later.
I've also made a few friends along the way.
It's pot luck if you'll find someone that has the same kinks on a normal dating site. That's partly why I'm on here and pretty much not bothered with dating sites for a while. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Years ago when I was single, I (her) was introduced to Fab by a guy on a dating site. I never went on a date or a meet with him but rem_mber him telling me about his 'alternative sex life with couples' and I thought I need to investigate this. So I joined fab to find out for myself and have enjoyed the site ever since  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. |
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I've seen a lot of people from here on dating sites, although there's never any mention of sex or kinks. I haven't bothered with dating sites for a long time, but have never got round to deleting my profiles - occasionally I go on to see if there's anyone pretty to perv at |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
If they are looking for a particular kink it's not really possible to ask someone you meet in a pub. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
It's not 'sad' to meet people via online sites, its convenient, it suits many people, gives people communication at their finger tips, fits in around your personal life and other commitments. You are introduced via online sites but you do actually turn up in person to go on a date.
Just a thought.... are we all sad just because we are on Fab? Nope not at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I heard about this through tinder and I've hardly used any other sites since.
The forums keep me coming back to this and the thought of no strings fun. however if I used other apps as much as this, I would of had more success. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I live in a smaller city. Same people on everything.
I have had success meeting people everywhere I have ever joined however. Dating at this age you have got to have a sense of humour and just let things blow off you; I find dating actually more time consuming and exhausting than just sex meets or hooking up.
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
I guess we could all be considered sad for finding people to have sex with online then, no? |
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By *mberWoman
over a year ago
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I found a man on OK cupid who phoned me the day before our first date and said ...."you've been a very naughty girl, I'm going to smack you round the face hard with my massive 7" cock, baby"
He was standing at a bus stop at the time.
I'm not sure if this answers your question! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
Eh kids, being tied to the house or else pay a babysitter a small fortune. This is why online dating works for some! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
Dating sites are just a modern way of meeting people.
Before the internet there was lonely hearts columns in the local papers.
It's convenient for some people.
I work on my own, so don't get to meet as many people as I used to.
For me, any kind of dating site is just for the introduction of someone that I wouldn't have ever met. Once the date/social has taken place real life returns.
Yes it does seem a bit sad that we can't all meet the old fashioned way, but online stuff isn't such a bad thing.  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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My last dabble on POF I got messaged by guys from here who recognised my face pics on there from my lips! I gave up in the end.
There didn’t seem to be that many guys genuinely looking to date on there, but to be honest i’m not sure POF is the place to look for a Mills & Boon ending these days.
I’m kind of resigned to not actively looking and if it happens it happens, but my nans voice telling me i’ll never find someone if I don’t put myself out there keeps bloody haunting me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
I guess we could all be considered sad for finding people to have sex with online then, no?"
No. I just think it sad that the internet and dating sites has taken over. I didn't say people that use the sites are sad  just that proper human interaction via more traditional ways has been superseded by tick boxes and matches.
When I met my husband there was no internet involved. We managed to talk about kinks etc and still found our way here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dating sites are a mixed bag
Lots of creeps and oddballs, liars and Catfish. Not labeling everyone on them, just a vast majority!"
Sounds familiar.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
If they are looking for a particular kink it's not really possible to ask someone you meet in a pub. "
Why not? If you're meeting someone with a view to dating why wouldn't you chat about all sorts of stuff? Kinks included. That's how I have done it anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
If they are looking for a particular kink it's not really possible to ask someone you meet in a pub.
Why not? If you're meeting someone with a view to dating why wouldn't you chat about all sorts of stuff? Kinks included. That's how I have done it anyway. "
I mean the first time you meet them. I wouldn't discuss kinks with someone I just met.
I do agree it's better to meet in person. I don't chat online for ages, I prefer to meet up within a couple of weeks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Kinkiness is a matter of personal taste and it certainly isn't limited to fab or those who identify as swingers. I met both my previous fwb through dating sites whilst on here I've had only a couple of socials in over 3 and a half years.. |
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible to find someone on a dating site that has the kinkiness this site offers.
Does anyone have any dating site profiles that are successful for actual dating not just sex?
