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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
It's a bit on the negative side but it's something that isn't talked about too much.
We always focus on the positive aspects of being single but after a tough few days I could really do with a cuddle, a chat and some company with a bit of unconditional caring thrown in.
So singles, what's the bit you hate? Couples; what did you hate?
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When I've been single I've missed lazy mornings in bed, cuddles on the sofa and someone to keep me warm in the winter. One of the things I like about meeting people regularly now is that I can provide some of the affection and companionship that single people miss as well as the sex. With monogamy there is a bit of an all or nothing approach to relationships but I think there are so many things in between being totally single and having a committed relationship and it's wonderful when people find unique arrangements that work for them. |
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Cooking for someone else, that look they give you when they realise you're not as useless as you appear.
When you're ill.
Bad day at work, someone to moan at.
Going out for dinner and looking at someone with love in your eyes.
Someone to go to the park with and they can push the kids on the swings as well.
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over a year ago
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"Cuddles, falling asleep and waking up next to someone, being alone but together (if that makes sense)."
Ooo yeah when you both wake up abit early before alarm and reposition and cosy together |
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"Cuddles, falling asleep and waking up next to someone, being alone but together (if that makes sense).
Ooo yeah when you both wake up abit early before alarm and reposition and cosy together "
This. Morning spooning on a winter weekend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me.
It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends.
The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was basically a single lady/mum in my crap marriage. No caring, empathy, support, hugs, spooning, one sided sex etc etc
Now I am with MrDub...it makes me appreciate all he has to offer xx |
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"I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me.
It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends.
The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does."
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me.
It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends.
The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does."
I agree with you completely on that, I'm exactly the same. No one is infinitely better than people who don't really give a shit. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me.
It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends.
The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does."
I'm exactly the same. |
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I moved with work and have some friends here but they're all busy with families.. I love in beautiful countryside but the views don't make up for the empty house and cold bed.. I miss the warmth of a body wrapped around me and miss not having anyone to cook for and share a few drinks with.. especially during this time of year.
I think the internet has made society a lot more insular.. big love to all you fellow singletons ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy being single, but like pretty much everyone else, I miss the affection.
Having someone to cuddle whilst watching tv or spoon in bed would be lovely. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine.
I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling.
I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you.
I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything.
Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky. |
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"I moved with work and have some friends here but they're all busy with families.. I love in beautiful countryside but the views don't make up for the empty house and cold bed.. I miss the warmth of a body wrapped around me and miss not having anyone to cook for and share a few drinks with.. especially during this time of year.
I think the internet has made society a lot more insular.. big love to all you fellow singletons ?"
I hope you find those things, in whatever capacity suits your situation  . |
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By *avartMan
over a year ago
Barnsley |
Don't mind being single at all. Enjoy my own company.
It does make a difference what job you do tho. If you're very busy all day/dealing with people, it's actually nice to come home to a quiet house.
Rather be single than in a poor relationship. A good relationship is of course great, but not easy to come by. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someome to share moments and create memories with. Taking about everyday things or planning future trips. Cooking together, dancing, the sexual side..obvs!! Cuddles..kissing.......fucking hell I will go stick my head in the oven now . Good bye sweet world |
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over a year ago
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Someome to share moments and create memories with. Taking about everyday things or planning future trips. Cooking together, dancing, the sexual side..obvs!! Cuddles..kissing.......fucking hell I will go stick my head in the oven now . Good bye sweet world |
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"Cuddles, falling asleep and waking up next to someone, being alone but together (if that makes sense).
Ooo yeah when you both wake up abit early before alarm and reposition and cosy together "
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Someome to share moments and create memories with. Taking about everyday things or planning future trips. Cooking together, dancing, the sexual side..obvs!! Cuddles..kissing.......fucking hell I will go stick my head in the oven now . Good bye sweet world |
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By *ez1987Man
over a year ago
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Things I miss is the companionship of knowing they live you as mush as you love them and m owing they have your back regardless.
Thing I don't miss is my bank account going down by the day because she's spend my money whilst am at work lol. |
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine.
I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling.
I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you.
I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything.
Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky. "
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win! |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine.
I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling.
I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you.
I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything.
Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky.
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win! "
Jesus, its hard enough finding one to hang around, let alone several!  |
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Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately  |
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over a year ago
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately "
(((((((((((())))))))))))) |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately "
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here |
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine.
I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling.
I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you.
I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything.
Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky.
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win!