How hard is it to find someone you’re attracted to, with chemistry who does not live on mars.
Are dating sites even worth trying? "
same people there as here, a site is just an internet domain, even people here who want sex aren't capable of it and you will find transversely on dating sites some aren't interested in it and you will never know either until you meet that person, its all about the questions you ask and choices you make  |
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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
I used to think this until I gave it a go... I'd never been out with anyone I didn't know it hadn't met before.... It was weird....
But exciting..
Met my partner on a dating site...
Turns out it eventually gets to a point where everyone you meet in the real world you have either.. dated....has dated your best friend or family m_mber... Is married....
And my friends setting me up with friends who turn out to be idiots... (Not sure what that says about me lol)
So I gave it a go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
Ah yes the good old days of going out to pubs and clubs " on the pull " to be honest I would have loved this technology 25 years ago, would have saved me a fortune lol. Plus i was always a bit shy when it came to chatting to girls so dating apps would have been great back then |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was on a dating site before discovering fab. I wasn't looking to actually date though. Men who messaged me weren't looking to date either and a good deal of them were married or with girlfriends already. How dare they use a dating site like that... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone "
Dont want to put in any effort??? Are you for real????
I was with my kids 24/7. My friends and I didnt go out that much anyway. I had very few avenues to explore when it came to my options for meeting someone. So I went online.
As for effort...trust me....I put in alot of effort. Online dating is a thing at the moment. Even younger people are at it, rather than meeting people out in a pub/social setting. I asked enough of the younger guys messaging me this Q enough times. |
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Well I luckily found it all on here. But I've had a bit of experience on dating sites looking for a relationship.
As for dating sites it's a bit of a minefield when your sexual appetites are less than conventional or monogamous. Normally you want to give some information about your self to attract the right people and not waste any time with the wrong people. Sexual appetites are generally assumed to be vanilla on a dating site, but if yours aren't anyone vanilla is no good. But with regard to sex your damned if you do, damned if you don't talk about it. To mention it makes people think or/both:
'Oh they are just a sex fiend only really interested in sex, not good relationship material' (generally how men are viewed for talking about sexual desire on a profile)
Or
'Your a right goer, I'm not really interested in you as a whole but since I know your a goer I will pretend to be interested in a relationship to get you in the sack' (generally a view that affects women who talk about sexual desire on a profile).
Or of course you don't give any insight into sexual desire, what then? Well if you do this then you risk meeting someone and investing loads of time in each other only to find down the line your not sexually compatible and/or they are very against your sexual tastes. Which is sad because it means both of you have wasted your time and one or both of you get hurt. But of course the main thing is not to enter a relationship where you are not totally free and encouraged to express your self sexually.
Personally I'd advise on normal dating the sex aspect is not to be ignored but carried out subtlety. Maybe a mix of a few subtle hints (that people on the same wave length may pick up on) and a bit of subtle probing conversation wise before you get too involved. But its really not easy, that's why in some respects trying to date on the scene on sites like this may be better. Also I know OK Cupid can help match you on sexual compatibility, tastes and attitudes towards sex and monogamy as well as all the other relationship traits you are interested in. People can search for you based on these values and you likewise can search for these values. So when I was using dating sites this impressed me. |
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
I guess we could all be considered sad for finding people to have sex with online then, no?
No. I just think it sad that the internet and dating sites has taken over. I didn't say people that use the sites are sad just that proper human interaction via more traditional ways has been superseded by tick boxes and matches.
When I met my husband there was no internet involved. We managed to talk about kinks etc and still found our way here. "
I interact with people all day long, all of my jobs are social, public based.
But I don't want to meet up with anyone from my real life.
I've been a naturist for most of my life, alot of folk consider that weird enough, I've had the 'perv' label thrown at me more times than I can count.
I don't want a traditional relationship, I want to meet people on the same wave length as me.
I very much doubt I'd find that with anyone where I live, and even if I did, the worry that if it goes tits up, the repercussions, the potential fall out.
I'd rather avoid that.
Being on here allows me to meet the type of people I want to meet, without all that hassle |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people. "
I agree, for many reasons I don’t really meet people not within my bubble. It’s something I agree I have to work on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone "
Pretty pathetic reply, how do you know what effort anyone puts in.
Do you know everyone’s reasons for doing it the online way. No you don’t, a ridiculous and not called for comment.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well I luckily found it all on here. But I've had a bit of experience on dating sites looking for a relationship.
As for dating sites it's a bit of a minefield when your sexual appetites are less than conventional or monogamous. Normally you want to give some information about your self to attract the right people and not waste any time with the wrong people. Sexual appetites are generally assumed to be vanilla on a dating site, but if yours aren't anyone vanilla is no good. But with regard to sex your damned if you do, damned if you don't talk about it. To mention it makes people think or/both:
'Oh they are just a sex fiend only really interested in sex, not good relationship material' (generally how men are viewed for talking about sexual desire on a profile)
Or
'Your a right goer, I'm not really interested in you as a whole but since I know your a goer I will pretend to be interested in a relationship to get you in the sack' (generally a view that affects women who talk about sexual desire on a profile).
Or of course you don't give any insight into sexual desire, what then? Well if you do this then you risk meeting someone and investing loads of time in each other only to find down the line your not sexually compatible and/or they are very against your sexual tastes. Which is sad because it means both of you have wasted your time and one or both of you get hurt. But of course the main thing is not to enter a relationship where you are not totally free and encouraged to express your self sexually.
Personally I'd advise on normal dating the sex aspect is not to be ignored but carried out subtlety. Maybe a mix of a few subtle hints (that people on the same wave length may pick up on) and a bit of subtle probing conversation wise before you get too involved. But its really not easy, that's why in some respects trying to date on the scene on sites like this may be better. Also I know OK Cupid can help match you on sexual compatibility, tastes and attitudes towards sex and monogamy as well as all the other relationship traits you are interested in. People can search for you based on these values and you likewise can search for these values. So when I was using dating sites this impressed me."
Well thought out reply thank you |
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone
Dont want to put in any effort??? Are you for real????
I was with my kids 24/7. My friends and I didnt go out that much anyway. I had very few avenues to explore when it came to my options for meeting someone. So I went online.
As for effort...trust me....I put in alot of effort. Online dating is a thing at the moment. Even younger people are at it, rather than meeting people out in a pub/social setting. I asked enough of the younger guys messaging me this Q enough times. "
You are in your 40's and a couple so hardly the audience I was aiming the comment at
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"Is it possible to find someone on a dating site that has the kinkiness this site offers.
Does anyone have any dating site profiles that are successful for actual dating not just sex?
How hard is it to find someone you’re attracted to, with chemistry who does not live on mars.
Are dating sites even worth trying? "
Yes lots of people are on both. |
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone
Pretty pathetic reply, how do you know what effort anyone puts in.
Do you know everyone’s reasons for doing it the online way. No you don’t, a ridiculous and not called for comment.
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Really well just look at today's society and the answer hits you right in the face.
Commitment is a rarely used word along with manners and respect.
Zero effort = Zero rewards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone
Dont want to put in any effort??? Are you for real????
I was with my kids 24/7. My friends and I didnt go out that much anyway. I had very few avenues to explore when it came to my options for meeting someone. So I went online.
As for effort...trust me....I put in alot of effort. Online dating is a thing at the moment. Even younger people are at it, rather than meeting people out in a pub/social setting. I asked enough of the younger guys messaging me this Q enough times.
You are in your 40's and a couple so hardly the audience I was aiming the comment at
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And are you discriminating against older single people or single parents? Why should being single in your 20's be so different to being single in your 40's???? You didnt specify your target audience...I wouldnt have responded otherwise! |
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone
Dont want to put in any effort??? Are you for real????
I was with my kids 24/7. My friends and I didnt go out that much anyway. I had very few avenues to explore when it came to my options for meeting someone. So I went online.
As for effort...trust me....I put in alot of effort. Online dating is a thing at the moment. Even younger people are at it, rather than meeting people out in a pub/social setting. I asked enough of the younger guys messaging me this Q enough times.