Jesus, its hard enough finding one to hang around, let alone several! "
Its easier when the expectations are less rigid and suffocating. For example, many people may sack something in if you can only see each other sporadically or if they have limited free time to spare as they feel guilty but if you are not limited in finding other connections then there is less pressure on people to "provide enough" of anything when someone is not your only source of any particular need. This isn't to say you don't have consideration for others needs, if anything more so by allowing them to get them met elsewhere. And the ways in which people can get them met don't have to follow the "traditional rules". As long as everyone is happy  . |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here "
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here "
We could have our own  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine.
I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling.
I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you.
I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything.
Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky.
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win!
Jesus, its hard enough finding one to hang around, let alone several!
Its easier when the expectations are less rigid and suffocating. For example, many people may sack something in if you can only see each other sporadically or if they have limited free time to spare as they feel guilty but if you are not limited in finding other connections then there is less pressure on people to "provide enough" of anything when someone is not your only source of any particular need. This isn't to say you don't have consideration for others needs, if anything more so by allowing them to get them met elsewhere. And the ways in which people can get them met don't have to follow the "traditional rules". As long as everyone is happy ."
I must admit that I've been thinking about this sort of thing a bit recently, mainly after reading a lot of your posts on poly. It does sound like a good arrangement. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
We could have our own "
I'll get the biscuits and pop the kettle on. No rom coms though! |
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over a year ago
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
Yes! "
Yes!! A cuddle club would be amazing |
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
We could have our own
I'll get the biscuits and pop the kettle on. No rom coms though! "
Good, I bloody hate rom coms 
Can we have a LOTR marathon? I haven't done that for ages |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
We could have our own
I'll get the biscuits and pop the kettle on. No rom coms though!
Good, I bloody hate rom coms
Can we have a LOTR marathon? I haven't done that for ages "
Now you're talking!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine.
I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling.
I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you.
I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything.
Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky. "
What is full on Aspie-ing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a bit on the negative side but it's something that isn't talked about too much.
We always focus on the positive aspects of being single but after a tough few days I could really do with a cuddle, a chat and some company with a bit of unconditional caring thrown in.
So singles, what's the bit you hate? Couples; what did you hate?
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Hope you feel better soon OP. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
Yes!
Yes!! A cuddle club would be amazing "
We should set up cuddle franchises around the country for this purpose...
Ill be the Midlands base, obviously |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
Yes!
Yes!! A cuddle club would be amazing
We should set up cuddle franchises around the country for this purpose...
Ill be the Midlands base, obviously "
I'll be your secretary! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with.
I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
Yes!
Yes!! A cuddle club would be amazing
We should set up cuddle franchises around the country for this purpose...
Ill be the Midlands base, obviously "
Definitely. I’ll cover the Newcastle area |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love being single and have been forn26 years but my youngest will be moving out January as she's at uni now so actually will be totally on my own own for the first time then!
What I miss is actually cooking for someone but again am lucky to friends who love eating!! Going to start a "Supper Club" when daughter leaves ... |
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"I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me.
It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends.
The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does."
Absolutely this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't imagine I'd like much about being single. I was a teenager last time I was single! I think I'd miss companionship the most. Someone to share stuff with. I've never been without that. |
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine.
I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling.
I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you.
I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything.
Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky.
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win!
Jesus, its hard enough finding one to hang around, let alone several!
Its easier when the expectations are less rigid and suffocating. For example, many people may sack something in if you can only see each other sporadically or if they have limited free time to spare as they feel guilty but if you are not limited in finding other connections then there is less pressure on people to "provide enough" of anything when someone is not your only source of any particular need. This isn't to say you don't have consideration for others needs, if anything more so by allowing them to get them met elsewhere. And the ways in which people can get them met don't have to follow the "traditional rules". As long as everyone is happy .
I must admit that I've been thinking about this sort of thing a bit recently, mainly after reading a lot of your posts on poly. It does sound like a good arrangement. "
Aww you do make me blush. Obviously like anything, it isn't for everyone. But if everyone is good at communicating their needs and feelings, it can be great for many who for whatever reason aren't in a place to have a traditional relationship. There is something called solo polyamory that I often feel would suit so many people who miss relationships but don't want to change their life situation. Even not going that far, as Meli wonderfully mentioned, relationship anarchy is the idea that things don't have to fit into rigid boxes of relationship or friends with benefits, etc. Certain things dong have to be confined just to relationships. As this thread demonstrates, many people have needs that get left unmet (particularly companionship and affection) when they are not in relationships and that makes me sad. I often find that men especially get very little physical affection outside of relationships and sometimes even little emotional support. Sometimes I think people hold back when it comes to affection or opening up with more casual partners through fear that it will lead to the expectation of more but if the boundaries of that connection are discussed and agreed then it's possible to have those things without it meaning you have to fall madly in love or meet all the family. I feel I'm rambling a little here so I hope this makes sense. |
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"It's a bit on the negative side but it's something that isn't talked about too much.