You are in your 40's and a couple so hardly the audience I was aiming the comment at
And are you discriminating against older single people or single parents? Why should being single in your 20's be so different to being single in your 40's???? You didnt specify your target audience...I wouldnt have responded otherwise!"
Not discriminating against anyone just saying it as we see it
Its today's younger generation that will end up alone when they get older.
Wasn't aiming to offend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone
Dont want to put in any effort??? Are you for real????
I was with my kids 24/7. My friends and I didnt go out that much anyway. I had very few avenues to explore when it came to my options for meeting someone. So I went online.
As for effort...trust me....I put in alot of effort. Online dating is a thing at the moment. Even younger people are at it, rather than meeting people out in a pub/social setting. I asked enough of the younger guys messaging me this Q enough times. "
Same for me. I had a daughter who needed my attention and time when I wasn’t at work. Going out partying to meet someone was difficult for me at that time. So I used online dating apps. And it worked out really well as I met the love of my life and I most definitely haven’t “ended up alone”. People are so judgemental. |
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone
Pretty pathetic reply, how do you know what effort anyone puts in.
Do you know everyone’s reasons for doing it the online way. No you don’t, a ridiculous and not called for comment.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Any site can work for pretty much whatever purpose you desire, it's all about your attitude and approach, that's really crucial.... ....you could find love on fab or you could pay a monthly fee for a shag on elite wankers or whatever it's called.....  |
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"Any site can work for pretty much whatever purpose you desire, it's all about your attitude and approach, that's really crucial.... ....you could find love on fab or you could pay a monthly fee for a shag on elite wankers or whatever it's called..... "
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"Any site can work for pretty much whatever purpose you desire, it's all about your attitude and approach, that's really crucial.... ....you could find love on fab or you could pay a monthly fee for a shag on elite wankers or whatever it's called.....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whatever happened to just meeting people... you know... in real life??? It's a bit sad that people view dating sites and the internet as the way to meet new people.
Well said.
It’s because like with most other things today, they don’t want to put in any effort.
The “throw away” society that we now live in even bring that mentality across to their relationships, then moan and gripe when they end up alone
Pretty pathetic reply, how do you know what effort anyone puts in.
Do you know everyone’s reasons for doing it the online way. No you don’t, a ridiculous and not called for comment.
Really well just look at today's society and the answer hits you right in the face.
Commitment is a rarely used word along with manners and respect.
Zero effort = Zero rewards."
I get your point but equally there are a lot of reasons for online.
As for commitment my ex husband who I was with for 33 years cheated in between kicking the shit out of me. I think I showed plenty of commitment stupidly.
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"I found a man on OK cupid who phoned me the day before our first date and said ...."you've been a very naughty girl, I'm going to smack you round the face hard with my massive 7" cock, baby"
He was standing at a bus stop at the time.
I'm not sure if this answers your question!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m on bumble, and match.com.
I’ve been on pof and tinder but I’m not bothering with those right now....
Over the last five years I’ve been on well over 100 dates. Mixed results.
All kinds of stories I could tell you....
I had a “vanilla” date on Monday evening and unfortunately it wasn’t great.
He was attractive, looked like his pictures, but boring, and really not my type.
The guys I’ve met off here so far.... I’d say around forty per cent of them wanted to continue and move into a more romantic kind of relationship. That’s something that I was only really interested in/ felt was possible with one of them.
There’s lots of people, in my experience, that are using this site and open to meeting someone special. |
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"I’m on bumble, and match.com.
I’ve been on pof and tinder but I’m not bothering with those right now....
Over the last five years I’ve been on well over 100 dates. Mixed results.
All kinds of stories I could tell you....
I had a “vanilla” date on Monday evening and unfortunately it wasn’t great.
He was attractive, looked like his pictures, but boring, and really not my type.
The guys I’ve met off here so far.... I’d say around forty per cent of them wanted to continue and move into a more romantic kind of relationship. That’s something that I was only really interested in/ felt was possible with one of them.
There’s lots of people, in my experience, that are using this site and open to meeting someone special. "
Yes I get you’re point.
I was on POF a while but I seemed to only get very old men messaging me with no teeth or the odd weirdo.