We always focus on the positive aspects of being single but after a tough few days I could really do with a cuddle, a chat and some company with a bit of unconditional caring thrown in.
So singles, what's the bit you hate? Couples; what did you hate?
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Loneliness is something that doesn’t get discussed very often. Thank you, OP, for starting this one. I’ve been with Ailsa for a very long time, but I’m aware of how hard some things would be without her. If you ever need to talk, you can always message us. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Going to bed when both tired and just cuddling and going to sleep.
Waking up with that someone and turning over for a spoon.
Cuddling up on the sofa not talking and watching a film.
Someone to share your problems of the day and support you with solutions.
Companionship and laughter.
The list is long but here we are for now |
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I miss the sex - but I also miss:
The message he sent before I woke up so it’d be waiting for me, the one for when I finished work and before he went to bed!
The phone calls that lasted for hours - though god knows what we talked about!
The cuddles when we watched TV
His Kindness
His todger
His lips
Him!! |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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The cuddles I really miss at times especially when you have had a tough day. And to be fair toys will never replace sex with someone as well. Waking up with someone is always nice.
Mind you on saying that you can be more lonely in a relationship at times than when you are single. So I'll pick single any day over that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t want to digress from the thread op and sorry if if it does. But do you think because we (singles) are a little lonely is why we come on fab. For that brief moment of being with someone. Enjoying each other’s company and good sex? Or just scratching an itch that needs scratched then back to your normal life.
Maybe that’s another thread sorry.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't imagine I'd like much about being single. I was a teenager last time I was single! I think I'd miss companionship the most. Someone to share stuff with. I've never been without that. "
That’s lovely. Lucky you, Scarlet! x |
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"Don’t want to digress from the thread op and sorry if if it does. But do you think because we (singles) are a little lonely is why we come on fab. For that brief moment of being with someone. Enjoying each other’s company and good sex? Or just scratching an itch that needs scratched then back to your normal life.
Maybe that’s another thread sorry. "
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I've definitely met people who have used sex as a substitute for other things missing in their life but of course that isn't true for all singles. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"But if everyone is good at communicating their needs and feelings, it can be great for many who for whatever reason aren't in a place to have a traditional relationship. There is something called solo polyamory that I often feel would suit so many people who miss relationships but don't want to change their life situation. Even not going that far, as Meli wonderfully mentioned, relationship anarchy is the idea that things don't have to fit into rigid boxes of relationship or friends with benefits, etc. Certain things dong have to be confined just to relationships. As this thread demonstrates, many people have needs that get left unmet (particularly companionship and affection) when they are not in relationships and that makes me sad. I often find that men especially get very little physical affection outside of relationships and sometimes even little emotional support. Sometimes I think people hold back when it comes to affection or opening up with more casual partners through fear that it will lead to the expectation of more but if the boundaries of that connection are discussed and agreed then it's possible to have those things without it meaning you have to fall madly in love or meet all the family. I feel I'm rambling a little here so I hope this makes sense."
You make absolute perfect sense and describe it brilliantly. I'll do a now and that applies to whenever you post about different relationship structures and dynamics (I can't keep thumbing your posts, it might look a bit weird).
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I miss sex, cuddles and someone to talk to after a hard day.
Really going through it at the moment and talking to the dog just isn't cutting it unfortunately."
Im usually around on here if you ever feel you want to vent your spleen or even just rent at someone who'll absorb it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I miss sex, cuddles and someone to talk to after a hard day.
Really going through it at the moment and talking to the dog just isn't cutting it unfortunately.
Im usually around on here if you ever feel you want to vent your spleen or even just rent at someone who'll absorb it"
Rent no no fricken *rant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was single what I discovered to be the worst thing (not initially at the time itself but with hindsight), was my belief that I was not OK, I was ‘missing’ something from my life, and that I *should* be with someone. When I realised that the things I wanted or felt I needed from a partner could be found either within myself or in my relationships with my family and friends, I finally then felt OK with being single and it took on a whole new positive meaning. So I think what I’m saying is, the worst part for me was my own perception of what I needed / should have. Once that changed for me, happiness followed |
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By *eilde HoarWoman
over a year ago
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Definitely relationship anarchy...
With all of my Friends, I interact with everyone in the individual way that feels right for both of us.
Communication is the most important part of our relationship. |
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"I miss sex, cuddles and someone to talk to after a hard day.
Really going through it at the moment and talking to the dog just isn't cutting it unfortunately.
Im usually around on here if you ever feel you want to vent your spleen or even just rent at someone who'll absorb it
Rent no no fricken *rant "
Haha! Thank you, that's super kind x |
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"But if everyone is good at communicating their needs and feelings, it can be great for many who for whatever reason aren't in a place to have a traditional relationship. There is something called solo polyamory that I often feel would suit so many people who miss relationships but don't want to change their life situation. Even not going that far, as Meli wonderfully mentioned, relationship anarchy is the idea that things don't have to fit into rigid boxes of relationship or friends with benefits, etc. Certain things dong have to be confined just to relationships. As this thread demonstrates, many people have needs that get left unmet (particularly companionship and affection) when they are not in relationships and that makes me sad. I often find that men especially get very little physical affection outside of relationships and sometimes even little emotional support. Sometimes I think people hold back when it comes to affection or opening up with more casual partners through fear that it will lead to the expectation of more but if the boundaries of that connection are discussed and agreed then it's possible to have those things without it meaning you have to fall madly in love or meet all the family. I feel I'm rambling a little here so I hope this makes sense.
You make absolute perfect sense and describe it brilliantly. I'll do a now and that applies to whenever you post about different relationship structures and dynamics (I can't keep thumbing your posts, it might look a bit weird).
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Oh you! I'll never turn down a thumbing from you |
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over a year ago
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"Don’t want to digress from the thread op and sorry if if it does. But do you think because we (singles) are a little lonely is why we come on fab. For that brief moment of being with someone. Enjoying each other’s company and good sex? Or just scratching an itch that needs scratched then back to your normal life.
Maybe that’s another thread sorry.
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I've definitely met people who have used sex as a substitute for other things missing in their life but of course that isn't true for all singles."
Yes I suppose everyone has there own reasons and good luck to everyone who gets what they crave at that time. Just going to cuddle my dog now she loves me lol |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"...I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you...
What is full on Aspie-ing? "
Ah. It's a term myself and Nell Gwynn (if you remember her?) use when we've had a stimuli overload/stressful day and we're close to an autistic meltdown/having one. It manifests itself in different ways. I guess it's like when anyone (neurotypical) has had too much and then cranked up to 11. |
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"Definitely relationship anarchy...
With all of my Friends, I interact with everyone in the individual way that feels right for both of us.
Communication is the most important part of our relationship. "
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"Don’t want to digress from the thread op and sorry if if it does. But do you think because we (singles) are a little lonely is why we come on fab. For that brief moment of being with someone. Enjoying each other’s company and good sex? Or just scratching an itch that needs scratched then back to your normal life.
Maybe that’s another thread sorry.
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I've definitely met people who have used sex as a substitute for other things missing in their life but of course that isn't true for all singles.
Yes I suppose everyone has there own reasons and good luck to everyone who gets what they crave at that time. Just going to cuddle my dog now she loves me lol "
The love of a dog is the purest kind |
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over a year ago
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"I miss sex, cuddles and someone to talk to after a hard day.
Really going through it at the moment and talking to the dog just isn't cutting it unfortunately.
Im usually around on here if you ever feel you want to vent your spleen or even just rent at someone who'll absorb it
Rent no no fricken *rant
Haha! Thank you, that's super kind x"
Anytime, like bt used to say... its good to talk |
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Weirdly nothing at all.. I get what I need emotionally from friends and family and I love my own company. I’m happy in myself and know that anyone I choose to spend time with will be a ‘want’ not ‘need’
Dunno.. kinda feel right.. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I’m generally ok with being single and I enjoy doing my own thing.
However, I intersperse that with periods of unrequited love for someone. At those times, I long to have someone around for walks, cwtches (Welsh cuddles!) etc and even get tearful when I see couples showing affection  .
Daft tw*t .
No prizes for guessing which phase I’m in right now! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with been single eaven if u find ur perfect mate chanses are u wont die together an one of u wil spend the last 40years alone am speeking from experiance keep going out alone an having fun be posativ |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I miss very little.. I'm so happy single/poly. But I do like my lovers to be warm, tactile, to like kissing, to be open so I get lots of that intimacy, even if it's a kinky connection.
BUT I do miss that warm, smoochy, wake up sex where bodies just melt together all sleepy.. that is nice when im in a couple.
As a single mama I miss sharing the load in the home, I mean it's a wonder I even manage to fit in lovers and meets.. but i manage .. needs must hehe x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loneliness.. and you don't have to be single to experience it..