On here I rarely meet anyone for more than a social. Because I fully admit I want more than 1 night with a guy.
Someone said the other day that from good sex a relationship can blossom or not I guess.
I wonder if I’m setting myself up to fail by holding everyone at arms length.
And this is me baring my soul ok so I would appreciate any shit comments be kept for elsewhere.
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"I’m on bumble, and match.com.
I’ve been on pof and tinder but I’m not bothering with those right now....
Over the last five years I’ve been on well over 100 dates. Mixed results.
All kinds of stories I could tell you....
I had a “vanilla” date on Monday evening and unfortunately it wasn’t great.
He was attractive, looked like his pictures, but boring, and really not my type.
The guys I’ve met off here so far.... I’d say around forty per cent of them wanted to continue and move into a more romantic kind of relationship. That’s something that I was only really interested in/ felt was possible with one of them.
There’s lots of people, in my experience, that are using this site and open to meeting someone special. "
That last part wasn’t aimed at you by the way, just for the not so nice remarks that people post. |
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"I’m on bumble, and match.com.
I’ve been on pof and tinder but I’m not bothering with those right now....
Over the last five years I’ve been on well over 100 dates. Mixed results.
All kinds of stories I could tell you....
I had a “vanilla” date on Monday evening and unfortunately it wasn’t great.
He was attractive, looked like his pictures, but boring, and really not my type.
The guys I’ve met off here so far.... I’d say around forty per cent of them wanted to continue and move into a more romantic kind of relationship. That’s something that I was only really interested in/ felt was possible with one of them.
There’s lots of people, in my experience, that are using this site and open to meeting someone special.
Yes I get you’re point.
I was on POF a while but I seemed to only get very old men messaging me with no teeth or the odd weirdo.
On here I rarely meet anyone for more than a social. Because I fully admit I want more than 1 night with a guy.
Someone said the other day that from good sex a relationship can blossom or not I guess.
I wonder if I’m setting myself up to fail by holding everyone at arms length.
And this is me baring my soul ok so I would appreciate any shit comments be kept for elsewhere.
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I think it’s important not to go into any meeting/date with a guy off here expecting anything else than fun, sex, laughter, good company.... but I think it’s totally possible that if you click with someone else who is single, more could develop....
personally, I swop phone numbers after a good amount of messages on here. Then always speak on the phone to get a better idea of their personality and tone.... is the conversation flowing ?
I almost always do a quick video chat.
Then meet for a social drink somewhere public.
Take it from there.
That might take two weeks or two days. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m on bumble, and match.com.
I’ve been on pof and tinder but I’m not bothering with those right now....
Over the last five years I’ve been on well over 100 dates. Mixed results.
All kinds of stories I could tell you....
I had a “vanilla” date on Monday evening and unfortunately it wasn’t great.
He was attractive, looked like his pictures, but boring, and really not my type.
The guys I’ve met off here so far.... I’d say around forty per cent of them wanted to continue and move into a more romantic kind of relationship. That’s something that I was only really interested in/ felt was possible with one of them.
There’s lots of people, in my experience, that are using this site and open to meeting someone special.
Yes I get you’re point.
I was on POF a while but I seemed to only get very old men messaging me with no teeth or the odd weirdo.
On here I rarely meet anyone for more than a social. Because I fully admit I want more than 1 night with a guy.
Someone said the other day that from good sex a relationship can blossom or not I guess.
I wonder if I’m setting myself up to fail by holding everyone at arms length.
And this is me baring my soul ok so I would appreciate any shit comments be kept for elsewhere.
I think it’s important not to go into any meeting/date with a guy off here expecting anything else than fun, sex, laughter, good company.... but I think it’s totally possible that if you click with someone else who is single, more could develop....
personally, I swop phone numbers after a good amount of messages on here. Then always speak on the phone to get a better idea of their personality and tone.... is the conversation flowing ?
I almost always do a quick video chat.
Then meet for a social drink somewhere public.
Take it from there.
That might take two weeks or two days. "
Yes done that a few times, I usually find a reason not to meet them again. Maybe I’m just not ready.
Life hey it’s ups and downs ... god love it |
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