Oh so true, I was more lonely the last 7 years with my ex than I’ve ever been since "
Me too duck. X |
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over a year ago
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights"
That's the biggest thing for me too, Lonliness is a real killer, and I know you don't have to be single to be lonely. But I'm very much single and lonely |
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over a year ago
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights"
Winter is the absolute worst, its hard not to just shut yourself away and spiral |
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I love being single, but there are some things I miss.
I love the intimacy of being driven home after a night out, just the two of you in the car talking shit. It's a very particular type of intimacy.
I miss waking up at 3am all tangled up in each other, and just relaxing back into sleep.
I miss having in-jokes, just those stupid things that you both laugh at.
Oh and of course, I miss having sex on a regular basis.
I just don't want to trade all the things I love for the few things I miss. |
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights
That's the biggest thing for me too, Lonliness is a real killer, and I know you don't have to be single to be lonely. But I'm very much single and lonely "
Big hugs,I'm not lonely as such as I like my own company, I do miss male company though,this is the longest I've been single since I was 17 lol |
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over a year ago
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights
That's the biggest thing for me too, Lonliness is a real killer, and I know you don't have to be single to be lonely. But I'm very much single and lonely
Big hugs,I'm not lonely as such as I like my own company, I do miss male company though,this is the longest I've been single since I was 17 lol"
I can totally understand that , I've been single for about 4 years now and to begin with I very much enjoyed my own company and time for myself , but I'm now at that stage where I know I'm ready for a relationship or regular company |
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"...I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you...
What is full on Aspie-ing?
Ah. It's a term myself and Nell Gwynn (if you remember her?) use when we've had a stimuli overload/stressful day and we're close to an autistic meltdown/having one. It manifests itself in different ways. I guess it's like when anyone (neurotypical) has had too much and then cranked up to 11."
Yes I remember her. Thank you for the info. |
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"Someome to share moments and create memories with. Taking about everyday things or planning future trips. Cooking together, dancing, the sexual side..obvs!! Cuddles..kissing.......fucking hell I will go stick my head in the oven now . Good bye sweet world "
This |
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"I love being single, but there are some things I miss.
I love the intimacy of being driven home after a night out, just the two of you in the car talking shit. It's a very particular type of intimacy.
I miss waking up at 3am all tangled up in each other, and just relaxing back into sleep.
I miss having in-jokes, just those stupid things that you both laugh at.
Oh and of course, I miss having sex on a regular basis.
I just don't want to trade all the things I love for the few things I miss."
With you on this. Happy being single and don’t want to trade the things I love for the few things I miss.
Watching television together. The old Netflix and chill.
The cooking thing. Buying gifts for someone.
Fab’s a funny old place x
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over a year ago
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights
Basically being alone lol. "
Haha you could say that |
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I was much lonelier in the last few years of my relationship than I am now. But I do miss having someone at home to share the load with, being a single parent with SEN kids is hard work.
Just having someone to offload to at the end of the day, or to give me a hug if I'm feeling down, or to snuggle with in bed would be lovely. |
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over a year ago
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Facing everything alone
No one to hold you after a bad day or to celebrate with after a good one .
I've been single 11 years now and it's incredibly lonely . I've accepted it but still hate it. |
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"Facing everything alone
No one to hold you after a bad day or to celebrate with after a good one .
I've been single 11 years now and it's incredibly lonely . I've accepted it but still hate it. "
Big hugs from me!! |
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Funny but made a conscious decision to have a break as rushed into a relationship after a long term one and ended up hurting that person. Now 5 years later, harder than ever to meet serious potential people. Miss being there for someone as good at the support thing and holding someone close in bed making them feel safe and wanted. |
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights
That's the biggest thing for me too, Lonliness is a real killer, and I know you don't have to be single to be lonely. But I'm very much single and lonely "
Yes I remember esther rantzen doing a campaign on lonliness and she said the same thing lonliness is or can be a real killer depending on the Individual themselves November Is my worst month christmas and after the celebrations It feels better and Its soon getting light again give it a month or so.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I honestly think the only time it bothers me is on nights where it's all couples and I'm gooseberry. I'm still in a 'clinging onto my single-ness for dear life' phase. |
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"Facing everything alone
No one to hold you after a bad day or to celebrate with after a good one .
I've been single 11 years now and it's incredibly lonely . I've accepted it but still hate it. "
Same here. Single for 10 years now. You get used to it even if you don't want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I also miss those gentle, tender kisses on your forehead that make you feel loved and cared for . "
Reading all these is making me miss it all even more, I love this |
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Single life is great 
Damn this thread 